Some wives dont know how to cook and whispers allege that this is one of the Major reason, that the side chic is winning because she presents World class dishes to somebody's husband every time he visits her....
Are you a wife that cant cook and you are married to a man that loves food? Does he tell you not to stress yourself to cook very time you attempt to and opts to eat something easy like Noodles?
Have you tried learning how to make dishes?
Are you the side chic that can cook and you have been using it to camp somebody's husband in your house?
Can you cook or cant you cook? Are you the wife or the side chic?
This should be Interesting....
Lets gist!
If you are married but can't cook, please go and learn how to cook. Single ladies learn how to cook also.
ReplyDelete😁😁😁 will your gender listen?
DeleteEveryone should learn how to cook pls
DeleteCooking is not gender exclusive. This is how you women bring up men who are more useless than dogs in the street: can't cook, can't wash dishes, can't wash clothes, can't clean their own homes, can't go shopping, can't even bathe themselves properly. The only thing they have, home and abroad, is sperm. Now we are surrounded by entitled goats who consider women beasts of burden.
DeleteNot even ashamed of yourselves, you will come to earth with your wretched lives and still stay stressing another gender.
Una don see this topic so. Na wetin hold my white wedding o🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete16:26 😂😂😂😂😂 why are you tearing them so violently na ?
DeleteWho left you so broken? Heal yourself woman before you self destruct. I am a woman too before you deflect
DeleteAnd that one is shining decayed teeth, afi 'will your gender listen.' This is the only topic that his brain cells can function in , buahahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaa
DeleteAnon 16:26 Kill me🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete😂😂😂😂🤣😁😁
DeleteAnon 16:26, peace to your hurting soul.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦♀️
Delete😁😁😁😭
DeleteAnon 16:26, how did this simple question become a gender war abeg?
DeleteDon't worry dear, God will heal your broken heart.
😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
DeleteReally? So he can't eat out? No that's the lamest excuse
ReplyDeleteFor how long. The duration of the marriage. Food poisoning nko? Let's be telling the truth small small
Delete@lovetoloveyou make you dey see unrealistic expectations oh lol
DeleteEat out for 30 years of the marriage
Love na mumu go listen to all dis sdk babes cos most of them Dey pound yam everyday but will come online to say rubbish just to form woke
DeleteCooking is a skill that everyone should learn how to do and should be ashamed you don’t know how to do.
DeleteAs a man would you depend on public food all your bachelorhood? Same as a lady… y’all should be both ashamed if you can’t do your domestic duties.
That being said, I like to feed my family, I love it, plus there are men you will marry that you won’t want to even see in the kitchen. (King treatment)
You can’t marry a man like dangote and be talking about “he should fend for himself “ treat your man like a king and watch how he depends on you for everything (I dint say you should be a fool)
Las las marry a man that has respect, a conscience and believes in family.
Push up ( original)
Wise woman
DeleteI know how to cook, but don’t enjoy cooking. Hubby on the other hand enjoys cooking, and since we are in the abroad he does the cooking. When we were in Nigeria, I had a staff who prepared our dishes. For the 7 years that we were in Nigeria, I barely cooked - which was whenever my staff was on leave, let’s say I cooked once in a year as I always made provisions to send the kids to their grandmas places.
DeleteHe met me that way - didn’t form wife material constant k in the kitchen as a girlfriend.
My husband doesn't stress me if he knows I am tired, he'll just look for something instant to eat because he can't really cook.
ReplyDeleteYes I can say I am a good 👨🍳 👅, well I try my best when ever I cook sha because cooking isn't my hobby
That 'isn't your hobby" no be excuse o. Hahahah
DeleteJust learn how to make orisirishi. Girls out there are not smiling but they won't win over our husbnds.
As a woman, cooking should be a basic thing to know. Growing up, mothers used to teach their children especially the daughters how to cook as they sat and watched her cooking, thereby asking some questions.
ReplyDeleteAs time progresses, some percentage of our women decided not to do the dishes anymore maybe as a result of work, laziness or even feeling 'woke'.
They relegated the cooking thing to hired paid staff or still get food outside for the family consumption. You know what that means. They ended up producing daughters as well who ended up not knowing how to cook as well.
These are the many women you see in some homes today proudly saying "I can't cook oo. My mom didn't teach me "
Your mom didn't teach you, at least you can pay to learn from those who have took it upon themselves as a profession to teach but laziness won't let you do that.
As a wife, it doesn't mean one should cook everyday. What happened to refrigeration of cooked food at least twice a week or even once? At least a husband who can't cook can warm it😁😁😁
Teejay (sigh), so men should only know how to eat not cook right? This is not a gender thing but commonsense please. When the 'boys' go to school, won't they eat? Or you expect ladies to leave the academics they also came to learn, to cook for them? When the boys graduate & don't we'd immediately, who should feed them, especially if they are not near their family?
DeleteAdd to that,women also work same hours as men, tend to the home, give birth and care for children, cater sexually to their husband... ahn, ahn! Get out of your 1900's mentality.
Everyone should learn how to cook, do chores, help out in whatever way and be kind to their partners.
If men can now work as sex workers too, there's hardly any gender-defined roles anymore.
Mr Teejay are you saying you can't cook or that mumsi no teach you to cook? If she did then why is it the basic thing every girl/woman should learn. Not manners or etiquette but cooking. Your kind is part of the problem of society today. If you like marry and refuse your boys to enter kitchen because cooking is basic for girls
DeleteTeejay my brother cools, so do my male cousins. Cooking has no gender ok?????
DeleteI'm not even going to stress myself arguing with any woke girl that would come and counter common sense. It start from- "I can never cook for a boyfriend" same you that can never date a guy would is 'stingy' and don't spend on you..
DeleteMake Una dey learn Una lessons the hard way going forward,. I no dey advice again ✌️
So Tee my billionaire boss,. When you go come complete that your story on how you take join cult for uni? 😁😌😌
I'm not saying so. I'm a better cook and can cook more than a good number of women. There are times a woman can't cook due to illness or even tiredness and a man will help out.
DeleteThe ones I'm condemning are the ones who don't know how to cook and don't care to know. What about a situation a wife can't cook and the husband can't cook as well. What then happens?
The way some of you female bvs carry gender war for head is tiring.
DeleteCan't you people read simple English and understand?
Where did you people read in TeeJay's comment that cooking is only female work or that he can't cook?
EZEGE, always preach the truth and don't mind them, las las na them go still write chronicle after "wokeness"
Lee ha nu, ndi agha.
Anon 14:37, you're missing the point here. There's a difference between a woman can cook but not all the time than a woman can't cook cos she don't know how to cook. What Stella's question is all about is on women who don't know how to cook and not the ones who occasionally cooks for their husband.
DeleteGo up and read my comment again. My first paragraph where I stated " Growing up, mothers used to teach their children especially the daughters how to cook.... " I said children implying boys as well but I placed emphasis on the women.
So don't get it twisted. ✌️
It makes sense for both to know how to cook. Cooking and feeding ur family is a way to nuture your family
DeleteSee as all of them Dey reply teejay make una no learn how to cook o na here we go Dey wey una go bring una chronicle of how sidechic snatch una man
DeleteForever sounding DAFT. Forever.
DeleteMen, please do learn how to cook, so you don't get poisoned by a scorned wife or girlfriend..cooking is not gender specific really...
DeleteAll kids irrespective of their gender should be raised well. Parent traditionally spend more time raising women and teaching them culinary skills and that’s why women turn out better than men most times. It also promotes this idea that women are subpar to their male counterparts. It’s only in Nigeria that stupid ideas like this thrive. If you have all male kids and do not raise them well, na wahala go look you. Or if you come abroad and carry this stupid idea on your head, hunger will finish you and you will spend all your money eating out. Parents need to raise all kids well irrespective to their gender!
DeleteI am a woman and I am a very good cook. My husband and his friends attest to that always. Upon that the a hole still got someone pregnant outside. Forget all that it’s not by cooking or wife material. A useless man is a useless man. If u like be the best cook or the best In za other room. Once he is useless he is useless!!
DeleteThe men here, you better go and learn how to cook at least 3 diff soups before proposing to any babe o.
DeleteCooking is a survival skill for both genders since eating is a necessity. Everybody should know how to cook at certain points in their life.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach but hunger doesn't justify cheating. If your wife can't cook then teach her or pay for to learn.
On the other hand, some men will not drop feeding money at home or drop a very insignificant amount of money and expect continental dish when they return. Remember, better soup na money kill am.
Thirdly one man's meat is another man's poison. The food you call awful, another man will eat and ask for more so although mostly overlooked, during dating taste buds and eating habits should be greatly observed. Your wife may love spicy food while you don't.
Finally this by no means justify women (yes women) who can't cook. You should have known that your husband has a large appetite before marrying him. And husband's why you sef marry wife wey no sabi cook and you too no sabi cook? Abi na only kpekus you think say you go dey chop till death do you part?
Anyway, nothing concern me. Na question Stella ask I dey try answer
My mum didnt really teach me how to cook. She didnt cook in nigeria. She was extremely busy. She only taught me a bit when we travelled on holidays as there was no maid. I learnt how to cook most dishes from the internet and friends. Its really easy to learn how to cook anything nowadays
ReplyDeleteGod bless you anonymous. Person wey no fit cook no one learn. Fact!!!
DeleteYes ooo. For me cooking is not about cooking for husband etc. I love to eat lots of different cuisines. Its not affordable to always be buying food. If i eat something new in a restaurant and i like it, i google the recipe and recreate it at home. It really isnt hard to cook unless you just dont want to. I got good at cooking when i went to uni...no maid to cook.
DeleteThis is me o @femilicious
DeleteI like to try new things enh, Inshort I love when I try new things and it comes out so well.
I don’t have the time to cook so much during the week because it’s f work but weekends I try new things
Push up (original)
A man that wants to cheat will still cheat even if his wife presents world class dish everyday
ReplyDeleteTrue
DeleteNo learn how to cook u hear
DeleteI no dey carry man matter for head,one of my mom's friend was a good cook,friendly,she and her hubby likes doing PDA,they go everywhere together,even sex was good(this one na amebo from me)but this man went abroad with another woman.Even when people overthere were telling her the truth,she still trusted her husband and saying others were lying that what they have is divine.
DeleteUnfortunately she died without knowing the truth.The man is still married to the abroad woman,her children sef don relocate to meet their papa and step mom.
Can women really please men?
Gbamsolutely, men keeps shifting the goal post to justify their cheating
DeleteNa you dey look at man and their yeye useless goalposts. I create my own goalposts. No time for rubbish.
DeleteTo each their own,whatever works for them abeg. A man that wants to be unfaithful will be unfaithful even if he has Ramsey Gordon as an in-house chef.
ReplyDeleteI am here to learn
ReplyDeleteI can cook. Infact if I can grade myself, it will be 101%. If I don't know how to cook a particular food, all I do is learn and even add utility to make more yummcious🧑🍳🧑🍳🧑🍳
ReplyDeleteNo be you go grade yourself.
DeleteNa the person wey chop tour food go grade you.
You grade yourself 101% ba.
The person eating the food may grade you 2% and that 2% na dir the salt and pepper wey you use.🚶♀️
Anon 16:30😄😄😄😄👏
DeleteChai, anon leave my big mama alone oh. Mama can cook, cookn't you @ Big mama?
DeleteThinking about it,I might have been a platonic sidechic"who can cook"to my married former boss o🤔
ReplyDeleteHe would always tease me to cook food and bring for him every morning when I come to work.Hei,See me feeling fly then,I taught he saw me as a good and serious staff,but I'm just realizing that I was scammed😂
He made me cook for him everyday,Sometimes I make the food in the night prior to the next day.All I got was praises and hopes of increase in salary..I innocently enjoyed seeing him eat my food sha.Why the heck did I have to do all that...Ok,I was young and a people-pleaser🤧
Thought*
DeleteStaff cooking for boss everymorning in the hope of promotion????🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Which kind company be that? Oga Nnamdi & Sons Group of companies?
DeleteAnon16:34 E be like say you know me from somewhere o🤣🤣😅
DeleteMust be a business center in worked in chai! You used your money or his money to cook?
DeleteAs a good staff I'm sure she was using her own money. Goodnt you kritiq?
DeleteCooking shouldn't be gender base. In Africa, lets see it the way it is. Women mostly take the responsibility to cook for their household irrespective of individual status. Talking about if a wife can cook or not, for me, cooking is all about expressing yourself. Think it and implement it. Its all in the mind and then actions. There is no one size fits all. You can cook a type of food in several ways. Making mistakes sometimes is not a crime but improving on your skills is paramount.
ReplyDeleteI can cook well but don’t like cooking. I feel it’s such a waste of time I can invest in more productive activities. I can spend 2-3hrs cooking only to spend 10-15mins eating. It’s annoying.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby loves good food and thankfully he knows how to throw it down. I usually look forward to him coming home because of his cooking. He s always watching cooking channels on YouTube and TV. He always has his own technique of cooking almost everything and it comes out super.
We have a cook but once he’s around he gives her off to do his thing. He doesn’t even allow me in the kitchen to help him because I may spoil his technique 😂.
My mama taught her boys how to cook and dress the bed so it became one of my prayer points. Today, hubby and I do share the responsibility of cooking. Anyone who comes back early from work do the cooking. And weekends to take total charge of the kitchen. Any weekend I need to rest, I always make it known before Friday.
ReplyDeleteFood doesn't keep a man . So my own everybody should learn to cook even if it indomie learn
ReplyDeleteI learnt how to cook, thanks to my brother's wife who is a caterer. Also YouTube help me a lot too.
ReplyDeleteAlthough, Stella stated that "wife and side chic" which means female gender but you guys should wait how this post will be turned to gender war post 🙂
ReplyDeleteAnyway, the wife should try and know how to cook 'good food' if not for anything because of her children. And mind you, not every family can afford chef or ordering of food outside.
Cooking is my hubby, especially our local food😁😁😁
ReplyDeleteEating is my wifey😁
DeleteLols
DeleteI had no choice but learnt how to cook bcoz I had parents and older siblings whom I must cook for, made me good at it.
ReplyDeleteBut when it's just me, omoh anything goes as I'm not a food person. Never made soup all these years in skul coz it would probably be there for daaayyysss.
My mum started teaching me how to cook right from when I was ten years old. Though my dad didn't allow us (the kids) cook his food except our mum, but that woman still made sure that we all learned how to cook, including the guys. So, cooking is no big deal for me.
ReplyDeleteIn 2022, you will always find Nigerian women discussing the dumbest topics. Your gender the world over are discussing AI, robotics, coding, cybersecurity, na to cook or not to side chic be your own debate topic. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 And that is what your equally dumb men like, to keep you busy with equally dumb topics.
ReplyDeleteThis! Nutrition is important for human life but the standard of being rated a capable Nigerian woman is usually wrapped up in the mundane. God help those who are smart enough to aspire for greatness, amen.
DeleteAnon 16.37 - The best comment I’ve read today
DeleteJust go and have money instead pls.f**k cooking and get a chef or just someone that can cook well to cook your meals and pay them.i don’t really care about that cooking stuff honestly.
ReplyDeleteI think I'm a good cook, I mean everyone thinks so🙄. My hubby on the other hand, phew 😴, is a terrible cook. Very terrible! I've tried all my best to teach him... story! And he can like to do romantic ehnn... "Babe don't worry. Just lie down. Lemme cook for you"... Boom! Palm oil egg sauce🤦
ReplyDeleteAnd he will be feeling fly. What is this?!!!
Lmao @ " palm oil egg sauce"
DeleteI'm a good Cook even my ex husband family used to praise me then especially his sisters but I hate cooking because it's time consuming.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o! Cooking should be a basic survival skill for both male and female.
ReplyDeleteLet's say the truth cooking is not gender based, but any woman that doesn't know how to cook should go & learn unless you don't want to get married or have children. Even if the man always eat out what about when children start coming will they be eating out as well??? Tiktok/ social media generation make una go learn how to cook. Forget all these social media relationship councellors ooooo na una know.
ReplyDeleteAre his hands paralyzed? Is he a cripple? If he cooks will he die and his lineage be wiped off the face of the earth? So women were born with spoon and knife in their hand and men were born with what? Upon all your useless arguments, the greatest chefs on the world are MEN. Dey there and continue allowing your men use your heads. Subpar IQ and Nigerian women is like white on rice.
DeleteI was once a side chick. Infact I was so close to this man that when I broke up with him ( cos I repented and felt led to stop), he actually fell sick and travelled to clear his head, I never felt like a side chick for once, even if I call 5a.m, midnight, afternoon, he picks. Lunch, breakfast, dinner dates etc were constant. A friend of his asked me if I jazzed this man but I don’t even know the way to a shrine. I never cooked for one day. Cook keh, when this man had 5 star hotels I could rest in if I feel tired and can’t go home ( Protea was the most common. Everyone there even the manager knew me. I could go there anytime and stay, bills always on him), I never did any sexual act I didn’t like ( no anal, or threesome or anything), infact most times we’d just stay together and enjoy each other’s company. I’m not broke at all, from a well to do home, I’m the last daughter and all my siblings are rich. I was getting at least 1 million a month( from my salary and side hustle). I wasn’t unnecessarily respectful, I’m very sarcastic by nature and I used to yab him a lot. Yet this man acted so loving to the point that his friends would sometimes get angry and say I was controlling him but he’d just say ‘I don’t know what it is, I love her’. Thinking about it now, if I didn’t know myself, I’d say I used jazz. I’m extraordinarily beautiful but I’m not always looking peng, in fact, this man has seen me looking sweaty, sick with vomit all over(that period he ran around eh; he said that was an opportunity to show how much he loved me); there was a day I wore very old underwears and the next day he gave me money and took me to a store to change them. He said baby, I can’t let you go out with this kind of undies, what if you faint and they have to undress you?’ Whenever I get too tired to drive, he’d offer to ask his driver to work with me but I always rejected it because I felt it was disrespectful to his family so he’d just ask me to stay in a hotel close to the office ( it was usually Protea cos my office is on Ikeja)
ReplyDeleteThat man treated me like Gold and while I can’t say I loved him cos there’s no love in son, I knew I had power over him ( but I chose not to exercise it)
The purpose of this long epistle is simple; men cheat because they want to and there’s nothing spectacular that these side chicks are doing, just love yourself, love your husband and take care of your family. Don’t let anybody put you on high tension because of imaginary things side chicks are doing. The side chicks that are treated like Gold are the omo mummy’s working class ladies and not these ones making noise on social media. One thing I can say sha from being with this man as a side chick is this; if you’re a feminine woman that inherently loves and respects herself, with a calm, quiet confidence that you’d be fine with or without a man ( not these ones shouting on social media) any man you’re involved with will instinctively respect you. I think what really makes some husbands disrespect their wives is that they know their wives can’t leave them and need their validation and as all humans are spirit beings, we tend to treat people who act like they can’t do without us shabbily. So once again, lovely wives do the best you can, take care of yourself and don’t let anyone put you into an imaginary competition with side chicks.
From an ex side chick now a pampered fiancée soon to be a pampered wife (and for those who want to wish me karma, I know I’ve been redeemed by the blood of Jesus that speaks better things ( mercy) than that of Abel (karma). I know there’s a law of Karma but mercy is a higher law and is operating in my life. When I said I gave my life to Christ, I meant it.
AWw anon no one can judge you except God. Go and sin no more. But I wan see ya pishure🤣🤣
DeleteNothing like karma my dear, enjoy your home..
Delete18:34 thanks for sharing. It puts a lot in perspective........
DeleteEven the repented thieves still get reward here on earth. 🚶🏼
DeleteYou are speaking English.
DeleteYou will pay for your sins.
Whether you worship God or animal dung.
Whatever you sow, you will reap.
These are eternal laws.
Story story story.
DeleteI cook very well and my husband prefers my cooking to eating outside no matter the restaurant. If we eat outside sometimes, it's for fun and to avoid being stressed
ReplyDeleteMy husband is the chef of the house because Cooking is not my thing and he knew while we were dating, and we have been married for 14.5 years but I can clean . Our kids call him the best chef so both our kids males and females he has taught to cook and food has nothing to do with side chic!
ReplyDeleteA man who doesn’t respect his wife will cheat if u like cook better than chef Ramsey (Hell’s Kitchen dude)
Anon. 18:34 thanks for your advice.
ReplyDeleteMen have been reduced to beings who can be 'snatched' with a morsel of bread, tufiakwa, to think that quite a lot of them are only worth a morsel! Only in Africa!
ReplyDeleteOn the average that's their equivalent in value.
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