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Q: Let us talk about your marriage..
It was a phase that I appreciate. I have never said anything about it since it happened. It didn't work out and you can't force it. I really don't want to talk about the problems we had. The matter no reach for where we dey today but we reach were we dey today.
It just didn't work out. I think we were on different pages, we weren't even reading the same book. He's my guy. We had been very close friends for years.
If I had stayed back just because of what people would say, I wouldn't be happy today. I used to be shy but since after then my energy picked up.. two, three years I'm just living life.
Q: What's your relationship like with him?
We don't talk
Q: Your son?
He doesn't come around, he doesn't call. Apart from the marriage, we had a good solid friendship. Whenever I look at that friendship, I think what we are experiencing now is not supposed to be, that friendship is supposed to cover it up.
He has good mind that's why I married him, his simplicity. Na Person for another person not for me. So I had to go our separate ways.
Q: How did you feel when that happened?
I was scared, like how do I tell people that my marriage has ended, marriage that wasn't even up to 2years... Because I had already seen the future so I had to reverse.
I didn't go through anything, he didn't beat or any other thing. I just woke up one morning and said" this road won't work, let me start going And I'm glad I took that decision.
The first time he publicly accepted that's his son.., because people already started accusing me that I went to sleep with another man.." you go carry belle, I'm so ashamed of you, I like your acting but you are a rotten wife."
I had to give him ultimatum that if he doesn't come and my son gets to 5years, I will remove his name... Because I had to put Jegede Fawole there. I know how I suffered to go to American to birth him, I cleaned my account to travel to America.
It was a phase that I appreciate. I have never said anything about it since it happened. It didn't work out and you can't force it. I really don't want to talk about the problems we had. The matter no reach for where we dey today but we reach were we dey today.
It just didn't work out. I think we were on different pages, we weren't even reading the same book. He's my guy. We had been very close friends for years.
If I had stayed back just because of what people would say, I wouldn't be happy today. I used to be shy but since after then my energy picked up.. two, three years I'm just living life.
Q: What's your relationship like with him?
We don't talk
Q: Your son?
He doesn't come around, he doesn't call. Apart from the marriage, we had a good solid friendship. Whenever I look at that friendship, I think what we are experiencing now is not supposed to be, that friendship is supposed to cover it up.
He has good mind that's why I married him, his simplicity. Na Person for another person not for me. So I had to go our separate ways.
Q: How did you feel when that happened?
I was scared, like how do I tell people that my marriage has ended, marriage that wasn't even up to 2years... Because I had already seen the future so I had to reverse.
I didn't go through anything, he didn't beat or any other thing. I just woke up one morning and said" this road won't work, let me start going And I'm glad I took that decision.
The first time he publicly accepted that's his son.., because people already started accusing me that I went to sleep with another man.." you go carry belle, I'm so ashamed of you, I like your acting but you are a rotten wife."
I had to give him ultimatum that if he doesn't come and my son gets to 5years, I will remove his name... Because I had to put Jegede Fawole there. I know how I suffered to go to American to birth him, I cleaned my account to travel to America.
Time to put my son's name, I said as long I carried this problems alone, emotional, financially and otherwise I will put my name and his (ex husband's) surname. I told him if he doesn't come and accept his son I will remove his name. That was when he came to see my son at 5months old, carried him , snapped photos and posted it on the internet.
Since that day he has not come to the house again. His son turned 1, no calls or text... Or at least show effort. I even called him, dropped messages for him to come and see his son.
Since that day he has not come to the house again. His son turned 1, no calls or text... Or at least show effort. I even called him, dropped messages for him to come and see his son.
I dreaded the moment my son wakes up one morning to ask for his father and we got to that stage. I was shaking. I called his brother and nephews and the messages I got two days later wasn't encouraging. "Oh can you just tell Xavier about his father, just keep up the good work ,we are here to support you", that message threw me off.. so clearly he didn't wanna come.
I have said this before that my house is open for him, anytime he wants to come my house is open for him. Everyone knows that he has his property in the house and no one can stop him but he clearly doesn't want to come... That's where we are now. My dad went to represent him on my son's father's day in school. It's quite painful that he doesn't want to be involved.
I decided to raise my son my myself, I know I didn't give birth to a b#stard. If you're going to seat in your house and think when he's 18 he will come and find you... I won't tell my son anything but I know I didn't give birth to a b#stard.
I don't even know why you still keep the name there. Remove that his empty name and put your father's name. These cage men think that it is olden age where the family will ask for your father before getting married, men if you like be there or not, life will never wait for you! You can't be destroying people emotionally and expect them to embrace you because of your sperm, You will be an old lonely man. This Abounce is over 40 and before he see wife marry and born, by 60, he will still pay school fees and suffering, no wonder his career refused to grow, he is still where he was and i still trying to understand what made Yvonne give him a chance, like friendship is not a death sentence, keep these men as friend, never make them husband!
ReplyDeleteMy hubby do not know his father because the man was not in his life from birth. As Igbo culture na, it was his mother's family that they showed me and we have been married for 7years. Me self nor go look for who nor look for me
DeleteAnother modern fefail doing what they know how to do best. Claiming victim. You say you no do again, carry your leg waka unto I don't need a man, I'm strong and independent. Now you come dey cry ,disturbing us ,dey seek for financial assistance from the man. Wetin happen to your yeye strong and independent? All these clown fefails with no behaviour wey full everywhere. Smh. Stella abeg no dey hide comment o
ReplyDeleteShe is not asking for money for herself she is asking for contribution from the father of the child. She did not create him alone. Men should learn how to separate the woman from the child. How can you punish your child just so you can hurt your ex?. Relationships and marriages break up. Learn to move on and do what you have to do.
DeleteHmmm, a mother knows the father of her child. I feel for Xavier too.
ReplyDeleteNot in this time and age. If he still has doubts he should run a DNA. No child deserves such treatment.
DeleteI mean she opened up her house to him, so what is Abouce's excuse? Bouncing like his name I guess. If in doubt why does he not do a DNA test? It appears he just doesn't care. Deadbeat.
DeleteSuper strong woman Yvonne
ReplyDeleteNo manual to a successful marriage, they were best of friends.
Abounce,don't be a dead beat father
You see those PTA,End of year parties kids memories never forget.
Chai so heart wrenching
ReplyDeleteA son should not have to suffer for the sins of his parents.
The man should do right
Women beware, when your so called horseands encourage you to dress and dance like ashawo in public... breakfast is not farfetched.
ReplyDeleteIs breakfast a death sentence
DeleteThank you anon 14.08!
DeleteBreakfast is NOT a death sentence. Why all the noise about breakfast this and that? It’s been served since forever. So? We as women need to focus more on moving on when a person doesn’t want us or serves so called breakfast.
Yvonne did what is best for her. Some women died recently because of men and those men have already forgotten them.
Anon 14:08 God bless you oo. 14:47 Thanks for the addition👌🏼
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This is a mistake some parents make, try to be involved (financially and physically) in your child's life, no matter the drama with your ex spouse. Some will say , when they grow up, they will look for me, see twinslove story, you might be the one looking for them and it will be too late.
ReplyDeleteThank God kids don't remain kids forever,they grow,see and make their own decisions
DeleteYou made lots of post that insinuate #fvck you and whatever you think you are...
ReplyDeleteMaybe he chosed to face front to avoid public show of shame baayi...
Só u, as a human being is busy justifying a man abandoning his own kid for whatever reason???? Wow!!!! Wow!
DeleteThank God he is not involved,it makes it easier for ur son not to acknowledge him and for u to keep him to yourself.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm,some men though,no matter what, atleast take care of your child/children.
ReplyDeleteChai this is touching and I feel for the liltle boy in all these.
ReplyDeleteTo think they were so best friends and so in love,what now happened to everything they shared. He just left and refused to look back.
Yvonne you're a strong woman,keep being the best mum for your son and I pray for God's strength and blessings.
What a pity. Thank God,you're able to take care of him ,I pray he becomes great and take care of you more than you imagine at old age. Let abounce keep bouncing, na night time bread seller dey realized the mistake he made at daytime.
ReplyDeleteYvonne you have been strong. Keep keeping on. It is well with you.
DeleteThere is no more "He will look for you when he is grown o" This is 21st century my brothers. If you refused to be in a child's life from birth, he will never look for you.
ReplyDeletemy father that was doing gragra years back, he is now the one begging us to atleast call to check up on him. He is now lonely and no one around him. I managed to call him last month after few advise from people and he was begging me to send him money that he is suffering and dont have strength to do his tailoring again.
He abandoned 4 of us for our mother and was flexing with numerous women. Now that there is no more strength to womanize, he is now calling us to beg for a little care. I just dey show him small care because I be Woman but my older brothers don move on tey tey
Your brothers are still hurt. One day they might forgive him. My dad died still haven’t forgiven him 🤣🤣
DeleteOur stories are so similar, gosh did I Write this? Some fathers ehn. God please help me to forgive cause it's not easy at all.
DeleteWell, with a name like Abounce, what did you expect. The future was all in the name. He bounced.
ReplyDeleteThen the child will grow up and Holy Nwejes will be preaching that he should forgive his ailing dad 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from experience, if you a father or mother with access to your kids but you choose not to be involved in their lives and allow the other parent raise them alone and waiting for your child to come look for you when they are of age, you’ll be so disappointed. They may come but just to get closure in their minds. You’ll have lost opportunities to be part of their lives, give advice, coach, do stuff together and trust me when those phases are over you’ll no longer be needed. They’ll only inform you when marriage is coming or maybe not. So dead beat parents wake up and ask God for Grace no matter what happened in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteIn honest truth men these days are not prepared for the responsibilities of marriage.
ReplyDeleteMentally they are the stage if little boys looking to have their needs always met but completely clueless on their roles and responsibilities.
So they want to live single and teap the benefits of marriage.
Always complaining of providing when he wife is shouldering more than half of financial responsibilities, still cooking, taking care of the home etc.
Abeg get lost.
Rather remain single than tied down with trash.
We all have to be cautious with this Feminism agenda .
ReplyDeleteOur mothers were virtuous and our hardworking fathers were always there by their side .
Some women chose the easy and loose lifestyle of single motherhood. Freedom is what they want yet they are angry when they are left alone . They displace the man from his proper place in the home with their wayward &free lifestyle. They come online and distort narrative by insinuating the role of men is not important.
They behave like ‘Martha’ and expect a man to love . How na ? Is men dumb ni ? Sebi you sef get brother . Your brother fit live with your type ?
Even if the mother is "selling market" on the streets every night, open an account for the child and be sending upkeep money, school fees etc. Show up for PTA, Open day etc, let him/her spend weekend/holidays and co with the father.
DeleteIt's not the child's fault that the mother is irresponsible so it's wrong to punish the child, you are dealing with 2 different relationships here. Twinslove's father said the mother was wayward, we don't know if that is true or not, what we know for sure is she suffered alone to raise them and they never heard from him.
I love Yvonne jegede, she’s one of the best actresses we have in Nigeria. May God continue to strengthen and provide all what you and your son needs for the journey. You’ll reap the good fruits you’re sowing in your son’s life in due time. Keep up the good work.
ReplyDeleteThis her interview really hit home for me,all in all you just have to brace yourself and be strong for your child/children.
ReplyDeleteBut Hanty Yvonne you've not really said what happened to your marriage why your hubby left. There's a video of your flirting with a guy in the club even grabbing his ass
ReplyDeleteTheir son did not flirt at the club or grab anyone's behind. If Mr Abounce doubts paternity, he should do a DNA test or become a responsible father instead of using his son for social media clout while being a deadbeat Dad.
DeleteThis is about a dead beat father not about the marriage. What happened in the marriage is not your business, face your work.
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