Hmmm...
NARRATIVE ONE
ANSWERS NEEDEDI have a question.
Please I want answers from women. I have come to realise that once a man cheats, and you forgive him, he keeps on cheating knowing that you will stay. I have seen it happen time and time again.
Is it better to leave a man that cheats on you? Is there a man that ever cheated and changed?
Is it better to leave a man that cheats on you? Is there a man that ever cheated and changed?
I wonder why cheating has suddenly become breaking news.. Cheating has always been there and i am sorry to say this but many of you are products of cheating.
Leaving or staying when your partner cheated is a personal decision that you must make....
Leaving or staying when your partner cheated is a personal decision that you must make....
Did your father ever cheat on your mum? did she leave or stay? Ask questions and dont act on advice..... What if you leave and he becomes a better person and marries someone else?
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NARRATIVE TWO
LYING HOUSE HELP
I was looking for a house help not above 21. They found someone who could do house chores perfectly. I interrogated her on phone and she said she was 21 and had just finished WAEC and doing nothing.
I settled for her and sent money for her transport to Lagos.
When this girl arrived , i immediately noticed she cant be 21. Too advanced. Very pretty and curvy and has so much clothes. I am confused what manner of house help she will be. Though she has not given me any cause to complain as she is very hard working and humble,
I am worried about the age as i was looking for someone that will stay long with me and not husband conscious.
I am disturbed as she lied about her age to me. And she finished WAEC 11 years ago. I found out about the age in her document. She does not know i know about her true age. She even looks older than the 26 stated in the document.
Should i ask her about the lies or i should just ignore as she is good so far? I am just disturbed .....
A house help is someone you should trust with your life, you should have sacked her the minute you find out that she lied about her age.. That means every other thing is a lie.... what if she runs off tomorrow with your kids? Do you think the address she gave you is real? People like thi are dangerous, cant you see the red flags already?
Poster1 I will never condone a cheating man,If he likes let him change for another woman,It only means you couldn't change him and it's totally fine.STDs are real and everywhere now,Make you no go die ontop another man stupidity.
ReplyDeletePoster2 Sack that lying girl ASAP.
Sack her because she lied to you but not because of how pretty and curvy she is,No be she create herself and she shouldn't be punished for your potential philandering prick of a...
If lying about age to get a job deserves termination of employment, 98% of Nigerians will be out of work. Lying is wrong but it only makes her DESPERATE FOR EMPLOYMENT NOT DANGEROUS.
DeleteLying generates.
DeleteWho knows how much lies she's going to tell in the future.
Lying about age to get a job doesn’t make you dangerous. All it means is you really need a job and you think it’s no big deal as long as you work well
ReplyDeleteFor cheating, poster I know a marriage that survived cheating. Man cheated. Woman yelled screamed, dragged his shirt. But she stayed. I think he cheated again but marriage has lasted decades and I think she’s happy with her decision
See the wayn eople think.. so lying about ones age is a reasonable excuse to get a job.. chai *smh*.Poster 2 please kick her out of your house, listen to your mind, if your mind is unsettled trust me She will not give you peace in the long run. Most girls nowadays have thier own agenda apart from househlep work. This househelp of a matter na prayer to God to give you good one no b by interrogation and investigation alone.
DeleteMany of our parents in civil service lied about their age so they could work longer years as there is retirement age
DeleteSorry I’m not joining you to throwstones at the girl
Is it easy to be hungry
Plenty Nigerians lie about their age for employment and other benefits. Many don't see anything wrong in it. Them plenty for entertainment, sports, banking, civil service, name it! I sha don't do it personally. Don't feel the need. Just watch her carefully poster.
DeleteCheating is a deal breaker for me. If I manage to forgive once, I won't a second time. Because by then his sight and sounds will irritate me. I would most definitely have to at least take a break. Anyway wish both posters the best.
My hubby cheated some months ago and Karma rewarded him with HBP n spiritual attack since then.. e don tey wey him don dey cheat but dis one hook him life join...if not for prayers...him 4 don become history. I dey do eye service with am...I am plotting my revenge in a way that will almost if not give him heart attack. Love is dead...na to focus on myself n my kids.
ReplyDeleteMadam, take it easy on him ooo
DeleteMadam take it easy he is still your husband. no carry your hands kill person
DeleteMadam, I hope you would be happy when he gets a heart attack and ends up with stroke or he dies. Maybe being widow or leaving him bed ridden is your plan. Better have mercy on him cos of your kids.
DeleteWait ooo , when he was enjoying his cheating, he never thought of giving her heart attack or stroke or even pity
Deleteher she feels
Now is her turn heart attack , stoke and mercy is flying up and down here
After he has received due compense according to you?
DeletePlease pack and go now. Dont kill the man.
By the way, there is no gurantee anybody will live long enough to carry out his/her evil plan or that the evil plan will have the desired effect. I have seen it happen several times and particularly to two scheming wives - the one died before her husband (ironically nursed by him), the other is still missing till date and presumed dead after being snatched.
Who knows tommorrow?
Show him pepper
DeleteThis is why he cheats on you. Wicked Soul. A wicked heart is a wicked heart, leave all the cheat excuses.
DeleteIt is like some of you don't know or don't care, probably because you cheat, how painful cheating is to a faithful partner. It even can adversely affect their health and kill them. All of a sudden all the sympathy is for the cheater?
DeletePls give peace a chance,draw ur husband to christ.no one is a saint... even if u leave him,do u trust the next man?
ReplyDeletePls madam look for a smaller housemaid instead.its risky staying with a total stranger not to talk of a mature adult....pls we all have to be careful
1 - what God has joined together,let no man put asunder,so you see it's all up to you if you want to stay and pray or leave and hope for a better man . Thank you.
ReplyDelete2 - you can give her a chance, can't tell you a book by its cover, commit all unto Jesus.
Cheating no suppose give you headache because you have only two choices. Stay or go! It's as simple as that.
ReplyDeleteCheating poster if you want to follow Stella's advise and remain with a cheating spouse go read this post down "Lady Calls Out Late Friends Husband For Moving On Too Quick..." After reading I believe you said God forbid not your portion but remember the dead woman below the ground also said not her portion.
ReplyDeleteLast line is apt. it is always God forbid till it happened
DeletePoster1.. The decision is yours as Stella said. You wear the shoes.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. Let her know you are aware she lied and ask for the reason she did that before taking any step
I was telling someone I can condole a cheating husband bt nt a woman beating husband. It’s up to u to either stay or go.
ReplyDeleteFor ya maid , it’s better u let her know u knw her real age nd find out d reason she did dat.
"Did your father ever cheat on your mum? did she leave or stay?"
ReplyDeleteAm I my mother?
Is my husband my father?
poster 1 cheating husband can change only with the help of God but that one na correct prayers.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 why are you asking us jamb questions na? you did not verify her or do investigation but you accepted her into your house and you are here asking us questions?
ReplyDeleteso you left your children in the hands of a lair and you are here asking us questions. Continue..........
Poster 2, why not look for a help that comes and goes, say like 3 to 6 times a week.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 they hardly change unless you are ready to intercede on his behalf. you need to pray for him.
ReplyDeleteYou pray for a cheating partner? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Delete17:12 yes pray about all things
DeleteFirst poster : You should decide whether you want to continue with the marriage or not. Secondly, be sure that he is actually cheating and not a mere assumption.
ReplyDeleteI have seen cases of women complaining about their cheating spouses but they end up with married men as side chicks after divorce. Thus, they become what they detest and were complaining of in their marriage. Please , give it a second thought and don't be in a hurry to leave your marriage so that you won't become what you hate or end up like your husband's (assumed) side chick later in the future.
Second Poster :
Be careful of that househelp.
I remember an incident of a banker whose help kidnapped her children.
Anik
Poster 1 it is up to you to search your phyche and see if you can manage a cheating husband or not. No one can really tell you what to do. Weigh the whole thing up in your brain and decide!. Its better to make decisions by yourself as you are the one who will carry your cross.
ReplyDeletePoster 2..did you get refernces for her?. Did you take her for tests?. When you saw how she was you should have questioned her and the person who brought her more before allowing her to stay in your home.
poster 1. cheating is a deal breaker for me. To me, I walked away because I could not stand the pain each time I remember he cheated and still cheating for someone I taught was next to JESUS. It was so heartbreaking for me. "If you are in love with someone, you wont be interested in someone else"
ReplyDeletePoster 2, do enquire why she lied about her age. If you really want her to stay, you do a proper background check on her and run some tests. Experience has taught me not to write off people easily.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, do not change unless they decide to. So weigh your options and if you decide to stay, protect yourself
You are wrong on the second part
ReplyDeleteThe observation makes sense
It means the girls resources are not consistent with what she said about her finances. This means it could be a set up
Some relationship are for sex benefits the earliest you realize that.
ReplyDeleteSex relationship is what some people are into
Poster 1, it's a big mistake remaining with an unrepentant cheating spouse. Apart from the risk of incurable STDs, you would not have peace of mind and your children would grow up in a very negative environment.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, send the householder away. For those claiming it's no big deal because Nigerians lie to get jobs, this case is different because the Poster is bringing this person into HER home to take care of HER CHILDREN. True, the household may have no bad intentions but the negative stories these days are too much. One needs to be very careful. Her marriage and her children's lives may be in danger.
Her case is not different
DeleteYou don’t want her to have any househelp
Househelp*
DeleteThe woman with the house help issue, the fact that you’re sending this chronicle shows that you’re not at peace in your spirit. So why will you bring unrest to yourself with your own hands? You know what you want and the reason you want that and you should not compromise on that. Secondly, if she’s lying about her age and she has all these clothes and stuff then her ways are probably not straightforward. Don’t be deceived, let her go now before you use your own hands to bring troubles on yourself. And next time, please pray about your decision and do a thorough background check on your help. Don’t bring strangers into your home! Your family is your life!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, follow your instincts. If your heart is telling you to let her go, don't try to keep her because she is good at doing chores. If her clothes and your discoveries don't align with her story, it's possible she has a different agenda. An agent has actually brought a young lady to me when I was looking for a nanny. I needed someone that would take care for my baby (when I went back to work) while the other help takes care of house chores. I just looked at this lady with her fake cornrows and the way she was appraising everything in my living room while claiming to have '100' years of experience in taking care of babies and told them that I will get back to them. I called the agent when they left and warned him not to pull any stupid stunt with me, he started begging and said that she and her sister were thrown out of the apartment they were staying at 1004. They were in desperate need of accomodation so they came up with a plan for one of them to apply for a house help role with a BQ for the help. I cut him off and used another agent.
ReplyDeleteBecause of your hubby sidechick,you want to kill your husband.remember that the side chick will not be a widow.
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