Popular businessman, Ikechukwu Ogbonna aka IVD’s wife, Bimbo, has passed on.
This was announced by her sister in an Instagram post on Saturday, October 15,2022. On Wednesday, October 12, 2022 Bimbo and her husband got into a scuffle and she set herself ablaze in the process at their home in Lekki, Lagos.
She was rushed to the hospital while IVD who sustained minor inj¥ries absconded. She was in the Intensive Care Unit of a Lagos hospital for some days but unfortunately gave up the ghost this morning.
Bimbo’s demise is coming after suffering domestic violence from her husband for 22 years of their marriage.
She was rushed to the hospital while IVD who sustained minor inj¥ries absconded. She was in the Intensive Care Unit of a Lagos hospital for some days but unfortunately gave up the ghost this morning.
Bimbo’s demise is coming after suffering domestic violence from her husband for 22 years of their marriage.
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Maybe she was just tired of everything. Beautiful woman you shouldn't have done this 💔💔💔
ReplyDeleteThis their case is more than meets the eye; i dont know if they took an oath together... Its as if for them to be seperated one person has to die. So many back and forth for 22yrs enduring cheating, beating, STD, a child outside the marriage, even her only sister stopped talkn to her bcos she refused to leave. Heard she tried leaving in sept he threatened her with a gun to shoot her and himself. Their case is one of toxic obsession, dont know if jazz join too. She always accused him of jazz too, their matter is deep. Hope she finds peace 🙏🙏
DeleteI’ll be back . I hope her friends who were singing and praising her “you’re here to stay, this is your house” . I hope they’re watching and learning. Nobody in this situation is to blame except Bimbo her self.
DeleteWomen needs to learn to choose themselves too. I stole for him, I made him yen yen yen. Why didn’t you steal for yourself. Why didn’t you make your self.???. The only victim in this sad situation are the kids.
Heard she tried leaving in sept he threatened her with a gun to shoot her and himself. . This is excuse upon excuse. Person wey wan leave dey leave codedly.
DeleteAnother one bites the dust 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
DeleteBoth of them were toxic, but the man wanted her dead.
DeleteGist has it that he pushed her into the fire to burn and even watched her burn before she jumped into the pool.
She wanted to burn the cars but got more than she bargained for
Also they have 5 children oh.
5.
Youngest is like 3 years.
Bimbo you’ve left these children to their fate. It’s obvious their father won’t be able to take care of all of them plus his outside child.
Even the IVD absconded from the hospital where she was admitted. It takes a man with a dead conscience to do that.
Boarding school, pent up anger, resentment would be their fate now.
IVD, you’re free to carry allllllll the plenty women you want to carry
May the Lord be with your soul
Yahoo no dey pay. Karma is real.
DeleteAnon 13:08 you know this. If those kids don’t go through counselling, I pity anyone who marries them oo
Deletethe Bible has warned against being yolked with unbelievers especially those that deal and trade with those that do yahoo, google, google+. I hate to say this but, when you enjoy the fruit of evil doers, there are negative consequences that follows it because God is not stupid....His end is coming too... I heard this lady once say, "I will report you to efcc..etc" "I need my own pound of flesh".... etc... This two people were yolked in a very dark and sick world. He couldn't live freely unless she is dead.......When I combed through his instagram, I see a man licking his lips 24/7 with this evil smirk on his face, just disgusting. I wonder what a beautiful black queen saw in him. I am just SMH...All the yahoo boys in Nigeria combined, they are NOT richer than the paystack boys in Lagos, or founder of Patrica guy, or Bezos, or mark zuker-Baggar........ WOMEN, I advise y'all for the last time to find a legit man from a humble background with a promising career trajectory.. Avoid all these flashy guys with unconfirmed source of money.. The end is always tragic.. Pick one 1) STD'S and HIV 2) DEATH 3) His Karma will be your children 4) JAIL 5) ALL OF THE ABOVE...
DeleteFor 22years😭😭😭
ReplyDeleteWomen please we can do better than stay in abusive marriage all in the name of what people will say.
This is heartbreaking 💔💔
May her soul find rest....
Until Nigerians stop placing marriage on a high pedestal, women will still see staying in an abusive marriage as better than being single and alive n healthy
DeleteThe highest case of ACRIMONY
DeleteShe gave too much to this marriage, her youth, her money, her love and she gave them in the highest intensity, she got obsessed.
Everytime she said she was staying for the kids yet her first daughter had attempted committing suicide.
Stop staying for your kids, you are breaking them by forcing them to live in a toxic situation, you are breeding toxic kids.
Bimbo could have left a long time ago, leave when you are young so you can pursue your career and focus on other things, she was trying to make a beast faithful and respectful.
A man who dint love her, who was tired of the marriage so he took it out on her, every opportunity he got he used his fists. Why stay? Why force love?
The earlier you all know love can die, it can run it’s course, it can grow cold, it can even grow up … the better for you.
That’s why everyone should love themselves more than anyone or anything else except God.
5 kids later, she’s dead… what did she gain?
I am too important and beautiful to kill myself
Push up (original)
Anon 13:25, some people will never hear, they will keep age shaming and marriage shaming women leading to more of such cases. I thank God for the kind of person he made me to me, I no even send all those nonsense talk cos life na per head per head.
DeleteAny body born of a woman marriage shaming or age shaming me is wasting their breath. I came alone and will go alone. I choose single instead of a marriage that will take my head in Jesus's name.
DeleteIf you don't want to take your self away from violence, you will be carried away. The people who walked away loved too but they value their lives.
Wow!! Why did she return to this hell of a marriage? I will never understand women who endure domestic abuse. I have no words for this. This year sha..
ReplyDeleteThe plenty stories I have been reading concerning them is not good at all,so toxic
DeleteMay her soul finds rest
If only she had left the abusive marriage long before now! Why can't people learn? Why? May her soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThis is so sad! I don't even know how to feel
ReplyDeleteOh God! Rip to her.
ReplyDeleteNot again
DeleteIt's well . If you like advice women in domestic violence from now till the world comes to an end they'll still do what they like. I have seen many of them & because of the way they behave afterwards my emotions have finished .
ReplyDelete22 years! People will wish them happy married life and tap, not knowing all the struggles and turmoil she endured!
ReplyDeleteWomen, please put yourself first. Everyday more and more women are dying due to DV. Don't let this be your life story! Be bold and walk away, damn society and damn religion. If anyone preaches to you God hates divorce, tell them yes, but he loves me more.
Please think of your children, of your mental health, of your future! Do not let your life be cut short by a horrible relationship.
Ehen.
God hates divorce not divorcee.
DeleteThis is a very important statement! If the focus can move from the divorce act to the well-being of the divorcee, less people will be hesitant about divorcing.
DeleteI am tired of advising couples to separate if the relationship gets physical or emotional abuse. This is always the end result. RIP MA
ReplyDeleteThe only advice I will give any naija woman experiencing dv is to convince the husband to relocate to a country where the law works and protects women if they have the opportunity. As a woman if u meet a man n he says big no to even the possibility of relocation or immigration yet he has the means, my sister that one na serious red flag. Especially if he is the controlling or angry type because he knows he can keep u enslaved here and nothing will happen. Cus no one cares about womens rights and dv victims in naija that’s why it goes unpunished until it is too late. I dunno what demon entered my uncle that he started beating his wife. Now they’re abroad he definitely knows he can’t try such and go Scot free. Have u ever noticed how the same devilish Nigerian men that treat naija women like trash will suddenly become very tame when they marry an oyinbo abroad . It’s Cus oyinbo knows her rights and her country will work to keep her safe
DeleteDo you know how many people die of domestic violence in the USA? See domestic violence isn’t gender based o. I have a neighbor here in the states that’s going through this, with all the law guiding her she still stay put.
DeleteThe victims who don’t speak up makes it worst, the best birth is to pray never to be in such situation
Thank you @14:53.
Delete@13:33,
A woman who meets a financially capable man should not flee at first sign of violent tendency?. She should encourage him to relocate with her to Canada, Europe or USA so the man can be sober or she can collect his wealth if he beats her?
Maybe I do not understand your advice to women. Or maybe your kind of advice reinforce the stay put by some women and men in violent marriages.
Just to say that: Wetin money go do between some women and men still day preface page.
15:52, I think you misunderstood the anon. He/she is not advising DV victims to say. Rather, he's saying that if you meet someone that's controlling/aggressive and does not entertain the thought of relocating out of naija, to pick race cos it's a red flag that he/she might end up abusing the spouse.
DeleteLeave to LIVE, marriage isn't a do or die affair
ReplyDeleteThis is so heartbreaking
If it's not working please leave
A man who beat you to coma while pregnant last two years and you still went back.
Rip Bimbo
In few weeks now,this man will move on.
Not again!
ReplyDeleteWomen please stop enabling these beasts,your lives should be much more important to you than any abuser or Mrs title fgs!
Imagine, it better you take a walk then stay in a marriage that ends up taking your life
ReplyDeleteSo she learnt nothing from osinachi fiasco. I heard she has suffered DV for 19 years. Leave to live. RIP lady
ReplyDeleteNgwa, wife and cook, alpha males over to you!
ReplyDeleteRest in peace to her
ReplyDeleteI hope the IVD man will rest now. He don get watin him want.
ReplyDeletePerson beat...beat...beat sooo teyyyyy e'kill him wife.
Like what the f#*@k???
If only she'd left the last time, she'd have been here to take care of her children.
By the way, you see all those people that begged her to stay, in one video on the blogs, they should all be prosecuted alongside that killer of a man. It'll serve as a deterrent to others.
May her soul rest in peace, Amen 🙏
Unfortunately, she set herself on fire. I don't know if the courts can do anything about that
Delete@13:37 any concrete evidence of that?
DeleteThe courts can find him guilty of malicious manslaughter because in the process of beating her he pushed her into the fire that eventually killed her. She did not have a will to die that is why she jumped into the swimming pool. At least he should serve 10 years in prison.
DeleteLeave To Live!
ReplyDeleteUna no dey like hear word.
My heart goes out to the innocent children, may they be consoled.
Am l insensitive? Maybe l don't understand how people in such situations feel cos l haven't been in it. But to stay for years in this situation? The drama in 2000, why did she go back? She stayed until her mental condition detoriated to this point? The man matter dey cooler. He go jam am soon
ReplyDeleteThat wicked man will never go unpunished.
DeleteOthers won't learn or even read this. Such a painful death. Chai
ReplyDeleteOthers won't learn or even read this. Such a painful death. Chai
ReplyDeleteThat last paragraph is not true. They are a toxic couple . And they were both violent to one another. She was setting their house on fire when she burnt her self in the process. I’m a woman but make we dey talk true abeg. She remained in the marriage until she because equally violent as him
ReplyDeleteI mean! I shock too, my sister. Set herself on fire? Come on! You can tell they were both obviously violent people.
DeleteWell, team "we die here", una go really die there.
Thank you
DeleteThey are both toxic
I don’t know if they swore an oath or something because her family tried everything to get her out.
It was “do or die” for her
Push up (original)
Another one bites the dust. You rather set yourself on fire instead of leaving.
ReplyDeleteHer sister said the husband pushed her into the fire. How can she set her self ablaze and still jump into the swimming pool. It’s not good to suffer with a man
DeleteFan Emmanuel
Would it be good for your son or male brothers/relatives to suffer with a woman?
DeleteWhy don't we focus on the main issue - that domestic violence by a husband or wife is bad and should not be tolerated by anybody involved and by state authorities?
Hnmmm this is sad abeg.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteSo sad
The innocent children will suffer the consequences of these foolishness. 22 years. This is too much please.
ReplyDeleteIs it so hard to leave an abusive marriage? I mean, what's appealing staying where you are being punched and pounded? Do you like the scars? Na wa
ReplyDeleteThere was a guy asking me to marry him long ago....soon as i heard his history,bcos i always investigate. He had never raised his voice at me in d few months i knew him, but i heard he had a history of violence, even beat someone into coma, beat family members, his workers etc. The way i cut him off was like magic. I wont even wait till i become a victim let me run.
DeleteB&R, exactly. Once I see a red flag, the way I so cut the person off eee. A guy that was proposing marriage once told me how he raped a girl when he was much younger, though he has changed. I told him it was a terrible thing to do and he go pissed off, that I was judging him, which I wasn't. Anyway, that was the last day I had anything to do with him. Didn't even bother telling him why I withdrew. I just moved on.
DeleteMe I don't pity any woman who decides to stay in abusive marriage o. I read she grew his wealth with him ok fine is she alive today to enjoy the wealth she didn't want to leave behind? Shey she has left it now?women don't let love blind you to the extent of ignoring this signs.insults,small small slaps n blows ain't signs of love..that he kisses you buys you heaven an earth after every insults or blows ain't signs of love. That's why I always preach self love.
ReplyDeleteWhy can't she just walk away.Rip😭
ReplyDeleteNigerian Men are just too violent! They should go for anger management classes abeg.
ReplyDeleteWhat class should the women who agree to stay with violent men go to? Just asking for a friend.
Delete13:10
DeleteThank God, "too violent" is an English word.
learn to use "some" next time, stop generalising. I have brothers that can never raise their voices or hands at any woman, instead they walk away. I have friends that can't hit a lady no matter the provocation. There are good Nigerian men out there
DeleteThe women need self esteem classes
DeleteHa, this is sad. My cousin and her hubby are always fighting while married,infact the last time they fought,they were both struggling to feed each other with sniper. Now they're separated for almost 5 years, co parenting like friends, infact they're best of friends now ,my cousin used ti say they're better off being friends than lovers, they're always there for each other like brothers now, see people that hardly post each other while married are now celebrating each others birthday with sweet words after divorce, the children' are happy ,the parents too are happy, my cousin even know his babe,they're not thinking of coming back. I like their friendship now
ReplyDeleteStruggling to feed each other with sniper ke 😵😵😵.
DeleteThat was bad
Thank God they’re co parenting like best friends.
She chose herself just like he chose himself. No time.
DeleteThey are sha shagging. Know this and know peace.
DeleteI sha pitty the new babe
DeleteThank God for the two of them
DeleteDefinitely shagging.
DeleteIt it una shagging? Abi shagging each other is new to them?
DeleteMaybe if they had divorced. They would have been best of friends seems they have history together. That could have saved her life.
Delete😭😭😭😭
ReplyDeleteChai! In all of this, I pity the children..
ReplyDeleteMy sister is still alive today, because she got strength to leave. She left after just 6 months of marriage. It's been 13 years and she never remarried. She has a son and she still has trauma from the abuse.
ReplyDeleteJesu. What's with this DV na. I'm lost for words. Comfort to the family you left behind. God rest your soul Amen 🙏
ReplyDeleteYesterday I left a comment about my stepsister whose husband beats her with cutlass and most people felt she doesn't have support from her family. I spoke to her for over 40 minutes this morning and she didn't mention she has returned. Her husband told me yesterday but I know she has returned for about 2 weeks now and this is someone I talk to at least twice a week and our calls aren't less than 20 minutes.
ReplyDeleteWhat can anyone do in that case? A woman must be ready and determined to leave. Money was sent to my stepsister to put her children to school and rent house but she didn't. I tell myself that whatever happens, I will sleep well at night knowing I did my best because sooner or later one of them will get killed and the other sent to prison. RIP Bimbo hope you can finally rest from all your troubles.
Both families should take their kids from them . Even if it means legally . That’s what I would do if my son or daughter decides to be unfortunate in the future . God forbid sha
DeleteI was touched by that comment of yours. Thinking about it now, I realised that a DV victim who is not ready to leave, you can't force him or her. Just be praying for her from afar that the next one will not cost her, her life. Kudos to you for trying to help 👍
DeleteCan't you people waylay the man, beat shege into his head and make him realise that he won't go free should anything happen to your sister. seems y'all re calm in the family, that's why it's good to have people with skoin skoin,no rubbish taker in the family.
Deletena him broke, na him still dey beat woman,chai. see as this thing dey pain me
She's gone to be with satan. I have no pity whatsoever for women who deliberately choose to remain in an abusive marriage
ReplyDeleteWomen please try to be emotionally independent, it’s even better than financial independence o cos I know of rich women who are slaves in their marriages.
ReplyDeleteAs I am like this those days I was married to a physical and emotional abusive man, with 2 kids and no means of income. When the abuse was too much I packed my kids and myself out of the marriage.
He thought cos I was broke I would come back, I dusted my certificate, sold pure water, put up with insults in my family house and put my kids in govt primary Sch, despite the soft life we were used to.
I and my kids survived, I am thriving and have a good govt job.
Emotional intelligence and independence is key.
Aww big hugs to you and your kids glad you chose you.
DeleteGod bless you for the sacrifices you took to be alive.
DeleteWhat a wonderful comment to learn from. I am proud of you and happy for you. 🤗
DeleteReally proud of you Ma'am.
DeleteSoar!
Wow I am proud of you...A comment of hope
DeletePersonally, I do not believe that she set fire to herself.
ReplyDeleteDo you know what to means to burn your skin?
Even ordinary candle wax, you know how it feels.
I believe she was murdered.
Unfortunately, another woman is reading this and will still go back home to enjoy big blows and beating from the worthless beast she calls her husband.
No be small worthless beast oo the only thing some of this husbands have going for them is their peekaboo
DeleteI heard she got into a rage and started to set fire on the cars, her hubby now pushed her into the fire, she had already burned wella before jumping into the swimming pool.
DeleteSo if she truly wanted to die, she wouldn't have jumped into the pool, she would stay and burn to death.
you don't believe she set herself on 🔥? sorry..it is not starting the fire..the real deal is the burning. those who hang themselves? when the process start eh? spinal cord at the neck don cut... asphyxiation go done set in...no going back...same with poison after swallowing it? or accident suicide...Abi na water?
DeleteToo bad!
ReplyDeleteWhat a painful 💔 death
May God rest her soul
Women make una dey hear word, marriage is not a do or die.
ReplyDeleteWhat!! Suffered DV for 22yrs and decided to die there! God forbid.
ReplyDeleteNow she's dead and her kids are left to suffer the unknown.
I don't believe she set herself on fire,I'm sure the wicked man pushed her into the fire. May she rest in peace finally.
madam you killed yourself as this life sweet reach so. smh
ReplyDeleteIt's no surprise that no single man commented on this post. Them go see this post jump am. Smh
ReplyDeleteNo surprise at all. That says it all.
DeleteI am a man. I have made two comments above. I don't have a blog ID. It is also likely other men have commented as Anon also. Maybe you were expecting to read from men with blog ID.
DeleteI believe you know domestic violence is not a gender issue. It is bad all-round. It is better to focus on its wrongfulness than on the gender of its perpetrators
But if you still think today that only men are domestically violent or that all Nigerian men support domestic violence or engage in it, well ...
Eyaaaaah.
DeleteAll the 'men' today decided to make comments WITHOUT their ID?
How brave and intelligent of your gender.
But when Nkiri asks for 2k from Emeka they will all scurry out like bloated rats, full IDs blazing, swinging ball sacs like dumbbells.
Ranting on and on and on. Dropping hot takes like roadside akara. Swapping dirty jokes with brown rusted teeth feeling fly in their abject dumbness.
If poverty and mediocrity had children...
Iyamnotcondemning them o, how can I?
When we all know na there their IQ and liver reach.
Clowns.
Nigerian men are too badly behaved. Cheating, polygamy, domestic violence, stinginess full their hands. Na only big preek and fuck them sabi. Manners and behaviour 0.
ReplyDeleteVery badly behaved and It is the women that caused this painfully
DeleteWhere are the friends and family of Bimbo? The children will need counseling for all the trauma they have witnessed. God heal them.
ReplyDeleteMy mother was a victim of domestic violence. She had 7 children for my father, me being the youngest. When she tells her story, the abuse started from her first child and i always ask why she stayed on to have six more, and every single time she smiles and tells me she was waiting to have me. She found the strength to walk away when I was 5. Till date, the most vivid memory I have of him is him chasing my mother round the village with a cutlass, determined to kill her. I remember he would not give my mother money for food, would not let her farm or take produce from his farm, would not let her run a business successfully. She tried several times to collect stuff on credit to sell and pay back while feeding us off whatever little gains she made, but he would find where she was and always destroy her wares until nobody would give her items in bulk on credit. He laughed when my stepmother's children taunted us with food he had provided for them while leaving us hungry. Anyone who stood up to him became an automatic enemy. We lived off goodwill which people had to sneak to us and whatever we could scavenge.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing how much children remember, and even today, at almost 40years, with him long dead, it stays with me.
Sending prayers up for Bimbo's kids, because they are the real victims in all of this .
Ehugs dear. It is not easy at all. I admire your mother's strength
DeleteStay away from crazy women! Men won't hear
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