TUESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

 Hailings....

IN HOUSE MEMO...

How far?

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD.


There is a soft part of a baby's head called the fontanel. The Yoruba's say the baby has “oka”. Before I had kids, I heard that it is caused by eating plantain, snails, okro etc. and needed to be cured.

During antenatal classes, I learnt its a natural occurring form in a baby’s head. The skull of a baby is not fully fused together. So that way it stays flexible and aids the baby’s head to pass through the birth canal easily.

It can take up to a year to fuse back completely, so it has nothing to do with the pregnant mom’s diet.

On one of my antenatal visits, the nurses told us about a grandma that applied a herbal patch to the baby’s fontanel in a bid to cure it. The place became a big hole and got the baby’s brain infected and they eventually lost the baby.

We were advised to let the fontanel be and should only be bothered if its sunken, which is a sign of dehydration.

*The first time i discovered that thing on my bambinos head, i cried for hours until i was reassured it was a normal thing..... The Joy of birthing a healthy child is more than all the riches in the World...When i had my first Bambino, my MIL came and checked and broke down crying.... I understood her tears later on and was grateful...... The way mothers handled babies way back was really harsh but nothing happened to these babies but if you try it now it doesnt end well...

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IJAYS GIST CORNER

  My older friend complained of what her hubby did to her. In the compound where they live, all the other tenants are married with kids except one babe, she has younger siblings staying with her.

Babe made almost all the married men in the compound her friend. When they're not at work, they always sit with her in and outside the compound chatting and laughing

The babe is not in talking term with some of the married women, not that they had issues. She just doesn't greet them. You know how some women behave na, once they're married they expect the single ladies to greet them not minding the age difference. Some of the women are not happy with how she relates with their husbands and couldn't stop them from hanging out with her.


Earlier this year, we had a hang out. My friend, her hubby, kids and hubby's friend. To my knowledge, hubby was answering plenty calls and his wife was really not having it. She was angry that hubby could not give his time with family. We didn't spend much time cos he said he was going for a party with his friend which was why he tagged him along. She complained bitterly to me.


The single girl being their neighbor was having a birthday party and invited all the married men in the compound, no invites to their wives. She said her hubby came in late in the midnight

Initially she begged to go with her hubby even though she's not in talking term with the lady, he refused as always. Maybe she was trying her luck. Her motive for wanting to go with him was that they heard the babe was bringing in plenty hot babes. Wives were jealous and was looking for how to protect their territory.


Fortunately one of the men didn't go alone, he went with his wife and na the wife download the gist of wetin happen for the party give them. Birthday babe shared the other babes amongst them, one to one and as she was there, her hubby respected himself. This made the other wives to be more angry with her. No confrontation though, them just carry her for mind. And the babe according to her stopped work ( hubby told her) and was always seen around the men (most of them don't work all week)


Recently she and hubby had some things to do in town, hubby went out earlier to fuel the car and asked her to walk down with their new born and meet him so that they can continue with their business for the day.


She walked down to where hubby was waiting and saw this same Neighbor That she's not in talking terms with in front of the car. The babe saw her and was still sitting right in front. She was angry and asked them where she'll sit, started exchanging words with hubby who asked her to sit at the back and when he drops the babe at the junction, wifey can come sit in front( she sey na dis one pain her pass). All this drama was happening by the road side and people were watching what was going on (free movie). As the babe saw them exchanging hot words, she came down and requested to help carry the baby and sit at the back. She refused her from touching her baby and they continued on their journey.

As at the time she was complaining bitterly to me, that's not the first time her hubby is degrading her which i'm aware. Her anger now is, what right does the babe have to sit in her hubby's car when they're not in talking terms. Secondly, why didn't she move to the back as she knew hubby and her were going out, she saw her and stayed put

When a Lady disrespects you in front of your hubby and he sees it but does nothing to defend or protect you and that Lady is his friend, then you should be having a talk with the hubby... If you survey the lady and feel you can whooz her well and not have her fight you back and beat you, please try it but know that you have no business with her.....

Where una dey see all these kind men marry i dont know....

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PINKYS CORNER

This is an update on my friend abroad who married someone i introduced him to and they hid it from me

Make una no vex say na laugh and race I take enter this corner ooooo, na the way wey the thing take be cause am.

If you can remember the lady I told you I connected with a friend in diaspora. Like I informed you all the other day, they both did all those things behind me, their reason has not been told anyway.


The new development is, both are having issues now, I think they both agreed on something, so, aunty is presently in a country close to G****NY and my friend told me that, he did the school visa for the lady not because he wanted her to go to school but for him to be able to move her to where he is since they are now husband and wife.

Everything is set now, but aunty has refused to follow up with the set plans, my guy has made available, the car that will take her from that R country to G country but mama refused saying that, people she met there has advised her to stay put and make a life in R country and not to try going to G country because they might deport her back to Nigeria. But she failed to understand that, she can't be deported because she is having a valid student visa of R country and will only be sent back to the R country.

Both of them have been having unresolved issues on phone and they keep dragging unnecessary issues. I got to know this when my friend called and was lamenting and telling me that, he is regretting his actions then I asked why he made such statement but it took him time before he could explain the above to me. Now, they have not been communicating for the past 3days and he also said, he has been wasting money paying for her hotel everyday.


As a good friend, I told him not to regret his actions and press further, that things will work well because at this stage, I don't need to fault him though, he has made a big mistake for doing those things behind me without my knowledge but all the same, I don't want him to feel bad, so, I keep encouraging him.

You see why being too forward or trying to play smart is not necessary in some cases? because, if he had told me earlier before now about his plans, I would have advised him not to, would have told him to come to Nigeria to meet up first before trying to spend such amount of money. Baba, thought he was smart and aunty also used his head.


It's non of my business, they should know how to settle their differences, I'm not ready to call the lady to confirm and settle anything because, the lady in question has not been chatting me ever since and it will look so stupid trying to interfere into their affairs because my friend asked me to call her and talk to her but me no want insult. I only told him I will call her but ever since, I didn't even make an attempt.



Dont mind him...Dont call her....Na market fall press dem so, they used you and dumped you and and he is now back...Stay out of it...she don Japa and doesnt need him again....he will meet someone there soon.. but what will she do if her visa expires.. that R country you are referring to is a poor country, na suffer she just start so!

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