MONDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

 Hailings oh!!!

IN HOUSE MEMO

Cold is coming slowly...I have a lil of the flu oooooooooooooo. I dunno if i should wish for sun, rain or snow right now...I tire!

Those of you who have been clamoring for office chronicles please know that i want a one off scenario cos i don't know how you will continue without being caught oh....

Please send in your chronicles or any other article..

Face of in house news competition is still on and you can send in your entries... 

Enjoy the rest of your day and don't lose your smile!

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD




My first son is light skinned and recently I have had friends, strangers, family members(extended), neighbours make the same statement “ this boy don dey dark, do something fast before he looses his original colour”.

Most of the time I ignore and pretend not to hear the person but some go the extra mile to start suggesting things I can use to lighten my boy’s skin. The weird part is that most of the suggestions are herbal baths that they swear by. They claim if I bath him once a year with the concoction he will remain light skinned for life.

Our obsession with being light skinned is crazy. We are just projecting our insecurities on little kids and doing things that would cost them their health in the future.

There is no original skin colour almost all African babies are born light and would darken either slightly or totally over time.

All skin colours are beautiful, instead of focusing on a child’s skin colour, why not put more effort into raising an all round confident child with impeccable manners`? the society at large will benefit better from that.

I see lots of bleached kids on Instagram and they also sell bleaching project for kids...i dont understand a kid needs to RUB CREAM.... what happened to baby oil? GOD abeg!!!

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IJEOMAS GIST CORNER

So last week or so i talked about my girls coming over for the weekend. They actually stayed in my house for the weekend cos we had an event we all attended togther and it was fun


One of them got plenty missed calls from her neighbor and as at the time she saw the many missed calls, it was late in the night (we were all very busy and didn't have time for our phones). Babe was worried and we advised she wait till morning to return the calls


Minutes later, she was screaming, babe stumbled on an RIP post on facebook. Her pregnant neignour was dead. We thought it was one of those expensive pranks, I thought so too cos I remember one of my villa sis showing me an RIP post of one of our villa bros wife on facebook on my way from my hustling some weeks ago, only for us to discover it was a lie. What the person that posted such wanted to achieve, we do not know.



Maybe that could have been the reason for the many missed calls from her neighbor. And in the morning it was confirmed that the young girl was dead. Died during delivery, baby came out and was confirmed dead too, very sad. From the pic I saw, this girl was very very young. It was later my friend gave us the gist


The dead girl had a boyfriend and believed she was in a serious relationship with the guy. She got pregnant and boyfriend denied and abandoned her, likewise her family. They all turned their backs on her. And this babe was suffering, she survived on her neighbors and a suitor who looked after her and taking food to her hoping she'll get back on her feet after delivery.


Babe said even as she was pregnant, some guys were still admiring her. This suitor of hers promised to marry her even as she was carrying another man's child, but tradition said no. Her people refused him from marrying her cos it was a taboo and against their tradition. Naso this man Waka commot for the babe life. Meanwhile while the suitor was around and caring for her, the boyfriend that got her pregnant was jealous and was making trouble with him to leave his babe alone that he was going to marry her. As tradition no let suitor marry the babe, and he left, boyfriend that was making trouble up and down also vamoosed, leaving her all alone.



Now this babe is dead alongside her innocent baby. I'm sure there was no one to get her to a good hospital as at the time labour started and no proper medical care. E just be like sey dem carry her go 'street ' midwives


And I also wonder if her family is really mourning her demise. She erred, she was wrong to have gotten pregnant. But why throw away the baby with the bathing water, where on earth did some people bury their conscience. Neighbors no matter how much they care, can not take proper care of that young girl the way her siblings and parents would have done.


I remember when I was still in big sis house, her water broke and was rushed to the hospital, before she came back, I've washed the messy clothes. She was surprised and her exact words were ' only blood can do this'. Abi is it the delivery wrappers that some people throw away, I wash them all and even more. How many will I count?
It was nothing to me cos she's my blood. I don't know if I can do same for a stranger.


Some African parents in the name of protecting family name and dignity have sent their girl children to an early grave. No sane girl prays to bring shame to her family, but if it happens, chastise and forgive please



What a sad Narrative......

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FROM MONDAY SPONTANEOUS POST BY TEEJAY

Fracas erupted on Sunday between two women who used to be best of friends.

 What could have made them threw caution to the wind and exchanged verbal punches before the full glare of innocent neighbors on a day we were supposed to be in church and worship God? Even me wey no plan to go church sef go claim as if I be want go One of them is single and the other married. 

Before yesterday brouhaha, let's know what had happened before now. The single lady was owing the married friend some amount of money she lend her to offset some debts and sort out some stuff. Time given to refund has elapsed and additional time had gone too, yet no show and even no effort to pay back.

 So married woman couldn't endure again and reported to her husband who then told her not to worry he will handle it and get it sorted out. So after few weeks the husband took over the matter, his wife got her money back from the single lady and they moved on. But did they actually move on??? Let's see. So yesterday morning, Oga had gone out early in the morning when trouble broke out between his wife and the lady.

 In the heat of their banters, the married woman called the single lady "ashawo, common money you borrowed from me to pay hard you. Big girl my nyansh. You get luck say you finally bring am, you for see yourself." I guess this didn't sit well with this single lady seeing that other neighbors were listening and she threw away all form of secrecy and decency and fired back at the married woman thus; "See mumu, you think say you get mouth to talk abi? You know how the money I gave you take come? Abi you think say na me bring the money baa?. I be ashawo but your husband want die on top of my thing. Ask am how the money take come." 

My people I thought I've heard it all in life. Can you imagine this kind of effontery to expose what was done in the dark? This accusation on an 'innocent' man who had gone out early that money weighty oooh and e no good at all. His only crime was trying to broker peace and settlement between his lovely wife and neighbor. Guy men wey dey around no happy for that yarning at all. E bad and e no gel. 

Na so we hold her come carry her inside her house tell her say e don do. Which kind mis-yarn come be this naa? She said the ashawo thing pain her well well na im make she explode as the matter be. The other madam don enter inside come begin dey make call. Maybe Oga need to come back come explain the role him play wey the money take come out. There's trouble walahiii. All through that yesterday, nothing don happen sha but madam no too come out. 

The sisi locked her house comot maybe to avoid Oga wahala when him go show. I dey hear say landlord go come this week come address matter. Anything wey happen again wey reach to update, I go update una. Na so the thing be yesterday.

 I still dey try to know who I want come blame for the three of them. Una Good Morning ooh

The Dogband should have respected himself ... The compound ahewo may be saying the truth 

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NEW HOUSE GIST

On today's episode of new house gist.....

As usual I went out to my hustling joint, waiting on God for the daily bread, as I look forward, I come see this my neighbour, she sells yam at the street junction, she was walking down towards me, na me first sight am, I hide ooo......

  In fact I almost stepped on cow dung because I was dressed in rags that I work with, she came to the woman I brought goods for, they talked for a while and then she left, I quickly ran back, the woman asked me why I was hiding, I told her that the woman is my neighbour and I had just moved into the area and would not want them to mock me....

This woman laughed so loud and said ''she saw you, she even saw where you hid, but a mother should be proud of whatever she does to feed her kids, so far you no de thief or sin against God, you are doing well''

  I was so ashamed of myself and then she went on to tell me that I was the least problem that woman is having, she told me that she's owing almost every yam seller around there, that she was the only person that was still selling to her on credit but she preferred to rub bleaching cream than paying her debts, that she's a chronic debtor, na so I stand up carry my pan and head down to work...

In the evening when I came back, I saw her sitting in her shop, lost in deep thoughts, the shop is very empty, I pray help comes to her soon, Igbese no be better thing, and times are hard, coupled with the resumption of schools...

  I pray God to come through for parents, life no balance, people are going through a lot, a little drop of love and affection won't hurt, be kind with words and spread some love always.... 

E go better

Why would you run and hide? if they see you and laugh at you, smile at them and catwalk to your room...

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10 Top Lessons From The Book ''Think Like A Monk''  

1. Your mind can either elevate you or pull you down.
Your monkey mind will aimlessly jump between thoughts and challenges if you let it. Choose a life of meaning over pleasure and quality over quantity.


2. Find your true self
You're not what others think you are. So don't spend your life living someone else's dream. Detach from the opinions of others. It will put your relationships at risk. But it's the only way to live a life authentic to you.


3. Create space for reflection
Sit down and reflect on your emotions and decisions at the end of each day
Through reflection you listen to your inner voice, find who you really are, and discard the expectations of others.


4. Live by your values
The more you define yourself by the values of others, the more lost you are. To live a life true to you, find values that align with you and live by them. Don't let your news feed, the media, or others dictate what you value.


5. Audit your life
What you do with your spare time says a lot about what you value. If you say you value family but spend all day at the office, you're not living by your values.
Audit your time and correct course if your actions and values don't align.


6. Your environment influences your values
If your community is happy, then you'll likely be happier. Join communities that look like the future you want. Do the people within your community share your values?


7. Don't be a savior
You're not responsible for everyone else's problems. If you can't swim, don't try to save someone who's drowning. Help people you know you can help.


8. Take joy in the success of others
If you only find joy in your own successes, you limit the joy you experience. Learn to find joy in the success and achievements of others.


9. Focus on the practice
Don't allow yourself to get lost in results. Let success become a natural part of your life instead of a progress report.


10. Reflect on death
Imagine how you'd like to be remembered at your own funeral. What impact will you have on the world? Align your actions to build your legacy.

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