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TOO FRIENDLY WITH EX
I'm dating a divorced father of 3 children who are all in the university. But he still has his ex's number in his phone.
I'm dating a divorced father of 3 children who are all in the university. But he still has his ex's number in his phone.
They always check up on each other. He said they are now friends.
Should I be concerned? Not that I want them to be enemies, but at least, no communication or less.
I snooped and found out that he still sends her money, but she is a big woman in her place of work, and doesn't need it.
Should i be concerned?
He has a right to be close or far friends with his ex, for crying out loud, they have three kids together, they are bound together forever!
Did he tell you he was looking for a wife when he toasted you? 4 years is a long time and i dont think he has any plans to wed you babe...if you are looking for a husband, please move on but if not then stop snooping and enjoy the relationship
My dear, that man is only chopping free pussy. He has no plans to marry you. Don't be suprised that he and his ex still has a thing for each other.
ReplyDeleteIf marriage is your priority, leave that man and stop wasting your time.
But if you are also looking for fun, stay with him and enjoy his money and his dick.
All the best.
Exactly Poster Please because they are divorced does not mean they should not have a healthy and cordial relationship. They have 4 children remember?
DeleteMehn how do you guys do it, dating someone for 4 years and you guys have never talked about marriage or define the relationship....
I don't think he will marry you cos men know whom they will marry from the very onset. Okay now is a good time to bring up the conversation, if no cogent plans..Kindly exit the relationship...
I am so sorry but that might be the eventuality and they may be on the path of reconciliation to come back together who knows!....So just go about it maturedly...Your own man will come okay..All the best...
I don’t understand ( in Bella’s voice)
DeleteYou expect no communication with the mother of his kids?, so you’d be happier if they were having issues? What kind of selfishness is this.
Don’t you also send money to your friends from time to time even if they are buoyant? I don’t think that’s a problem.
The only issue here is that he hasn’t mentioned anything about settling down, some (not all) divorced men do not intent doing the “marriage” thing again cus they don’t want to feel tied down. Sit down with him and have this conversations, no one here can help you know what he is thinking.
Push up (original)
15:03
DeleteSo only men enjoy during conjugal acts?
A single 35 years old woman begins and stays 4 years in a relationship with a man, and you think she has not been enjoying the conjugal acts or anything in the relationship?
If the man is so valueless to the woman would you be reading this chronicle?
Poster please sit down with the man and further clarify in terms of what you desire. And act as beneficial to you as you clearly seek marriage.
He’s not talking about marriage, but are you? Bring it up and ask hun if he’s interested in marrying you. Some people don’t want to remarry but make for very good life partners. It’s up to you whether that’s okay or not
ReplyDeleteShe is wasting time with the man.. He is not ready to remarry not start making babies again...
DeleteIn Kim's voice -they are family.
DeleteYou are just more like a 'rebound' to him.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't look like he's ready to so marry again from all indications.
Most divorces and widowers with grown kids do not want to have children. Going back to school run and diaper stage scares them . If you want company stay, if you want marriage leave.
DeleteSome people actually starts loving themselves after divorce.
ReplyDeleteThey might not be married again but will always be close.
In some cases they even gbensh and promise not to marry other people.
They are just better people outside marriage.
Poster, move on or stay back the choice is yours.
But he still has his ex's number in his phone.
ReplyDeleteThis part is a joke right. Of course he has her number. She’s the mother of his kids. He might need to reach her at anytime
😂😂😂
DeleteMadam you ain't a baby sit the man down and settle whatever is disturbing your peace in the relationship.how can u be asking strangers what to do at this stage of your life, you should know whatsup.. the man sending money to his ex shouldnt be your headache, even if she is richer or not. You can't and won't take the place of that woman in his life just respect that.
ReplyDeleteWho told you the Ex don’t need the money?
ReplyDeleteA man that has three grown up children
What do you expect from him.
The man just need someone who will attend to is needs.
You want marriage from him
I don’t see that coming at all.
Move on sis, even if he marries you, you won't be happy in that marriage since he's still friends with the mother of his children.i'm sure he's the one that cheated on his ex, she left him since she's capable financially so he must be feeling guilty of his treatment towards her when they were together.
ReplyDeleteWhy won’t you be happy if he’s friends with the ex. Do u prefer if they are enemies
DeleteWho told you she will be happy in the marriage if the man and is Ex are enemies?
DeleteYou just crucify the man
Nobody knows the cause of their separation. Except the people involved
I think same
DeleteBring the matter up and discuss it with him, to know your stand.
ReplyDeletePlease ma'am,you're not a spring chicken.
ReplyDelete4 years?He has no intentions of marrying you,your husband still dey front no be him,don't let him continue wasting your time,before you wake up one morning and your youth has passed,God forbid.
ReplyDeleteAnd desperation, bitterness and regret set in
DeleteI don't think he's ready to settle down yet
ReplyDeleteUgochinyerem..
For a man that has three children all already in the university, I doubt he would want to start making babies again. That's like starting all over again. If you don't mind not having children of your own, you should have "the talk" with him.
ReplyDeleteHe might want to commit to you but fears that you would want children and he won't be able to give you that. Start the conversation, know his plans, and then you can decide what you want from there.
In my opinion, 4years is way too long to date someone. Ask him if he has plans to settle down, WITH YOU. If he doesn't, then you're gonna have to take a walk.
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's advice,the man is not ready to re marry.
ReplyDeleteYou are in your 4s and someone with children has dated you for 4yrs and still counting? I want to believe you haven’t seen any other serious man for marriage if not what is this? Men are so wicked
ReplyDeleteFan Emmanuel
And you didn't blame the man. But all men?
DeleteHmmmn.
The man is waiting for her to reach menopause stage, that's way she won't give birth.
DeleteMen are often very selfish and inconsiderate
DeleteStella they are divorced already, He should keep the kids close not the mother. Also those kids are grownups,that kind of connection shouldn’t exist between the divorced parents. Poster you better know your stand, but just know you are 2 in his life.
ReplyDeleteI agree. Poster that man us not ready to remarry, or wants to, but you are not his suitabl3 candidate.
DeleteHei God! Na WA for you people Sha. He should keep the kids close but not the mother? A woman he loved at one time, probably still loves somehow? A woman with whom he shares grown kids so he's known her for 20-30 years. He should suddenly stop being friendly with her because of you as the road to your pu**y is paved with gold. Is the woman disturbing you? Tụfịakwa unu mehn!
DeletePoster at age 40, small small children thing like this shouldn't be worrying you. Instead of you to ask that man what his plan for you is and either move on or stay put and befriend his ex, you're here worrying about a woman who is living her best life.
That man want someone to sleep with for free and at anytime of his choice, he doe not want to marry you. From all indication oga has children, has a wife that is his friend and doe not want to marry again.
ReplyDeleteWhat will a man having 3 children all grown looking for in marrying a fresh wife when his ex wife is still his wife. You should face front cos you sound like someone who want to marry. If no man is coming your way you can get pregnant and have a baby for him but never you think of marriage with him oh.
Reason i said you should fall pregnant is because you mentioned your age, you may be enjoying his money and don't want to let him walk away. If you have a child atlases that will keep you busy from snooping and trying to find out if his ex is still his wife.
Did you even see divorce papers to be sure they are no longer married abi the man and his wife are in different state. Oga could be telling you crazy lies just to have free pussy, do you investigations more and more biko.
Black women are very funny, when you people talk about free pussy, he is making love alone? Don't you enjoy sex? Ain't you horny ? Why do you people always think sex is only something a man enjoys when the women also do enjoy it, we even have female sex addict.
DeleteShe is in her 40s and also enjoying sex and companionship with him.
There is nothing wrong if the man refused to marry again, he is free to do as he likes. He is not dating a baby, women should learn to take responsibility and accept that they have a choice and a voice in anything concerning their lives. Madam if you want marriage, open your mouth and say it, you want a child, say it, don't make him seem like he is a devil and using you, are you not also using him? Why do you women think a relationship always favour the man? You put yourself in a pitiful situation, seeing yourself as an object and when men treat you like shit in marriage, you complain??? Did he hold her?
What is free p.... when you also wrote about her enjoying his money?
DeleteShould the man also worry about her enjoying free D...?
@17:53
DeleteThank you.
Romance and s@x is largely transactional on this side. In order to keep the price high, some of the women make it appear their only gain in both or either is the material benefits. This is so even in some marriages.
Meanwhile, even on this blog there is a Bv who used to post her s@xcapades with a married man who she claimed here she was involved with not for money but his physical endowment, prowess and skills.
They've got 3kids ma'am, you can't break or stop their communication, except they stop being cordial with each other, and by the way, you should ask him the way forward, whatever he says, it's now left for you to move on or stay.
ReplyDeletePoster, I understand you but you need to understand that the communication with his ex wife will still be strong.
ReplyDeleteAccording to your write up, that man is not In anyway interested in you. He's using you as a companion pending the time he gets back to his wife or someone else. Leave that man ASAP! The man that is meant for you will find you in no time. There's still hope for you!
Look at their thought process, he is using you until he gets back to his wife. Very poor thinking, like you women are objects or something. A man and a woman have all the same feelings and wants in life. They are both adults, dating and having a companionship. If one feels like she/he wants more from the relationship, set your terms and conditions and if the other party is not complying, you MOVE ON!
DeleteWhy he is not interested in her? Because he didn't marry her? Must all relationship end in marriage? Can't people just date and enjoy being together and spending life without thinking too much? At what age are we also talking about? For God sakes! She is freaking 40, what do you expect? She has been there for 4 years and if she wants marriage, can't she just walk away without thinking too much for the man???? Some people divorce and remain friends, doesn't mean they want to get back together, y'all so used to toxicity that someone being friendly with an ex wife whom he share 3 grown kids with is so evil! You forgot that they have, graduation, marriage, kids births and so many memories to come that they will be in the same space, you want the kids to be uncomfortable when the parents are together? Woman it's a blessing and if today you guys don't work out, will you want to be his enemy? Don't yo 8want to keep him as a friend? What type of shallow mind is this?
Anon 18:03 thank you so much for the comment. I get tired of the low vibrational thinking sometimes. 'Using her till he gets back with his wife'? Really? So what is she using him for then? She wants to use him for marriage right?
DeleteIs it by force to marry again? The man probably isn't in a rush to marry again and that isn't a bad thing at all. Personally, if not for being a Christian, if I'm not with my husband at age 40 or 50, why will I want to remarry again? How does it benefit me if not for Christianity? What is the obsession with Nigerian women and marriage and if you don't marry them, that means you're using them? Is marriage the only thing nigerian women are good for?
Poster is old enough to know what she wants and old enough to discuss with that man. That is if she's not afraid that asking questions will push him away because she's using him for his money (since everyone is using everyone). If she wants marriage and he doesn't, she can go.
He is only passing time with you , ask him to define the relationship or you move on.
ReplyDeleteIts not a crime to have her number on his phone and they can still communicate. They'll have to talk about their kids and other things. Do you find romantic messages or messages that suggest they are still intimate with each other?
ReplyDeleteHave ever asked if the intention to remarry is there ? It's your right to know where the relationship is heading to .
ReplyDeleteAristotle
Future wicked step-mother...that's if he marries you.
ReplyDeleteIf that ex is the mother of his children then you shouldn't expect them to be enemies.
ReplyDeleteIf not then it's a red flag
Go and ask Helen Prest Ajayi, how she stayed with a separated/divorced man without getting married to him for several years, only for the man to die and the real battle started. Learn from how she was treated on his burial and know where you stand. Not wishing death upon him oh but the man has every right to be in contact with his ex wife regardless of how you feel. This also shows why the man has not deem it fit to put a ring on your finger cos he may be afraid of your toxic behavior
ReplyDeleteHe can't be enemy with his ex especially when there are three children binding them together,ask him if he wants to remarry if not just move on,there is no time to waste time........... Josaria
ReplyDeleteAsk the man where the ship is heading to
ReplyDeleteOpen your mouth and ask questions. Good evening
ReplyDeleteWhy will u be shocked that he sends money to the mother of his kids and is in communication with her? Are u a witch?
ReplyDeleteSomeone that has
ReplyDeleteHe already has grown up kids, he needs u to always satisfy him. Better go and look for ur own husband.
ReplyDeleteYou are wasting your time gold digger ,he has his money so what concern you about giving the woman money ,is it your money ?thief ole go and work for money don't turn ashewo using pussy to trap a man
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