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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WORRIED ABOUT LOVE
Hi Stella,
I’m a 27 years old lady, My relationship with my ex came to a halt in January, I have gotten over the pains that came with the heartbreak to the glory of God though I feel lonely at times but I believe all would be well.
My question is If I will ever love again and if any man is going to love me more again? This thought troubles my heart a lot this days as if I’m not going to be loved or love any man again. Is this just a feeling?
I understand your fears but since January and you still feel this way? You need to position yourself where you will meet someone oh... Dont hide indoors and expect love to find you oh...Mix with people, make friends and go out..
You will be fine and love will find you again...
Leave man love alone and focus on yourself. First love yourself, get busy and focus on yourself. Love will find you naturally, if not continue to live your life to the best.
ReplyDeletePoster take this advice
DeleteWell spoken 💯
DeleteMen has become yardstick for happiness now for women that is why they treat you people badly
ReplyDeleteIts the Genesis Curse Genesis 3.16. Just a sizeable number of Nigerian women have broken out of this curse.
DeleteWhat stupid curse??? Instead of you to tell the truth about how majority of these naija ladies have extremely low self esteem plus Nigerian parents hardly instill and build their children’s self esteem growing up. Instead of poster to work on herself first by enjoying her own company so you won’t become an emotional liability on your husband, you’re here still talking about Genesis and exodus and poster talking about feeling lonely. Find happiness within yourself first poster so men won’t continue to treat you anyhow! Same Bible says he that finds a woman finds a good thing and obtains favor from God. But nooo na women go dey desperate for a man. I learned the hard way myself so it’s not just you! Work on YOU poster. Please Go on YouTube and start listening to positive affirmations, pray, exercise and eat healthy, take multivitamin supplements, and sleep well. Go out and make new friends because you never know who will connect you to your future husband. More than half of you women are extremely boring and just stay indoor with nothing exciting to even discuss. Get busy and make your own money. This is the time to build yourself before getting into any relationship or marriage so no man go dey talk shit anyhow. A lot of these naija men(not all) are badly raised with nasty shitty character with fragile egos. so work on yourself now, so Just in case you end up with a shitty man (I pray you don’t 🙏🏽), you’ll be emotionally/physically strong and ready for anything. you fit lose yourself patapata in marriage o if you continue like this.
Delete17.30 you sound so incensed Thank you for your views
DeleteBrace up and tell yourself you deserve nothing but the best.
ReplyDeleteHow you carry yourself matters a lot, that’s the first step.
Be open to love and love will find you.
Some of us didn’t have it rosy at the beginning but we never gave up, that’s all that you need.
Be happy and open to love 😉
Sluttychic.
You will be okay, time heals. Even young women get widowed yet accept their fate and move on over time. Though memories are there but you might find another that when you look back, you silently thank God for the breakup that set you up for meeting the new amazing man.
ReplyDeleteYou will be fine, I tell you.
Good luck.
Babe love your self more for now and the right person will be attracted to you.
ReplyDeleteOld women with grand children get divorced and find real love again more or less a 27 year old lady.
Hi, sorry for the emotional state you are in, currently. It’s an experience some of us get to go through at some point in time. Take your time, get through it, don’t be in a hurry. When it’s time, you will get over it /him. Yes, you will find love again. The moment you have agreed within yourself that it’s time, it will be time. Remember don’t be in a hurry so you don’t come off desperate and meet the wrong person.
ReplyDeleteYou will be fine, eventually 😘🤗. Good luck babe ☺️
I sometimes feel this way too,five years after divorce.i don't know if I can love or another man would love me.
ReplyDeleteI am an indoor person,just church,business nothing outside that.
It is well!
Completely move and you'd be glad you did
ReplyDeletePoster just relax ok, work on loving yourself, go out, make new friends, Always remember that no man can ever love you 💯, It's only God who loves us like that, So move on, it's well with you.
ReplyDeleteThey all cheat and have nothing but a little chunk of flesh called ‘preek’ to offer. Just adopt a baby or go to a sperm bank, have your baby and ‘live your best life’. you don’t need those good for nothing ‘misogynistic creatures’ called men in your life to feel complete. For the sake of your mental health, stay away from men because they are scum, scummier and scummiest.
ReplyDelete🙄😏
DeleteAnd what about the child? You people think it’s easy. Selfish lots like you. Then the child grows up with daddy issues, a void that only Christ can fill if the child end up being a Christian. If not, the cycle continues. We need more emotionally balanced people in the society abeg. Think about the child/ children y’all bring into this world because their happiness is also your happiness when you see them in a balanced emotional state of mind! It’s very important! And no, not every naija man is bad. I’m a woman married to a loving Nigerian man. Make una also work on yourselves ladies.
DeleteAnon 17:37, don't stress yourself, numero uno is male and throwing a subtle or not so subtle jab at women .
Delete17.37 don't faint
DeleteYou'll be fine,these things take time.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteWhy bothering yourself now? You just need to reposition your heart and brace up.
Better days ahead
Twenty-Seven and you are shivering like this.
ReplyDeleteIn few years you will look back and laugh at all this you wrote, you would even ask yourself "what was I thinking".. time changes all things.but please develop yourself a man will come when it's time
ReplyDeleteThis breakup thing ehn...I wonder what they gain from hurting people.
ReplyDeletePoster, you'll be fine. I know it's hard but try not to think about him anymore and focus on yourself.
Psychology says being alone for a long time is as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
So mix with friends that brings positive vibes and you'll be the happiest person.
Person like me that don't know how to mixed with people, don't know how to go out apart from work, I am feeling every person will behave like my ex. since I was served breakfast when I was 28yrs, I am 31years now, I just concentrated on my job from 8:00am to 8:00pm. Stella this your advice is good but I don't know how to apply them.
ReplyDeleteForget your ex sweet sis.. He’s in your past and let him be there..
DeleteJoin any church activities..
wear a smile always..
Look good
start from there first and see how it goes..
Love will surely find you soon sis❤️
Bv Yosola
16.13 you are just like me
DeleteThe key is SELF LOVE, you need to value yourself and place yourself high. You need to be happy being Single and be able to put yourself first.
ReplyDeleteGo to YouTube and listen to late pastor Myles Manroe teaching on self love and I promise you will learn from it.
As a mother and wife there are things about myself I love so much and never compromise, irrespective of my new status. I keep my standard same
There is a way someone will be to you and you feel like when he/she leaves you can't be fine anymore.
ReplyDeleteFirst you need note that particular thing that person deos that made you fall for them,that is one thing you feel you cannot give yourself. It could be the love that person showed you, or material things you benefitted from the person, personality etc.
Good news is you can take note of those things and begin doing it for yourself.
After a break-up is the time to re-evaluate things and find ways you can move forward even if you are crying everyday, the way forward should be your top priority. Loving yourself so much and getting to know more about yourself, explore your personality and who you truly are, noting your mistakes and the other persons mistakes will help you reposition yourself.
No matter how old or schooled you are there will always be a new discovery of your capability and your personality.
It is that time to reflect on everything even as you feel the hurt and restrategize on how to move on & how to make the pain & hurt go away.
Poster January is a long time and you still feel this way. If you know and sincere with yourself this person was all that good nor what you wanted and you know there is no chance for a come back then face front and forget the past. Seriously you need to move on.
It takes people different times to heal from heartbreaks depending on their emotional constitution, life experiences, mental maturity etc.
ReplyDeleteThe experience mars some people's emotion for life. Many bounce out of the negatives and fire on to find better connections with the opposite gender.
I was once heartbroken. It was very bad. It took accepting Christ to heal and renew my mind enough to find love again. Try it.
God is love.
This!
DeletePoster I understand what you're going through cos I've been there countless times. Love yourself, love God, attend fellowship and every other functions you're invited to, eat well, look good, smile more. A better person will come around that will make you forget your ex. Sending you self love and peace.
ReplyDeleteLove will find you
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry you feel this way,but trust me, you’ll be fine
ReplyDeleteAt 27, you should focus more on your life goals, achievements etc
Go out, dress well, have fun, make new goodly friends, join church activities, take a new course that would interest you..
Love will find you soon
E- hugs 🤗
Bv Yosola
Poster,love will find you again.renew your mind and be positive towards situations around you.take good care of yourself and go out more often.dont also forget to pray because the almighty is the master match maker.he will bring the right man your path.goodluck dear.
ReplyDeleteLove will find you sis. Time heals all wounds. Just take care of yourself. It will end on praise.
ReplyDeleteFor me whenever I receive advise like go out meet people, I find it very weird. Y'all said go out? To where I ask? In Today's world that everyone is always forming busy and there are so many loose nutheads out there. You go to weddings, burials, events, end of year parties, if you didn't go with someone, you will be lonely, and let's not talk about the quality of men or should I say guys that will approach you 🤐
ReplyDeleteFor me, the places I meet my men are mostly when I didn't even plan it. Sometimes I joke that even if I am in the dessert, a man of my choice will locate me, so I have been able to identify that my problem is not in the meeting, it's not in the going out, it's not putting myself out there (not saying all these are wrong, but it's just the starting point!)
This is the main issue for many girls like me: Will the man commit? It doesn't matter how hard I work or want to make it work, if he doesn't want it, it won't be (reason I don't sweat it). If I as a girl, don't know what to do, don't know how to handle men, the relationship will crash no matter how "good" I am.
The most important thing we should be imbibing in girls is to have standards and boys is for their head to be correct (very important) because rubbish too plenty outside.
My advise to you is to date more intentionally, listen to messages from Pastor K.
I'm not a regular commenter,but I just had to comment and I hope you get to read this. Surprisingly I'm the same age as you 27 and also my relationship of three years also ended January This year in the worse way every, cuz this man ghosted me. Omo my sister I was on antidepressants, already have anxiety disorder to deal with and loosing my relationship worsen it.
ReplyDeleteI felt like I was gonna die. I cry day I'm day out ,listen to sad music and at a point I started acting like a mad person,but you know what? I went back to school, changed my mind set and set mind for something better.
Please brave up and start appreciating your existence. Love will find you.
I'm not there yet emotionally,but I'm doing much better. Some days I still miss him,but trust me I know I'll never go back to o that sad place I left.
Mehn, This breakfast is everywhere o, as a young guy planning to settle down this year end also received my breakfast from a lady I have so loved, but by God's grace, I have being good though it was not easy at first but tomorrow is the better. The prayer is that anything that will give us future problem will surely leave whether we like it or not, it could be a hidden Battle won, we never can tell. So poster get an encouragement for yourself. You will smile and thank God it happened later. Be good
ReplyDeleteYou will love again when you meet tj4 right person, when the right person comes you will not have our time to come here and ask us questions. You will be too in love with him that you will forget about what your ex did to you.
ReplyDeleteMy sister my ex and I broke up 4th November. I cried for a week, this week I went back on a dating site online abeg I can’t kee myself.
ReplyDeleteI have met some good guys already in fact hand dey pain me, I don taya to charge phone join.
But I’m loving it; my ex messaged me on whatsap yday a few mins after I changed my dp because I was out and looking hot I called him by his name just as he called me by mine and he didn’t like it abeg IDGAF because I now call somebody else baby hehehehe
WE MOVE!