Now the storm is over and they are friends and co parenting and one can tell from this Interview that she is wiser and mature....
There has been a lot of controversy around your separation. What really is happening?
A whole rollercoaster, a lot of drama. The whole relationship became a problem at some point. They are all issues we are trying to resolve so I wouldn’t want to keep on painting and blaming and all that. I think there was no respect. I was giving what I wasn’t getting emotionally- support and so on.
For me, getting involved with him was getting involved with someone much older and wiser, like a guardian. I had a very good relationship with my dad, he was my best friend…
Was he expecting that you would just leave the kids for him?
I think a huge part of him because I am naturally a quiet person, I don’t fight, I accommodate everybody, so he was expecting me to give up and say I am not doing this anymore.
Who is behind the comeback rumours? What is really going on?
Of course we are co-parenting, so we do PTA meetings for our kids together. If any of them is sick they stay beside me. That’s so childish. We’ve gone past that. We’ve talked, apologies were made because it shouldn’t have gone as bad as it did. If conversations were held, quietly, peacefully and not with the stories that I had to deal with, I don’t think there would have been an issue.
Maybe there would have been a chance at reconciliation. Fake stories were published about me that would take me a while to clear my name from.
Well, there is nobody that will be having fun and walk away…
The truth is that if he was pleasant I would have stayed for the sake of the kids but he was not. I think we have a better friendship now, at least we talk without stress. Everybody is mindful of not pissing off each other. There is nobody trying to talk down or undermine the other person. We have kids together and it’s not going to change.
But how are the kids taking it? They are young
My children are happy that they have their mother back in their lives. I noticed that some of them were withdrawn, they didn’t talk. Sometimes they would ask questions about the last two years, why I wasn’t there, and I try to find a way to answer but the joy they have with their mother is there.
Does their dad realise that?
He is thankful, happy. He knows better now, that you can’t take a child’s mother away from them. There is always going to be a difference between the way I take care of them and another person will take care of them. We have a formula. I don’t intend to cut him off, deny him access to his children.
I have suitors, lots of suitors, but I’m not a baby factory. It’s not a big deal but for now I should focus on the kids. I don’t see the prospect of marrying immediately.
About suitors, do you have any on your case that is determined and doesn’t mind your kids? Someone that has shown love and affection?
Men will always be men. Most men think they can but they can’t. You don’t look for it, it happens when you are not looking.
You’re aware of FFK’s new girlfriend and she has contact with your kids.
Are you planning to have a conversation with him about that?
It’s on him. He is the one who is going to decide whether she’s suitable for his children or not. If she gets along with my kids, I will know. If she doesn’t, she’s a woman, she’s free to have hers as well.
You know he is in the middle of the campaign season.
I wouldn’t want something that would make him look bad. We’ve gone past that. Most people think he did all of this because of the campaign, letting me have access to my kids. That’s not true, I will be honest…
How would you know? I mean why would he keep them from you in the first place?
This whole settlement thing happened before he was even linked to the campaign. The children were his priority because it had gotten to the point where some of them were not even communicating.
You know when you have a relationship where so many people were involved. In those days if it wasn’t the pastors, it was the exit Ghana. There were too many, this person said, that one said…
Someone told him I was going to take the kids, run away from Nigeria . It made him difficult.
That is what most married people should look out for. I don’t think there’s anything two people who sit down and talk cannot resolve
from Vanguardngr
A whole rollercoaster, a lot of drama. The whole relationship became a problem at some point. They are all issues we are trying to resolve so I wouldn’t want to keep on painting and blaming and all that. I think there was no respect. I was giving what I wasn’t getting emotionally- support and so on.
For me, getting involved with him was getting involved with someone much older and wiser, like a guardian. I had a very good relationship with my dad, he was my best friend…
Was he expecting that you would just leave the kids for him?
I think a huge part of him because I am naturally a quiet person, I don’t fight, I accommodate everybody, so he was expecting me to give up and say I am not doing this anymore.
Who is behind the comeback rumours? What is really going on?
Of course we are co-parenting, so we do PTA meetings for our kids together. If any of them is sick they stay beside me. That’s so childish. We’ve gone past that. We’ve talked, apologies were made because it shouldn’t have gone as bad as it did. If conversations were held, quietly, peacefully and not with the stories that I had to deal with, I don’t think there would have been an issue.
Maybe there would have been a chance at reconciliation. Fake stories were published about me that would take me a while to clear my name from.
Well, there is nobody that will be having fun and walk away…
The truth is that if he was pleasant I would have stayed for the sake of the kids but he was not. I think we have a better friendship now, at least we talk without stress. Everybody is mindful of not pissing off each other. There is nobody trying to talk down or undermine the other person. We have kids together and it’s not going to change.
But how are the kids taking it? They are young
My children are happy that they have their mother back in their lives. I noticed that some of them were withdrawn, they didn’t talk. Sometimes they would ask questions about the last two years, why I wasn’t there, and I try to find a way to answer but the joy they have with their mother is there.
Does their dad realise that?
He is thankful, happy. He knows better now, that you can’t take a child’s mother away from them. There is always going to be a difference between the way I take care of them and another person will take care of them. We have a formula. I don’t intend to cut him off, deny him access to his children.
I have suitors, lots of suitors, but I’m not a baby factory. It’s not a big deal but for now I should focus on the kids. I don’t see the prospect of marrying immediately.
About suitors, do you have any on your case that is determined and doesn’t mind your kids? Someone that has shown love and affection?
Men will always be men. Most men think they can but they can’t. You don’t look for it, it happens when you are not looking.
You’re aware of FFK’s new girlfriend and she has contact with your kids.
Are you planning to have a conversation with him about that?
It’s on him. He is the one who is going to decide whether she’s suitable for his children or not. If she gets along with my kids, I will know. If she doesn’t, she’s a woman, she’s free to have hers as well.
You know he is in the middle of the campaign season.
I wouldn’t want something that would make him look bad. We’ve gone past that. Most people think he did all of this because of the campaign, letting me have access to my kids. That’s not true, I will be honest…
How would you know? I mean why would he keep them from you in the first place?
This whole settlement thing happened before he was even linked to the campaign. The children were his priority because it had gotten to the point where some of them were not even communicating.
You know when you have a relationship where so many people were involved. In those days if it wasn’t the pastors, it was the exit Ghana. There were too many, this person said, that one said…
Someone told him I was going to take the kids, run away from Nigeria . It made him difficult.
That is what most married people should look out for. I don’t think there’s anything two people who sit down and talk cannot resolve
from Vanguardngr
Defender of d universe kwatinu,if you like go back and cook oha soup na you Sabi,ffk will run you street,if ur nt careful, what do I know sef.
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Arent you happy the kids have their mother back in their lives?rest abeg!
DeleteNothing. You know nothing.
Delete"You are not a baby factory ". But you born 4 for this man and he didnt Mary you.
DeleteNot even introduction.
What are you then?
Surrogate?
Issokay.
In all of this, I only feel so sorry for those kids. She said some of them were withdrawn. Chai! A mother’s presence and love can never be replaced or replicated. I just hope she continues to have access to them, a mother is too important.
DeleteThis precious ehn, trying to make FFK look good, I laugh in ikale dialect 😂😂😂.
DeleteFFK wey no get joy.
Precious, silence is very golden. Stop granting interviews
Chai! How long will this lady continue walking on eggshells to appease FFK,just to continue having access to her kids.See how she carefully answered the questions make "Oga" no vex😓
ReplyDeleteYou noticed.
DeleteEnjoy your friendship. I wish you lock if you wish to give it a second chance.
ReplyDeleteLock???
DeleteNo be only lock, key sef.
DeleteZaram, hmmm.
DeleteIt’s luck, not lock.
dem no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall.
ReplyDeleteAda Chikwendu na Etti Nanka, Zukwanu ike. 🙄🙄🤐
DeleteOK snowy, enjoy
ReplyDeleteNo dey put mouth for husband and wife matter; whether together or sperated
ReplyDeleteThis is the cycle when in a relationship with a narcissist. They keep you in a trauma bond. You’ll swear to never go back until they they turn to you for attention by love bombing you.
DeleteSnowy by very careful. You need to be very strategic. Don’t fall for his love schemes ever again! Please. Don’t it will be worse if you do.
It is this your intelligent advise that led to Osinachi's death. Carry on mai dia.
DeleteGlad you get to be with your kids. It's a huge win. Maybe with time, you will stop patronizing him.
ReplyDeleteGlad you are with your kids that's all that matters
ReplyDeleteExactly. Any other thing is by the way.
DeleteThank God that it end in praise
ReplyDeleteExactly..instead of trying to put him in a good light why dont you just tell the interviewers that your co-parenting in peace and end other explanations?
ReplyDeleteThank God for her
ReplyDeleteI'm happy for them
ReplyDeleteLet it stop with you two co-parenting, that man is bad for u,wat am I even saying, you too,you aren't a saint, you get your own for body.
ReplyDeleteDo it for your children and face front..
Hear her, the reconciliation was before the campaign stuff. Before is it going to be after? Ffk strategy. They promised him but on the guise that he reconciles with her before so so so and so date. Anam anu gi.
DeleteBaby gal, date and have fun. There are good men too. Don't go back nwaoma
Someone should help us inform Nigerians in general and Nigerian female (celebs) in particular that it's okay to not answer questions on their love life, marriage or family. They should also know that they can refer the interviewer to previous interviews on same issues especially if the status quo hasn't changed.
ReplyDeleteI think it was Rihanna or some other female celeb a journalist asked about her favourite position and she answerd "On top". How could you be asking an accomplished career woman about sex positions of all the questions in the universe if something is not wrong with your head? Tell interviewers beforehand that some questions are off-limits or refuse to do the interview. A whole Snowwhitey that was recently conferred with a doctorate degree from one ogbongelicious University in Cotonou will be answering eternal questions on her ex m.ad husband everytime instead of discussing the award. If e easy, make FFK collect him own na😏. Someone that all he knows is to be exchanging words with Dino on Twirra. Ahn-ahn!
1 million gbosas for you Amebonawork. Wisdom decorate you my dear.
DeleteThis snow-white no intelligent at all and Stella been dey hype her say she don mature 😏.
Silent is very golden.
Precious the campaign strategist officer for FFK. He is indirectly using Precious to package him as a forgiving, attentive, mature leader; the internet never lies.
ReplyDeleteIf there is anyone that should be doing the talking, the girlfriend a.k.a live-in lover should be it.
Your head dey there. This snowhite na big time Mumu, she never learn.
DeleteMtcheeeeew 😏
She's wise.
ReplyDeletePre pre, stop granting interviews and just enjoy motherhood
ReplyDeleteThank God for her,it ended in praise 👏
ReplyDeleteI am just happy she has reunited with her kids. It seems Ffk loves her but he is toxic. Toxic people show love in a toxic manner.
ReplyDeleteI would have said Run
But run to where, with how many kids.
I hope Ffk realises you are a gem. I recall how you stood by him during his EFCC ordeal.
I know you are both funking already
Enjoy.
KING XOXO MYSTERY