''Good day Stella
I am a lover of your blog and at some point I introduced my husband to your blog:
I am a lover of your blog and at some point I introduced my husband to your blog:
I just came across this POST and I knew it was sent by my husband.
I got married to my husband in April 20;2019, a marriage both families was against from the on set because of my husband's history.
my husband has worked as a graphic designer for more than 10 years before I even think I was going to be a designer but he have nothing to show for it when I asked him why he was in this condition he told me he was using all his savings to take care of his younger ones which I believed him not knowing they were all lies which I just discovered recently by the way he was living a wayward life which I was not aware of because of all he told me and I believed him...
So when my sister in-law told me not to consider him because of his personality I felt she didn't want me to get married but I wish I had listened but I felt people change and the shouldn't be judged by their past actions my husband was a friend to my sister in-law and when I told her about my interest in getting married to my husband she warned me against it but I went ahead with the marriage.
Anyway my husband was not financially stable so we put money together and went ahead with the wedding, this was a marriage I bought everything in my box my self including the box ,it is not like I was old, I was 28 because I felt together to will do exploit.
His mother was not interested in the marriage because she wanted him to marry an idoma woman and I was Edo. But we felt we were in love, during the course of our marriage I was carrying 90% of the family responsibilities and I never complained because I was trusting God for my husband.
In the town we stayed my younger ones were serving and I pleaded with my husband to allow them stay in the house since we have a spare room but he was against it and as their elder sister I felt why not since they won't be staying for long , anyway till they Settled down and get a house so that they can move out.
So I asked them to move in, it was one complain to another, these girls he is saying keep the house dirty and leave gas on are not little girls but girls serving so how on earth will they leave the gas on? He have always used that as an excuse so when it was getting too much and we were having issues I asked my sisters to leave the house so that I can have peace and they did.
I gave them money and they added and rented a place, this is someone non of my family members called to ask for anything because they know his situation.
During that period covid 19 came and my husband business was totally shut down mind you we do same business but his pride won't let him join me in the business because he feels I am a woman and I should stay at home.
I was pregnant at that time so I took care of all my baby things my husband did not even know that a baby needs to wear clothe not until the baby was 6months that he started buying pampers.
I was carrying my baby and working and I am a graphic designer and a printer also so you can imagine how stressful the job is without any help from my husband, because of that I eased with my sister to help in the office while I rest at home my husband was not happy with that and that was a constant issue between us.
My mum came for omugwo and saw the situation of things and was not happy, she was of the option that since I just gave birth at least my husband should be around showing support and all, my husband felt my mother was insulting him and he told my mom to leave his house if she knows she will come to his house to tell him what to do. My mum felt insulted and told him she has sons that have built houses and non have spoken to her in this manner so she left the house.
At two weeks I was taking care of the baby and also going to work and still supporting the home with no help from my house. Mind you he doesn't come home until 11pm on a daily basis and I was getting depressed and the only solace i had was my phone that is why he is saying am a phone addict.
I do t even have a single friend and the saloon woman he said that made me leave my home is just my neighbor in the office. one day she came to the house and was asking about my husband and I told her he was not home which was around 7am in the morning he comes home by 11 or 12 and leaves the house before I wake up and his excuse is that I don't clean the house as it should be cleaned and yet he won't help me not with the baby or the bills or the house chores.
I was enduring all this without telling any member of my family. But any mistake I make he calls his mother and tells her and she will call me to ask why did I do this or that to her son, that if anything happens to her son she will hold me responsible and I told him this one you are always calling your mother to tell her anything I do what do you think my brother's will do when I call and tell the half of what i am going through in this house.
He ignored me and kept calling his mother, one day my six months old baby picked his fathers cigar cigarette on the floor and was playing with it, i dont want my son to grow up seeing this things and feel like it's normal so I left . i had enough and I parked my things and went to my sisters house to rest.
I didn't tell him I left the house, he was not aware because he doesn't call or check up on me and our son.
The saloon woman called him and told him oga come back and fix your family. she kept calling him till 10pm he never came back so the the next day he came to the office and carried my son and took him to the beer parlor when his friend asked him about the childs mother he told them I left the child and left the house. I kept calling him to bring back my son but he refused so my sister called my elder brother and they called him so he gave the boy back to me around 11pm the next day.
I told my family everything and they came and took me away but he said I lied to my family, I have my faults I am not by any means perfect but this is a man that thinks that because he doesn't put his hands on you emotional abuse is ok but if all he has said about me is true he won't come begging anytime he ask me to leave the house and I park my things to leave he calls me all kinds of name, which kind of a man tells his wife that her vargina is too wide 2months after giving birth?
He said I was on my phone and my son was eating his stool haba ,A child I carried for 9months and went through hell for? The boy was on the sofa and I was in the kitchen cooking and he was in the bed room because he always complain that his son is disturbing him and he poooo on the chair and was playing with it, it was when I came out and saw it but he was already out before me and I got the insults of my life that day of how I am a pig and his bad luck because since he married me nothing is working in his life ..
This is a man I know how much I have invested in his life so that things can be better if I am that much of a liability why was my family packing everything in the house if he was taking care of me and my son ? No man can take any of the things he wrote up there from any woman and still stay no matter how much he claims he loves his children ..
All this he wrote up there happened in 2021 but he is still holding it in his mind I came back without my family permission because I felt it's my marriage and I need to make it work, I was not in the house but I was borrowing him money yet he said his son was slim and was not eating well because I can't take care of him all the women calling me a bad person will not take half of what I have endured, how many of you will stay with a man that insults your mother and families?
I stayed because of my sons and he knows that if I leave today I will never lack not because my family can support me but because I can take care of myself .
my second son who I just had is 4months but I didn't know my husband will come here and paint me like this after telling everyone that cares to listen that I get advice from Stella that is why I feel my money is my money thank you Stella for creating this platform. But like I always say and always tell him except there is no God but if there is a God he will judge us both''.
Maam thank you for telling your side of the story.....There are different sides to every story and it is only God who knows the truth.
It looks like the Marriage has broken down or you both need some time apart to heal and see if you can continue
Thanks for sharing your side ma.
ReplyDeleteI was surprised that a woman will sit on the chair beside his son and he will poo, eat it and she will be pressing phone. So you were in the kitchen cooking while he was relaxing in the room and your son was alone in the parlour? It happened in 2021? He complained you were wide two months post delivery? Like your son passed through there and he complained after just two months?
Oga Mr husband, you no try at all. If half of what your wife said about you here is true, you deserve more than the insults hurled at your wife that day. You ran here to paint her black and absolved yourself of any blame. Shame!
The thing is most Idoma men don't really know how to take care of their wives o. Coupled with the mother's constant interference, he drinks and smokes...you don't need to say more.
DeleteOya ooo Ndi cook, not wife, while you lounge in the bedroom...no be two people born pikin abi na only the woman, this mindset has to go!
DeleteI can't stand men that body shame their partners after delivery. I mean who does that? Someone that just had a whole human being passed through her birth canal? Mr man you're not a good person at all. I fear your type of person. Always forming I'm the head of the family without bringing anything but your abunga to the table. Both of you should see marriage counselor to see if that marriage is still redeemable.
Deleteposter thank you for coming out to tell your own side of the story, please do not blame those women who dropped harsh comments cos it was done based on what your husband wrote. Now that you have given your own side of the story we all know better.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you should take a break for some time, Love is not enough, you both need tolerant, understanding, communication. You should have a heart to heart talk with each other to see if you can rekindle your love back.
I don't want to blame anyone of you but know that it takes two to make a marriage work. Above all you both need to seek the face of God so that things can change for you.
Too many third parties in the marriage. Both of you are stubborn and no one wants to back down.
ReplyDeleteI think both of you should stay apart and evaluate your marriage if to call it quit or not. It is well
Which one is both of you are stubborn again? After everything she just explained, you still want to find a way to blame her.... Women!
DeleteFrom my previous comment -
Delete"This is not marriage"
Oga, you need to work on your self esteem and be a man of the house, leaving your responsibilities for her is wrong. Man up. Abi dem tell you say men no dey sweep house? Help her out.
Madam, you need to work on yourself too, your hygiene especially. For now, close legs like a mermaid till your husband starts behaving like a real loving husband. Be respectful and ignore him.
* Staying out till 10-11pm is irresponsible. If both of you can't sit down and iron things out like adults, a little separation is advised here. May God help you two.
Na money dey cause most of these problems.
Naaaa waaa
ReplyDeleteThe two of you need to calm down and think about the way forward because of your kids.
ReplyDeleteYou both resent each other,I doubt if you can Co habit,you guys should separate for now and decide if the marriage will work out.
I wish you all the best.
May God fix the marriage 💑 back
ReplyDeleteIt is well poster and hubby.
Poster thank you for sending in your own side of the story. And I wish I had waited for it b4 condemning you based on the man's manipulative lies. Please forgive me.
DeletePlease don't stay in a toxic environment not only for yourself alone for the sake of your children too. Your husband is the childish, wayward and toxic person in that marriage.
At least you have stated that you aren't perfect but that wicked man came here to paint you black while he made himself look like the angel in the marriage. I am glad that some people were able to smell the dead rat from his post.
You are right, I wouldn't take half of this shift.
The husband you have is damaged and will forever be so unless he and he alone decides to do better rather than being small minded. Shey his family never liked you and he is using them against you, you don't have to wase your life seeking their validation bcz they do not deserve you. You're the prize, my dear. Sorry about your marriage and it's okay to date again and find a compatible partner. This one no follow at all.
Poster, I'm so sorry for judging you that day. Oga if you are reading this, change and stop painting your wife black. She is not your maid but your wife, so help her in doing house chores. And it's totally irresponsible of you to be coming home by 10pm or 11pm.
DeleteYou need to focus on yourself and your kids. It seems like you are overwhelmed with too many duties, from caring for the children to carrying the responsibilities of the home. Get help at home to assist you with chores and keeping the house clean, that would give you a bit of clarity.
ReplyDeleteThank you for telling ur own side of the story. I take back what I said and apologize for it.
ReplyDeleteMaybe it’s time for u urself to call it quits for real because if after all you’ve done to this man, he can still have the guts to come on blogs to paint a totally different scenario, then one can only imagine what he’s capable of doing to u physically.
see them...
DeleteOh my goodness...
ReplyDeleteBoth needs to be calm..
Both need*
DeleteShe needs he needs
They need we need
My own be say, SMOKERS ARE DIRTY sort of. They are carefree abi careless.
DeleteMadam. Thank you for coming to tell your own side of the story. I knew he was lying when he contradicted himself by saying that he takes care of all the family expenses and also again said that the little you contribute, you stopped bringing.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you are going through this. I pray that God gives you both the wisdom, strength and grace to deal with these issues.
The Lord is your strength. Don't give a lazy man your money. He no go hustle, he no go take care of his kids, he no go help with chores. Do what you can do and forget about him
ReplyDeleteWhat I deduce about this union is that both of them are stubborn. The woman is not submissive, the man also does not love his wife. It's the children that are keeping this home. Both of you really need to humble yourselves and make this marriage work. Leave your family out of this union. Mr. & Mrs. Poster take yourselves out to a serene lovely place, I mean real outing buy her things and see how it works from there.
ReplyDeleteIs it by force? Must they be married? The woman has also lied her story does not add up. Why is she dirty tho?
Delete14:23 she’s not dirty
DeleteThe house is messy with kids
If he wanted a perfect house, he shouldn’t have had kids or can help with cleaning too
Anon 15.06 as if having kids = dirtiness smh. I have toddlers but if you step in to my house you’ll never know . My house is spotless. There’s no excuse for dirtiness. In fact you should be cleaner cos of children.
DeleteI get the vibe that she's dirty as well but it's not by force they stay married, she can move on if they can't resolve their differences.
Delete15:58 your house is spotless but are there toys everywhere when the kids are playing
DeleteDo the kids ever make a mess at all
If not, caution yourself m. You have a museum not a house
And 15:58 read well
DeleteI didn’t say it should be dirty. Messy is difft. Untidy and yes sometimes dishes in the sink while you play with the kids or settle them for a nap is fine too
Your house is spotless with active toddlers and you work full-time outside the home with no nanny or cleaner or cook or help from your husband? That one na lie! Even if you be voltron.
DeletePlease how many years of marriage is this?
ReplyDeleteU guys should just separate ..
Madam thanks for letting us hear your own side. Third party deos not allow marriage to work. For new marriages and intended bride and groom, know this and have peace in your marriage.
ReplyDeleteTwo of them don’t need to do anything.my dear listen to your family. If you want this marriage to work, your Husband must change. He should go for counseling and start helping out at home
ReplyDeleteHe used this blog to try to get your attention. Men like him won’t treat you well but they won’t let you go either. Be careful
That man is mean hearted.
DeleteThe husband did sound a little too petty. Plus how do you feel so distressed when someone you describe as terribly as he did leaves you. Didn’t make sense.
ReplyDeleteI also wondered if the wife never had any good attributes in her that made him marry her in the first place.
Btw Madam you were wrong bringing your siblings to the house when he clearly told you he didn’t want them, also your mother had no right to talk to him in the manner you described up there. If he decides to use you for ritual now so he can build house like your brothers nko wahala.
I noted him coming home late every night was an irresponsible act in his post. Nothing justifies it. For dirty house, since you work and still taking care of kids why not employ someone to help out with house keeping. Will do you a lot of Good.
Personally I can’t stay with a man that is always finding faults with everything and everyone. its such a turn off. If house is dirty to you pick broom and mop and get to it. You won’t die.
You are with about the mother. she wasn’t comparing him to her and success. She was saying she didn’t come to his house because she doesn’t have where to stay. She out go stay with her sons.
DeleteYou don’t understand the terrible predicament he put his wife in when he Wuldnt let her sisters stay. How do I have a house and tellmy younger sister she can’t stay with me. It’s not easy but she did it and he still isn’t satisfied
There’s no pleasing this man
What if she doesn’t earn enough to be able to afford a help. Not everyone that works makes a lot. He doesn’t support financially, he doesn’t support with chores and still has the right to complain about a dirty home???
DeleteGaskia he doesn't have right to complain about their dirty home. Since he doesn't bring anything to the table let him clean up the house. I cant stand talaka da hot temper fa.
DeleteAnon 14:22 remember he said they both agreed not to let any family member stay with them.
DeleteOr maybe that's a lie too.
If they had such agreement and his own family came to stay, she will complain also.
All in all ,marriage is not do or die affair. If you guys can't get serious with your lives and recommit to each other, then go your separate ways.
BTW husband come and deny these claims? Why you carry plenty lie put ontop your wife's head? Is it a taboo to help your wife with house chores?
Why don't you provide for your family financially?
With all u wrote u still went on to have a second child. Hm I am not understanding.
ReplyDeleteMessy situation. Both of you are not ready.
ReplyDeleteDid you say you left the child and left the house?
You left your child alone?
Na even that one I see. I don't think they need anyone's advice, both of them know what went wrong with their marriage and how to fix it. The blame for the breakdown for me is 50/50
DeleteShe left with her child but the man went to her office to collect him from her. You both cannot read well?
DeleteBoth parties need to take a chill pill and decide if they want to remain married "consciously". Too much family interference brings conflict in marriage.
ReplyDeleteI believe this marriage can be fix if both parties are willing to make it work
Hmmm. What's clear in this story is, all the events actually happened but each person has their side or perspective to it. The only thing is, only God knows the truth and that's why it's not good to rush into conclusion and judge.
ReplyDeleteI've still not gotten over MC PINK'S comment tagging a woman has wayward when she had another child 8 years after separating from her husband. Why I'm linking this is because, it is similar, the father in question didn't deny that he was not responsible for his children.
In cases like this, let's be objective and for the fact that Pinky went through the same plight and came our stronger and better to the glory of God, would he call his mother wayward for remarrying?
It is sad when people turn their children to the object of their hatred towards each other. Madam poster, if you were abroad, both you in the kitchen and your husband in the bedroom would have been arrested for child neglect and have the children taken from you for eating his poo. Just really unfortunate
Too much resentment in this marriage. You both need time apart and counselling. So much outside interference in your marriage. You people need to work as a team.
ReplyDeleteThat Gas part off me sha! I didn’t want to believe a full grown adult will turn the gas on without cooking anything, no fear of burning the house down or what?
ReplyDeleteWhat are the odds that 3 of ur sisters are serving same time? Are they triplet? It's possible for full grown adult to leave gas on, my younger sister does it, if u send her to boil water or cook, once she carries phone or start doing make up when she's not going anywhere o, she will forget till it burns, and she has served sef so no be omomo. Anyway settle urselves o, oga and madam behave.
ReplyDeleteI stopped at 3 sisters serving in same place at same time, madam sorry dey lie abeg u are not talking to fools.
ReplyDeleteAbi o! 3 sisters in the same state serving and leaving in the house of a couple finding their feet. The wife and her sisters want to kill the man. Even if she is the one footing bills as she claims, she is not giving the husband a say in the house. Not Bringing relatives to stay in the home was something they agreed on before marriage. She didn't dispute that.
DeleteMadam you are a troublesome woman. The type of my money is my money kinda woman. She said he didn't buy Pampers until six months later. Shebi na six months pikin dey stop to grow?
She mistakenly made us understand that her husband is the one paying the rent. If the husband wasn't paying rent, he won't have the guts to ask her sisters to leave!
It’s possible
DeleteWe are very close in age in my family so when one person had to wait because of jamb the other was in same year and then with different course years as in law 5 and the other 4, sibs end up finishing together
Don’t be so quick to say it’s a lie
A bit of deduction here. I read both Chronicles. I felt something must be pointed out. The wife said she has been visiting this blog for close to ten years. She also introduced her husband to this blog. I felt the husband wanted to air out his feelings and he used this blog to bring it to the wife's notice. He knew she will read it after all.
ReplyDeleteFor the husband, the late nights, abusive words and habits are what he needs to work on. He needs to address the contentious nature of his wife head-on! Why allow issues accumulate until you are forced to go on a blog?
Madam! I read your husband post and I read yours. I get the sense that you are lording things over your husband. You allowed your friend to enter your home. I noticed you didn't address that part. You said your mom inlaw didn't like you. Yet you didn't deny the part that she calls you and your sister in-law relates well with you.
If your husband buys books on marriage, books you don't read, it shows he is willing to work on your marriage. He can't do it alone! It is not by money madam. Where are you in prayers? Where are you in counseling? Your husband is not the first person to drink! Apply wisdom in everything.
You choose this man and he choose you. If he has to be reaching out to his mom to pour out his heart, then it shows that you both need to work on your emotional connection.
Frankly, both of your stories have holes. Particularly yours. All these things you listed above, did you take out time to talk to your husband before leaving the house? You tell your friend everything and she mocks you with it. Your husband is not a monster and neither is your marriage unsalvageable. You and your husband need to put your pride aside and work for the betterment of your home!
You and your husband are very unserious with the task of marriage. Both of you need to grow up!
@Dog it’s men that don’t pay bills that give more rules in the house. Trust and believe. A guy with good money doesn’t sit down to be monitoring gas
DeleteAnon16:49, does your comment make sense to you. So because you have money, you will leave your gas on, not minding the safety of the people in the building? Na wa for your brain o.
Delete18:25 madam use yours
DeleteHe didn’t say it’s a safety issue. It’s a money issue for him. He’s annoyed cause of waste. Nobody should waste anybody’s money, but if you have money, you won’t be so irritable about mistakes
You are the bread winner, and he did all the wickedness u mentioned up there plus bad habit that u don't want ur child to pick, yet u still went back and opend leg for him and gave birth recently, the story is not storying.
ReplyDeleteDon’t mind her. Two of them na fabuists na only God know the truth
DeleteLol you guys don’t understand some of these things
DeleteSome women will do anything to have all their kids with the same man bc if they have kid 2 with another man, Nigerians won’t let them hear. So unless you’re bold to be tagged as a whore, you stay there till you’re done with childbirth
Hmmmm
ReplyDeleteMadam and husband, you both need to locate a good marriage counsellor, I don't mean pastor or Islamic cleric o, I mean a professional counsellor that will tell you both the truth. You are both at fault.
It is nerve-wrecking to have a nag who doesn't lift a finger to help out for a husband, it is also a sad reality to have a stubborn wife for a wife.
I pray you both work things out for the sake of your young kids. It is a young marriage, a lot still needs to be learnt.
All the best🤗
No right thinking woman with children in a good marriage leaves her home. When a woman leaves, something beyond her control chased her out.
ReplyDeleteYou see why its good to hear from both sides. Phew!!! I was really appalled after reading the husband's story, I was wondering if he was without a fault.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, u guys needs to separate for awhile and see if you still need each other. Madam thank God u can fend for your self and babies
Improve on your hygeine for yourself at least haba!
ReplyDeleteI can only imagine the state of her house! Chai!
DeleteYou left a toddler alone in the sitting room to go and cook in the kitchen .What if he harmed himself? You are a careless mother and you are also not neat.Pls work on your hygiene and stay away from neighbourhood gossip.
Oga, if what she said is true, go and work and fend for your family.That is what makes you a man.
Hmmm
ReplyDeleteThis story long sha.
Na only God sabi who talk true.
And it's surprising that you both have a 4month old baby and your husband sent in that chronicle.
Life no balance.
Madam make una find how una go take run this marriage or una separate.
From her little fable up there you get to understand this
ReplyDelete1. The husband pays the rent. If he doesn't, he won't have the guts to ask her sisters to leave.
2. She said she bought Pampers until the first child was 6. Since then, the husband has taken that up like he should. Mind you, she said her husband business shut down due to Corona.
3. This is a woman who prefers confrontation rather than dialogue.
4. She called her elder brother to force her husband to release the son to her. Subconsciously, this woman has never believed in the authority of her husband. She has failed to build allies for herself with her husband's people.
5. No reasonable man likes being unable to provide for his home even for a short while and it becomes a very distressing thing for them. It doesn't help if his wife mocks his situation by words and actions.
7. She sidestepped the issue of the document forgery she and her brothers got involved in. And she mocked her husband for kicking against.
This woman will allow her family break her home if she doesn't take care and she will have herself to blame. Because in all she posted I didn't see where she said her husband family intruded in her marriage. Rather, hers did because they have money as she claims.
This woman does not have what it takes to make a home work. May God help her husband.
The husband pays the rent. If he doesn't, he won't have the guts to ask her sisters to leave.
DeleteOsinachi had a car. Husband took it and won’t even let her ride with the family back home after church. You think a man can’t dictate cause he has no money 🤣🤣🤣
Home that is already broken
DeleteYou both are trying to outdo each other with lies. It is not a law court that you must win.
ReplyDeleteYou guys just got married and managing yet you feel the need to bring your sisters in, three grown women against your husband's wish who does that😏😏... i believe thats where most of the issues you guys are having started from.
You both need to calm down and think of why you got married in the first place. Two can never walk unless they agree. stop involving outsiders it only aggravate the problem considering how both families never agree to the union. Marriage is hard work and it takes the both of you to work it out
I pray Jesus heal your broken hearts and fix the union.
Where did you want the sisters to go
DeleteIs it better that she now spent the money on rent somewhere else., -are they that rich that they can afford it
They are grown women and can fend for themselves. After all the choas they still left and rented for themselves, something they should have done in the first place. Three adult staying with a new couple is too much abeg🙄🙄
DeleteBoth of you need to sit down and decide if this marriage is worth fighting for, madam your number mistake was allowing your siblings to stay in your house after you both agreed to stay without relatives, please if that your friend is causing bad blood between you and your husband why not limit the friendship. Oga a good husband helps out his wife at home, the both of you are one since the house is always dirty why not help out, the bible admonished men to love their wives are you happy seeing your wife struggling with household chores please make peace with your wife abeg your marriage can still be salvaged if you make an effort.
ReplyDeleteLeaves in the morning, comes back by 11pm on a daily. That is too bad of the husband.
DeleteMoney money money is the cause of all these things I pray God helps your marriage but try to discuss things with him even if you are the owner of the money.i think your husband want you to discuss how you spend your money
ReplyDeleteYou understand this poster well. She has money and her family is well to do so she no wan bend head for the husband. Good luck to them, even this her story no add up.
DeleteThanks. My money. My money. I paid for this. I paid for that.
DeleteWhy is it easier for a wife to share in a husband's money. But it is always a favour for a husband to share in a wife's money?
Why is it that in all Chronicles from richer wives, marrying a husband earning less is presented as a favour and must be mentioned even when it is apparent the issue between the couple is character issue on one or both sides.
What about the forgery by Brother Pastor and Lawyer in this matter?
Husband man must have ran here first because he expected to read his chronicle here.
In both Chronicles, the Bible stands true. Do not judge a matter until you hear the both sides. That is the standard God applied in the Garden of Eden.
Between the two narratives, a discerning person can tell what's up.
And please Ladies, IF you know you do not see anything to respect and value in a man poorer than you, leave him alone. Experience shows that it is easier for wives to be calm to dialogue with and lead a richer husband out of his wrong ways.
She is saying my money my money because she is rebutting his lies. Did she come and tell us before about her money
DeleteShe is mentioning her money because her husband came to lie to us that he is the sole bread winner of the house but from her story, she spends more than him
DeleteDear poster, I refused to say anything when the first chronicle came in because I was praying that you would send in yours. Thank God you did.
ReplyDeletePlease Ma, take away the pain in your husband's words and pick the message. He doesn't want relatives, he wants a neater house, and he wants you to reduce fraternizing with that your neighborhood friend.
Please Sir, your wife wants you to be more financially available, help a little at home and be part of some chores, it will reduce your wife's stress. Stop reporting her to your Mum and ensure she is happy as your wife. Hope this helps
Well said Erika, if there is any marriage counsellor in this our SDK yard please help this couple, I believe this their marriage can work if an outsider talks to both parties, they will listen.
DeleteBalanced.
DeleteErica I like your comment. You summarized the needs of each partner.
DeleteThis woman's story is not adding up at all. They're so many loopholes.
ReplyDeleteBoth couples are holding on to something. they're not telling us the real truth.
i beg make everyone Waka, and what is it about you are staying because of your son? I beg Na prick biko and no be only one person get am.
ReplyDeleteThank you
DeleteNa only prick the man get to bring to the table. Broke men know to f*ck wella
Thank you for coming to clarify the matter now, oya oo those Judge Judy that were judging the woman what do you have to say now?. Madam if you know you can no longer be married to him again, I will advice you divorce and let the both of you move on in peace.
ReplyDeleteImmature boy and girl marrying. Recipe for a calamitous disaster.
ReplyDeleteOga, since you didn't want your wife's abunna to become 'wide', why didn't you cough out hundreds of thousands of naira for her to deliver through CS? Oh! You can't afford it, yet you are complaining, abi is it your own something that is shrinking? 🤔
ReplyDeleteAll these broke men will always stain your white. When we say stay away from broke men, you say no, you want to build with him.
He has been working as a graphic designer for ten years before his wife, yet he could not afford to do marriage on his own, home too, his wife is carrying the load and he still did not give her peace. He came here to paint her black and painted himself a saint.
Mr man, if graphic designer work is not bringing enough money to cater for your family, go and look for another job, the holy books said it that a man who cannot provide for his family is an infidel.
You cannot cater for your family, you cannot help out in other things, why couldn't you look after your child while she cooked in the kitchen. It is only your pr**ck that is useful in the marriage. Mtcheeeeew
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DeleteSdk bvs and bad mouth are Siamese twins. This one have finished the yeye man.
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ReplyDeleteSo sorry about all your are passing through. I am one of those who bashed you, do forgive me.
ReplyDeleteFor the down below wideness, boil acacia seed or leaves and sit on it. The steam works wonder. Can send it to you for free but you pay the driver for delivery.
Some People don't even have conscience when they want to narrate a problem, they want to paint the other person black in the name of trying to get attention of people to sympathize with them. I hate this type of behaviour. If what the wife says is true then he's not trying at all. I guess she is right because I imagined how one can be careless in terms of using gas and taking care of a baby. Smoking and drinking right in your home very bad, madam you try to endure 😥😦😳
ReplyDeleteSo he is never at home since he gets home by 11 or 12 at night and leaves before you wake up, yet you left your home to go to your sister's place for peace of mind? How? How does this make sense. Na Una know wetin dey chase Una for the marriage. When he took the baby you would have left the baby with him and visit the child? Una matter is a case of public interference right from day 1. Sister say make I no marry him mama say make him no marry and that is the bedrock of your problems
ReplyDeleteThis was a tough read! The run-on sentences and grammatical errors were troubling, especially from someone that does printing work and graphic design.
ReplyDeleteI will not say anything on your marriage, because I don't know who is telling the truth...but I will offer a bit of career advice. Please try and work on your spelling and grammar, as it's very crucial for your job. Seek out ways to improve, so that your weakness will not run your business down.
PS. Your husband accused you of forging documents for people...what say you on that?