Hmmm.....
TIME TO STOP BEING A FOOL
I just found out my husband is Cheating on me (might not be sexually because I don't have that evidence, but emotionally).
I snooped and went through their messages. This is not the first time but he always apologies after being caught and promises never to do it again.
The worst is that he spends the money I send to him on the girl. There was a day he was moody cos he was broke and I sent him money to cheer him up. Do you know he used the money to take the girl out...lol...
I provide 95% of the money we use in the house because I earn more than my husband while he is using his own to follow girl.
My Mumu don do...
'You provide 95 percent money to run the house? OMG, you have been spoon feeding him and that is why he is even using your money to run things with someone else...
STOP GIVING HIM MONEY, he can eat food but that is where it should end.. hide all your banking details and transactions and face your life and kids if any....
What a horrible man to call husband!
Hmmm. Stop sending him money. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteThe guys out there right now are very useless. Many purposely look out for career ladies to feed off. I went on a date with one and next thing his card didnt work, i said okay go and withdraw from ATM. He started throwing tantrum ATM was far i shld just pay he will give me back. He never did. Our 2nd meeting he wanted to borrow money to fix his car stopped on his way, it was then i knew this dude is useless. I stopped dealing with him.
DeleteIn African setting, you are the husband. He is your wife.
ReplyDeleteAswear
DeleteIf I'm taking care of the house as a woman and u are cheating,no respect for you and I will make sure u regret the marriage
@16:40
DeleteSo you will respect a cheating husband because he feeds you. Did you agree to a potentially polygamous marriage?
Women and care money. This here is why some men wonder when their wives and or girlfriends complain about cheating.
It's high time you stopped doing what you were doing before.
ReplyDeleteLet him be the one to fend for himself and the one he's cheating on you with.
Some men no just get conscience and the thing tire person.
Stell it’s really pathetic this days with men. Imagine someone asking for house rent because I paid for dinner one time
DeleteHmmmmm!
ReplyDeleteWhy do people cheat on someone they claim to love? This is terrible.
love is not what make people not to cheat on their spouse but commitment, dedication and sacrifice does. People don't just cheat on those they love.
DeleteHmmmmm. I believe most unemployed spouse cheats,because and idle mind is a devil workshop, most of them are found of killing time,by chatting with opposite sex, in the name of killing boredom,look for work for him,even if na car wash,open it for him let him sit there,
ReplyDeletesome have pride and her husband may not agree to do car wash since she has been spoon feeding him.
DeleteAre you okay? He's cheating, why would she do that? It's like Nigerian women can take cheating but the men will never take you back if they catch you cheating. We need to start having zero tolerance to cheating. I have told my man. If you cheat. I will cheat back. I divorced my ex cos of cheating and I will keep changing you men till I'm old. No tolerance to cheating. Poster! Leave that idiot of a man. Nonsense
DeleteSo if he was working he would not cheat? Lol... Very naive reasoning.
Delete15:17
DeleteA man cheats. You will cheat back with your heart, body and mind?
Na wa O!
Stella are you reading what i am reading on your blog, anon 15:07 wants to open a business for a cheating husband! Someone who already spends what his wife gives him on women, and you think he will spend the business money on who 🤦♀️
DeleteStella we need to act fast and hold a sensitization program on your blog women are gone all in the name of marriage.
@19:11 I didn't know how to react to his/her comment untill I read yours and began to laugh. I don't know if this person is living under a rock to think that busy men don't cheat. A cheat is a cheat, period. Let's normalize not making excuses for philandering pr*cks
DeleteI don't think your husband is cheating because you provide. He is cheating because he does not have the fear of God, he is not saved and that is a problem of the human nature. Foremost, let the foundation of this marriage be repaired.
ReplyDeleteAre you both living together; because you sound like you are away and sends him money?
It is not good for a man to be alone. God made marriage for companionship. That separation may be the root cause of the problems.
You're right. I hate distance in marriage. No matter what, make sure you're living together with your spouse
DeleteNo dear, the separation is not the root cause of his cheating. He has no love and respect for his wife, he also has no discipline and fear of God. That's why he cheats with reckless abandon.
DeletePoster, na you dey wear the shoe, so you know how it pinches you, act accordingly.
Poster,why would you even go as far as doing 95%??
ReplyDeleteYou enabled it and it has backfired!
I'm so pissed rn.
As much as your mumu don do,Please he has to stop cheating and be responsible in one aspect atleast.
If he refuses to change,DUMP his ass for your sake.
Left for me,I would have dumped him since,Infidelity ks a no go area for me.
It may not be easy to dump a husband because he is a cheat. Some women have accept such spouses as their fate in marriage.
DeleteYes krytiq
DeleteIt is quite a pity that a lot of marriages are being fractured by adultery these days.
ReplyDeletePlease anyone married here, stay focused on your home; prayer, fasting, Bible study, not alone but with your husband.
Not condoning adultery but be in the know that adultery has been there from time. Have you heard that if there were two Eves, Adam might be seeing them separately with excuses to go look for food?
Delete@Baltika
DeleteGod in his wisdom did not create two Eves, but one. So I don't know where you are getting your information from.
It was the woman that was deceived, not the man.
He should be appreciative, helpful ,supportive ,caring and all instead of him giving you headache and stress.Tell him what you intend to do and see if that will change him.
ReplyDeletemost men that women give money cheat alot. Most women that give men money those men cheat, never loyal and cos you foot the bills the man has the strength to cheat with many babes.
ReplyDeleteposter i will not tell you not to help or support your husband but i will tell you to reduce the expenses you don in that house. Use your earning on yourself, children, your parents and allow that man go hustle. How can a man not be afraid to use the money his wife gave him to cheat on her.
support but please do not shoulder 95% of the bill anymore. Make sure your love and attention is on all your children. Never forget to take good care of your self and spoil you alot cos your happiness is in you.
And pls save and invest. Things change and some or these men ain't loyal.
Delete15:13. What about all the plenty Chronicles on full providing husbands and caring fathers who cheat?
DeleteNa wa. Where do you people see all these irresponsible husbands sef?
ReplyDeleteYour mumu better do for real, because he earns less, you took up the responsibilities,do your self good and let the house start managing the less he earns.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmm...
ReplyDeleteStop giving him money. He need to sit up, human beings tend to spend money they did not work for carelessly.
ReplyDeleteStella you say give him food? Why? If he wants to eat, he should bring money to cook for him to eat.
ReplyDeleteIyawo don't use your money to cook for him. The food you are giving him is making him to look fine for girls to agree to his cheating.
Nonsense and battima
From your write up,it seems both of you are not living together,why is that?? This is number one recipe for disaster when couple lives apart...poster stop sending him money,once the basic foods are in the house,don't send him personal pocket money again ! Haba!!! Only God knows for how long you have been enabling him
ReplyDeleteYes! Your mumu don do,
ReplyDeleteStop giving him money.
Just stop giving him money, tell him there's salary cut so he can pick up most bills, afterall he is not jobless.
ReplyDeleteBut why should she lie? She should tell him she's simply not giving him because he's a fool.
DeleteWell she wont do that anyway. Her mumu never do, na why she dey write Chronicle instead of taking real action
I6:30 if she tells him that, he will just engage in lies and subterfuge. He has already shown how manipulative he is by using his moods to collect. Poster make the right decision for you and try to stick to it. Be careful too. Some of such spouses don't mind ending their partners to inherit or grab whatever they can.
DeleteThis one na team independent. I no suppose chook mouth because I be team dependent
ReplyDeleteMy dear 😄😄
DeleteYou’re sending a man money to cheer him up. I honestly don’t have any word for you
ReplyDeleteStop feeding him too
ReplyDeleteThe same with me I provide 99% in for the family my husband is so lazy even the car I bought for him he can't fuel it the house I built little maintenance he can't do he does nothing yesterday night I Chang am for him ah ah if I doe now he will start enjoying all my investment that he did not laboured for he doesn't care if the kids are going to school
ReplyDeleteYou are still tagging him MY HUSBAND? No problem, may God strengthen you to keep providing 99 percent of the household expenses. Weldon madam.
DeletePlease I beg you, please make it 100%
DeleteWith my ex husband, I handled 100%. The relief, peace and joy I have now is out of this world. Some men will just be redefining manhood and some women (me in the past) will stop using their head in the name of love. Thank God for deliverance.
DeleteWhaaaat? You built a house and bought a car for a man?! Whyyyy? Are you people that stupidly desperate to be called Mrs? Then all these people will be mocking single women and looking down at them, crazy .
DeleteI can never understand this mental illness by women .
I so heat people who use emotional blackmail to get something 4rm another..
ReplyDeleteHaaaaaaa... Sending him money to cheer him up. 🏃🏃🏃 To tell my husband to send me money to cheer me up because my mood these days no be am
ReplyDeletePoster come back with the full story of your marriage. The narrative here will only reinforce the decision you have already taken. It will not solve anything if you stay married to this man.
ReplyDeleteThere is something you gained or you are gaining by being married to this man. What is it. Presently the man feels that outweighs his cheating since being the provider is not the complaint in your post.
Mr. Mann
So you see nothing wrong with her continuing to be the provider and him using the money she provides to cheat on her?
DeleteAs an African man wey I be,my wife can't fund anything at home without paying her back .I hate women bullshit attitude.she dey say I too dey proud
ReplyDeleteBut you too proud na
DeleteLet things continue the way they are you hear😂
I don't understand why you are sending him money to cheer him, did you buy your husband with money before you got married. You keep encouraging his lazy ass. Why will you shoulder 95% responsibility in the house, haaaaa, women I hail thee
ReplyDeleteNow, that you are no longer a fool, please tell me how you want to deal with this.
Chill pill
You're helpmate not the head of the family 👨👩👧👦 so stop giving him money
ReplyDeleteReason why I don’t respect all this Mrs dem. Na only big ring them take pass single ladies. Me I can’t marry leech I don’t get wet for lazy buffoons.tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteHow do u pamper a lazy person bikonu? Right from my single days I hate lazy and sluggish person's, my siblings already know the kind of person I am so they work hard to gain my support, yes I have to see you are deserving of what ever you demand, it shaped them to work hard and smart too. Now married God forbid I see trace of laziness in my man,body go tell am.. I hate nonsense!
ReplyDeleteAs in they will just be there with the pot bellies, greasy skins and yellow teeth forming macho. Macho untop of nothing. Parasite. eze bida. Mtshewww
DeleteSome are actually handsome and feel it is all about playing fine boy. They don't want to transition into men.
DeleteI no dey advice married people but please young ones listen. As far as this generation is concerned.. Marry a worldly man and reap worldly results. Marry a godly man and reap godly results. A worldly man will bring you cheating, lust, disregard, disrespect, dishonesty and maybe abuse. A godly man will bring you honor. The culture that held society together and kept people behaved in marriages is long gone and now there are no consequences. So it's either he is for God or for the world. Pls flee fornication, remain prayerful so you can wisely discern who you should be with so that your home will overflow with living water and new wine. And your spouse will be like Gods gift to you. It is worth waiting for..
ReplyDeleteGod bless u.
DeleteU've summarized it all.