MONDAY IN HOUSE NEWS...

  Hailings!!!

IN HOUSE MEMO....

How is the go going? hehehehehehehehhehehe.

Any memo for me? I no get for you today!

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD




I practice conscious/ gentle parenting and one of the major highlights of this method of parenting is dealing and healing from your own traumas/ baggage so you don’t pass it on to your children.

Especially the emotional baggage / traumas. The African culture sees a child as an ignorant little being, who shouldn’t have a voice and should be in the shadows.

Our culture doesn’t allow children have a mind of their own or be pro active. Their emotions are not validated. A lot of times when children show emotions they are beaten into silence.

I grew up hearing things like don’t look at an adult in the eye when they are talking to you. Don’t try to give an explanation for anything. Just keep quiet, obey instructions and be good.

I learnt early that my opinions were not respected because the usual response I was given was "see this small child talking like an old woman, what do you know”

A lot of this things are hidden under the guise of respecting adults but its emotional abuse, we are beaten into being submissive, emotionally repressed adults.

We were beaten for everything, you talk too much ,you talk to slow, you walk to fast, you walk to slow, you eat too much, you are a slow eater ( I be chief for this one) and so many other things.

Signs of emotional neglect include Perfectionism, Finding it difficult to be assertive, people pleasing, chronic feelings of shame, self blame and guilt, always feeling different from others and feeling fatally flawed. Not being able to express emotions and so on, overly sensitive etc.

I answered an emotional neglect questionnaire and I realised how deep rooted this issue is. When you tell your children things like “shut up there, you talk too much. You are too clingy, you play too much. Can’t you be like so and so” is a practical example of shutting kids down emotionally.

Our generation can really do better, we shouldn't continue the cycle. The first phase to healing is Self awareness and other things can follow.

According to the dictionary (Child emotional neglect (CEN) is the parent’s failure to meet their child’s emotional needs during the early years. It involves unresponsive, unavailable, and limited emotional interactions between that person and the child. Children’s emotional needs for affection, support, attention, or competence are ignored.)





So when a kid actually talks too much, how should the correction be?...Yesterday a white lady on my street called me and said that the African lady who lives in her compound seems to be beating her ids and that it was wrong...I just quiet and later say eheeeeeeen....LMAO.. How else is she supposed to discipline them? I dont like beating but shouting nah my work....







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FROM SUNDAY SPONTANEOUS POST
SMART HUSBAND

So my husband wants to make me think I no get sense, there's this girl he was communicating with and I got to find out, infact we had serious argument that I left him for over a month, he begged and I gave conditions before I return, one of which was to block, delete and tell the girl not to call him again because she does most of the calling and he did tha.....

In my presence yesterday afternoon (Saturday) I saw her call and I asked him why did he unblock the person, he said that he did not unblock her, that she is still blocked:

I asked how come she called and it rang, his response was that that's how his phone is, pls bvs are there phones that even when you block a person number, his call can still come through, he uses Infinix hot 10.He said that is how his phone is.









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PINKYS CORNER


The shocking Fetish Items post of Saturday made me remember one of my able tailor.


This man is very good at what he does and then, people come all the way from Ajah,Obalende, Iponri etc to give him materials to make, then he stayed at Isheri Oshun and his shop was just a stone throw to his house.


On this fateful day, I was on my way to the field cuz I was always picked as the goal keeper , when I saw this my able tailor talking to himself, I tried asking people what went wrong but no response. Fortunately for me the next day which was on Monday, baba was already naked and picking jagbajantis all around. 

This man went mad for good 6years but something funny happened in the seventh year.


That year was the year HITEC was awarded Isheri Oshun road contract by the then Lagos state governor (Isheri Oshun is just a throw stone to Jakande Estate along NNPC ejigbo). 

The oyinbos started with the very bad sport at isheri(The spot is where the bridge is presently), that spot is filled up with big trees where you can see different nails on and with different padlocks. They brought all their equipment and machinery and they were pulling off those trees until they got to a particular one where pictures and padlocks where hung on.....



Note: No construction company can work in any locality then without employing few workers from that community (I don't know about now shaa). These set of boys that were employed were the ones who saw those pictures including my tailor's picture. They finally cut off the tree and not up to 4hours, information got to the all Isheri Oshun resident that baba is now healed oooo, that was how his family took him away from Lagos and till this present moment I'm typing this, I have not set my eyes on him let alone his children.


I fear who no fear human being, for the bible to have said that "The heart of man is wicked" then you should know that men(women inclusive) have derailed from the normal image of God because God is not wicked for him to have created us in his own image but man, through oversabi, jealousy,envy and pride has made life difficult for himself.


I pray no weapon fashion against us and every tongue waging war against us shall be condemned.
we move

Nice one pinky!

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*RULES OF LIVING WITH PEOPLE*


-. When you meet young people - *INSPIRE THEM.*


-. When you meet children - *EDUCATE THEM.*


-. When you meet old people - *HELP THEM.*


-. When you meet wise people - *STUDY THEM.*


-. When you meet leaders - *HONOUR THEM.*


-. When you meet foolish people - *AVOID THEM.*


-. When you meet humble people - *TREASURE THEM.*


-. When you meet arrogant people - *IGNORE THEM.*


-. When you meet gracious people - *EMULATE THEM* .


-. When you meet aspirational people - *ELEVATE THEM.*


-. When you meet strong people - *SUPPORT THEM.*


-. When you meet godly people - *BLESS THEM.*


. When you meet elderly people - *RESPECT THEM.*


-. When you meet weak people - *STRENGTHEN THEM.*


-. When you meet hardworking people - *ENCOURAGE THEM.*


-. When you meet kind people - *ESTEEM THEM.*


-. When you meet Honest people - *PROMOTE THEM.*


-. When you meet virtuous people - *REWARD THEM.*


-. When you meety evil people - *EVADE THEM.*


-. And in all situation “ *Watch, Pray and wish everyone well.*







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