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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
LIVING WITH A CONFIRMED CHEAT
I am a stunning woman, but stress made me tired and wizened, I have my dough enough, cook and clean, do 360 for bed, but OGA eye still chook outside. I decided that I won't grow wrinkles and gray hair before my time, cos love dies due to constant hurt.
If your love survives hurts and betrayal, pls see a therapist.
I'm not talking about mere hurt, I am talking about emotional abuse, cheating, betrayal, lies, even trying to sleep with his sister's daughter!
Imagine!
Over the months I don't talk about his cheating and attitude again, In fact anytime his phone rings, I put on my beats by dre or give him space.
Told him we'd be using protection coz I'm done with childbearing, Good he agreed. Oga is now saying that I'm cheating that if I'm not, I would be troubled. I said ohhh you have seen who doesn't like happiness? I choose happiness and peace of mind, that he can sleep with the whole of Abuja and see if I care.
He moved into the spare bedroom saying that I can kill him in his sleep, when he moved, the praise and worship I did in the room that night! I had it all to myself! Such peace.
See me now, I pop with fairness, my colleagues say marriage is sweeter now, they don't know that less worrying, zero time to think about man issues, is making me pop. I even had a chin filler, omg!
Husband asked if I have a new BF, I screamed with laughter, I say OGA I'm not like you. He's practically on his toes these days, snoops through my undies and stuff checks in my wardrobes and gadgets, I say it's his time to grow gray hair .
My 2 kids are top priority now.
*I like your mindset and i hope your behavior makes him change his ways!
This is it. No room to feel unhappy and depressed. Control the narrative and see him mad. Women should learn to live for themselves, create their own happiness and live their life. You have done well ma'am.
ReplyDeleteNo time to check time poster. Your happiness should be your priority.
DeleteThis is beautiful I will also like to add that if he doesn’t change and you desire to find love again, don’t even cheat, just bounce out of the marriage. You deserve it.
DeleteSo he expected you to keep crying, begging and praying for him to change, so it will make him happier to break another mana child? What in the “narcissism” is that.
I am so happy you have chosen you, you will live long my dear. If he likes he can fix a human camera to track your every move.
Push up (original)
I love you poster, woman wey sabi!!! ❤️ ❤❤👸
DeleteThank God you borrowed yourself sense. Happiness 😊 is important.
DeletePlease what is the chin filler for?
DeleteI've been seeing one pinocchio chin that is reigning now.
Anyways are you happy?
Does this situation ship make you happy?
If it does, I guess that's all that matters.
17:30
DeleteObviously happy she is revenging. But happy all-round? If yes, the chronicle would not have started the way it was written.
Truth is she will be happier with all "her glow" if the marriage is working as she wants it.
But let's give her the go girl cheers.
Just keep using protection sha cos such men cheat without protection. I’m just wondering at this stage what’s the point staying married? I can’t oo
ReplyDeleteShe has to stay so that the man can keep paying the children's bills. Also, to maintain her respect in the Nigerian society since he doesn't beat her
Delete15:58
DeleteYou forgot to add "feed her and bear her bills".
Some Nigerian women will say they make or have their dough. But do they use it for themselves and their families?This is one of the reasons Nigerian men cheat. They believe in the old traditional way that so long as a man is feeding and maintaining a woman she has no say. True, some fed men cheat and even more. But any woman feeding a cheat in matrimony needs check up.
This is me o
DeleteI love the idea of love, being loved and loving, I will bounce out of the marriage without anger, we may even remain best of friends but just the way the man desires more women as his happy place, I will surely find mine. I love partnership so much that I can’t even pretend.
Push up (original)
I wish I could send kissed to you right now. No homo. I love you. Self love is important than worrying yourself over a cheat who won't change.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you have found happiness within yourself. All the best dearie.
Poster, I love the way you are living your life. Zero worries and focusing on the kids
ReplyDeletePoster E-hugs to you
ReplyDelete🤗🤗🤗🤗
Pepper 🌶 🫑 Oga Well.
Enjoy,and be happy and let Oga keep dying in silence and wandering what's happening in your life..
Nice one 👍 👌
Your attitude will change him soon.
Is good as you give yourself peace of mind, coz God forbid if anything should happen to you now due to his wayward life, Oga will move on Sharp Sharp.
ReplyDeleteMheennnnn
ReplyDeleteWell just continue, you are getting him back.. he will soon start coming home early and he will move back to the same room with you.
He will not lock his phone again.
People who cheats can't stand being cheated upon
Madam, if he comes back, lock up abeg. Can he take what he is dishing out?
DeleteExactly. Only those not making money and don't know how to look good will be killing themselves on top man matter.
DeleteAnd you should let him always have that fear and uncertainty that maybe someone is making you happy too. Give his heart some work to do.
ReplyDeleteNothing pains men than when they think their wives are now having extra marital affairs that is making them happy.
Sorry, if I were you, I will make sure he doesn't have access to my phone, let him be sad too. Later, they will say married women are now cheating, imagine a man trying to sleep with his niece. Such a randy man
*Larry was here*
I love that you chose your peace over your horseband but you also deserve good gbola. If you won't divorce the he goat,abeg get a side cock. That VJ needs to be oiled on the regular.
ReplyDeleteYou're remaining married to a man who tried sleeping with his sister's daughter, that is an attempted rape! Seriously!!! We should applaud you for that?!
ReplyDeleteSeriously, what is it with Nigerian women and staying with wicked men just for the sake of bearing Mrs?
Don't mind her, even his daughters are not safe with such a goat
DeleteBut she has choose her peace! Do what you like when it happens to you. BV invest heavily on yourself and kids, this is what his kind deserve.
DeleteGood for you but for how long can you endure sexless life you also need this thigh so why not ask god for directions instead of listening to these naysayers who are confirmed singles @40 or single parents,many of you choices what you get by long throat see the result.it is your life
ReplyDeleteWhat you’re saying has nothing to do with the issue. She’s married
DeleteGoke - are you responding to this chronicle or a different one cos your reply doesn’t make much sense?
DeleteNawa, the way the average Nigerian attacks single people is alarming. Someone will write chronicle, both singles and married will comment giving her options on both sides of the coin, attack will only be for the singles. Una welldone oh, na single we single we no kill person. Well, poster remain married oh, cos once you leave they'll group you in the category of single at 40 or single parent naysayers and attack you for even daring to have an opinion...
DeleteSo because some women here according to you are who are "confirmed singles @40 or single parents" they have no right to give good advice or applaud her choice of life? And uncle Goke when has been "confirmed singles @40 or single parent" turn one to naysayers? As if we don't have men still single at over 40 and no one ever referred to their advice as naysaying. Oga, park well if you don't have better thing to say and leave the poster with her sex life decision to solve herself, ka ji ko?
DeleteIs it by force to stay married to him? You are exposing yourself and children to unnessary risks. Is it until he dates a psycho that wants to hurt him and then tagets his family(you and your children)? Madam, remove yourself from that situation.
ReplyDeleteHer dough her money. His money her money or their money. Why won't she stay?
DeleteMost Nigerian societies and cultural group of people need to review their marriage rules of duties, expectations, obligations and rights. Times has passed most of them.
Does this man want to kill you. It's like the ylike the agony and torment they put their wives through. This is satanic and shouldn't be tolerated.
ReplyDeletePoster, I like your style joor. Imagine growing old by force because of one man like that. Someone who even tried to sleep with his sister's daughter. Life is too short for radarada. Keep doing what gives you the happiness you deserve.
ReplyDeletei wish every woman will read, learn and cultivate this your habit. We all will be happy. Keep doing you and keep on making yourself happy.
ReplyDeleteExactly 💯
DeleteGood riddance ...This is what you need now. Glad you're doing well poster
ReplyDeleteSo so happy for u
ReplyDeleteNothing like sef love oo. Embrace ya new u😍
Did you just noticed this attitude of his? Or you thought you could cope or he would change?
ReplyDeletewhat is wrong with divorcing him legally? A cheat and a child molester. Naija women I must be mrs.
ReplyDeleteGen Z, unmarried babes, inexperienced pple will say madam leave that man, but I'm telling you to stay there, no DV, stay and let him train his kids full time, use your money and look after yourself more, don't mind these people that have not walked a mile in your shoes. I stayed till my kids finished varsity, my hubby was a man white, now he's tired coz I don't even have time to beef him anymore. I face my work, augmented my body, I am in my late 40s but if you see me, hahahahahaha... I am a goddess with great body, the envy of most. Hubby and his pot belly is there. Experience teaches you to toughen up, don't let kids tell you what to do.
ReplyDeleteEveryone is not you
DeleteSome people can comfortably “train” their kids. They married to have a friend and companion. If that’s gone, then what’s left
Lolll 16:10
DeleteSome people want a little more in life.
They want a true relationship, a man they love and trust who is faithful, a marriage that is peace and blessing to them and more.
That you chose to stay in a dead end so that according to you 'he can train his children fulltime' was YOUR choice.
I personally will not sacrifice my peace, happiness, health, sanity etc because of disposable income, a title or a finger ring.
Never.
Learn to know that happiness is relative, to you what you mentioned up there is happiness to someone like me, it’s not.
DeleteMoving out shouldn’t stop a man from paying his children’s fees if you married someone who put his kids first. I desire companionship and romance so no, I can’t even manage this your kind of “happiness”
Ps. I am 32 and have been married for 9years.
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I am happy for you, sending you love sister.
ReplyDeleteOne of the most disturbing thing is to give someone an unexpected reaction. He thought you were going to beg and plead like he is a god to bow down to, but your indifference and focus on yourself has his panties twisted in a bunch.
ReplyDeleteWe are responsible for our peace and happiness. Good for you puttung your mental, emotional and spiritual health first.
Nice one madam
ReplyDeleteLet him think again.
Some men can't just stop ,he looks like an animal to me
You are doing well.Ooin!
ReplyDeleteKeep it up
Self love is the key word!
ReplyDeleteI love your style jare.
Yes poster,that's the right way to live.dont stress yourself,instead be more prayerful and believe he will change.goodluck.
ReplyDeleteYou live in Abuja, all the married men in Abuja are cheating, they make the best boyfriends,i don't date married men but almost all my friends do, so I know this
ReplyDelete"All the married men...". Please, where did you get your statistics from? Because "almost all your friends do", you drew your conclusion?
Delete(Some) people should learn to stop generalising.
Please allow me air my opinion in peace, I said it and I will say it again Almost all the men in Abuja are cheat
DeleteTrying to sleep with her sister's daughter abi rape, hmmmmm madam this man smtin else, guard ur daughters or daughter like a hawk, sounds terrible to meooooh, sister's daughter hmmmm.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder the kind of sick animals that parade themselves as men. He tried to sleep with his niece???
DeleteLike is he mentally unbalanced.
And somebody will say I'm married o. You won't know the kind if dog shit the wife is packing everyday.
Pity.
Anybody who lives with a dog packs its ... right?
DeleteI can't believe I missed that when I first read the chronicle. What an abomination of a man, the lowest of the low. Her stomach is strong to still live under the same roof and entertain him even with protection. While I applaud her for protecting her mental health still having to see him day to day must be hell.
DeleteIf you have your own money why stay with an abominable person? Even if you are flat broke why even? There are titles worst than divorcee.
Poster, I wanna give you a hug 🤗
ReplyDeleteHow men can’t take half of what they dish..
Enjoy your new self o, smell nice, look good and enjoy life..
You see that Abuja boys/men ehn💔
BV Yosola
So sorry poster. I know you are trying to be strong but the truth is that you need healing.
ReplyDeleteGod is with you 🤗
Gbam. Was looking for this comment. Like for how long? Trauma experience loading and this will affect the kids as well. Kids will think it’s ok to be cheated on or cheat. ladies separation is allowed even if you no wan divorce him. You need that full mental sanity. Good luck poster.
DeleteIt’s obviously affecting her, reason why she came here to vent . It affects one self esteem. Seek therapy poster/Gods direction and take it from there.
DeleteI like that women are changing the narrative. Lock up and take care of yourself
ReplyDeleteI want to be like you when I grow up, I like your spirit.
ReplyDeleteYou are married to the lowest of lows. He tried to sleep with his niece for goodness sake...your kids cousin. Winning would be you damning the society and move on mentally AND physically. Who Mrs help? I would be repulsed by the presence of such man, and leaving would definitely the optimum for me. Why would you even want your kids raised in such environment? Oh well. To each his own.
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