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THE CHEATING HUSBAND WHO GOT SERVED BY HIS SIDE CHICK
I need non judgmental advice.
I have a help for over 5yrs now. I enrolled her in school, necessities were covered by me and sent her salary to her mom every month as she requested. now she is 25.
Disrespect started when my husband started making passes at her, she told me and i cautioned him because I have good plans for this girl that has really been good to me and kids. I didn't want to send her away.
Along the line, she gradually fell and started dressing up whenever he's around, I simply ignored because my kind of mindset is rare. I feel I don't need to question what an adult does with his or her body, I am selfish like that.
Right before my eyes they started dating, my husband knew I know likewise the girl, and the lack of concern deeply concerned them.
I deliberately stopped cooking for all and told her to cook for my husband alone. He now refused to eat the food she cooked. I also told him to be paying her since I was the one paying before.
It seems he has been giving her false promises since then.
I did not sack her, I simply got a come and go nanny for my twins and ignored them totally. I don't intend to report to anyone. I came back from work and relieved my nanny, she told me how my husband and the the girl fought, he injured her and she called her police cousin who came and arrested him.
The house is my husband's house, I am not leaving except he tells me to. He does not maltreat me, just that he cheats.
He is still in police custody as I send this, it's been 4days now because they need a guarantor for his bail. The maid has gone. He called me to be the guarantor, I agreed but I forgot.. lol.
I informed his people now. The maid is pressing charges, dear husband will be taken to court.
Should I be involved? Should I get him a lawyer and attend court proceedings as a caring wife? Because I really do not care what happens to him, I have tried to feel some sort of emotion towards him but it's not coming.
I'm Not hard hearted, I just find it easy to cut off people emotionally.
His brother has agreed to be a guarantor, by this weekend, he will be released and start going to court. He has asked me to forgive him and show support and I should not let the maid win, I said what is my business? I don't care who wins or lose,.
So should I help him or let him take his chances alone? If he goes to jail or not, it's not my business cos I can hold my fort well.
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*Come here and take this tight bear hug!.... WHAT!!!!
You handled this perfectly and I am just here laughing...
Your reaction killed their love, hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
Should you help him? help him that what? he dated alone so let him carry his cross alone but please attend the court proceedings with chewing gum in your mouth and chew like no mans business with a smile on your face....
Please can you keep us updated?
How can you help? He who fetches ant infested firewood should what again? Let him carry his cross.
ReplyDeleteBut if I were you, I will accuse the girl of theft, let them both stay there
Okokobioko!!!
DeleteW. O. N. D. E. R. F. U. L
If your fear is him going to jail, don't worry. It is not a criminal offence. He will be asked to pay damages for assault. I hope the girl's lawyer is a real devil himself and makes him pay through his nose.
Abi nahπππππ
DeleteI laughed really hard when you said you forgot. Then stella's laugh guy and the chewing gum thing drove me crazy wahali.π
DeleteI swear this is just me, I have told my colleagues & friends that cheating does not bother me, what bothers me and drives me crazy is D.V or maltreatment.
Husby, please cheat away just give my kids and i whats due to us and treat us right.
I love you.
DeleteI love you.
I love you.
I love you.
I love you.
I love you.
I love you.
I love you.
YOU ARE A GODDESS.
YOUR TYPE OS IS VERY VERY RARE.
When he was fcuking her, did he need your support? Under your own nose, in your own roof, did he need your support?
Let him face his life, that is a waste of space. Just pray he doesnt dash you the incurable.
I wish more women could be like the poster, it's wicked but there's a certain joy the side chic and husband derive when they know you are in pain, nagging and fighting them.
DeleteComplete indifference kills the high they derive from cheating, if I were you, I won't even go to court, will wait till he comes back and based on his reaction, know the next step to take.
Abeg let him deal with the consequences alone ...
ReplyDeleteWay to go ma!!! Proud of you so much.
DeleteI love this chronicle. No point fighting and draining your energy on top of someone who doesn't regard you.
DeleteHe does not care nor value you as a wife. He wants you to add value to his tribulations and consequences of infidelity.
Anyways, you can choose to attend court but don't testify.
Is the man mot even ashamed to ask her to attend the court session?
DeleteGosh Nigerian men are beyond disgusting.
If it was the woman who cheated with maiguard or laundry man, what do you think would have happened?
The sheer smelling, disgusting audacity. Would have left him to fit there for months.
The side chick sure dealt with oga. π Madam you are the definition of an ice queen. π But what I see is that you have given up on your marriage. I can't blame you.
DeleteHe is your husband and father of your kids. I know this betrayal is not easy to forgive but please support your husband for him to get out of this And I hope he’s learnt his lessons.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is very disrespectful and careless. How can you be dating your maid?
Let him know if you hear of him cheating, you won’t stick around anymore.
Can’t you see you’ve won already? But next time please, do not act like nothing is happening most especially when you have your kids around a maid like that. She could have poisoned them.
Please forgive your husband and show some support.
Sluttychic.
Poster, I am on bender knees, do not take this advice! Thank you
DeleteWon what? Was there ever a competition? Because I’m here wondering if we read the same chronicle. Please enlighten me because I will like to know what exactly she won.
DeletePlease does anyone have the emoji for koboko?! I need to send slutty some hot strokes this afternoon.
DeleteBetrayal ke? She doesn't care
DeleteSupport indeed! Please ignore this advice.
DeleteSupport fire.
DeleteImagine them cheating under her nose. Abeg poster, do what Stella said. Attend the court proceeding while chewing your gum.
Slutty, don't get us started
Delete@bended
DeleteWhat are u saying?if the man had sense won't he have respected himself when he noticed the wife doesn't care about the rubbish he does with her maid.. did the man think of the safety of his children while misbehaving.. madam if you choose to go to court you are only aiding him for his next conquest. Narrate the way it happened to his family members don't skip a part, let them help him out.they cannot all be against you.
DeleteWhoa! My gender BVs are not smiling π
DeletePlease I join Eka Joy in begging you not to take anoy 15:19 advice o, stay in your home to take care of your children as have been doing before and if you must be court is witness is yαΊΉ yαΊΉ (disgrace)
DeleteWow π€©! Wow !! Wow !! …… a milllion Gbosa for you girl π!!! Just like Stella said pls do keep us updated!!
ReplyDeletePlease don't listen to slutty chick abeg. Don't get involved
DeleteI read this chronicle out loud to the hearing of everyone in my office. See laughπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
DeleteI handed my phone to a male colleague to read too, the argument was madπ
DeleteIf this man can date the maid unashamedly right under poster's nose, what manner of rubbish will he be doing outside?
DeleteThis really cranked my brain. Since you feel no emotions towards him, while remain in the marriage or the house?
ReplyDeleteI think you have made your point, but you have to decide what you want to do. I think its ok if you give him all the necessary support and help now and during the court case after which you can decide to leave him or mend fences.
One thing I take from this post is that the marriage might not return back to how it was so it will still be ok to give him the support and move on with your life. He has learnt the hard way.
I always find your comments funny. In the evening when a woman messes up and her story is brought here, I will copy this and paste under your comment. Peace be, my brother!
DeleteSupport fire. Poster, let him carry his wahala alone.
DeleteCalm down Anon.... I didn't say she should take him back or forgive him. Support here is not emotional, financial, forgiveness, for a life time or however you see it. He begged for her support, she can help him with a lawyer, go to court but that doesn't change anything. She has lost all emotions for him even though she tried not to. She's the one in the shoe here, not you. I guess you will even react differently if it was you. Please allow her some slack. She knows what's best for her.
DeleteHe will definitely beg for her support. The fact that he is not ashamed to seek it, knowing full well what he did, means he doesn't really see how bad what he did was. He just expects her to forgive him immediately and start supporting just like that. He seems unrepentant to me. Still poster if deep down you want to take him back, you are free to. Because it seems to me you have no plans of leaving. But I think you already know you can't still trust him.
DeleteWowπ² I cherish you. You did nothing wrong. Helping him is a matter of choice. Follow your heart, don't give in to any pressure on helping him.
ReplyDeleteI must confess this is not just strength but emotional intelligence.
Peter Obi for president π€
This is one the sweetest chronicles I've read on this wonderful page.
ReplyDeletePoster, pls hold your peace. He made his bed the way he liked it, let him lay on it as he wants too.
You're an amazing woman and I truly admire your courage.
As a good woman, pls endeavour to attend the court. πππππ
Very sweet.
DeleteAlso made me feel very normal in my nonreactions to nonsense sometimes
Walahi I laughed so hard. Everything no be fight
DeleteOmO! This chronicle loud goooor. Bushmeat don catch hunter.
ReplyDeleteMonkey don go chop banana wey bitter.
The Chronicle sweet my belle wellaπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
Make the man face him warrant.
I second Stella's opinion. He didnt know he didn't want the maid to win when he was chasing and eventually sleeping with her. See ehn,i don't want to insult him so please let him sort himself out by himself. You did not partake in their orgasms so he shouldn't expect you to partake in their wahala. Useless,undisciplined men all over the place.Tueh tueh
ReplyDeleteThis is funniest chronicle I've ever read on sdk blogπ€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£ poster abeeg allow him to Carry his cross alone. Don't render any support whatsoever.
ReplyDeleteI love u woman, come here and take a big hug.
ReplyDeleteU deserve an award, how were u able to detach urself emotionally from this heart wrenching mess. Wow I'm quite impressed.
Well i think u dnt need to go to court with him for any reason so that nothing will get to weaken ur james bond mind.
Chop kiss biko u are a very strong woman, i love how u siddon ontop the blokos and akpamu of this matter and nopia ya
If she no go court, how we wan take hear beta update gist naw? She also need to hear the details for her personal amusement.π€£
DeleteU too like gist lol
DeleteDouble breakfast servedπ€£π€£
ReplyDeleteHahahaha Stella, that advice up there is just it. Imagine!
ReplyDeleteStella chop kiss for your advice.
DeleteBest Chronicle of the year
Kai! I laughed all through,my joy is that you are not bothered please try and attend the court proceedings but don't help him.....did you help him date the girl abi fu*k her?
ReplyDeletePls mind ur business as you’ve been minding before.
ReplyDeletePoster you did well to let them be,instead of fighting for what's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteYou should also prepare yourself and mind,Seeing that you didn't support him during his karma,when he is free,he might want to retaliate and cause you more pains.
Prepare yourself for the worst,your savings, emotions, your children,everything should be in check,Don't just wait for him to ask you to leave before you start making plans.
If he is sensible enough,after this karma,he would use his tongue and count his teeth and be a faithful husband.
WELDONEππΎ
Sensible advice poster.
DeleteI will suggest you help him. Whether you help him or not, he will still come home..
ReplyDeleteYou have kids with him Soo think of them
If you decide to leave after, it is ok
Did he think of his kids before disgracing his shamless self. Don't annoy me
DeleteHelp him in way o αΊΉgbami, was she part of their relationship or her permission or approval was seek when they started off abeg she will go there to have first hand update for comic relief.
DeleteHe cheated right in the same house his kids live. Is that the one that cares about his children? It is not just about providing for children financially. You have to bring them up well and be a good example to them.
DeleteI had to read twice. Poster biko who are you? π§π§
ReplyDeleteMadam, much respect! I detach emotionally easily too, it makes it easy for one to concentrate and thrive when with an irresponsible partner or friend. But, in my case, because of children, I will assist him to come out of it, eyes are on me. Then, continue with my life even as his wife na him go dey walk on egg shell at home not me. The betrayal is much but I don't think is your pay back time if actually you want revenge. My best revenge is glow and succeed.
ReplyDeleteWhatever you do don’t bear false witness against that girl she’s the victim here. And you madam idoncare pick up your self esteem where you dropped it. All to bear Mrs nobody.
ReplyDeleteAre you the horseband or the side chic maid???
DeleteI want to laugh, but I can't find the funny lines. You seem detached and weird poster, not like I expected u to fight but.... Well I won't join the bandwagon to hail your bravery cos I see none. But, I just think u are a weirdo.
DeleteBased on the post, the man and the maid were both waywardly complicit. Poster did not tell who was the first attacker. Yes, she should not give false evidence of a fight she didn't witness. Let's be fair in all case.
DeleteHouse help victim? Haba now it's not a must to comment.
Delete@Tania, same here. Nothing funny about this chronicle. Your maid told you that your husband was making passes at her and you let her stay! How do you women reason like this!
DeleteWhat if your husband raped her initially? When she made the first complaint to you, did it cross your mind that your husband could rape her! If it was me ,I will send the girl away fast and help her from afar. Not because of my husband's wandering dick ,but for the safety of the girl.
Thank you Tiana,who keeps a grown woman at home as a maid knowing the kind of partner you have.
DeleteDon't help him and don't go to the court. If you do, it shows solidarity. Let him suffer the consequences of his actions all alone.
ReplyDeleteKia! What!! I had a good laugh here o. It serves him right. I pray he changes for good.
ReplyDeleteI just want to know if you were still sleeping with him while he was dating your help,don't go to the court case for any reason,let him carry his cross alone, what your husband did is the height of disrespect and disregard for you and I bet you he will do more.
DeleteThis is the best chronicle I have ever read. Inshort, this chronicle sweet my belle. You are a matured woman and I applaud your courage. Pls do not get involved. Let him sort himself out with the maid. Just stay in your lane and ignore.
ReplyDeletePoster you are funny o.
ReplyDeleteSo here Is the deal, even if you care how this pans out pls stop saying it to his relatives.
If they call cry and tell them that the devil is at work.
If you decide not to go for the court case, tell them it's because the kids can't be left alone.
If you hve money to give out, you can help him with money.
Biko, forgive him o.
One day πΆbushmeat goπΆ catch the hunter,I said the bushmeat go catch the hunterπΆ....abeg drink water and mind ur business o...nkea atom bullshit mehnπππππ
ReplyDeleteWhen I got to "I agreed but I forgot" π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
ReplyDeleteMadam you are badass!!!!
Lemme continue reading! Nke atom pieces
That part was so funny.π€£π€£π€£π€£
DeleteWow!!! this is a definition of a strong woman, no drama, no conflict, just emotional intelligence. wow I can not believe that women can actually think like this without reacting unnecessarily which I don't blame them anyway, I am a woman by the way. poster take Madam Stella's advice, but I will add this, you have proved your point and basically you have the upper hand here. be the bigger person go for the court proceedings and afterwards leave him if you need to, you have tortured him enough. Now show him maturity. I love you for this chaiiiiii
ReplyDeleteI just like cold blooded peeps.
ReplyDeleteMeeeeen
DeleteJust don't be on the receiving end.
DeleteChaiiii! This chronicle sweet me die.
ReplyDeleteThey don't grant bail weekends in Lagos.
ReplyDeletePolice can grant bail any day, anytime once the condition for it is met.
Delete#TheLegalTrainee
Anon, I've seen a bail granted on a Sunday.
DeleteChineke leee!
ReplyDeleteStella this is one of the best advice you have ever givenπ€£π€£π€£π€£
Madam chew the gum very well in court or lick lollipop
When you ought to have fired this maid was when he made that first move.
ReplyDeleteThen they will continue their affair outside and it will thrive
DeleteWe should stop encouraging these men that lack self control, why blame the women when the man is at fault. She shouldn’t have a maid cos she is married to a dog who cannot control why is in between his legs.
DeletePlease we should stop that what if the woman cheated on him with their house boy what would we all say mtcheew
How do you keep a full blown woman in your house as a maid?
ReplyDeleteIts called employment. You would rather she change the maid and keep an underage gal ba?
DeleteIf she had gotten a 15 years old same you will complain under age abeg getat?
DeleteSame way u keep a full grown man in ur bq as driver or gateman!!
DeleteGood job you did maintaining your cool. That's a high level of maturity which is rare to find. I must commend you. And I'm also very sorry about all that went down. It's going to be alright girl.
ReplyDeleteNow to the matter:
- God's law says marriage can be annulled on grounds of adultery;
-. Man's law says marriage can be annulled on grounds of adultery.
BUT God's law also gives an option for forgiveness. I know this is hard but babe, forgive him. Trust me, he has learnt his lessons. He is seeing you now in a different and more respectable light.
"The house is my husband's house, I am not leaving except he tells me to. He does not maltreat me, just that he cheats." I see a ray of hope that your marriage can work again. I also think, going by that line, that you want it to work. That quote, is like a lifeline for your marriage, to me, and I join you to reach out and hold fast to it.
Please, forgive him and help him with the court proceedings. When he is back, punish him as much as you want. Show him shege and let him smell pepper small. Preferably atarodo. But please, keep your marriage, keep your home.
Your questions:
Should I be involved? Me: Yes.
Should I get him a lawyer and attend court proceedings as a caring wife? Me: Yes sweetie.
So should I help him or let him take his chances alone? Me: Yes, help him. If not for anything, for your kids. He's their father. Please don't let him go to jail. Na ya bobo na.
"...and lead us not into temptation..." Since you are obviously the stronger one, pray for him regularly not to fall into temptation whether at home or outside. Also pray for love to be restored between both of you. God bless you.
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DeleteThe reason useless me still treat women as nothing, imagine one encouraging a grown ass idiot to keep on humiliating his wife.
DeleteThe most rediculous comment I've read this year. Nigerian men are enjoying sha. No wonder dey treat you women anyhow they like. Thank God say I get sense.
DeleteThis is a well thought out comment. Thank you Jechix.
Delete@Poster. I commend you. "Beyonce hand" for you. PLEASE take this @Jechix's advise.
Cheers.
Madam poster,you get mind aswear, for knowing what was going on right under your nose and you did not react??? Just WOW!!!
ReplyDeleteChai poster chi gi muanya. This breakfast na correct from oven. Don't interfere o,just continue to dey your deyπ€£π€£π€£
ReplyDeleteπ€£π€£π€£π€£ this chronicle is funny abeg, see as he dey sweet my belle. Abeg make him carry him cross alone.
ReplyDeletePls call his brother not to bother that you ll go bail him tomorrow and forget again. Tomorrow is Friday no bails over the weekend. Let him have some more fun.
ReplyDeleteπ€£π€£π€£π€£ infact poster, fake memory loss.
DeletePlease don't listen to this advice (@17:24) at all. Any emphathy or sympathy the family has for you will be lost. The man's indiscretions will be forgotten. The narrative will change beyond your imagination.
DeleteIf you want to stay aloof, stay. If you want to be involved, do so.
As far as you are concerned, the marriage is gone. Better to leave with your dignity than to sink so low to stop help from his family when you are not giving it.
She is not as aloof as she has portrayed and it seems she wants to remain. So she should do the needful.
DeleteDear Stella, i have been down for 2months due to my husband’s cheating. I almost went crazy, i was sent numbers of therapists to contact, i didn’t have the energy to do so. I was gradually slipping into depression. After reading this chronicle, something in me changed, i got out of bed. This is the much needed therapy for me.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please would you be my friend? I would contact Stella with my details, if it’s ok by you.. i like to have emotionally strong friends, i am not emotionally strong myself. Thank you.
Pls do you. If you cant cope. Leave o
DeleteWay to go sis, please stay strong!!!
DeleteDown because of cheating, u have two options leave if you don have the heart to bear, to avoid HBP or mental illness. Or brave it up, ignore him and live your best life right under his watch. Hope u ain't the one feeding him o? Collect what u can, have safe sex, save save save and be ready for when u might decide enough is enough and japa..if you still want to be with him against all odd keep saving and investing in yourself and kids
DeleteThanks dearies. I move you all. I am 16:19
DeleteYour health and well-being is more important than the situation you are in. Plus everyone is different. Not everyone can be stoic in such a situation. It is better to do you and pursue your health and peace.
DeletePlease dear, each individual is created differently. YOU ARE NOT WEAK.
DeleteIf you are still in your home, why not leave that environment for a while so that you can get some fresh air and think properly. Staying in the same environment where you are badly hurt is like adding salt to an injury.
Also, download some good worship and praise songs and let them play continuously. They help to restore joy to a sad heart. I pray for the peace of God upon your heart in Jesus name π€π€ππ .
Omo, where are you from? Are a Nigerian woman?ππ Because damn....
ReplyDeleteFire !
ReplyDeleteThis is so refreshing π€£
ReplyDeleteThis is so refreshing π€£
ReplyDeletePoster I love you π my advice to you " DO NOT ATTEND" let him carry his cross alone .
ReplyDeleteooo boy!!!! baddest
ReplyDeleteIf women can be treating them like this maybe their ego will reduce don't go near and if he comes back and asked you to leave them leave ,most are just like don't have anything doing with him for now
ReplyDeleteI laughed at the part you said you already but you forgot π€£π€£π€£π€£π€£
ReplyDeletePoster you are a strong woman, just do you attend the court proceedings but testify with only bit the truth
*you agreed
Delete*Only but
You can be involved unemotionally. Since you are that tough, be involved.
ReplyDeleteYou can help him by getting him a good criminal cases lawyer.
Would your work or business permit you to appear in court? If yes, do so. Since you didn't not witness the fight, don't give evidence on his behalf.
All said above on the basis of closing doors gently seeing that you don't care whether or not you both stay married.
As a Bv has said, whether you help him or not, the matter would be resolved and he is not likely to go to prison. Fine, maybe. Even an acquittal is possible. By helping him, you open a window for your marriage even though you don't feel interested in it now. The fact you didn't leave the marriage then means inside of you still has something about your marriage.
If you still choose not to be involved at all, please don't be celebratory. Be quiet as pained as some people would expect.
#TheLegalTrainee
And who will pay the lawyer? People funny o. Still finding ways to kinda blame the poster.
DeleteIf for the 5 years she was good to your kids and you, she does appreciate it. I feel while they where dating she discovered she wasn’t only the side chic that made her mad π seeing that her betrayal isn’t worth trading you for. Don’t mess up yourself in their dirts because she came prepared to face anyone she sees as a threat. I feel bad for your husband small but a good lawyer with good brains will save him. You didn’t mention his attitude before her arrival
ReplyDeleteHe belittled himself he’s not a child
ReplyDeleteNice one from the poster. Keep us updated please
ReplyDeleteYou actually acted maturely I must say. But I still think you don't value your marriage, hence the reason you left a grown up lady in your home when you know you husband's weakness, even after she reported him to you. You should have let her go
ReplyDeleteSo the man had value for his marriage by allowing a distraction???? Biko let's atup doing this to ourselves.we women are our worst enemies'.if she had place value to the marriage miss housefiro would have been. Madam by now.
DeleteValue? Can she force 2 adults to act right?
DeleteWell said. Just that Poster says not to judge her. Poster is capable of taking care of herself and her children without her husband. This is evident in every line of the post. The maid is "truly good" to the poster maybe in "reciprocation" of Poster's good to her. If not, Poster's chronicle would have been very different if written at all.
DeleteMust we always blame and shame the woman in everything? If the poster had slept with her driver would u blame the husband? Which one is leave a grown women in the house? This lady grew up with them. So if they have a daughter she should be thrown out when she gets older in case the father can’t control himself?? I tire for people o. Instead of admitting the man is an idiot without self control it’s to blame the wife. If she had fought him u will say she didn’t behave maturely.
DeleteIf it were me, I would not step a foot in that court room. That means I will hear details of what I don’t want to hear. Simply explain to your husband that you cannot be there because you want to spare yourself the details of his misdeeds. That’s all.
ReplyDeleteShe said 'Im Not hard hearted, but find it easy to cut off people emotionally ' girl if hard hearted was a person.it will answer your name.i wish I have you as a friend.. you're just the kindly of flavor I need. Wow!!! Just wow!!! Chop knocked sis. All I can say is that he got served.pls let karma run it's full course on the shameless bastard.the marriage can stay or go for all I care.if he can do this under ur roof then I can just imagine.and he's a broke ass I guess since he can't keep to his promises to her.the girl sef na daft nincompoop.she has only one job.stay faithful to you and look forward to a good future.but noooo! She wanted to enjoy ejat oga has to offer too.way to go sis.
ReplyDeleteHe must have learnt his lessons. Throw him off balance now by showing mercy. Pls forgive. He will never be able to comprehend You π
ReplyDeleteGod forbid,forgive fire, nothing to forgive cos she's not offended.
ReplyDeleteDid you one to this life to suffer abi they said you shouldn’t enjoy life? Please pretend he doesn’t exit and concentrate on your children. If you help him out now he will still repeat the same thing knowing fully well his wife will help him out.
ReplyDeleteSabi when he was pulling pant he didn’t tell you now that yawa has gas he want your help. Do not even behave like he is important since he cannot respect you.
Best Chronicles, just be in court and feed your ears. But just remain calm. You are a strong woman. ehugs to you...
ReplyDeleteDon't go anywhere
ReplyDeleteAll of us in favor of ''dont forgive and dine step into that courtroom' say aye
ReplyDeleteAlright the ayes have it.eod
Wow! Madam you are a strong woman. Some people that have anger issues will endure half of what you passed through.
ReplyDeleteYou're what a lot of ladies saddled with cheating husbands would wish to be. Some may even be living vicariously through you right now, . Darling, you are very brave indeed. HOWEVER, it would be remiss of me not to draw your attention to what seems to be shrouded under the humour and elation. We, perhaps I should say most of us are being thoroughly entertained by the theatrics of your FAMILY. The man in question is still your husband until you decide otherwise. He is the father of your children.
ReplyDeleteAfter all the excitement and laughter, we will forget about you and your "cross". It's yours alone to bear. We will soon move on to the next gist. At best, you'll be reference occasionally as the "MVP", the original gangster, the patron saint of disenfranchised wives. We will move on and you will be left to face the music. Sweetheart, while you are left to pick up the pieces, what do you think blog visitors will be doing? Living our best lives, most probably. Your marriage will never be the same again and underneath your brave front, I can tell you still have feelings for this man, we couldn't careless about him.
That you wrote in asking for non-judgmental advice and that you felt the need to state that he doesn't maltreat you, only that he cheats and you aren't leaving unless he asks you to, shows it's not a hopeless case. If it were, you would probably have moved out long ago. So, my darling, remember that the despicable cheat of a man is not ours, he is yours. We can call for his head and not feel a thing, you don't have that luxury. He sired your children. Luckily for you, you have the carte blanche to decide what to do. I can't tell you what to do, all I ask is that you should not be carried You're what a lot of ladies saddled with cheating husbands would wish to be. Some may even be living vicariously through you right now, . Darling, you are very brave indeed. HOWEVER, it would be remiss of me not to draw your attention to what seems to be shrouded under the humour and elation. We, perhaps I should say most of us are being thoroughly entertained by the theatrics of your FAMILY. The man in question is still your husband until you decide otherwise. He is the father of your children.
After all the excitement and laughter, we will forget about you and your "cross". It's yours alone to bear. We will soon move on to the next gist. At best, you'll be reference occasionally as the "MVP", the original gangster, the patron saint of disenfranchised wives. We will move on and you will be left to face the music. Sweetheart, while you are left to pick up the pieces, what do you think blog visitors will be doing? Living our best lives, most probably. Your marriage will never be the same again and underneath your brave front, I can tell you still have feelings for this man, we couldn't careless about him.
That you wrote in asking for non-judgmental advice and that you felt the need to state that he doesn't maltreat you, only that he cheats and you aren't leaving unless he asks you to, shows it's not a hopeless case. If it were, you would probably have moved out long ago. So, my darling, remember that the despicable cheat of a man is not ours, he is yours. We can call for his head and not feel a thing, you don't have that luxury. He sired your children. Luckily for you, you have the carte blanche to decide what to do. I can't tell you what to do, all I ask is that you should not be carried away by emotions and accolades and forget what is truly important and the best way forward.
e-hugs and kisses. by emotions and accolades and forget what is truly important and the best way forward.
e-hugs and kisses.
Well said. Points made.
DeletePoster, don't be fooled by the drum beating and theatrics, the same people beating ur drums would not take care of ur kids. If this is his only indiscretion and he is a good father and once a loving husband then forgive. To err is human. Trust me u won by his remorse. And Am telling u, he will worship the ground u walk on based on ur forgiveness. If this cheating happens again then by all means leave. My 2 cents.
DeleteHonestly poster I just love you but meanwhile just continue to do you.
ReplyDeleteHaa, poster you are badass. I love your level of comport. You suppose start channel/class on emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteStay strong Sis.
Allow his family to rally round him and maintain your cool jare
Some bvs said...
ReplyDelete-He's still your husband, support him.
-Why did you not sack the maid when she reported?
-Get him a lawyer.
-Only you will face the music, he's still your husband.
-Why did you allow a grown lady in your house? You don't value your marriage.
- Forgive him always, etc.π€
➡ANSWER to the questions.
NO PEACE FOR THE WICKED.
"There's a way that seems good but in the end is destruction." Madam, God fought your battle for you and don't intervene until He finishes the battle.
Maybe Dante can help us explain the man's action. May God continue to strengthen you @poster ❤
It is very very important to have your own money as a woman because e get why. If you do not, you will not be able to take boss moves like this lady
ReplyDeleteMadam well done. I love and admire you. Please do not help, support, enable your husband, if you do, he will continue to cheat on you and disrespect you cos he believes you’ll be there for him. Continue ignoring him and take good care of your kids. Please do not attend the court proceedings, do not go there. Imagine, cheating on you right under your nose with your maid. He deserves no pity. God bless and continue to give you the grace to move on with your life.
ReplyDeletePlease, GO for all the court sitting so you can be on the winning side.Do anything you can to help him as you are doing so,you are heaping more burning coal on him.Remember people are watching.If not for anything but for God,humanity and your children.Just play your path and see what will happen afterwards.Shalom
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