Actor Yul Edochie married a second wife and fathered a child with her without the knowledge of his first wife May and this has made his Marriage with May turbulent... He tendered a public apology HERE and this is her response...
She posted
FORGIVENESS is the highest | most beautiful form of love for me. There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Hence, my ability to forgive the mistakes of the past, present, and future with respect to the issue on ground is in the interest of my mental health and inner peace.
I decided to stick to love...Hate is too great a burden to bear. I am still very much incapable of HATING anyone, let alone the father of my children. The fact remains that anyone can choose to practice POLYGAMY, but can't be impelled to accept what was never bargained for.
To reaffirm my stands, I will not be CAJOLED into accepting polygamy, which goes against my beliefs, faith, and values.
I will not be NUMBERED in a home that we started building with love, faith, tears, hopes, and prayers in a CATHOLIC marriage of 18 years following a long term premarital relationship.
This is also a passionate appeal to put an END to the constant “show” on the social media space where our kids are growing into unless it is absolutely necessary. Let's prevent our lovely children from all the incessant drama series that might take a toll on them directly or indirectly amongst their peers.
May GOD in His infinite mercy and compassion guide us all in the right direction.
Merry Christmas in advance everyone!''
This lady is so intelligent, God bless you so much for this beautiful write up and not succumbing to rubbishing your family's (children) image
ReplyDeleteNice response
DeleteOh well; he will have no option now than to cling to Judy full time.
Judy; your own work just started o. I know this wasn't what you wanted. You are those kind of women that enjoy undertone competition but pretend to be calm and understanding on top.
Now you have him in full package with his insecurities and all.
It's either this is the beginning of the end for you Judy or the beginning of pretending and dying in silence
The stolen water days are over!
Pele...
Very intelligent lady, I love love her response
DeleteFORGIVENESS is the highest | most beautiful form of love for me. There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.
DeleteI decided to stick to love...Hate is too great a burden to bear. I am still very much incapable of HATING anyone
I love her stand, she’s not backing down cus she knows her hands are clean.
DeleteShe’s giving that man 18years of her life and they think it’s as simple as “I forgive you, let’s just live as one” what “one” if I may ask? Did she swear an oath to be in a throple?
Dear may, do not move out, let them keep doing their love outside, you contributed to that house and no one can force you out. Just keep making your money… why does he want you back all of a sudden? If it’s not greed.
Push up (original)
1) Culturally, POLYGAMY is not a crime but MONOGAMY is the best. 2) Relationally, to err is human, to forgive, divine. 3a) Religiously, Mathew 6:15...“But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” 3b) Proverb 10:12...“Hatred stirs old quarrels, but love overlooks insults.” 3c). Prover 17: 9....“Love prospers when a fault is forgiven, but dwelling on it separates close friends.”
DeleteIf MAY has truly forgiven YUL, according to her CATHOLIC beliefs, this drama will not longer be on social media.. No disrespect to MAY but you have NOT completely forgiven YUL.... This public statement is not sincere. In Yul's defense, we can see Yul was using alternative method (social media) to try to get through to May because she is not having it privately.
Factually, this marriage can NEVER be the same again.. I know some of y'all will say, "what God can't do don't exist".....OK.. Let's believe your prayers work, like your nollywood movies, the DNA will change and it's no longer YUL's child. Then, Yul will divorce Judy.... Everything returns to normal....... smh...
In our analysis this afternoon, we can see all THREE of them (YUL, MAY and JUDY) are fighting with their new normal internally. The public statement shows each other defiant stance.. Judy is posting her excellency video on social media.. In her defense, she is fighting for her child too. There is no maturity from all THREE and we hold YUL accountable because he MUST bring his household together, but clearly he is showing that he lacks the depth to sustain, manage and maintain the expectation of two women... This is why we said MONOGAMY is best.
From the other angle, this crisis also brought MAY to the limelight and when you become a celebrity, the dopamine and other emotionally hormones are quite strong and one might feel they need to update fans..etc.......Plus the economic goodwill and opportunity that MAY is currently enjoying (endorsement deals)...... at the expense of YUL mistake. WE can argue that MAY catholic belief also FORBIDS her ENJOYING the proceeds from YUL'S SIN.....
You see, we prefer to subject this drama to the court of reasoning because only God see the heart and can judge us accordingly.
In summary, we still maintain our position that YUL made a painful sacrifice to MAY when he was 22..He sacrificed his entire youthful age for MAY. YUL gave May that title, WIFE, which she is NOW using today to dictate her terms...... No problem...Could MAY have dictated such terms to YUL if she was a babymama ? ABSOLUTELY NOT... Our society has never been fair to babymama and Judy is her right is fighting for our position.
Married and Divorced men.
Secondly,
DeleteWE still commend YUL for his decision to MARRY and sacrifice to MAY at such age, 22...We DOUBLE commend YUL for his effort over the years to protect, support and provide for their beautiful children family.....This is the lowest point of YUL life and we throw our ONLINE support to him...WE pray God gives him WISDOM to navigate this raging storm that is threatening his self worth..
Hopefully, many men would learn an INVALUABLE lesson about women nature from this DRAMA. WOMEN don't remember PAST especially when the situation FAVORS women. Women love consistency, consistency, consistency.
rule # 1) NEVER make DO or SAY anything to a woman unless you are 110% CERTAIN that you will REMAIN consistent with that action FOREVER....
rule #2) NEVER be at the MERCY of any woman.....
YUL is fighting from an injured position.. MAY public image stock is RISING while YUL's image stock is PLUMMETING.........MAY is not helping YUL image with these statement rather and unknowing to MAY, this statement turns more fans against YUL...
We encourage MAY to have her voice, and to all women to decide their part.. We believe in women empowerment AND hope MAY get many more deals... MAY is a fantastic woman and mother but to all men, rule #2, NEVER be at the mercy of any WOMAN ( except the your own mother ).
Be true to yourself and be real to your wife. DON'T BE WHO YOU ARE NOT. Be an imperfect, good husband if this is who you are. WOMEN love consistency, consistency, consistency…
DIVORCED AND MARRIED MEN..
Na now Judy real work go really start. Snatching the man is easy. Keeping him is another story
DeleteA woman with class and emotional intelligence. Subtly passing the message yet firm.
ReplyDeleteThe kids must be so irritated with his constant endless show series.
Can someone break this "I will not be NUMBERED' down to simple english biko.
ReplyDeleteShe is 1 of 1
DeleteNo polygamy accepted
Pidgin: She nor dey for 1st wife or 2nd wife story. She just wan be ONLY wife for this life when she come.
DeleteEnglish: she's not in support of polygamy. Yul is on his own bottom line🤭
No co Wife! She's not interested in being in a Polygamy marriage.
DeleteShe said NO to Nwunyedi.
Ighotago?😎😎
She doesn't want to called 1st wife , she wants to be the only wife as that was what they signed for when they got married
DeleteGbam!!
DeleteShe just laid down the law to Yul that if he wants to keep her as his wife, he has to send Judy packing.
DeleteHer statement might be intelligent and well written but she's simply playing to the gallery. Except she decides it's enough and leaves, This is a DONE DEAL. Anyone saying or encouraging her otherwise is not being honest to her. Even in the eyes of the law, she's wrong.
DeleteThe earlier she actually forgives and learns to live and let live, the better for her. Like I always say, once children come into the picture, it's no longer about us and our b.s egos
When a woman marries a child
ReplyDeleteYou summarized it well
DeleteThank you.
DeleteThank you
DeleteMy issue with him isn't the polygamy, I have nothing against polygamy, it would save a lot of present marital problems and issues. Some people talk like polygamy is a problem marriage whereas we see monogamous marriage keep hitting the rocks daily, who is deceiving who, one can find peace in any.. However, I have lots of reservations on the old corn he wifed and how he went about it, blablablu-ing everywhere..
ReplyDeleteHe is just a big fvck boy, he has had that child for long and hid it from his wife until he was threatened by GL to be outted, him come rush marry to hide shame and continue to put out a fake public image for his dead political career..
Talkative dimwit
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DeleteLong and short is yul is a mumu man,
DeleteWell said 👏🏾
DeleteThose who don’t learn from history are destined to fail
DeleteIt’s not long ago that polygamy was common in Nigeria. Infact that generation is just now dying off and some anew still alive
Go and ask them about jt and you’ll understand why their children rejected it. You are lining for a world your fathers rejected. Start by asking them why. My parents are polygamy kids. They rejected it for their own children. Did you grow up in a polygamous home. It’s like Kanye taking whatever about slavery. He would have he could have. He can say that now cause no one picked him up on the way to the farm and put him on a boat
You are painting monogamy as bad and polygamy as a good cure all to modern evils in marriage. Confam error. The problem some of you men see in monogamy is your inability to be faithful and have self control. Polygamy has destroyed many lives and continues to do so. But because of greed and desperation it continues to thrive. Una wehdone! The taste of the pudding is in the eating.
DeleteUna dey make noise..
DeleteYou that's talking about men lack of self control, the married women on anonymous night post are men bah..
Who told you the reason for the break of monogamy is even because of unfaithfulness,. It's actually because most of you ladies are bringing feminism to marriage, being disrespectful, uncouth and lazy,. All these are because of monopoly of feminism, you people abuse everything, they give you a step and you take a mile, the same reason many men don't want to marry y'all and take abroad.. yea, I know there are still women with sense, but they're in the minority..
Like I said earlier, na noise Una dey make.
Dismiss what we say as noise because you don't want to see reason. The truth remains the truth irrespective. The women you are painting black as feminists are still the ones you want to marry polygamously, so how will that make for peace in your polygamy? Na you sabi. Na noise you too dey make.
DeleteContinue crying..
DeleteInstead of coming to tell me what or what not to do, use the energy to advise good advice to your people, na the bad and evil advice wey Una dey advice them daily dey destroy the monogamous marriage you want so bad..
"Take your secret to the grave, ask your ex for money, oga forgive your wife she was banging the landlord to cover your shame" etc etc and other nonsense advice y'all give
I love her maturity, the way she handled the whole issue.
ReplyDeleteNext biko
ReplyDeleteWell said May 👏👏 I applaud her maturity and emotional intelligence
ReplyDeleteSo las las what is May gonna do? She is technically numbered whether she likes it or not and there are no indications that Yul intends to drop Judy. It appears that what Yul wants is for Judy to move into their Lagos mansion and for all of them to cohabit there when necessary. While what May wants is for Yul to completely drop Judy so that she maintains her position. So who will win? Maybe 2023 will reveal more, since they can't keep their affairs offline. But as for now, Yul is technically married to two women and since May has not divorced him she is still one of his wives, albeit estranged. Na wa for this triangle. I sure wish Yul was able to keep it together and maintain his original family.
Delete@18:08 correction, May is his wife and only wife. E no matter if he’s married to Judy or not, it doesn’t count. Still a baby mama point blank. If I were May, I won’t even respond to any of this online ridiculousness anymore. Yul don make his decision, he shd stick with it and hope it favors him. Good luck to both parties.
DeleteWay to go Queen,I also like that she begged him to stop the online bickerings. Grown up kids are involved but odogwu wont grow up.
ReplyDeleteI admire women who don't talk too much, thier word count. I like your style and intelligence ma'am. ☺️😘🌹
ReplyDeleteI admire this woman
ReplyDeleteAs much as I admire the way May handled this issue, I would never advice Nigerian women to use her methods. May's decision to not divorce her husband but still not agree to being a numbered wife, (as fantastic as it is), won't work for most Nigerian women.
ReplyDeleteWhy? Nigerian women lack the balls/ovaries to be this resolute.
Because if you tell Nigerian women to handle a polygamous husband the way May did, it will end in shame. With one public apology, they will accept and agree and continue with the marriage.
May's method is working for her because she is resolute about not being a numbered wife.
That doggedness no dey for Nigerian women's dictionary.
They will forgive and take him back faster than you can say nne butuo. If the man has money, he doesn't even have to say nne butuo at all.
One of the reasons May's decision is working for her is she abdicated her wifely roles. She's not waiting on him hand and foot. She's busy travelling from one country to the other. I'm certain she paused other room activities else Yul for tell us cos that one his mouth dey run like water.
Nigerian women will be cooking and serving oga. Even donating towtoh once once. This is the time they'll double down on wifely duties.
She's also financially stable. It would be almost impossible to take her stance when you're dependent on your spouse. And we know how Nigerian women are when it comes to rich husbands.
So, no.
If you find yourself in May's shoes, I will not suggest handling it like May.
Before you think of handling it like her, be very sure you're 100% resolute and prepared for it to lead to a divorce and you can take care of yourself should that happen.
If you can't, just nabata your co wife in peace.
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This writer nailed it
DeleteThe only thing I like about this your copied comment is to be financially independent as a married woman.
DeleteYes!
DeleteFinancial independence!
My own is... if she won't divorce, will she accept divorce from Yul being not allowed in her religion and all?
DeleteYul made a mockery of their marriage and embarrassed the heck out of her. And still, she decides to stay cos of the 'house she built" with her money but she won't be numbered????
A house is a just a house. It can be sold and her monies returned but staying in order to force Yul to change his situationship, might not work cos there is a child involved.
Im glad she is sticking to her faith and her resolve but it's gonna get old sooner or later and then she will have to make a choice.
Exactly! yul is the kind of boy you stripe all of his smelling ego and make him crawl begging.. she is financially independent she should f***Ng ask for her share of every damn investment to the last penny,make sure he takes care of the kids and leave the efulefu..Somehow she staying and responding to shit makes him feel relevant, common this guy isn't mature and worth all the stress. truth is if she ignores him totally only then will she realise the power she has over him...
DeleteWhat about Yul’s money returned or he forfeit it as his children’s welfare cos housing the kids is also his responsibility too.
DeleteDid May whisper to any of you that she won’t file for a divorce???. Y’allare reaching.
DeleteBtw, what has the house got to do with anything?. Yul should continue living where he is living. Or occupy one room in the house. Nothing spoil
As long as she’s married to him and he’s married to Judy, she’s number 1 of 2. The rest is just semantics. There’s nothing bold about what she’s doing
DeleteLook at the amazing women he has. And he went to pick up another one. Men na waa!
ReplyDeletePlease let this be the last post about your marriage with that simp of a boy..I have always seen yul as an boy, no sense what so ever, he open his mouth you just wonder " who b that small boy with big voice'".
ReplyDeleteYul please file annd divorce May as she no want polygamy rara and add more wives to Judy so you all can enjoy this polygamy you so much crave for. May have said it she isn’t part and parcel of your polygamy. Person no go dey her own, you go bring wetin go kill am come give am. Eat and chop am alone.
ReplyDeleteI think it's May you should talk to about divorce since she does not accept polygamy. She should divorce Yul cos I don't think Yul will leave Judy for her and he won't divorce her either. If she remains in the marriage, Yul will keep referring to her as his first wife.
DeleteI am so happy for May Yul Edochie.
ReplyDeleteFor the first time, she has shown that Nigerian married women have a lot of power than they think they do. How can you be married to a man for a million years and you are more afraid of the man and the sidechic? They should be scared not you.
Nigerian married women, stop being afraid of divorce. Put your foot down. If you do it, a lot will change.
People were beginning to glorify sidechics and mistresses and married women were acting defensive.
Thank you to everyone who endorsed her. Thank you May.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Nice response, May wants Yul to be the one to file for divorce, she knows that if she files for divorce, she might lose everything including their house,
ReplyDeleteYul, your first wife still insists on no nwunyedi, file for divorce and see if she will not sign the papers ozigbo ozigbo, Yul knows what he is doing, he doesn't want to file also,
As for you Akpa Akpu Judy, your days are numbered with Yul, go and ask Nuella and Stella, if you like give birth to 100 kids for him.
But May can also file for divorce. Infact, she is the person who ought to file for divorce as the party wronged.
DeleteTaste bliss cakes, how will May lose everything if she files for divorce? Nawa for this your own observation
DeleteI congratulate your strength and maturity beautiful woman.
ReplyDeleteYul Odogwu aburo n' Onu, build another house for Judy and leave May and her kids in your first house, you think polygamy is easy and it is not for poor people, May please don't leave that house for that Udumoyoyor to come and enjoy, any day Yul becomes tired he should divorce you.
ReplyDeleteA very intelligent woman with very intelligent response to her baby husband rant. How did he even get the 'odogwu' title? cos I know it's not meant for a simpleton like him. Bravo May.
ReplyDeleteHis fans got deceived because of his voice, he has no sense at all
DeleteBeautiful write up from May. She no dey do gragra at all
ReplyDeleteSo long as there's a marriage between her husband and another woman, she is already numbered as first wife or co wife. Only divorce can remove from either status to the status of former or ex wife. Since the two of them are not ready to divorce, all three of them should let this matter rest.
ReplyDeleteIf she is required to fill a very important form today with supporting documents, would she fill in as single, divorced, or married.
Make Dem all stop using online in-laws dey to kash cruz
She is separated from him.
DeleteYour comment @13:41 is exactly the point made in long terms @Anon12:38.
DeleteDoes she have a judicial order of separation? Do you think separation simply means living apart from a husband/wife or non-conjugal living by husband and wife?
Without a judicial (court) order, there is no legal marital status as "separated".
Even with judicial order, a separated couple are not divorced. They are treated as couple on the one hand and not as couple on the other hand. Each cannot remarry and cannot take some benefits of married couple.
If this woman
All this "I cannot be numbered" are semantics. Either of them, though the balls are more in her bags, should do the needful or rest their respective cases.
Even Baby mamas are being numbered in their subsequent marriages and their husbands are tagged as the husband of "xyz baby mama".
The man himself ...; well, Dante finished that matter.
Whatever Yul did with Judy is not a valid marriage. Please ask a lawyer versed in Family Law to advise you. There are 3 types of legal marriage in Nigeria. 1. You have statutory marriage (which is conducted in a marriage registry or a licenced church (note, not every church is a licensed church). Marriage in a licensed church is the same as a marriage registry. 2. You have marriage under traditional law and customs a d 3. You have Islamic marriage. The position of the law in Nigeria is that once you have conducted statutory marriage, you can't marry a 2nd wife. You must divorce that first marriage before you can marry another person.
DeleteCountd. If you marry a 2nd person under traditional law and customs when your statutory marriage is still subsisting, that second marriage is a sham and not valid under the law. (look at the case of Helen Prest Ajayi). If however, your first marriage is under traditional law and customs, you can marry as many wives as you like legally (no limits whatsoever). All the marriags will be valid. Also under Islamic marriage, if you marry your first wife under Islamic law, you can marry 3 more wives legally
DeleteCountd, if I'm correct, Yul married May in the Roman Catholic church, which is a licensed church and so his marriage with May is a statutory marriage (one wife only). In so far as he did not legally divorce May before going to "marry" Judy under traditional law and customs, that 2nd marriage is not valid. I'm taking my time to write out all these free of charge so that bvs will learn and not make that mistake. If a man married his wife at the marriage registry or in a licensed church a d wants to marry, ensure he divorced the 1st wife before marrying you otherwise you are just wasting your time.
DeleteHmmm. I was already saying Yul is married to two women. So it is good you guys are enlightening us more. What you are saying now is the marriage with Judy is a sham and therefore Judy is not a wife, unless Yul divorces May and remarries Judy. Na wa ooo. This their drama may not end anytime soon. I saw a post from Judy yesterday, proudly calling herself Mrs Yul Edochie. Their matter is really complicated.
DeleteEverly Rockin, in sum May is still the wife. However, Judy's son who has been accepted by Yul as his son is May's step-son and a full co-inheritor under the 1999 Constitution and applicable SCN cases.
DeleteEveryly Rockin' , you're absolutely on point. Thanks for the enlightenment.
DeleteEverly Rockin be unnecessary confusing you all. *Polygamy is not unlawful in Nigerian marriages. *Most Nigerian marriages conduct the Traditional rites before the Registry and also *there is a caveat in the Registry about fulfilling the rites of both tradition and religion before the marriage is concluded at the registry. The law is never at variance, rather complementary.
DeleteLike a few have said here, not the mostly emotional reactions above, May is simply playing the semantics game.
If you got married statutorily, without a legal divorce, ANY second marriage is illegal and it’s just semantics. I have never commented on this case but if he lived in the US, he is not married to the second woman until there is a divorce from his wife. As to stepson or co inheritor, many rich people DO NOT even leave their money to their children that “title” is just an assumption and nobody knows if a dad will live until 99 years!.
DeleteThe Nigerian society enables and empowers this “numbering” of women. The other woman is not a wife. Who are these wicked elders that collect bride price from a married man? If what he wants is to create a room in their matrimonial home for his baby mama and cause headache for his wife, then I applaud the way she is handling them. A baby mama so confrontational and shameless while not living in their home will create anarchy if she were to even spend a night there. Who puts two women under the same roof to share a man in 2022? Polygamy is like sharing poison among your household while clapping for yourself. I pray that God helps them resolve it but this Second Lady needs to go back to her husband who obviously still wants her. It’s not like the actor guy is so rich!
I just like how she's handling everything. Such a baby man!
ReplyDeleteSuch an intelligent woman. Many will not get the hidden message in this post
ReplyDeletePls help us understand the hidden message in the post.
DeleteMay should stick to enjoying her life, and never accept polygamy .
ReplyDeleteFor people telling her to divorce since she no want to be numbered. She knows the game. Don't equate calmness to stupidity
May should maintain her stand so if Yul really love Judy as she and her camp believe, let Yul be man enough of to divorce May, and prove that Judy is wife material.
From my observation, May knows about this their relationship wella and have had encounters with both of them, they denied or made her look like a fool because of her calmness.
I know if it's another woman, May might initiate divorce but cos of such encounters she is ready for them.
When Yul survives these back and forth, he may end up with a mental rikom(,)
Wow! So no one saw this paragraph "This is also a passionate appeal to put an END to the constant “show” on the social media space where our kids are growing into unless it is absolutely necessary. Let's prevent our lovely children from all the incessant drama series that might take a toll on them directly or indirectly amongst their peers."
ReplyDeleteIn other words, Yul, stop social media announcements!
It is not that no one saw it. More like people expect that regardless, the social media hullabaloo will continue.
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