STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HOW TO KNOW YOUR SPOUSE IS THE ONE
Married folks in the house. How did you know your partner is the one?
For a start, I've always known I keep things to myself. But do you know that my partner knows more than my siblings and parents in some things? Yet, he's always acting up.
I constantly feel like I'm not enough, not doing, saying, loving enough. If I talk, I'm being argumentative, if I don't nko, I am snubbing. What should I do kwanu?
The epic line is:you don't take me serious, you think I'm stupid, you take decisions and nothing good comes out. So says these things eh? He's telling everyone how he loves and wants to marry me. But I don't feel it.
Right now, I'm exhausted. I am tired. What kind of thing is this eh?
I really wish I can tell him something strong that will keep him up for days. I don't have that heart. I don't ask anything from him. I was and still sick. This guy didn't call. When he eventually called, he said he didn't think it was serious. I don't eat well that's why, not that I'm sick.
One week, one drama. As long as I apologize no problem. Then he'll tell you, I'm always apologizing, no improvement. Maybe we should just take a break . This marriage plan should end. I know it's not going as planned, so why take it on me I'm soooooooo tired.
*This one is Dead on Arrival... Please dont marry this kind of man for your peace og mind or you will send in more Chronicles.....
*This one is Dead on Arrival... Please dont marry this kind of man for your peace og mind or you will send in more Chronicles.....
End this rubbish immediately for your sanity!
ReplyDeleteYou can’t marry this man na. He’s gaslighting and manipulating and controlling you. Love isn’t all that. Pls look for Nother
ReplyDeleteKeep it moving. When you meet "the one" , you will have no doubt. From my experience as someone who was engaged 3ice at different times b4 I met the one that every fibre in my being was sure of and it's been the same till today. If you succumb and settle, marriage will happen but chronicles will keep rolling.
DeleteDead on arrival jare....this is boring already.
ReplyDeleteBe careful before you say Yes I Do cuz this life no be war ooo
You were sick, and he said he didn't think it was serious. My goodness, must you be admitted, before he shows you he cares??? I think it'll get worse if you marry him o. And you apologize, him nko?? Don't take a break, end it biko.
ReplyDeleteSo annoying
DeleteHe could have at least called even if she was fine. Or doesn’t he call unless there’s a purpose
Poster, listen I married one of these type of men and I can only yell you it gets worse. I am currently 8 months pregnant and he works in another state. Can you believe it’s almost a week since my husband has called to check on me? In his mind now why didn’t I check on him too. Do not marry someone that has ego and pride as a mantra. Unfortunately I learnt too late. But I already have my plan after birthing this baby. Like my mother will always say, never reveal what it’s in your heart by talking too much. My husband thinks I’m a quiet woman because I don’t act like all these neglect is a big issue, ooh but the day is coming when I will shock him. Poster RUN!!! It doesn’t get better with someone like this. I don talk my own finish.
Delete04:57, can’t you also call and check on him? So because you’re pregnant he shd be the one to call all the time? Relationship is both ways! And communicate your issues to him!! If you leave this marriage and don’t talk, you’ll run into the same problem. For how long will you continue to run? You’re not serious abeg.
Delete06:19 You are obviously not married to be spewing that rubbish. This pregnancy has been so difficult and a high risk one. A husband is supposed to protect and care for who he calls wife. This is someone I was planning a surprise 40th birthday trip to Dubai for. A man I go above and beyond for, but when it comes to showing up for me in a way I need it, he lets ego and pride rule him. Well I’m done being the goat. Na siddon dey look i dey. I have canceled the trip. No more surprise nonsense. I have chosen to reciprocate the love he dishes out.
DeleteThank you@6:19. Instead of her to work with what she has and build a happy home, it's to be planning rubbish. Must everyone express care the way you want them to?? Supply women everywhere.
DeleteOya lay and carry out your plan na, as the hen that you've become
Married folks in the house. How did you know your partner is the one?
ReplyDeleteYou and only you will have the convinction.
His actions , words, behaviour, what position you are in his life etc.
Marriage plans may be in place but if it does not feel right please don't go ahead because marriage is tough work on its own but with the right partner, it is a walk in the park.
Marry some one that loves you and works daily to keep the love afresh. That way it is easier for you to reciprocate.
Pls end that relationship now before it’s too late. His attitude is definitely a red flag. Abort mission.
ReplyDeleteYou won’t question yourself when you truly find love;this is very questionable and you will always feel drained thinking you aren’t doing enough in this relationship..
ReplyDeleteEmit postive vibes…Love yourself so much that any man or woman coming into your life will feel “honored” to be a part of you;knowing that there is life without them the moment any party involved decides to misbehave or play mind games.
Life is good,Love is great and with a good partner you will always feel fulfilled;not questioning yourself or sanity daily..
@MARTINS
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
DeleteRun!!!!
ReplyDeleteThe hand writing is very clear, he will nag you till you become insane and begin to doubt your sanity. The ball is in your court, choose wisely,self love.
ReplyDeleteAbove all there will be peace and you will see a willingness to learn, unlearn, admit wrongs, forgive quickly.
ReplyDeleteAnything less than that no chook head enter. I can assure you, you will regret it.
Failed courtship is way better that a scattered marriage.
My dear,once u feel " DRAINED" in a relationship,just take a walk.you see a man that never apologise? That one na death trap.Ive been there,so I know.He was barely there for me,stingy,egocentric,yet I was managing because time was against me.Everyone knew he wanted to marry me and how much he loved me except me.Abegi,my sis,this one na one chance
ReplyDeleteYou have seen ALL THE RED 🚩🚩🚩🚩. What else do you want us to tell you. You said it yourself, you don't have PEACE. So please, GIVE YOURSELF PEACE. Like Stella said, DEAD ON ARRIVAL!!!
ReplyDeleteTo all those saying she should end it.she will not end it..afta all dis signs by next yr she will send anoda chronicles.mtsww
ReplyDeleteI just like your comment. Very simple. But it is the real truth in most cases for mostly ladies. Most use feelings, infatuations or fear of what shall people say to take the right decisions.
DeleteMarriage takes work. So frankly, you have to be in the right frame of mind to make it work. If you're already feeling this way, them maybe it's necessary you take time off and review things.
ReplyDeleteDead on arrival!
ReplyDeleteIt's a good thing u are seeing the signs now, this is not how a healthy relationship is. Don't listen to any sit him down and talk to him because even if he changes, it will probably be to deceive u into marrying him into a life full of chronicles best u go ur separate ways now.
ReplyDeleteDon’t do it sis! It will only get worse in marriage…..speaking from experience.
ReplyDeleteEnd the relationship for the good of the both of you.
ReplyDeleteNot everyone can put up with a choleric or a narcissist. He will wear you out. It not you he is looking for. Pls walk. You will find someone who will accept you for who you are and appreciate you.
ReplyDeleteLoool she would still go ahead with the marriage plans citing pressure and no time to find another man and later come write long epistles about how her husband is this or that ignoring the very signs she saw in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteBecause how are you writing asking for opinion of a man who totally ignored you when you were ill?!
I mean how ? And you’re here asking jamb questions.
Even side chicks get better treatment than this
Na wa o
ReplyDeleteSo stressful
To marry na by force. Desperado
ReplyDeleteWhen someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. A man that is not moved when all is not well with you is self-centered, unkind and will give you hell when you marry. You already see all the red flags, it will only get worse over time.
ReplyDeleteEveryone deserves to be loved and in a loving relationship. A great marriage is so worth it!
From your write-up, you are already in a dictatorship. That is not the type of 'ship' you need or want.
This's not looking good oooooh
ReplyDeleteThis is not a relationship, this is a classic situationship!
ReplyDeleteTake this from someone who knows, things will get worse
ReplyDeleteForget about this marriage arrangements,you are not married yet and you are tired already,better run away than regret later........ Josaria
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