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THE CONSEQUENCES OF MARRYING A BAD MAN

I grew up naïve about men. Married an abusive man who hid it during our just over 1 year courtship (my dad died when I was 12 so I had scant male examples except for a s#xually abusive uncle). 

I was taught nothing about men and married my 1st serious relationship. It was 6 months in I had endured, I was planning to leave and found out I was already pregnant. I ran off to my mum's with the pregnancy and she returned me there once I put to bed. 

I stayed 6 months and left with the baby. We left EVERYTHING there, even the toothbrush, so he wouldn't be triggered and we fled.

 He's not looked for our daughter a single day or sent upkeep, till 4 months ago, he started sending N25k for our daughter's upkeep. I quickly got a lawyer because I guessed he was up to some thing and the separation had hit a 2 year mark.

He sent a mail asking me to return his daughter to him.

The lawyer will serve him this week and I have the evidences including voice recordings, neighbors saw him lock me in and out

See, I can take care of us by the grace of God. I want my daughter not to have daddy issues and have never kept him from seeing her. But I fear he might s#xually molest her. He just didn't try to see or speak to us since we left.

I later learnt his own younger brother ran from home in Yr 2 of university and cut ties with ALL OF THEM.

No one speaks about him and act like he doesn't exist (I thought they were only 3 siblings till my hubby told me 2 months into our marriage).


Note, I told him where we were the very evening we left, via text message. I told him I was going to seek legal counsel for a divorce and we haven't spoken since then.

We bumped into him on the streets after my daughter had clocked one. He looked at both of us for a few minutes, then lifted his face, sneered and drove off.

He refused for us to do child dedication or baptism for her and once ignored her for about 2 weeks because I asked him to wash his hands before carrying her as he just got in from work.

All these he did to hurt and break me. But he failed.

God is on the throne and I will thrive. My daughter will see him on supervised visits and I will never speak ill of him to her, so help me God.

She is a brilliant, happy girl. I show her his picture and she says 'daddy'. We play and sing rhymes about fathers and family.
When she's older, I intend to tell her 'Mom and Dad love you so much. We just needed our own space and can't live together'

He's physically, psychologically and emotionally abusive. I know its for the best I build her self esteem and when she clocks 18 and can dictate her interaction with him, I will be prayerfully watchful and keep boosting her self esteem so that if he tries his mind tricks with her, she will eviscerate him because she's already so smart!

I am happy, working and raising my daughter lovingly and making sure she knows that SHE IS A BLESSING THAT I THANK GOD FOR DAILY.

Hmmmm where do these kind of men sprout from? wicked even to his own blood? Do not give him the child please, yes supervised visits but i fear that may go South as well..... I know someone who almost got killed from supervised visits, the man broke her head and cut her face so bad that she looks like a monster now and he got what he wanted - to ruin her!

I wish you the best but if your daughter comes of age, tell her the truth about her Father!