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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SAD AND ANGRY
My innocent looking husband is cheating. Ok; I saw it and I haven’t reacted. Couldn’t cry or anything. Am I normal? I have the lady's number, do I need to call her or just ignore?. Cheating is a deal breaker for me, so I’m leaving or cheating back but I can’t allow another man have s#x with me.
He is even the one that deflowered me. I’m angry and so sad.
You have no business calling the Lady allegedly cheating with your man...Dont keep quiet, if you saw proof, then ask him or look for a way to let him know that you know and his reaction will guide you on how to go further....
Some women confront their spouses for cheating and get beaten up, i hope that will not be your case? Dont be confrontational
Like Stella said, the woman is not your problem but your man. Tell your man what you know and decide on your next action.
ReplyDeletePoster Do not call her but face the one whom you shared a vow with..I hope you know she might not be the only side chick? How many of them you wan quarell with....Don't bring yourself low and start fighting side chicks..You are the prize; he shows he has no regards for himself to start cheating...What if you kill her or she kills you? It is painful please cry but make sure you keep yourself happy, dress well, hook up with your friends, do things you enjoy...
DeleteDon't be motivated by that viral video of a lady that broke bottle on a side chick's head; trust me she has devalued herself...Don't forget the lady who died trying to catch up with her husband and his side chick in a road rage...Shebi the man still dey with the side chick?
Please and please don't stoop low and cheat back...You will get hurt a million times than a scorpion's sting...You must keep your dignity and self-respect....Just dialogue with him based on the facts you have gathered...With his reaction, you know the next steps. Just decide what is best for you, alright...All the best...
Lori iro They are both my problem. So far I can confirm that she’s aware he’s married. I must deal with both of them.
DeleteAll I know is that you have to confront him, but always have a back up plan but do not let it slide.
DeleteWhatever you decide to do, do but make sure you let him know
Push up (original)
Lmao @ Anọn 16:08
DeleteWalahi they are both the problem and anyone who has strength to deal with both should do so. Me I no get strength to fight either so I will just move on.
Buy him cartons of condoms, gift him in front of his siblings with a note. Lock up.
DeleteShe is ur problem o. That’s how people told me not to confront the lady even tho she knew my husband was married. I should face only him. I did just that and next thing I heard was that she had a child for him. I beg confront both of them.
DeleteSimply confront him
ReplyDeleteAsk him to do better or you would be left with no choice than to cheat on him too
It's well with you Poster ☺️, God will see you through
DeleteYou have NO business with the lady. Confront your husband, but do not cheat to pay him back. Do not stoop low.
ReplyDeleteYou married him as virgin and so what? You think men don't cheat on virgins? Abi, you think men don't marry whores? Better get a grip on yourself. Leave him, if you want to. Your call.
ReplyDeleteBe calming down
DeleteYou're insensitive 15:06, the way you all jump to bash virgins on this blog is something else
DeleteLol I was going to be bitter like you . But I let it slide. Though I have never had sex. I don't like when women talk about their V
DeleteHa! Anon 15:06 you need to apologize to the poster pls. She didn't provoke you in anyway.
DeleteI don't know how you read that I married him as a virgin o. She's just shocked that the innocent looking man is cheating and she even gave her all to him. I gues that's it.
Dear Poster, confront him please. You deserve to heal properly from the tramua.
Men/Women stop destroying the PEACE in your home for Christ sake!!!!!
Take your frustration else where🙄🙄
DeleteEngrace don't mind anon, as if somebody send her to have plenty body count before marriage. See painment.
DeleteWhy are you angry about her virginity?
DeleteYou people should be facing your real life issues o, don’t be pouring your frustration out on others
Push up (original)
15;22 abeg how's she insensitive?
DeleteStray bullet Don hit you abi? Because this poster obviously didn't drop that virginity card to rub it in anyone's face.
DeleteWhy are you feeling/acting guilty?
Drop a condom in his pocket, in his car, in his suitcase and brief case when he goes out. He will begin to notice. He may feel guilty and apologies or just confront you then you can tell him what you know. A reasonable man will stop cheating for some time and just get rid of the girl they are cheating with.
ReplyDeletePoster follow this comment, if you can't confront him face to face.
DeletePlease don't ever. A wicked man will turn it on you that the condoms are yours that dropped from your bags.
DeleteSome men can do anything to escape the accusation of cheating. Another set may even believe you are already cheating back.
Confront your husband with irrefutable facts politely and non-confrontational. That's when a good man who strayed will quickly retrace his steps and make appropriate amends.
If he continues, the legal and religious options are open to you.
Cheating back? If your husband cut off his right hand to avoid working to cater for his family, would you cut off your right hand also? If you are caught cheating back, what would your defence be? That your husband cheated first? How many people will believe you? How many more will respect your decision? Will your family members ba among your cheerleaders?
Mr. Mann
Poster don’t do this rubbish pls. It’s disgusting. What it means is that you know he’s cheating and you really don’t mind as long as he playing safe. That’s bullshit. Why can’t she confront her own husband with her findings?
DeleteLmaooo, waste of time.
DeletePoster confront your husband face to face, abi is your relationship a master/servant transaction where you cant have straightforward communication with each other? All these unneeded stress unto a cheat.
He should be the one stressed out not you!!
Why should you be the one devising strategy ontop letting him know you are aware he is a cheat? My God!
Well, you have two options only, you leave or stay, pray, talk, and manage. He will only change modus operandi.
ReplyDeleteThats how my cousin who avoid all forms of immortality before marriage,kept herself clean till marriage,only to marry a filthy man,who sleeps around,now she's HIV positive,a sickness she dreaded ,one of the reasons she kept herself
ReplyDeleteSad, however, it's not just okay to just keep your virginity, it's about getting Gods leading in your marriage. Let God lead you in your choices especially sensitive matters like marriage.
DeleteAnon 17:02, not everyone is a Christian. Some people just don’t like the idea of exchanging body fluids with numerous people.
Delete17:52 well said
DeleteYou found out he cheated ...ok fair enough. You have the right to be maaaad, break things, cry or even say numb.
ReplyDeleteThen reflect and find out why before you make a decision.
3 choices for you to choose one, young lady -
1. Walk away from the marriage if cheating is a deal breaker.
2. Change the situation by confronting your man.
3. Embrace it and accept that men will always cheat. With time his cheating won't bother you no more.
I know what I would do, do you?
Are you seriously asking her to find out why??? Common,haba na A man cheats because he wants to. There is no two ways about it or long explanation.
Delete@ Anon 18:03
DeleteAs someone for whom cheating is a deal breaker, I can't deny that sometimes people are pushed into cheating by circumstances. Imagine a person being denied sex long-term by their spouse, it's not far-fetched to think they will cheat. Or someone who is emotionally starved in a marriage.
Asking yourself why they did the things they did might help you in your next relationship, it doesn't mean you have to take them back.
I like stellas advice but permit me to suggest something else. If you have access to the phone just text her from his line, DO NOT CALL OR TEXT ME ANYMORE.
ReplyDeleteThen leave the text for your husband to see when next he gets to the phone. Text it don’t just WhatsApp it. If it’s only WhatsApp, he can delete it before she sees it.
This way she hears from you without hearing from you and also he knows you’ve seen the messages and you know what’s up
Whether he chooses to bring it up with you is his choice
This is one way to discuss with him
Personally, I don’t believe in letting someone know I know he’s cheating and still staying with the person. I think that’ll make him bolder so if I want to stay, I’ll find ways to let him know my suspicion without confirming that I know what’s going on. This way, if he cares to change he can change without me pretty much letting him know I can stay with a cheat
I love this
DeleteFBI member 🌝... Silent treatment is very sweet sometimes.
DeleteWhat is ds? Hide and seek bawo
DeleteYvonne it’s the fine art of getting what you want without getting in the mud
DeleteSince you're sure he cheated, let him know you're aware of his cheating & see if he'll be remorseful or not so as to know your next line of action. Please don't cheat because he cheated, you'll end up hurting yourself the more.
ReplyDeleteMy husband cheats….. yanyanyanyan
ReplyDeleteDo you know the no of University students following people’s husband?
All you selfish married women
If the dick is honey coated, why keep it to yourself?
Selfish woman
BadBitch
You seek attention this bad?
DeleteWhat in the worlddddddddd?
DeletePoverty is a baskad
DeleteLord please provide for me so pain , lack and want doesn't twist my daughters sense of reasoning.
Lord I will never be hungry 🙏 for the sake of my girls I don't want my girls scavenging after married woman left overs.
This won't be my lot.
Choi see what Hunger can do. Saaaai
What does cheater really want ?
ReplyDeleteposter do not, i repeat never you call the girl he is cheating on. You only have business with your husband and not the girl cos you cannot tell what he told that girl.
ReplyDeleteYou need to sit your husband down and discuss this with him and find out all he has to say. Remember he will never tell you the truth no matter what. He will always use lie to put ontop lie.
I would call or text the girl or Do whatever makes me feel better
DeleteIf you mess with mine, you are my business
She has business with the girl abeg. Some love going after married men. Poster don’t go in for a physical confrontation with her, you can do that through text or any channel you like.
Delete15:46..Leave them let them be saying things they don't do. Some of them will even go begging the man and side chick to stop hurting them....
DeleteHahaha! I love to see that women are not allowing this whole 'side chick owes you nothing' narrative to thrive. Side chick that relentlessly chase men these days, they are not interested in single men, only married men. Shior!
Deletecalling the girl will be your worst mistake ever, because I can bet you that he pleaded with the girl to friend him with gifts and other things you don't know? and even swear to the girl that he is not married yes am a living witness so mind you and treat your husband fuck up.
ReplyDeleteVirginity floors not keep a man
ReplyDeleteTight pussy does not keep a man
Creamy pussy does not keep a man
Kaya mata does not keep a man
Sex does not keep a man.
Dem go hear?
DeleteJust pray and drink coconut oyel
ReplyDeleteYou being a virgin doesn't mean he don open am all holes are same and he is a public pen*s simple so be guided accordingly.
ReplyDeleteMay God fix your husband for you Amen! But confront him on time oo to avoid story that touch the mind to write another chronicles..
ReplyDeleteIt is well..
ReplyDeleteGod fix it for you 🙏
Pele o poster.
ReplyDeleteSome men will disgrace person in public
Let him know confront him with evidence and don't divorce what ever his reaction is will tell you what next because if you leave him can you stay like that since you said you don't want another man to touch you,
ReplyDeleteI sent in my chronicle here few months back and the advice I got was 99% leave your marriage. I actually did. I left for my sanity and peace of mind. Thank God i have a job that could take care of me and pay my bills. I got a small apartment close to my office where I dont have to pay transport or go through the stress I was going through coming from my husband's house. Now I am glowing. My colleagues are surprise what the sudden change in my beauty because i hid my separation from my husband from all of them. My family members cant believe how I became this beautiful. my friends that used to mock how worn-out I was are all marveled. I have added flesh and always staring at the mirror. I left the cheating man for my sanity and my peace of mind. I will be sending in the update much later. I will soon be filling for divorce. If what i went through with an unrepentant cheat is all marriage is all about, I choose to be single for the rest of my rest
ReplyDeleteGood for you. Life generally is hard enough to hard marital issues to it.
DeleteIt will keep getting better
DeleteRooting for you sweetheart. Glad you were wise enough to put your mental and overall health first.
DeleteKudos to you sister, this life will only be lived once.
DeleteMy dear! Life with a cheater is torment. My first marriage, what I saw?! I almost ran mad. After two months I packed my load. When I saw that he remarried I just shook my head in pity for the new wife. Well, she might be able to stomach it Sha but my God did not create me for that life
DeleteDo not call d gal, instead let hubby knw u one he is cheating.
ReplyDeleteDon't call the girl, just face ya husband. Some men don't know what they have until it's gone. My dear, you'll figure it out. You might tell him that you know,he'll beg and might change ways of cheating without you knowing; .
ReplyDeleteYou have no business calling the lady. Deal with your husband alone
ReplyDeleteLet my husband cheat because one toto dey kill dick but please use condom ejoor nitori olohun
ReplyDeleteCall the lady and warn her, he might have lied to her not being married. Then face your husband but don't cheat on him please.
ReplyDeleteDangerous and might sprinkle more Maggie into the issue
DeleteHmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteAunty, if you want me to be sincere with you🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦🤦
*You don't need to call that lady(just ignore her)
*Get to know when you can talk to your man(every man has their own listening time)
*Speak up and don't pretend not you didn't see anything.
*Have an heart to heart discussion with him after which you know your mind is settled.
If you can't do the above then you should be able to do the following:
*Buy some packs of condoms (say 3)
*Whenever you noticed he will be going out to flex(give him one pack)
*He will surely be surprised but don't look at her m twice
*Turn back and move to your room or continue whatever you were doing.
*He will either decided to stay put and not to go out(which means the place is not that important), in order to ask you why?
*Then, you can speak up and make him m understand that you saw everything and you also know the lady(even her line, show him)
*Let him know you are not ready to fight anyone ne because of him but he should think about his old age.
Aunty, except he is stone hearted like Pharaoh, he will surely change his ways.
Pls have a conversation with your hubby and never get tired of forgiving.As long as he's ready to change pls don't leave ur home.the lord will grant u wisdom to handle situations maturely.leave the lady out of this
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm....devil leave marriages alone!!!!
ReplyDeleteI’m the chronicle poster... Thanks Stella for posting. So, I confronted him and he denied saying they are his client, until I showed him the line he is telling is clients “I love you baby”. They are more than 1. I am heart broken, I was even hinted someone is pregnant for him. You can’t suspect anything as I have never touched his phone but I noticed he changed at home and when I questioned him, he only said it’s stress and work. Not until I checked his phone and saw a whole lot. The fact that his friends and one of his cousin is even his accomplice is bothering me. I am thinking of informing his family at this junction. Like pinky will always say “WE MOVE”.
ReplyDeleteMy peace and sanity is more important than anything or anyone
ReplyDeleteMarrying the man that deflowered you may not keep a man but mine said he feels guilty anytime he is tempted because of that…knowing I would never do that to him. No two men are the same. He was about to fall for a chic in charge of protocol on a working visit to Naija. She saw him as the only delegation member with Nigerian ancestry, thought he was $ loaded & wanted him. I’m not exculpating him as he must have talked or made some form of eye signals with her. Fortunately he was held up in meetings until late daily, the driver had to go home late without being able to get the chicken for him throughout until he had to fly back here so the “side-chick-to-be” lost out on a potential mugu & some $. He had sent his driver to get some “material” for the sin but forgot to remove it from his luggage upon return. I saw the unopened stuff while unpacking his luggage. Stammering & remorseful he gave me all the details. I looked up the silly girl, she couldn’t be more than a few years older than our own daughter. You will think you are free from this nonsense after several years of marriage! Knowing he wasn’t traveling to Naija for the next couple of years was a relief, plus his remorse so I let it slide but he confessed to me that he has a hard time cheating on me over the years because his conscience guilts him, that he knows I will never do it to him.
ReplyDeleteI wanted to report the “chicken” to her employer as she had a cushy job in Naija, make her lose her job, I wanted revenge for all the women I know here whose homes were broken irretrievably by naija side chics, with the men keeping them as 2nd wives in Nigeria like one popular actress. The disruption of lives of their kids, as busy professional women were left to drop kids in schools & sporting activities alone, look after them alone in a lonely country where childcare could be as high as thousands a month for single moms while side chic became 2nd wives & held them back in Naija came to my mind. Women who never saw it coming as many may not have had as many kids! I have a few friends in that situation! A “working visit” to Naija became the end of their marriage because of reckless husbands & greedy women! I wanted to message her on SM but I stopped my base instincts. I didn’t! I watched him delete all her details, volunteer all his passwords to build back trust, etc.
The point of my story is that you need to speak with your husband. These “chics” are greedy, desperate, lack contentment, with money as their major motivator. Every wealthy or comfortable man is their potential target.
Have a heart to heart with him. Give him a first/final warning. Have him text the chick in front of you with his phone then make him accountable from then on, sharing passwords on phones & SM accounts. Never fight anyone physically, many have underlying diseases, a slight push may be fatal. Don’t ever cheat in retaliation. No man has that power/control over me that I will go against my principle because of his indiscipline. If he is remorseful you may even become closer after this.
If he is a chronic unrepentant cheat like the Anon who separated from a chronic cheat then you have some hard decisions ahead but give him the benefit of doubt. That he will repent & become a better husband & father. Ladies whose spouses aren’t habitual or chronic cheats, please don’t give up on a good man for one mistake only to end up as a side chic or second wife, making another woman’s marriage unhappy. Give up only when it’s an irredeemable situation with an unrepentant cheat, for your health & sanity.