STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ILL MANNERED COLLEAGUE
I have a colleague who was transferred from head office to my location but still in same state. At first I didn't notice he doesn't greet someone, I started greeting him until one day I spoke to myself that why is it that I must be the one to first initiate greetings before he will respond.
Some times if you even greet him, he will be finding it difficult to open his mouth to respond to greetings . I started pretending like I didn't see him to see if he will greet me but nope he didn't.
I will call his name and greet him before he will respond, if he pass my office he cannot greet me, if I am with someone he is passing he cannot open his mouth to greet me but when he sees those he work with them at his former location he will call their names and greet them.
He comes to my working desk to ask me to assist him with scanning documents, photocopy, do any corrections but to greet when he sees me is nope. He can come to ask me to assist him make some findings or a document is not complete but to greet is a war. Could this be a deliberate act or he just ignores me with my greets cos I haven't worked in the head office.
We are on the same grade level. I know salutation is not love but I feel its wrong to walk pass your colleague and not say hello especially in the morning time but you can come to me to assist you do a job or ask me some questions but you cannot greet or respond to my greetings.
I have a colleague who was transferred from head office to my location but still in same state. At first I didn't notice he doesn't greet someone, I started greeting him until one day I spoke to myself that why is it that I must be the one to first initiate greetings before he will respond.
Some times if you even greet him, he will be finding it difficult to open his mouth to respond to greetings . I started pretending like I didn't see him to see if he will greet me but nope he didn't.
I will call his name and greet him before he will respond, if he pass my office he cannot greet me, if I am with someone he is passing he cannot open his mouth to greet me but when he sees those he work with them at his former location he will call their names and greet them.
He comes to my working desk to ask me to assist him with scanning documents, photocopy, do any corrections but to greet when he sees me is nope. He can come to ask me to assist him make some findings or a document is not complete but to greet is a war. Could this be a deliberate act or he just ignores me with my greets cos I haven't worked in the head office.
We are on the same grade level. I know salutation is not love but I feel its wrong to walk pass your colleague and not say hello especially in the morning time but you can come to me to assist you do a job or ask me some questions but you cannot greet or respond to my greetings.
Hmmmm maybe he grew up being an ill mannered lad and does not know his behaviour stinks...... Please ignore him as well and face your front.....He wont come to ask for help if has anything in mind against you.. he is just plain ill mannered.... Serve him back what he dishes to you.
Poster where I come from we say
ReplyDeleteOnye kele Sunny, Sunny ekele ya.
Fan Emmanuel
Lol.
DeleteHe probably heard got information from someone so he is trying to avoid you. Anyway face front and what concerns you. If he asks for your assistance just make sure he uses his magic word (please) any other thing should be business as usual.
DeletePush up (original)
Exactly Fan
DeleteFan, you are not serious.
DeleteWhy is this even an issue? Focus on your job and leave his greetings. Don't greet him too. This shouldn't be an issue.
ReplyDeleteAbi o
DeleteExactly
DeletePoster Please this is not an issue...Una can overthink things? Are you not there to work...Which is greeting or no greeting? Please do your work, get paid and go home....Do you expect everyone to like you in your workplace...Madam please relax and don't overthink this...
DeletePoster, it seems you have plenty time on you. I don't know why people take greetings so serious.
DeletePlease this isn't an issue at all. Mind your work and ignore him....
I am of the opinion that u treat people the exact way they treat u (yea, no love and light bullshit from this corner).
ReplyDeleteIf he doesn’t greet u, don’t greet him. If he brings work to u, do u like every other job. Don’t even act like u notice he doesn’t greet u.
Treat him the exact way he treats you.
Gbam! I treat people same way they treat me.
DeleteHonestly this one deserves same cold treatments he dished
DeleteRespect is reciprocal.you respect me,I respect you shikena
DeleteRespect is give and take.
Delete17:19
DeleteTrue.
But greeting is not respect.
If greeting is important to Poster, let her keep his/hers.
If Poster is bound to do the work he brings, let Poster continue. If not, it is Poster's right to politely and smilingly ask him to help himself when next he comes with his request.
Poster are you female? If you are,that may be the reason. Some men think it's beneath them to greet a lady first. Their silly ego wants to be massaged by the greetings and respect of women. They will see nothing wrong in ignoring you but still find their way to demand for your help. Infact,they feel entitled to your assistance cuz you have no right to refuse them. That's why most e-hail drivers get annoyed when ladies refuse to sit beside them but choose to stay at the back seat as should be.
ReplyDeleteE go shock anybody that thinks because he is "a man" I don't deserve to be greeted first and expect me to be doing the greeting always. Me that don't kuma like greeting like that. We go just dey look ourselves waka dey go. Mi o ni time
DeleteTrue
DeleteMust it be gender wise. SMH
DeleteThis might be the reason. Poster just cancel that greeting, everyone should just stay like that. when he brings work do it for him and move.
DeletePlease read the post again. Poster says if he sees those with whom he worked at head office, he calls them by name and greets them. "Those" and "them" are gender neutral words.
DeleteHow we find the niche to genderise almost all issues on this chronicle post baffles and sometimes sidetracks the Posters or other Bvs or readers.
Stella, please post. Thanks.
@15:06
DeletePlease read @15:12 to see women do it too. So much for the gender profiling.
He's feeling superior as per Head office gubernatorial candidate worker.
DeleteMao
DeleteLol
Just ignore. There's no need to bother your head about it
ReplyDeleteNot worth it abeg. Face the job that pays you
DeleteGbam! Stella, you said it all. Let me save my ink for the next chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster, ignore him like he doesn't exist.
Exactly
DeleteThem plenty...
ReplyDeleteThere is this woman too that will always wait for you to greet her where I work ,like she is feeding u..
When I noticed,I stopped sharp sharp,no time,I don't know what she is feeling like,even if anything good happens to u,she will never congratulate u.very I'll mannered person ..
Face your business. Leave her to her ego
DeleteIs like you are hungry for greeting ba?
ReplyDeleteOk, let me tell you what to do.
Assume your name is John and his name is Monday.
In the morning, greet yourself on his behalf, afternoon, do the same, in the evening on the way home, wave to yourself and wish yourself a safe journey home on his behalf.
Is that ok?
Ok.🤝
Don't greet him. He comes to your desk for assistance, snub him. No pretence here. They will tell you to greet him that salutation is not love, don't. Enter snub mode in everything about him.
ReplyDeleteMy kind of person 👍🏿 you can’t even say hello yet you run to my desk for assistance. You go wait tire.
DeleteSluttychic.
Simple. No long story biko. Absolutely no need for this chronicle.....
DeleteSadly, now adays people believe you don't need to be cordial in a workplace or relate beyond work because it is a professional environment. Some of us are raised better than others. Just ignore if it makes you unbothered.
ReplyDeleteMost of my colleagues will refuse to greet, they'll wait for someone to greet them. Most times I'll tell myself that I won't initiate the greeting. I always forget I'll still greet them by default. I just gave up on them I greet nd mind my business.
DeleteIs he an opposite gender?. If yes, maybe you are catching feeling for him. What in God's name are you making an issue over greeting?. Free him biko and do your work.
ReplyDeleteThere is no feelings from Her write up.
DeleteShe is just concerned, but for me greetings come from the heart.
Some of you like you trivialize issues for no reason
DeleteI don tell u this thing before, I no go talk am again
DeleteMy sister! I just tire. Hbp for greeting fa?
DeleteCatching feelings? Zaram😄😄 I doubt, maybe the poster is too particular about greeting.
DeleteEka Joy. I just saw your reply. What did you tell me. I can't remember.
DeleteCatching feelings for him, I never imagined that in my head. I didn't post this as a chronicle but SDK helped me do that I can get enough response.
DeleteI don't have any feelings for him, I am wired with greeting people anywhere is very important that is why I am worried.
Going forward I don mind my business.
Greeting is not by force. Face your job and if he comes for office help/assistance render and be on your lane..
ReplyDeleteLol, this is the exact situation with a neighbour. He waits for me to greet him and though I'm older than he is, i always greet until i decided to face my front. Anytime our paths cross, we walk past each other.
ReplyDeleteInteresting much!
ReplyDeleteI'm surprised you're bothered after telling us that "salutation is not love".
ReplyDeleteSome people feel so awkward adjusting to a situation they're already used to,seeing that you've been the one greeting him first,he might be feeling uneasy doing it first now.This doesn't make him bad,some people take time to adjust.
Even if you stop greeting him,trust me,he won't even notice.Just do you.
Surely
ReplyDeleteA Rasta man once told me there are 7days in a week, 4 days are meant for him to great his or her friends , 3 days are meant for them to great me if they can do it that way bye bye, that is rule I follow, greeting someone should not be one-sided
ReplyDeleteA lot of people are going through so much that makes them forgetful.
ReplyDeleteEverything is not about pride or ill manners.
Try and reach out to people. Some are just existing and not living.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
But he greets others
DeleteIf he can ask for her assistance then he should greet too. He's not the only person that has challenges in this life.
DeleteAlso, he greets his former colleagues, so why won't he greet her too?
It might not be intentional. I'm a lady working, i do not greet but if i need to run work stuff with you then i greet. But if you greet me; i will response. i have never thought about it till your chronicle. i will try and start greeting everyone before the greet me. Never has it crossed my mind that it is a problem or can be a problem. we learn everyday. it is well
ReplyDeletePoster, it's obvious life's treating you good and you don't have problems. If not, you won't notice who greeted you and who didn't. Please reserve greetings for people who want it and forget those who don't. It's not by force for people to greet you.
ReplyDeleteAs you go through life, know this: everybody CANNOT AND WILL NEVER reason and act like you. Even if what you think they should do is the right thing to do. Give that guy space. Maybe that's what he wants.
Gbam. Almost like smothering him jeezzz! He no wan greet you so leave him alone naw ahn ahn.
DeleteThis shouldn't be an issue at all, one of the least things I'd notice about anyone is whether they greet or not cos it's none of my business. Some people have mastered the art of being on their lane, and it's perfectly okay if they have a few people on that lane with them and not open to welcoming more. Moreover, the everyday good morning becomes boring especially if they are the only words you say to that person. If greeting matters a lot to you, then focus on sharing it with those that understand it like you do.
ReplyDeleteThis poster can’t work in oyinbo community then. Them no dey do all this yeye greetings when you see each other literally every damn day and in the same cubicle/office space. You no dey tire? Focus on other things and leave that man alone! Abi you like am and you’re mad you’re not getting the much needed attention from him? Na wa for you oo. Very irritating chronicle.
DeleteFocus on your work and pls leave him/her alone.greeting shouldn't be an issue.just be happy with your job and channel your energy on more important things.
ReplyDeleteStop greeting and just do your work jare
ReplyDeletePoster I see that you don't have any problem at all,treat him the way he treats you. My two cents.
ReplyDeletePoster this one na small issue nah, next time you see him face front abeg, to greet nobi by force and to answer greeting nobi by force, its a free world.🤷🤷🤷
ReplyDeleteThe petty inconsequential things people become delirious over.
ReplyDeleteIt is not petty at all. You work in same space, what’s so bad in saying “hello” to your colleague?
DeleteBad manners should be condemned.
Sluttychic.
Very bad manner.
DeleteAgain. VERY PETTY.
DeleteVERY INCONSEQUENTIAL.
Treat people the way they treat you.
Simple.
Instead of whining and complaining about people who don't feed you or matter in the grand scheme of things.
Office is not your father's house, as long as their attitude is not interfering or hampering with your work, ignore.
Or keep whining. Your choice.
I know a guy like this but if you don't greet h he started feeling bad.
ReplyDeleteSo I changed it for him.
Greet me, I greet you. Final!
He now greets, morning, afternoon, night, and I will respond, I know.
Guso it goes like this
Guy.. Morning
Me... I know it's morning
😂
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteStop greeting him too. Y’all learn to treat people the way they treat you!!!
ReplyDeleteYou can’t treat me a certain way and expect me to be the “bigger” person and treat you better.
Sluttychic.
Poster why are you so particular on the guy's greetings, I'll advice you avoid him, disregard his attitude towards, act like you haven't noticed his ill mannered attitude, do your job & avoid being petty in any way. If he comes to you for assistance go ahead be of help to him. Cheers.
ReplyDeleteIf I was the one, I will make sure our eyes make contact but I will not greet.Since he comes to you for assistance, then I don't think he takes you for granted. He appreciates you .
ReplyDeleteStory, he's a user....
DeleteSome people have a bloated perception of self! Saying hi to your colleague shouldn't be a hard task. I say hello to my colleagues starting from the security team at the gates, no discrimination.
ReplyDeleteThat is the right thing to do
DeleteSome people really have time. Who greets first is now a thing. Na wa! If it bothers you so much, stop greeting first. I just don’t understand how this could bother you so much that you sent in a chronicle.
ReplyDeletePoster abeg ignore the idiot.
ReplyDeleteContinue to bone him the way he does.
And when he comes to your table for assistance which is part of your job description, gladly do it and before you know it you won't even notice his bad attitude and he will start becoming ashamed of himself.
Don't even call him to order at all cos he will start feeling important. Even if he continues his normal way , his attitude will become normal you won't even notice anymore.
Poster abeg ignore the idiot.
ReplyDeleteContinue to bone him the way he does.
And when he comes to your table for assistance which is part of your job description, gladly do it and before you know it you won't even notice his bad attitude and he will start becoming ashamed of himself.
Don't even call him to order at all cos he will start feeling important. Even if he continues his normal way , his attitude will become normal you won't even notice anymore.
Have you ever heard of autism or ADHD? That he is greeting his former colleagues may just be because he is already very used to them. I am telling you this for free because i find it very difficult to greet people in my office myself except they greet me first and even then i find it difficult to respond. Stop assuming everything is pride except you have a low self esteem yourself.
ReplyDeletePlenty English will not solve this one .It is pure pride. I know autistic individuals who greet very well.if you ain't with lowself esteem why hide under a problem,now that screams low self esteem...
DeleteLmao. What an excuse for bad manners.
DeleteSluttychic.
Poster, I don't want to type much but make I just summarize wetin all the bvs don talk.
ReplyDeleteRespecting yourself makes you have good morals and Respecting others gives you good manners.
There is what we call Character Etiquette which is absent in some human regardless of their sex.
We move
Please people should learn to address issues politely but professionally. Since you said he is on the same level with you, why not talk to him? I promise you, it won’t take anything from you. Wait till he comes to ur desk for something, politely but sternly ask him, why he finds it hard to say hello especially in the mornings, but he greets others, you find his attitude rude. From his response, you would know if it is intentional, then you would know how to treat him henceforth. It may be an oversight, then he would apologize but if it is deliberate, he won’t and i assure you he might never come bck to ur desk for any help. Then you too will face ur front and start greeting people that greet you. Shikenan!
ReplyDeleteOh! What a comment @17:34. Very good.
DeleteDon’t do this
DeleteWork place relationships are not same as your personal relationships, there are certain you can’t ask unless you want HR to call you in for a talk
Poster, this shouldn't be an issue, ignore him and focus on your work.
ReplyDeleteHe has a crush on you.
ReplyDeleteWhich yeye crush. He’ll approach her instead
DeleteHaha If he has a crush on the poster that is the more reason greetings should be constant to get the attention of the poster.
DeleteI can tell this is coming from a yoruba person. We too carry greetings for head like gala!! This just brought flash back of my mother inlaw. I must greet every damn 10mins. Kilode! If he doesn’t greet you leave him the hell alone!!! Let him do his things his way and if you don’t like it, ignore him too. It’s obviously bothering you that’s why you brought it up here. Or ask him then why he doesn’t greet you. Your chronicle so so damn irritating!!! You’re there to work and not look for someone that didn’t greet you! Stop imposing your own way of life on him. Just do your work! Live and let live!!!
ReplyDeletePoster you are like myself that love to greet people around me whenever I see them. I don't like to walk pass without saying hello, hi but once I noticed you do not greet me first. You always wait for me to greet you first before you respond, I will face front.
ReplyDeleteYou should ignore that your colleague while you greet others.
We create problems for ourselves by becoming friends with people we should just greetand pass,if greetings no work,face front,he maybe minding his business
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