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Kai! This one na ogbenutan
ReplyDeleteHe left his own mother like that and he is shouting. If he feels the dirty work is beneath him, why does he expect the wife to do it even if she is a nurse? What if he didn't have a wife? Does having a wife mean he can't also care for his mother? However, the wife's response seems quite hard, so if she wasn't paid she wouldn't help Mama? Na wa for bege!
DeleteIt is really sad how this WOKE generation is gradually killing HUMANITY and we think we are all wise.
DeleteI am a FEMINIST by the way!
But this man's wife is wicked!
She's a nurse already. What will it take her? This woman is like her mother too!
No I will NOT stan women today!
Even if she wanted a little reward, she would have asked diplomatically or even give them days to bring in another care giver as she maybe going to work or something!
All of you will get old one day ooo!
They should hire a nanny for his mum if this story is true. He can't do half of what he is asking of his wife.
DeleteLiesss from the pit of hell.
ReplyDeleteEveryday my wife this, my wife that, so women will be seen as mini devils.
Exactly. All over the internet. They even do skits on it now. But who will lose in the end?
DeleteExactly. thought I was the only one that saw through this.
DeleteThese people play for the other team and always attack women in order to make straight men hate us and maybe switch to their team.
I believe you.
DeleteAnother episode of what NEVER happened.
Anything just to drag the female and catch cruise.
Rubbish and ffk!
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ReplyDeleteWell since your sisters are all working “6am to 9pm” they can afford to be able to pay employ someone else well to take care of their mother.
ReplyDeleteSimple and short
DeleteThank you Yvonne!!!
DeleteDidn't you read where they agreed to pay, but Madam Wife said she will collect nothing less than N150,000 to take care of her mother in-law? I think this woman is just being wicked.
DeleteSee me see wahala, dem wan use style turn her to unpaid caretaker because she's less busy than the sisters. Hope the woman and family treated your wife well in the past cos that job isn't easy oh, it's a job that will be done out of love, not bullying and compulsion or as she said, drop your money.
DeleteExactly. If it's true, the wife did nothing wrong. The sisters and even the brothers should have employed someone or so it themselves.
DeleteWhen my mum had stroke,my Immediately elder brother was the one that took care of her,and we took care of every single bill and upkeep. And paid him for the months he did not work.
Anon 15;19, if her price is too much for her they can look for an alternative they can afford
DeleteExactly
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmmmm...........
ReplyDeleteShe charged that amount because she knows you all can afford it. Even if you want her to care for your mum , it's not by gragra. Ask her nicely.
ReplyDeleteOrdinarily I would get angry and say what kind of woman is this but in reality I don’t judge women who make these types of decisions anymore. I will not judge her because I do not know the real reason why she is charging for this. Also she is a nurse and is not a shit cleaner. If they need someone to pack her shit and all that, they can get a house help I mean what kinda degrading treatment is that. She is a nurse and not a care worker there is a difference. I don’t think I will be cleaning shit of a woman that is not my mother. We all don’t know what mama put the wife through.
ReplyDeleteAt least she’s willing
ReplyDeleteI can’t won’t sorry
Something may have triggered her behaviour.
ReplyDeleteCan they employ someone to be taking care of their mother since she charges much?
But, she should have told her husband to employ a helper in case she's busy with some other things.
No one knows how she/he will end up.
I tell u
DeleteAbeg he sounds so entitied. If the sisters can pay let them pay. That's how they do there sob stories to gain empathy
ReplyDeleteBru you guys should pay her,no wahala, she's a future mother in law na,you think until you carry shovel begin dig ground be say you dey dig grave,she is sewing good seed for herself,inukwa owunwa.
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
You should have helped us judge well by telling us how mama and your siblings treated her when she was healthy ...
ReplyDeleteLet mama get well first
ReplyDeleteWhen my own mom suffered a minor stroke, I jejely got a private nurse for her. All this Eliza nurse that charges less than 50k a month to stay with her. If my mom becomes so weak, I'll bring her to my house and also get a nurse for her, simple. Life no hard, na una dey make am hard.
ReplyDeleteSparkle777
Hmmm 🤔never hurt a heart that loves you , because the same heart might never learn to love you again.
ReplyDeleteHealing to Mama.
The wife is right. Nigerians may not agree. You and your siblings can't dump responsibility of your mother on your wife. Everything is not about being good or Christianity. If you feel your wife is expensive look for an outside carer and find out how much they will charge. It is even insensitive to suggest her in addition to her other responsibilities. Everyone I know who has a parent living with dementia or stroke has a live in carer. Those who don't are constantly complaining because it will start will caring for her then her food and drugs will also become your sole responsibility. Her children should figure out the cost of care, drugs, food and rehabilitation. Share the money amongst themselves and she can even live in her house if she has a carer staying with her. Your wife is not diplomatic. She should have started locum work let us know if you can handle the burden you want her to bear. Ask those who work as carers in UK and Canada. Work is back breaking and unpleasant. Nigerians and using people
ReplyDeleteThe wives are slaves mentality. If it is real, the tone of the write up suggests how entitled they feel about his wife being a nurse.
DeleteAs if they trained her as nurse, brother can you take care of her father if he is sick?
DeleteEntitled people who think a wife is a slave
The wife didn't try diplomacy at all
Employ someone else. Will the wife even be at home 24/7?
ReplyDeleteYou love your mum so much but you couldnt clean her up when she soiled herself😏😏😏...Stop with the entitilment and beg your wife.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with the man on this.
ReplyDeleteI thought the concept of marriage is that 2 become 1? Therefore my parents become your parents and vice versa. If I take care of my own mother, why should i demand payment for taking care of my mother in law? If i can't take care of her from the beginning, i will rather bring up another excuse apart from monetary compensation.
Assuming what the man wrote is true, leaving the old woman in her own poo for 5 hours because she has not been paid is just sheer wickedness.
Let's not be stanning nonsense. Tomorrow, we will get old and events may happen that will make us stay in our son's houses. May our daughter in laws be kind to us that time.
poster since your sisters are so busy and your wife is the only one that can care for your mother i will say you guys should give her that money, you may not pay her full but start with a commitment to see how it goes. I have a sister who will need an appreciation when she want to treat her siblings.
ReplyDeleteSome people do not do anything for free, let your money, your sisters money speak for you guys since she is the one who can take care of your mum. Please do not pick a fight with her for now till you have better option. Remember your mum is in your place for now and your wife is also human, your sisters may not be able to care for your mother but will expect your wife to do so. Your wife is not a slave and if she demand for money make una appreciate her except she is not taking care of mama after you give her the money.
I am not in support of your wife asking for money but since you don't have another help please appreciate her and allow her mind judge her.
A nurse is not a carer and this man is describing a second job that the children of this woman have chosen not to do. He wouldn't clean up after her own mother.
DeleteThey should look for someone else, period.
ReplyDeleteHe saw his mom poo on herself but left it for his "housemaid" to clean it up? Hilarious and disgusting.
ReplyDelete200k is actually very small in this current economy,how about half a mill?
Lol
DeleteWahalur..make una pay am na, so far she does the job well.
ReplyDeleteIf you feel bad paying her cos you feel she's supposed to do free then hire another nurse to come take care of your mom.
I really don't blame your wife , it's not an easy job, plus she has to combine it with her widely and Mother responsibilities...so come on pay her
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DeleteShe’s your wife…not a slave. I don’t get why men think women are slaves
ReplyDeleteYour entitlement is disgusting.
ReplyDeleteYou people should pay a caregiver 50k monthly and they will do more than that. If your sisters cannot take leave from work to do it, is it your wife that will? If your wife's mother is ill, will you go and be cleaning her up? Some of you should be merciful na. What are marriages turning into?
It is not her duty. She can do it once in a while but it is not mandatory. How will she work, take care of kids, take care of your mom too, constantly cleaning her up. Get a caregiver, let your wife supervise the caregiver.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Oga please pay ur wife o.. it's not her responsibility to look after your mum, if none of ur siblings can dedicate their time to take care of Mama, let their money do d work from Dem na.. what's d essence of working?..see the payment as a means of appreciating your wife.. it's really not easy caring of an aged parent.besides, if you weren't married, won't y'all find a means of taking care of your mum?
ReplyDeleteTBH, I don’t blame her. You want to give the woman another full time job with no pay. It is not easy. My sister did it for a year and said she couldn’t anymore. It was too hard. She had to give up her entire life to look after my mom 24/7. It was exhausting. We had to pay for a live in carer. So if a daughter who loves her mother couldn’t bear the hard work involved, imagine a wife. Later, they’ll take her for granted and start complaining about the level of care the mother is receiving even though they are doing nothing to help. I think even doing it for 200k is not worth it. I would suggest paying someone else to do it as a proper job and then helping out and showing care whenever you can. Do not start what you can’t finish. Familiarity breeds contempt. If it was the woman’s father would people say the man or the brothers should do the caring work? Women are not slaves. A good wife shouldn’t stand for a used, tired and broken woman who never says no.
ReplyDeleteBut why do ur siblings want to make it her job just cause she is a nurse! Nurse na shit packer? Let’s learn to respect people Abeg. ThankGod ur siblings are working they can afford to contribute resources to pay her or source for a cheaper option.Doesnt make her wicked or heartless. Your sisters can’t make out time to clean their mother and take care of her,but u expect another woman to agree to it. Una try well well.
ReplyDeleteIf the original story is true.
ReplyDeleteMost comments are as expected.
True, the job is a difficult work.
One Czech wife refused to return to Nigeria with her Nigerian husband because of it. A nigerian wife abandoned her husband to his nieces because of it. In either case, the men were very generous towrads the women when fit. The latter man virtually turned his wife's family fortune around. So it is not always a matter of how the woman had been treated before as insinuated. The woman, being a nurse already knows the challenge of the job. If she was badly treated before, the proper request is to ask her husband to use the N200k to employ another person.
The wife should have encouraged them to look for external help with the assurances that she would chip in when necessary.
Maybe after the wife collects her first month salary, the Husband should sit with his wife to discuss how much she would be contributing to the family finances and upkeep. 50/50 sharing of their bills will be a good starting point.
Those asking why the husband did not clean up his mother should know that generally, it is uncultural in some tribes for an adult male child to see his mother's nakedness.
How much she would be contributing to the family finances and upkeep?
DeleteDoes the husband take care of the children and cook and clean the home? Let him start by paying her for those too or employ a help to do those, then they can talk about sharing of finances.
Is the man going to do 50/50 of chores, cooking and childcare?
DeleteWhen my mum was ill, I did it lovingly. But at a stage we had to employ a nurse, even with that I, my sister and a cousin still rotated in addition to the nurse. It's not easy to look after an ill elderly parent. And again your mum should be living with one of your sisters, but I bet your family decide that she stay with you bcos you expected your wife to do free work abi. Combining it with her job, and looking after the home and you. Typically selfish. Pls pay her if not get a live in nurse if you think her demand is too high
ReplyDeleteNibo latin jasi bayi oooo
ReplyDeleteYour sisters work 6am-9am.. so how will they take care of their own home when they start one. Who takes care of your mum when your wife is at work. You want your wife to work round the clock like a clock itself. When will your wife have time for herself, you and kids if you guys have one? Stop asking for what you and your siblings can't give. Get a caregiver for your mum and your wife can help out.
ReplyDeleteCaring for the elderly with stroke is not a child's play. Please pay her biko.
ReplyDeleteFirst Mr. son, you have shown lack of love to your own mother. You left her for who to clean her? I would have not left her for 5 hours as 2 wrongs don't make a right. I would have cleaned her. I don't like that she is that hard hearted. On her defense, they cannot dump their mother on her. She herself has a lot on her plate or they can rotate to care for her turn by turn. If the table was turned, he and his sister would certainly not assist her with her own mother. So paying her is fair enough. Again, we don't know the inside story did the mama not help her during omugwo and other times hence the pay back attitude.
ReplyDeleteIts not acceptable in most cultures for a man to see his mother's nakedness. Let's be saying the truth. It was wickedness for the woman to abandon her mother in law in her poo for 5 hours.
DeleteLets say the truth when we see it.
That's the work of your sister's,your wife work is to assist them if they begged her and it is not a must to do...
ReplyDeleteIf your sister's can't do it they should pay her and pay a nurse to be doing it..
Ah ahn ndi "my wife is not my relative where una dey?" "My wife can never be my next of kin." "My mother, my family comes first yadi yadi ya." Wetin happen na? Una don shit for mouth again?
ReplyDeleteDem go remove you from family group because according to them "wife no mean say na family member" Na when e reach time to select who go pack shit, den go remember you as onye ovoru nyshi to pack and clean as per beast of burden. Your own na to answer yes sir, yes ma.
Una no get sisters? Una no get get aunties? Which kind stupid work are your sisters doing from 6am -9pm everyday? Even Satan no get that kind working hours. Abeg, leave trash for Lawma.
Your own MOTHER, una mo even dey shame.
Wetin una suppose everything rush to het sde to see to her care.
YOUR OWN MOTHER.
Better go and pay for a care provider if you and your sisters are too busy to take care of their own mother.
You tink say to take care of stroke patient na teddy bear you wan handle.
Mtsheeeeeeeeeeeeeew.
Anything to paint women bad. Make una no let anyone deciev una oo. There are men married to good women and they have a beautiful happy home.
ReplyDeleteInfact if you come near them you go Wan marry sharp sharp.
Marriages are still working o.
All of you shouting pay her ,pay her... Have you really thought about the consequences of the payment.
ReplyDeleteSenerio 1; mama slips and gets injured the nurse in her care would be sued to court for injuring a person in her care abi this one no go follow?
Would she be expecting to leave the mama to go make her hair or join the family at an event or would she dress like a nurse if she were to go ? Abi are we not acting rofessionally.
Senerio 3 : if mama needs attention by 1am does she expect me to thingka he would clock out as a live in nurse .. nne continue ya nurse work oh?best line of actions- get a nurse who would work less hours supplement the rest of the hours with your expertise. Family would still give you tips.win win win