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REASONS TO LEAVE A MARRIAGE
My husband and I have been married for close to 2 years. I was not crazy about him when we got married. He treats me well, very hands on with the children, does the house chores to help out.
He’s not so much of a good conversationist and sometimes it frustrates me. He’s also not too handsome like that. Sometimes I think of leaving. Please are these reasons enough? I’ve never mentioned this to ....
These are the reasons you want to leave? Are you OK?.. You must be joking! He is not too handsome? does he look like that former governor? even if he does, he is a man that deserves love and respect.
You should not have married him if you feel this way about him..
Please leave so that someone else can find him...By the time wey you realise say nothing dey for street, it will be too late!
Leave and let better woman that will appreciate that man come in. You're not meant to be in a stable and peaceful home that's why you think you're missing something. People trained in an abusive environment will find peaceful people boring
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Your last sentence is true!!!. She’s craving choking quarreling then makeup segs. SMH. Please leave so that he can remarry his spec
DeleteYou want to leave him because he isn’t handsome?
DeleteDint you see him throughout your dating period? Or you were too desperate to get married and now you expect him to change like a butterfly.
My guess is that you have met someone more attractive or people complement you to the point you think you deserve better.
My dear, those other people may not have the great qualities he has. Next time look well.
If you also feel you want to live you best life, free him in peace rather than kill him with frustration.
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He's not such a good conversationalist, he's not so handsome... Maybe the Bimbo who died this morning after years of domestic violence had a husband who was handsome and a good conversationalist... I feel sorry for you poster.
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Deletethat you don't know what you've got till it's gone, you don't know what you got till it's gone........ 🎶🎵
Good evening Larry, it's been a while I saw your comment. Ile nko ó.
DeleteNa immaturity dey worry u.
DeleteI think it be nice you leave the marriage
ReplyDeleteThere's no singular reason why you should still be stringing the man on if you feel this way about him.
E be like say e dey hungry you to suffer.
DeleteYou wan enter street bah? First ask the ones wey don go ahead of you how far?
@OP I feel resentment building up from you against your husband, pls if you feel resentment has reached its peak and you are having violent thoughts and lashing out at him, pls leave the marriage, before we hear stories that touch.
ReplyDeletePlease allow me reply under this comment.
DeletePoster, I wrote in a chronicle like yours some months ago. I felt the same as you say you're feeling so I commiserate with you. Some of the comments I received helped my sit with myself and evaluate what I really want from marriage and life.
I decided to make myself happy and not rely on my happiness to come from him. I try to understand him, his strengths and his weaknesses. I magnify his strengths in my mind, and I diminish his 'not-so-strengths', I have accepted them and I overlook. His strengths are good enough for me. I recently realized that our love languages are different and that he really does love me but doesn't show it how I think it should be shown. I am emotional, he isn't at all. I love touch, he detests touch! But he's learning small small.
I also prayed and still pray to God not to let discontent be my undoing.
I want to add that sometimes, social media gives us a false perspective of what love and relationships should be like. It makes us compare our circumstances to others. This is cliché but it's true... Social media only shows you snapshots from a person's life, it doesn't show you the full video.
After a few months, I'm glad to report that I really am happy now. I'm happy with myself, I'm happy with my husband. We just came back from a vacay and we had the best time together. I'm more attracted to him, I was just telling him yesterday that he's looking more handsome. He's making little adjustments and the ones he can't adjust, I let him be. I make my own adjustments too.
Only you know what your limits are. If you know you can work on yourself and you will not begin to detest him like Shining says, please stay and adjust and pray. If you know you can't take it, you won't give the marriage your all or you will cheat in the future, please gently leave the man. But my dear, there is nothing outside oh, so be careful so you don't trade a crown for thorns.
Chai, i love this. i felt like this in early years of my marriage but now love my hubby so much cos i accepted his shortcomings & I am not perfect either. If u have a good ma, just hold am tight cos nothing dey street o.
DeleteSMH
ReplyDeleteLol @ "does he look like that former governor?"
DeleteIf you feed on mental stimulation, the boredom can KILL.
ReplyDeleteAs in, I can't even explain it. Then there are the ones who don't know how gadawful boring they are, regurgitating stale stories and dry jokes, kpele.
But to divorce because of that????
Hmmmm, it's like you people think this marriage of a thing is a complete joke.
You're so on point.
DeleteMy annoyance with the poster was stringing her hubby along
This life is funny ... He is boring but have you asked if you are exciting enough. Wear G-string mbah, let's go dancing mbah, let's try salsah class mbah na to sit down dey talk about big brother naija. Let us go to the voice mbah let us go to chareokey? Mbah... ⁶⁹% of women are absolutely without excitement on Thier own. One of the reason is what they gist about is all the risky, debasing behaviours related to unsafe sexcapdes. Along with a massive to of gossips of other people's businesses and made up lies. Add value to his life and see if gist no go pop up.
DeleteYes, they are enough reasons to leave your marriage. Mumu.
ReplyDeleteDear sister, All is Vanities, Enjoy your home and disconnect from that your new found friend/Routine.
ReplyDeleteYet you allow him give you belle and you born children within 2 yrs with the ugly man. Na you ugly pass. Okpo
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahaha
DeletePoster, are you serious at all? Why did you mention that he's not too handsome? Didn't you know this before agreeing to marry him? Nawaa to you oo.
ReplyDeleteStella your last statement is life. Nothing Dey Street oo. You need to see how many woman who left their marriages because of flimsy excuses lamenting.
ReplyDeletePoster, I think you're CRAZY. When so many ladies, far more beautiful than you, are still single with no serious relationship not to talk of husband; you are here thinking of leaving a good husband.
ReplyDeleteLeave na, and see if you wouldn't regret it for life
Poster as long as he is not abusive in any form please stay.
ReplyDeleteIs he the breadwinner?
Does he know how to do the "do"?
Does he love you?
If your answer to these questions are YES then leave him at your own risk and that of your kids.
He is even handson in the home, poster don't be ungrateful, but you can always leave if you really want to.
The street is military babe, i advice u to develop love for ur husband, manage his bad sideooooh cos mehn no perfect man out there, the good side u mentioned abt him is what many womaen are praying to have
ReplyDeleteYou are not grateful that God gave you a good man. Hope you won't cherish him to come back into his life when another woman who knows his worth moves in? Then you'll start seeing a very cute dude but it will be too late.
ReplyDeleteWho handsome help? Madam leave that man u don't deserve him, you maa u fine.
ReplyDeleteThis is sadly the end product of "marry him if he treats you well...your love for him will grow".
ReplyDeleteYo u are right
DeleteSad reality
DeletePlease grow up, you excuse for wanting to leave is too childish. Don't let social decieve you.
ReplyDeletePoster, I understand you . Please leave the guy and go for your spec..
ReplyDeleteEnjoy Your life abeg don't allow anyone force you to stay..
Hmmmmmmmmm
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Marriage is no child's play.before going into it pls u have to be ready.how can u be asking us to advice u if it's right to leave ur man or not cos he's not handsome.didnt u see him before getting married to him and now u already have kids with him.well,the decision is yours to make dear
ReplyDeleteThese are the women we are talking about.You married him for money and security not because you were into him.You didn’t allow girls that like him marry him you’re not complaining.You can’t leave him o,you have to continue that marriage till death do you part.You don save enough money abi u wan japa.thunder
ReplyDeleteWhat will I not read in SDK bikonu? Wanting to divorce a man because he isn't handsome, did he create himself? And because he's not a gister. Are you for real? Oya come out na make people wey like them ugly and dry enter, mtcheeeeewwww 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteAbeg leave him and marry my handsome husband who sleeps with anything in skirt, including househelp and relatives, all I ever wanted was a man who wouldn't cheat on me no matter what, even if his P is not working... here you are with a responsible man and you want to throw him away?
DeleteThis life no balance o
Men should be prayerful before marriage. Please leave the marriage, shame on you if you stay. Unam ikot!
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DeleteIt’s been a while I last read someone type “inam ikot” on here.
Don’t what it means though, but it sure sounds funny.
Hi Blackberry, been a while.
Poster, may God be with you.
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Unam ikot means bush animal. It's Akwaibom Language
DeleteLove is not enough in marriage, supports and taking care of responsibility is a big thing in marriage. We hear of spouses who love their partner but don't support or don't think it's their duty to, here you are with a supportive spouse and you think he isn't good enough... My dear that thing doing you to leave is your village people knacking band on your head .
ReplyDeleteSomething Polygamy would have solved..
ReplyDeleteShebi if she had a fellow wife to 'spice up' the marriage, she wouldn't have been complaining that it's boring..
Na so ooni sef been dey do lover boy ramson Noah like your husband until him soji himself
That one dey 😏😏
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Stella, this red pen is sharp. You have done well. Nonsense, as if she can create any human. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteThe grass looks greener on the other side but when you get there you realise it's an optical illusion. If you want a truly green grass, you will water it and nurture it.
ReplyDeleteIts well with you.
ReplyDeletePoster you are not well o. See let me tell you something today. My husband is exactly what you described up there👆. He is not handsome but I love am die. When I am in Labour room having our babies he is by my side, he adopted my son from my previous marriage. When I am sad or crying you will see him begging me. I live abroad my husband foots all the Bills in the house i assist him from time to time. My dear i dont want to curse you but my question to you is WHY did you MARRY HIM???
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ReplyDeleteAll this advice is why people cheat in marriages
ReplyDeleteCause the fear of not finding if she leaves will Keep her there till she finds another
Poster don’t push down your thoughts. Try to find a counselor and discuss your feelings
I’m sure people and yourself said you should marry him cause he’s a good man but you’re dying on the inside
Smh ! are you joking or what? He's what is called HUSBAND MATERIAL. If there's no children then you can leave. People are looking for husbands like the man you mentioned and you're here taking nonsense.Chineke nna! truly, one man food is another man's poison!!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm sure he's the type that listens to you. Tell him to try a nice/ different hair cut that you like, let him dress well or some kind of clothes you would like him to wear, to always spray nice perfumes,read articles/books to improve him to be a conversationist. Pray too.
ReplyDeleteHand pick a very nice lady for your husband before you divorce him.
ReplyDeleteGuess the poster was hoping her husband looks will improve when they get married. Lol, what won't I read on sdk.
ReplyDeleteObi for president
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Poster I’m sorry to say that you are ungrateful.
ReplyDeleteSee how women are being killed on a daily basis and u come here to talk about handsome and quiet. Abeg clear road for the serious matter.
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I'm very such one guy outside is deceiving you,oya na enter street you go see correct handsome guys.
ReplyDeleteMadam nothin dey outside ooo. Hmmm
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle no carry wait.
ReplyDeleteYour village is calling you, your eyes will clear when you leave.
ReplyDeleteHaaaa my darling,shut that voice deceiving you that someone hotter is waiting for you outside.... build your marriage
ReplyDeleteYou never jam wetin pass you, when you jam nobody go tell you.
ReplyDeleteYou don’t love your husband, since he hasn’t done anything wrong to you or abuse you please look for a way to be in love with your husband.
ReplyDeleteYou saw he wasn’t handsome from the beginning but you accepted to marry him. Face your marriage and stop thinking of leaving him.