Women don't like to suffer and the prayer of most women while single is to marry men who are already rich or have the potentials to be rich...... They term it securing their future.
If you turn the tables and see a man who wants to marry an already made woman or one with potentials to be rich, he is tagged a gold digger!
Are you single and looking to marry a rich man or one who already has all what it takes to start life on a smooth footing? Or did you get your wish and married a rich man? Are you happy with your choice or would you rather have married someone you can build with?
Did they tag you a gold digger because you married a rich mans daughter or look forward to marrying one?
Let's gist!
I no come this life to suffer... 🎼 🎶
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Build with someone struggling at your own risk. When you finish building they will realize you are not really their spec but they just settled with you because you were who they could afford to be with at the time and their financial state.
Better be with the one that is already very comfortable and chose you and you continue to build up from there.
Love and life generally without money is very frustrating.
Which is why I personally work very hard to earn my coins and build myself up daily so even with a ready made man one can still be able to bring something significant to the table.
Lack of money personally or in relationships is not a good situation to be in.
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DeleteWhen I was single I prayed for a man that is not already made, wanted to grow with my husband from scratch. Got married and saw that ready made was a plus because a home comes with soo much expenses
ReplyDeleteInitially things hit hard and I began to regret my prayers ...but I got comforted with the way my husband respect and threats me, when I see people that have everything (financially) and not happy I thank God for where I am today ...I know its a matter of time we will surely get there. Insha Allah
I agree with you. In life nobody values you till you are a plus to them. Same in marriage if you do not add value to the marriage especially financially husband no go too send im wife. Starting from the scratch with a man is not east at the beginning but its worth in all husband man must be loyal
DeleteBe deceiving yaself
Delete16:13 God bless you
DeleteRich Harry is fighting his family cause of his wife and what are you two saying
So you mean when you marry a rich man he will not treat you right? You will not be happy in the marriage.
DeleteSo nah only poor and struggling men Sabi treat women right.
This one no follow rara
That thing of starting with a man from the scratch because he would respect and love you when he gets rich is a myth o.
DeleteChichi Taye I never said so am only saying the riches we all yearn for is not a gareente for happiness whether rich or poor if your marriage will be blessed with happiness it will
DeleteNo one prays to be poor, I like I said to a point I regretted poverty because running a home with kids comes with soo much expenses and no one wants to be struggling
May God bless us all
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DeleteDon't defend yourself.
You prayed well and God answered your prayers. You want love and good treatment from your husband you can grow with. Now add a prayer for God's growth/provision on top of the love and good treatment from your husband.
Money is not everything in human relationship.
Women who marry rich men still pray for love and good treatment as a human.
Before somebody beginning yarn, person don live as a Naira billionaire son by God's grace.
Dimplez you are right. I read your comment and that’s what you said
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ReplyDeleteI married my childhood sweetheart, and hes a hustler,till now we still dey hustle for our future,no money yet or connection but I love him with all my heart,body and soul.
Truthfully, my family is far better than his financially but I've not been the type to date for financial gain right from the onset, some people says he's sweet and loyal now cos of his pocket and wen he gets money, I'll see his real color but I know my man and I dont let it bother me.
I just pray as God blesses him,he should bless me too,I want to match his energy.
Overall I dont regret one bit,he's the fucking best,I'll choose him a milliontimes over,like he's a godsent,y do u think I put in so much to give him good segx?? Coz he fucking deserves it, I mean, if I blow his trumpet,people might think I'm exaggerating and I know one day,hustle go pay,everywhere go stew.✌
God continue to be with you and your family.
DeleteA lot of women hate hearing things like this please don’t let them deceive you.
DeleteKeep being a good wife and Hold on to your working formula.
May God bless and keep him for you. He deserves to be lifted. Most times childhood sweethearts don't disappoint. I know a lot of them. Except there was never a genuine love between them.
DeleteIn as much as I totally understand the need for a comfortable life on both sides, this may eliminate developing true feelings from the beginning. It's really complicated honestly.
ReplyDeleteI agree
ReplyDeleteLove is never enough in a marriage. I have seen love turn to hate so I know and I know and o know that love is not enough. However I am open to marrying someone I can grow with but he must not be less than my current level period. If he is higher then I thank God. Besides all these women who build men are suffering. You have to fight, nurture, shout e.t.c to build a man only for one yeh yeh witch to come and thief him. Na that will never with me. Any man that decides to waste his time chasing me when he is not on my level is doing that at his own risk because ehn me I no go gree. If I am to grow with a man, if he builds a house, me sef must build my own. That is what I mean by grow with a man.
ReplyDeleteYou saved me the stress of typing
DeleteNot easy to build with someone and be forgotten or thrown out. So to each his own. Whatever works best for anyone should be okay for them. For me everyone must be supportive... My friend would say marriage is about bring I bring
ReplyDeleteMet my husband when he was in a down season in life, he had seen good money in the past but didn't have favour with women and had been run down, was completely down when we met, I made it clear that I'm leaving my previous relationship only for marry so he went ahead and married me, the courtship was really tough, I won't lie, having to pay for almost everything made me really disrespectful sometimes but he kept saying that he knows I'm a good person and things will pick up soon.
ReplyDeleteThings picked up after the marriage and he submits my account for every single inflow he has, I'm managing the finances well and setting him up to make sure he never goes down again. This isn't what I prayed for but it is my lot of life, I made and I'm still making the best out of it.
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@Anon 17:23, thanks, God be with you too.
Rich is best 🤣
ReplyDeleteBuilding with a man is not easy at all love is important but money is importantanta, when real hardship harmer you, you go know say love is not just enough. So I respect the decision of those that married for financial gain.
ReplyDeleteWho no like better thing,
ReplyDeleteThere is no reward in marrying a struggling man Biko the way some people dey paint am here as if nah only poor men Sabi treat woman right.
ReplyDeleteI only date a man that we are on the same level; I can never date a man lower than me because men and their egos cannot cope.
ReplyDeleteEspecially Nigerian men whose upbringing and default setting is complex and low self esteem
Delete19:28 you don't have to involve your father and relatives in this conversation
DeleteGrowing up, i lived with my broke Aunty and her poor husband. I always watched my Aunty begging her Rich friends for chlothes for her kids, food items etc...
ReplyDeleteInfact, after church we must wait for members going our way, or we treck am!!
Anyway, i sha wanted to marry a Rich Man because i loved the feeling of being taken care of (lol)
Anyway, God answered my prayers and gave me a Multimillionaire for a husband....
My Husband provides so much for me and my kids, infact he doesn't even bother about my salary sef.
At first, a relative who i met him through didn't approve of the relationship because my Hubby was Rich, and generous...
She felt it would liberate my Family from poverty (long story)
Anyway, i am happy i married my hubby..
Tho, it wasn't as if i hustled so much
I was serving a relative who was friends with hubby, it turned out Hubby wanted something serious at that time...
Na so, i take put head
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DeleteI married for money and I am Living my best life.
ReplyDeleteGood girl!!! I am rooting for you.
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DeleteBad geh
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Who no like better thing? My dear, I want a rich man too. Enjoy yourself!
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ReplyDeleteWhen I met my husband in my late teen he had nothing,then he hit a goldmine but most people didn't know I've been part of him. When his siblings saw that we were getting serious they wanted to spoil things for themselves. Hubby knew I wasn't there for the money but love. We settled down, only to discover that his relatives from his Villa did some voodoo with the money he once sent to them.Things became tough in our first 3 years of our marriage.we are in our 8th year now with baby number 3 on the way. To the glory of God,he is so hard working and my hands became blessed that I run the home with him in finance and we don't have to beg. Although we keep receiving messages that he will RISE AGAIN beyond human imagination.
ReplyDeleteHmmm,my story and yours is identical
DeleteYou shall rise again, amen
DeleteMatch brake after baby 3 till things stabilize
DeleteMe I will love to marry a very rich man o, sufferness isn't in my DNA, even though I want to be rich as well.
ReplyDeleteI met my husband as a comfortable guy working in an oil company. I was dating an ok young guy then our age gap was 2 years. He was from a poor home. We dated for so long and he started taking me for granted. Will not call or visit me. Along the line, the oil company guy showed up and showered me with the attention I really liked, not the money to be honest cos I’m from a comfortable home. I borrowed myself brain and followed the guy giving me attention and respected me a lot. I’m happy I married the rich guy. He is so crazy about me and he’s always been a very good Christian. He can pray for Africa. Always in one church program or the other if not at work. He’s open with his finance and doesn’t interfere with my salary. He loves my mum a lot and willing to assist her, so everyone loves him. The only thing is that he’s not social as he’s on the quiet side. Once I hype him like this and his head swells, na to collect money from him. I’m grateful that I left the broke nigga o.
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DeleteYour suffer for no get part 2
I married a man with no shishi and I am not happy about it. Every major expense must come from me. This life eh.
ReplyDeleteMay God empower your hubby and make him appreciate you and be there for you, the same way you have been there for him, Amen.
DeleteBetter to move from grass to grace than the other way round. May God help us.
ReplyDeleteMost ready made women are gwegz. Imagine all these abroad returnees after serving their madams, go return to Nigeria forming independent woman and one lazy loafer will marry the River Benue. And if na naija way, you go dey drag her with “big gods “. My dear, I can’t. I know want die young. Make I kukuma go hustle as a man.
ReplyDeleteBest decision anybody can make is to hustle your own and back up with prayers.
DeleteMarrying a poor guy is no fun at all. You can’t even send the kids to the school of your dreams. The weight is on the woman and ordinarily a woman isn’t built to be the provider.
ReplyDeleteTrue that!!! Things picked up for us and I sincerely hope it picks up for every struggling family, poverty no get joy at all.
DeleteThis is a serious post.i just ended my 9years marriage with my wife.she said she can't struggle anymore.we both working and living well in our own way.she said she wanted more which I can't provide.i adviser her to bow out and she did it really painedy family members.we have a house of our own,small EOD car and I pay close to 80k for my two children s school fees.we cooked with at least 5k for soup.aAm I poor?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm....person wey get head no get cap.
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@Anon11:59 it's her lose not yours. You'll get a better woman.
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