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STANDING ALONE NARRATIVE
URENT ADVICE NEEDED OTHERWISE.....
I need advice please, my husband takes absolute care of me, my daughter and my family ...
I need advice please, my husband takes absolute care of me, my daughter and my family ...
He puts me first and always wants to make life easy for us. Even when I said I wasn’t ready for baby no 2 he respected my choice.
The issue with him is he isn’t romantic , our s#x life depreciates day by day in just 3 yrs in marriage, I have talked and talked no improvement.
I knew he isn’t expressive emotionally from beginning of our courting days, but I felt it would get better but at this point I am exhausted I pray I don’t cheat on him....
Hmmmm so such a small thing would make you cheat? Just like that even though he is a good man and looks out for you? cant you live without Romance? You knew what you walked into!!!
Please go ahead and cheat and I pray he catches you.
Dear poster, we are not all the same. Create what you want and with time he will catch up. Be romantic around him. Teach him nicely and with prayer he will catch up. I believe you are not perfect. So accept that he is not perfect and that, that is his weakness.. And move on. No need to cheat. That feeling you crave for doesn't last more than 5mins.
ReplyDeleteIt lasts more than 5mins sha🤤
DeleteBut yes poster!
i concur.
DeleteLady T your own dies not last up to 5 minutes??? Eyaaahh kpele. Poster marriage without sex and romance is just friendship with a ring.
DeleteI'm sure heard and read before you married that anything you see BEFORE marriage is what will obtain to the power 100. But some of you, quest to answer Mrs...it is well.
15:27 that was Lady T's way of letting the poster know that it's not worth it and 5mins in this context is not literal.
DeletePoster Walahi you are the reason some people drag women on this blog.
DeleteI am not saying your reasons are not valid, but you can be the initiator
You say he listens to you, so you be romantic, and he will follow suit. spice it up and tell your baby how to touch you by showing him.
If he isn’t like all these instagram relationships show him, explore with him, he is your partner… it’s just three years Abeg.
Google more ways to spice things up
It’s like you can’t find a problem so you are desperately looking for one.
Push up (original)
Madam put your life into productivity and stop complaining.
DeleteAbi you wan hear say him be gay?
Stella is funny o.
DeletePoster if that's who he was before you agreed to get married, then you understood this part of him already. Otherwise something could have triggered it.
Also, I hope you have something doing and as much as in your own little ways do take care of a few bills in the house. And help take some loads off his heavy shoulders?
Because the man you described in your post, appears like a man who has a lot of responsibilities that he needs to fulfill. Which sadly might have sapped him mentally and could have resulted in his loss for romantic appetite. Mental exhaustion has many after effects.
Wondering what you talk about as a couple? That is part of what quiet times together are meant for.
I'm a woman and i don't like all that romance stuff. Instead my hubby is the romantic one,but him don try i no send. But once in a while especially during ovulation that's when my sexy night wear comes out. So biko take ur man like that. Some of us no send.
DeleteStella forgive me but pls post my comment. Poster ashawo still dey your body .
ReplyDelete😆😆😆 you are so easy to lay. Only romance can make you cheat? Lmaoooooo... It's so easy to lay a woman like you. Just show you small romance and your morality is gone😆😆😆😆. I wish I could see your husband and tell him he married a cheap thrill.
ReplyDelete@Blackberry calm down na e never reach to say you go like tell her husband this and that. you are right on her being an easy lay though, but chillax. Dear poster unfortunately a lot of men are not very romantic, but show him and he will follow your clue, don't force or nag him about it, it will only draw him away, and also don't overwhelm him with too much romance, small gestures should be a sure way to go. just calm down and don't ever think of cheating, it wont even solve the problem in any way.
DeleteSo it's romance that'll make you cheat, what do women really want sef. I hope you know you can't have it all in this life
ReplyDeleteWoman, don't you ever think of cheating since he's always there for you. Sit your hubby down and pour out your mind without mincing word, trust me, he will adjust because he wouldn't ever want you to cheat on him.
ReplyDeletemy advice to you is that you should not cheat. Talk with him and teach him what he needs to to to you in the bedroom
ReplyDeleteEverything is important in marriage oh, romance and sex included.
ReplyDeletePoster, does he rebuff ur romantic approach? Does he reject sex when u initiate? If he doesn't, continue being the one to initiate it. You actually met him that way (the romance aspect).
Make him watch all those movies with lots of romance as well, maybe he will learn a thing or two from it.
If I may ask, what's the age gap between both of u?
Madam you have the cake, kindly let go of the icing and cherry. Sexual satisfaction is only as important as you make it, after all, you saw it before you tied the forever knots. God forbid you have icing without the cake.
ReplyDeleteBut don't forget to do your part in the romance subject. It is not cast on stone that it's the man that must be romantic. You have the juice naturally, so let it flow for both of you. Book your dinner, vacation, anniversary, birthday, Valentine and father's Day specials primarily because it is your nature and you enjoy doing so and not necessarily because you expect him to reciprocate. If he ever does, no matter how little, appreciate him but if he doesn't, please do your part and thankful to God he is a good husband, father and inlaw.
No you don’t have the cake if you don’t have sex unless for you sex is not a big deal
DeleteMarriages break up mostly due to sex or money so how is not having that having the cake
17:20
DeleteSo let her file for divorce. Very surprised nobody has suggested that to her as frequently done here.
You said romance but from your note you really mean there’s no sex happening
ReplyDeleteSame replies apply to the chronicle last week about what to do if no sex. Only problem here is because you’ve said said otherwise perfect, people will say manage hun. But you see this sex of a thing is not Gods plan for you to do without. Try a different conversation
Ask him whether he’s okay with sex toys to help you along, help him understand how serious this issue is
Na wa o poster,so just because your hubby isn't romantic and it's something you knew even before marrying him,now you want to cheat. Pls tell me what you would have done if he wasn't taking care of you.. probably you would have been thinking of becoming a kidnapper.
ReplyDeleteSee poster nobody is perfect o,you don't even have a problem.
It’s not about puppy romance
DeleteIt’s lack of sex
But she said she's not ready for baby No 2.
DeleteMadam add spices to your marriage and stop complaining. Tell God your problem.
Do well to send in your Chronicles when he bursts you. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteIt's the audacity of this poster!
ReplyDeleteYou pray you don't cheat on him because he has proven to be the same unromantic yesterday,today and forever.
Another insatiable wife spotted.
Please manage what you have,nobody has it all figured out.
Besides you knew from the beginning and you still went ahead.
Remain faithful for your sake.
Pls go ahead and cheat . Since your only problem is "Lomance". You have a good man that takes absolute care but NO , you want to use your hands And invite devil 👿 . You are an INGRATE!!!
ReplyDeleteYou’re not married with no sex so how can you say it’s nothing
DeleteAnon 17:21🥶🥶 What do I even know sef 🚶🚶🚶
DeleteShe is NOT an ingrate, being a teacher you should know better. Her sexual needs are very much validated and being in a sexless marriage is more than enough grounds for divorce. If it were the other way round, you would scream to the high heavens that she’s not performing her duty as a wife.
DeleteAnon 21:31 😂😂 na fight ? Shuooo. Why shouting and crying more than the bereaved pls be calming down ooo . May be my teaching experience no cover "Lomance" curriculum 😊
DeleteLooks like some of you ladies think that when you cheat, others suffer
ReplyDeleteNo, you the cheater are the one that suffer; sti, strange pregnancies and the
challenges of passing the child to your husband, divorce, demonization and
eternal hell. So, if you are patient to work out your marriage well, you will enjoy the peace.
Well said.
DeleteYou are just looking for an excuse to cheat. The excuse you gave for wanting to cheat is flimsy. It seems your village people are beating drum for you and you are already shaking body to start dancing.
ReplyDeleteWhich romance is greater than your hubby taking good care of you again? If he was creating worries and challenges for you now, you no go see front no to now dey talk of romance. If your sex life is lacking, work on it or live with it; cheating should not be the reward you dish out to him.
ReplyDeleteSeems there are lots of sexless marriages
DeleteAgree to baby number 2 so you can be getting the regular lashing you desire.
ReplyDeleteUhm what do women really want I pray you cheat,get bursted and sent out and not only that the person you cheated with,I pray he is romantic and on top a wife beater so that after tasting two house you can decide which one is better.ire oh
ReplyDeleteWe want sex
DeleteMoney is not enough
What women want?
DeleteWomen own marriage, every person and everything connected to it.
Women want all.
I think you are already chatting with another man or even your ex, that’s why you have realized your husband isn’t romantic.
ReplyDeleteIf you no test okoro you no go know if egusi sweet pass am.
Your eyes are outside that’s why a man you know isn’t so romantic you married him like that, now all of a sudden you are scared of cheating.
Una go see good man yet won’t be satisfied, I know many women who will kill to be in your shoes. Madam try to work it out, or cheat and destroy your home just for few minutes of pleasure
Curvy C
I can assure you that this lady isn’t entertaining anyone as you’ve assumed. The truth is approximately 85% of married couples DON’T have a healthy sex life, most don’t even have sex at all. Why do you think infidelity on both sides are at an all time high???
DeleteMy husband is just like this but I am not complaining because I am Iike this too, abeg show me where huge money dey no be lomance I wan chop. I sha thank God I marry a great man.
ReplyDeleteYou’re not having good sex?
DeletePoster you have married him already,so this ur observation is almost too late.
ReplyDeleteYour case is still much better cos ur husband listens to you, you can try to add some spice to ur marriage, be romantic and he might try to improve on his lapses. Buy him gifts, little little gifts, send him sweet text messages while at work, on how u miss him and can’t wait for him to be back,small small pecks, forehead kisses here and there, initiate sex randomly, celebrate little wins, anniversaries, birthdays.
Sometimes take mini vacations, drop baby with grandma and go for a few days, lodge in a hotel have some bonding time, then after passionate lovemaking you can tell him how u like these little little things and small small romanctic gestures that u will love.Teach him with love and before you know it he will start correcting himself, adjusting and trying to make you happy. If he starts doing any of these be very appreciative, no matter how little what he does is, and you will see him want to do more.
As long as you exude peace, lots of love and happiness, if u set examples I’m sure he will come around.
Take away cheating from ur thoughts,it won’t end well. Ehugs.
Please don't cheat. Initiate and talk to your husband and watch beautiful love romance movies together
ReplyDeleteHave fun night where u get him tipsy, if he doesn't act out his heart desire Biko enjoy the comfort and keep talking someday he will change.
ReplyDeleteMarriage go shock plenty people who got soaked up reading or watching romantic novels and movies! Poster e shock u abi? Be the romantic wife or manage him like that.
ReplyDeleteI use to have such problem with my hubby. But i thought him how to touch me and most time i ride him to get what i want and he always enjoy it. poster, if you know how to do it, teach him and he will follow suit. just do that which you wnt him to do to you and watch him respond easily.good luck.
ReplyDeleteTeach him and he MAY follow suit
DeleteYou’re lucky, at least yours can maintain an erection. Erectile dysfunction is common and the ones that have it lack confidence to initiate sex, thereby makeup for it in other ways by being generous et al
DeleteHe provides wahala,he does not provide wahala,"woe_ men "
ReplyDeleteTeach him naughty things baby girl or take his gbola and control it how you want while at it ask him if there is something you ain't doing right and also while gbenshing take note of his reaction, some times the body isn't willing at first but when you hit the right spot he will loose his guard that's why you should take note. When you hit the right spot while riding a man trust me all that talk of not being expresive is long story, the man will totally submit to you.
ReplyDeleteTrue however, have you thought about a case whereby the man can’t even maintain an erection! You can’t even sit on him cos it’s always almost flaccid no matter what you do. Men with sexual ills usually makeup for it by being extremely caring, selfless and loyal asf! This lady is not the cause of his malfunctional penis, mans need to head to the hospital for treatment but won’t cos of pride and ego!!
DeletePoster, get him to buy you variety of sex toys and make him use them on you since his ain’t working as it should.
@21:20 poster did not complain about erectile dysfunction. There are men who can maintain full erection but have low libido naturally or due to age or other factors.
DeleteI feel bad for women who are not satisfied that way by their partners because their fellow women would shame them for feeling that way especially when the man provides materially.
ReplyDeleteIf a man were to share this complaint with his fellow men, NONE of them would shame him. Some of you women would even be abusing the wife for not being romantic and tell her it's her fault if the man goes outside.
Women don suffer.
Please nobody should downplay her feelings. I'm in her shoes right now and sceptical of entering the marriage. It's not an easy situation.
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