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HARRASSMENT FROM ESTRANGED HUSBANDS GIRLFRIEND.
My husband and I are separated for 10yrs now, we don't plan on getting divorced which is fine by both of us, although I still live in the house, he chose to move out so I and the kids won't stress.
My husband and I are separated for 10yrs now, we don't plan on getting divorced which is fine by both of us, although I still live in the house, he chose to move out so I and the kids won't stress.
Now he has a babe that has been disturbing me, she stole my number from his phone, who knows? she sends me messages to leave her man alone, hey I should move out from the house, ehhh I should grant the divorce.
I have never replied her, just told my husband to control his shit, I don't want stress. Now she has involved her friends, I keep getting weird texts saying I should leave their friend's man, like seriously?
I am not holding him girls, have fun and face him. Now I'm thinking of filing a police report for harassment because I now have her details.
I told my husband already, he said he will handle it. Like can I breathe? Or maybe I should start replying her that I am not holding him from marrying her or what?
*Don't reply her, please file a report in case she sends people after you.. she needs to be restrained.. He doesn't want to marry her and probably told her that you refused to give him a divorce....MEN!!! Ask him well again if he wants a divorce!
My dear, pls ignore her. I am sure your husband is just having fun with her. He lied to her that he can't marry her cos you have refused to divorce him. Involve the police for security reasons and ignore her. Don't come down to her level. She is just your husband's play toy.
ReplyDeleteFile the freaking report
DeletePeople will not learn to respect themselves, if she really wants to get married, let her disturb the man.
Maybe he lied to her that you are the reason he can’t move on🤣 instead of telling her he isn’t ready for marriage.
Foolish girl and her foolish friends
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Why don't you both want divorce? You and your husband have been separated for ten years without any plan of coming back together? Are
ReplyDeleteyou both free to get married if you want? Is it that both of you are waiting for one of you to get into a very serious that might lead to marriage before filing for divorce?
What kind of agreement is this?
BBC, I like you line of thought. It doesn't make sense to me-separated for 10 years and no plan to divorce. You can't tell me in the 10 years they've not be sleeping with various different people. Obviously the man is. It will be a fair assumption that the woman is too. It is a mess.
DeleteI agree she should ignore the girl friend and the girl friend friends, and report the harassment to the police irrespective of the estrange husband sorting it out. It is always good to have records for future purposes.
Advice on the one that she needs advice on. They are both adult and both agreed on seperation
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DeleteStella mama has said it all. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteThis is unrelated but I just remembered a chronicle where the woman and her husband used to have drinks on weekends then the husband started drugging her drink to have sex with her and ge denies it. She was perplexed as she never denied him sex and wouldn't turn him down so was wondering why. I wonder how she is now. May we not jam agbako in the name of marriage. Some men are women are toxic.
ReplyDeleteLink pls. I woul love to read it. I hope he is not suffering from a mental disorder where he fancies having sex with a dead woman and so he enjoys it when she is unconscious or in deep sleep
DeleteFile a police report.
ReplyDeleteAnd get a restraining order. Pls act fast
DeleteI agree with Stella on this. The man is using you for whatever game he has going on with her.
ReplyDeleteEhhyah
ReplyDeleteHelp her pls. Tell her he doesn’t want the divorce
The right thing to do is to file a report at a police station. Do not handle this with levity and don't leave it for your husband to handle.
ReplyDeleteSame here o, gave mine 100yrds to cheat as he likes, whosai. So far we do not live together, he can bang the whole of Lagos. Any girl that he decides to marry will be the second wife if she is ok with it. Umuaka highway. My children and I are well off, no divorce.
ReplyDeleteLol, no divorce, So what if he comes back and wants a divorce? Women learn to make a decision and stand by it. Poster you see that girl and her friends ignore them, forget the separation without divorce whether 10yrs or 20yrs once that man is ready to get married he will divorce you in a minute and you will be up in your feelings. You woman give men so much authority over your lives.
DeleteLike I said, we are well off, even if he asks for a divorce today, I agree. The peace of mind I have with this separation cannot be measured. So far he hasn't asked, let's just be married on paper. If he asks for it at 30 years o, 50years o, fine by me. You young ones don't really understand, lol. Like at a point, marriage is just for keeping up appearances. Nothing Dey inside.
DeleteNo divorce as far as no sex but he sends huge money.
DeleteContinue to ignore her. Go to the police and file a report. Better still sue her for the harassment. Let her hear from your lawyers
ReplyDeleteThe girl is stupid. Why bother. A person to leave her home?
ReplyDeleteDo whatever you want with the man
but don't cross your boundaries.
So she should leave and go and be paying rent with her kids while you move in?
Why can't the girl buy a new home for herself an the man?
I don't understand the agreement between you and your husband,also,the lady,does not have the right to threaten you,report her to the police.
ReplyDeleteTheir agreement reminds me of that Helen Ajayi case where he never divorced his first wife and then there was so much drama when the hubby died. Please divorce and clarify things legally so there’s no drama upon death.
DeleteHmmmm are sure your and ex hubby are not still gbenshing?
ReplyDeleteObviously they are still gbenshing...
DeleteIf they are still gbenshing it is a wah! Hope she knows her HIV status
DeleteGod, may I not know this type of life. 🙏.
ReplyDeleteShe wants to marry herself.🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteSafe to say y'all in a sort of open marriage. A distant Unc and his wife are like that, Them no divorce o, they just don't live together. They both in pH in different houses, visiting each other like lovers. Girls will just be having Heart break over a married man who is eating his cake and having it.
ReplyDelete@Blackberry, you aptly described it. It is nothing short of an open marriage. Those girls having heart break over your married distance uncle must be deceived thinking he isn't married or he will divorce his wife one day and they'll move in as wife. I pity them because they will remain side pieces as long as your uncle and his wife stay married.
Delete16:32 It’s high time you all start holding men accountable women! You call them side piece but just wait and see how he will end up with one of those ‘side piece’ in few years and serve his wife divorce paper, no matter how long they have been separated, no be only second wife. Just see what women have reduced themselves to. Always attacking strange women instead of the men involved?
DeleteThen let him end up with the side piece and stop wasting their time. Who cares? I have had my hey days, got kids, career and settled. If he wanna move, fine. Who is getting old while waiting for a man to divorce his wife? Me? Hahahahahaha pity.
DeleteYour silence is killing her gradually ,let your husband keep eating her sweet o
ReplyDeleteThem go tire soon,no stress yourself Abeg.
Merryment
Please report her already. What nonsense. Your life and that of your kids are in danger. I think your husband told her you refused to grant him divorce.
ReplyDeleteLet me be of the unpopular opinion that you are to blame for this disrespect but not the harassment though. When you stand at the entrance without going in or out, people who want to either go in or out will definitely step on you or brush your shoulders. Ten solid years as in a decade of separation? Are you guys in an "open marriage" or what? Get back together or get properly divorced ma'am!
ReplyDeleteIf he is truly as nice as all that, tell him to settle you with that house and reach an agreement on how to co-parent in peace. I bet you he'd say "No" because he knows then that any other man can visit you there. No man wants his wife's or ex-wife's boyfriend to ever enter a house he once called home. Men are selfish and territorial like that and they have no apologies. With you in that house, he can monitor you as he likes because you are still his wife...technically. He is free to date but are you? Oh-ho! If you are in the West, this shouldn't be so hard but if you are resident in Nigeria, just know that dude can throw you out himself when his side-thang fully activates her kayanmata code.
If this man wants a second chance and you know he's worth it, fix your marriage. If not, go your separate ways with honour and dignity. Let me see how any daughter of Delilah will ask you to leave a house that's legally yours. Keep every evidence of her constant harassment and report to the police or involve a lawyer. Since she wants to be unfortunate, well, she gon' learn!
This man is enjoying the best of two or maybe three worlds even. It all seems like nothing now until the children are all grown and out chasing their dreams. That is when your hatred and resentment for this man starts because he was balling all through whilst you were busy raising the kids and might then choose to officially divorce you and marry one of 'em girls. Right now, your marital and social life is on "Pause". This man can choose to press "play" or "eject" at anytime and then what?🤨. Take back the remote control of your life and don't just cast a shadow on the entrance. Go back in or get out on your own terms NOW!!
How are you sure she hasn't been catching her own fun? This agreement works probably because she has something she gains out of it, and I think she should hold on to it if it benefits her. No hard feelings or bitterness, they'll still attend the required occasions as man and wife.
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separated for almost 2 years now and the new babe is already hyperventilating about my friend, I'm just laughing in Ngwa dialect cos I know the guy and know that premium breakfast is coming for her. Single ladies, stay away from this type of "situationships", let a man sort out his life before you get entangled with him.
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DeleteYou've said it all. Madam either reconcile with him or divorce him properly
DeleteYou just described what I was struggling to type up there, Reconcile or divorce him stop allowing men eat their cake and have it, this is just the beginning of disrespect you will keep getting, I can bet this same issue is part of the reason you guys separated but see how he still causes you embarrassment. He is busy living his life while you are still receiving stray bullets. When he is finally ready to get married just get ready to see how he will serve you paper, he is just not interested in this girl
DeleteWe ain't a young couple, this has been working for us over the years. We do everything together apart from living under one roof, plus we are still married. Who ever want to try luck can do so. I am not the type to shiver once a man mentions divorce.
DeleteWhy not mind your business??? What if she is in an open marriage ? If she and her hubby are ok with it let the new wife or girlfriend too join the party . It's not in your place to tell her to stand or leave !! Advice the side chick to bounce instead of constituting nuisance...I mean I obvious these two people will continue to live like this even if the man marries
DeletePoster go to the police and file a report, this harassment is all shade of wrong...also talk to your husband to tell you the truth cos of the confidence of the girl telling you to move out,only God knows what he told her of you guys situationship
ReplyDeleteYour husband is to blame for telling his girlfriend about the arrangement you two have. Tell him you're going to report if it persists. Open marriage things.
ReplyDeleteMaidia, enter survival mode o. Report to the police, let them get her to sign an undertaking first. Next, pray very well o, that chick is very desperate, Oga don lie better lie for your head and im don turn you to the villain. Bekiaful
ReplyDeleteWahala no dey finish.
ReplyDeleteYou need to be careful.she is very desperate and please involve the police. Keep ignoring her.
ReplyDeleteOga don tell am say you no gree free am. Men! You need to file a report asap.
ReplyDeleteBetter go and report to the police before one of her crazy overzealous friends will do more than they are sent to do.
ReplyDeletePoster, report the lady to police ASAP.
ReplyDeleteDo not allow her to put pressure on you to file for divorce from your husband if you are benefitting from the "Situationship."
Let the ship continue to sail , na she go tire...
Nonsense !
Anik
My husband my husband
ReplyDeleteAre you still husband and wife?
We ain't divorced, so yes, he is my husband until he gets tired and do the needful or we stay like that till death do us part.
DeleteShe just likes being Mrs on paper but doesn’t actually want to be married.
DeleteUntil he gets tired?
DeleteWhen will you get tired?
You are waiting for him to get tired b4 you make a decision about your own life. You are not even interested in moving on I think.
So both of you should just reconcile and he should free the girl abeg.
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Tell the girl you and your husband are still married and that you are still a couple in EVERY WAY . Make she borrow herself sense and move on with her life.
They are still harloting together in bimbo Ademoye's voice...she and her hubby still have something going on..see her still calling him
Delete"my husband"
In my opinion, I suggest you file for a divorce... separate and have your sanity.
ReplyDeleteThe babe thinks you are blocking her from getting married to your husband but I think you have alot to discuss with your husband about this. He should set the record straight and stop her from disturbing you.
ReplyDeleteYou should block her on all social media and never reply to any of her messages. Don't you ever stood so low to fight her.
I think you should sue her and her friends for harassing you, then you and your husband should either reconcile or divorce.
ReplyDeleteWhy are two of you still holding each other down ??
Spot on.
DeleteI tire for this woman and her "my husband" o.
Report to police
ReplyDeleteTell her in clear terms that the man is fine with not divorcing you
That he isn't being truthful with her
She's very comfortable with the way things are in the marriage. I know her type, they refuse to make any major life decisions and be at the mercy of a cheating spouse. At the end of the day they will regret it. It's all fun and games till side chick throw her jazz
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