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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
UNAVAILABLE HUSBAND
Hello Stella..
Hello Stella..
Blog Visitor MM suggested some tips on how to make a marriage more exciting and please the hubby, I do all these tips but hubby will always find excuses not to make love.
I initiate raunchy chats but he will read and ignore. But he will be having s#x chats with girls and looking for who he will give a massage. I have initiated communication too cos I believe in it but he will always turn it to quarrel or just be passive when we are discussing.
I am not bad looking for a mother of 2 , but this man doesn't appreciate me. I buy him gifts on impulse, I yearn to have an alone time with him as he spends his whole time at his place of business Monday to Sunday,7am to 9am. I only get to see him at night or days I decide to stay at the shops with him when I return from work.
So I look forward to nights when we can have s#x to unwind after cooking,house chores and handling our children,he will make me feel like a fool but he is busy setting up trysts with random girls. What do I do?
*Ah this your husband nah wah for am........ Did you snoop on his phone to know all what he does with random girls? I dont know what you should do but i do know what you should stop doing....Stop paying attention to him and face the kids, tune your mind off s#x and decide to be happy... Your new attitude might catch his attention...... You cant stop him doing what he does with the ladies on phone, unless he decides to stop himself....
Ask for a divorce and move on from your cheating husband
ReplyDeleteHe has moved on. You either move on by yourself or drive yourself crazy. If you don’t want a divorce then go have your own affair
Gbamest!!
DeleteLol.. na so e easy?
DeleteNa wa.
DeleteWhich kind of disgusting men are in this country????
The way they tell people to tune their minds off sex like she requested to be forced into some form of nunnery makes me laugh some times.
DeletePoster the truth is that your husband doesn’t love there’s no sugar coating it
He may have married you for some great qualities you posses and not necessarily because he loves you.
You can follow Stella’s advice who knows maybe when you don’t pay him any attention he will find you intriguing.
Push up (original)
So Fan is now supporting a lady having a revenge affair?
DeleteHow hypocritical?
Don't take this advice should you divorce your husband ,your husband can remarry another woman.men will use you to warm their bed promising you marriage.ask some single mum you know.
Delete4 kids and my single mum friend is remarried
DeleteBelieve what you want
Another one got married for third time. That one is a friend of a friend
17:14 why leave him and jump to another marriage
DeleteShe can warm her bed with men too
Poster, just like all the advice below, ignore him, focus on the children and quietly wait for the HIV, gonorrhea, syphilis or herpes that he will eventually give you, inugo?
DeleteMarriage ehh, Men please put in efforts. Extra Efforts. It takes Two to Build a Wonderful Relationship
ReplyDeleteExactly 💯
DeleteMadam this is what you should do:
DeleteDon't pay attention to him anymore.
Stop making him feel too important.
Pretend as if you are flirting with other guys. Always innitate meaningful conversation when you see any guy you know but your husband should not hear what you are talking about. Keep him guessing what you are always talking about with the guys. Things like this could make him jealous.
When you finish cooking don't stay back at home. Dress well and go out. Do this often. It will keep him guessing where you are always going. I didn't ask you to cheat please.
Before you do any of the above, make sure you gather enough evidence of the bad things he does with other laddies because he might claim that your change of attitude pushed him into doing what he is doing and he may send you packing(depending on the kind of person he is). When he explains to outsiders who have no idea of the reasons for your recent closeness to other guys, they might take sides with him.
Gather your evidences well cos you may be needing them in future
Which kain comment did Alexy post? SOmeone posted an issue with her hubby. You then decided to start asking "men to put in more effort". Iru oshi wo niyen?
DeleteIs it all men that is married to her? You all will use the mistake of one man to bash all men and sit pretty on your computer forming holy.
Women with stupid double standards.
You have done all of this, and he's still not interested? Hmmm. My dear, just ignore him for now. Focus on you, and your kids. Live your life. Hangout with your girlfriends if you can.
ReplyDeleteTurn your mind off sex and risk clitorial atrophy. Nature abhors vacuum. Buy a toy, nne. And if his push turns to shove, like you confirm he is legit having sex outside, you owe him no loyalty.
Delete@Ms Saphire, which one be "clitorial atrophy"? I never hear dis one before o.
DeleteYou are too available for him. Give him same treatment....even more.
ReplyDeleteSluttychic.
Gbam. Almost like she can’tlive her damn life without him. Poster doesn’t give him that excitement. Like back off and focus on you and do things that makes you happy. You’ve depended your happiness too much on him!! It’s hard but you have to else you’ll drive yourself crazy. Exactly what I’m doing right now. Focusing on me and with time, either he wakes up or you separate for your mental sanity. Start saving up financially and don’t wait until things get completely bad.
DeleteGbam
DeleteExactly, she should just ignore the hell out of him.
DeleteShift Your focus on Yourself. Be Happy for Your Self.
ReplyDeleteFocus on Your Children and Your Job.
Had as it is, if you can switch off the socket of Sex/ Emotions towards him. Babe his attitude won't get to you
Exactly. Don't just focus on the kids. Start with number one. Your well being actually matters the most.
DeleteYou're right. Ignore and focus on your kids he will get the message. Pay Less of attention to him
DeleteI’m sorry if I were you, it’s either I leave the marriage or I get a sugar boy and start cheating codedly.
ReplyDeleteFace kids and forget about orgasm? Na kids make me come this life 😡
She will still have to watch over her shoulders while she cheats,It's better she comot kpatakpata and enjoy sweet sugarboy prick in peace abeg
DeleteFan ishi sugar boy 🤣🤣
DeleteIt’s even better to leave because it’s not worth it.
DeleteJust leave because that man doesn’t love you.
But if you want to continue a life time of “roommate” relationship then you can remain there.
It can never be me sha
Push up (original)
I have always seen Fan as an advocate of the sanctity of marriage on this blog. Why not leave the marriage instead of committing same adultery you accuse him of being guilty of?
Delete16:57 she may not want to leave if the marriage has certain benefits
DeleteThe aristocracy in Britain had affairs and stayed married
Has the spirit of Linda taken over Fan?
DeletePretend like he never existed .. do some crazy things that will make him jealous and stop asking for a while.. I’m sure he will come begging for it
ReplyDeleteSomeone that comes home 9pm everyday? How she won make unavailable horseband jealous 🤔
DeleteOmo.
DeleteThis isn’t marriage na
Marriage is for companionship not for breeding children and living like flat mates.
This isn’t nice at all and I feel so bad for you madam. I’m sorry.
Please focus on God and pour your love on him.
He’s all you have now.
If you can’t bear it anymore, get proof of his infidelity and divorce him.
So he can have freedom to go and follow those girls he’s booking for massage and sex.
And you move on with your life.
But if you can, ask God to show you what to do.
Ndo
Mma Nwachukwu
Poster, your husband no send you, lf na me, l won't talk to him, l will also be coming home around 9.pm. drop the kids at ur husband shop, and pretend to go some where , meet your friends to hook you up with a good maga, always come back around 9.pm. make sure you come back with takeway, l repeat don't talk to your husband. Do this for a 2 or 3 months, na your husband go call for family meeting.
DeletePlease whatever you do, don't ignore your kids. They are innocent in all of this. I'm so sorry poster.
DeleteFriends and maga hookup?
DeleteNa blackmail and complications you dey invite with your two hands o
May God come through for you dear.
ReplyDeleteReally heartbreaking. It is hard for cheats to change. If you knew from the onset and agreed to marry, then learn to face front.
DeleteWhy are people not scared of a wandering prick horseband infecting them with STDs.
ReplyDeletePoster do you not care for your life?
Why remain there??
Infections from diseases and sickness, evil spiritual manifestations, negative financial implications and the emotional abuse due to hits and blows to the self esteem are some of the results of having a cheating spouse. Please poster do everything you can to take care of yourself and kids and begin to plan and work towards your future.
DeleteWhy not ignore him,love and focus on yourself first
ReplyDeletePoster, stop greeting your husband from today, even if you see him on the road, don't greet him, don't sleep with him, don't beg him anymore, only talk to him about the welfare of the home, make sure he take care of his kids. Treat him like an enemy. I hate wicked men that maltreat their wives. Your husband no get any respect for you,. If na me, l will use my mouth and bury him.
DeleteMay God hear and answer you dearie
ReplyDeleteBad thing is that he cheats. If you still decide to stay with him, try to ignore him totally. Visit the gym and get into shape, dress sexy and make yourself very flashy, post nice photos on social media where he can see too but never never ask him for sex or act like you want it. He will get jealous and start asking for the sex, but dont give in until you sure he has changed.
ReplyDeleteMen are mostly the reason why marriages don't work out in Nigeria. Imagine a supposed horseband flirting with random girls and people advising his wife to face her kids and stop bothering about sex! Uwa diegwu o!!!
ReplyDeleteMadam, if he has any close friend, contact him and report the matter to him. If he still doesn't change. Tell him that what is good for the goose, is equally good for the gander..
Pretend like you are also cheating and see if that will catch his attention, if it doesn't, pls find your way out of that marriage cos it seems like it has ended already.
His friend is like him. I didn't know earlier and I was telling him how hubby misbehaves without knowing he is aware of his life style and was enabling him.
DeleteYou mean you did all what you wrote up there and still he ignores you? So sorry poster but see eeh just ignore this your hubby. Infact make him jealous,when he's around ignore him,infact just be pressing your phone as if you're chatting with someone,laugh at intervals.Press your ringtone as if your phone rang,then start talking and laughing out loud. Just make him jealous.
ReplyDeleteMy goodness, all this for a man who’s hardly even home and don’t give a damn. Poster needs to start working on being emotionally independent and just live her life.
DeletePay more attention to yourself in looking beautiful, pretend not to care so much about him apart from the basic stuff, don't act like you're interested in cozy moment with him even if you're. Be happy with your life. Let him see that you're happy without him..
ReplyDeleteAll these shii are tiring tho, I hate head/mind games, it's just unfortunate that some people are so messed up and if you don't give them drama, they'll never appreciate the peace you're giving them. If you guys were still in dating stage, I'd have asked you end the relationship.
Bonus: read 'The secret'😌✌️
Everything you said Dante.
DeleteThe book secret by who??🤷🏽♀️
DeleteWoww👌 @Dante Is this you ? Or ....
DeleteIf the above advice work, please, know when to stop and start enjoying your marriage. It was just a means to an end, not an end itself.
ReplyDeleteThe problem with some people is that they don't know when to drop the sword after the get victory
Your husband should not deny you sex, this is the bedrock of marriage. I don't know why some men do this. My own tip, which I applied to spice up lovemaking with my husband was fasting. We upped our game in fasting and prayers and Bible studies together. We bonded together the more, I had a more appealing physique. He began to look forward to it and I began to climax with every session.
ReplyDeleteClimaxing every session. You lucky lady. See me blushing, na wa ooo ☺️
DeleteWhy do men even do this nonsense? Like why? Do you get married to be unhappy? Why bring another persons child and torture her? Babe ignore him. It’s so hard to do I know. But stop caring or giving him attention. Touch your clits and cum, yes you are human and it’s normal to do it. Look for something to keep you so busy, do a course or join a group so you can be commenting alot and chatting. It this continues it’s enough grounds to move on
ReplyDeletewhy do men? So women don't do this? Stop forming holy for something that is common with both genders. You women need to stop saying "men this..men that". Focus on the issue and stop trying to bash all men based on the attitude of just one.
DeleteDon't listen to them here many have not tasted it or boys and girl who don't know marriage but offer advice ,pls do what Stella said,ignore him ,face your children and pray for him with time your silence and prayer will change him.how I wish people offer advice bases on their experience but on net many are babies ,is it easy to divorce
ReplyDeleteYes it’s easy to divorce
DeleteWhy are you entertaining a wandering man
If you don’t want to divorce, go have your own affair
What about her sexual desires, you don't think its important?
DeletePoster your husband doesn't find you sexually attractive, he only married you to bore him kids and be his "mother". It's up to you to decide what to do with all these information.
Na me fit that your husband, he will run mad in broad day light. Last last life is not fair. People that can’t hurt a fly end up with UGM.
ReplyDeletehahahhahha 😂😂😂😂😂. Na people wey not fit quarrel dey meet malice Mr and Mistress.
DeleteChai. Chai.
Lmao! Sotey Unknown Gun Men sef collect stray bullet. Damn!!🤣🤣
DeletePeople like the poster husband don't marry their type or someone who can stand up to them. They find prey to feast on, may we not meet devil sons and daughters in the name of marriage
DeleteWhat's a marriage without companionship, children cannot substitute for such companionship? If there's someone you both are committed to, don't hesitate to inform them, you cannot continue to suffer in silence while he derives joy in a way that seems best to him.
ReplyDeleteAfter all you put in and no changes? I think he has logged out of the marriage in every way. He is only waiting for you to get tired and say you quit.
ReplyDeleteI don't under BVs telling Poster to ignore her husband. Like, how? Isn't that immature behavior? Two adults need to be able to discuss what's going on and reach some sort of solution. Poster, I'd lay out my terms to him very clearly. Then I'd give him some time to adjust, if he agrees. If he doesn't start to change or refuses to change from the onset, BOUNCE! Why stay and suffer there? This is not marriage. He's cheating. Has no regard for your needs. Why suffer there? This isn't sustainable. You will grow to resent him if morning changes. If you're open to counseling, you could give it a try. Try all you can, if you want, before throwing in the towel.
ReplyDeleteWhere did you see two adults biko. I can only see one abeg
DeleteMost times he is still into the marriage, he is just trying to boost his ego that he is still hot cake.
ReplyDeleteTry living your life and dishing out to him subtly the way he dishes.
I learnt the harder you try to make a point that you are a virtuous woman the more some of them feel you are disturbing their lives.
Set your own boundaries, sometimes when he wants to talk to you about something, politely decline.
Place value on yourself. I sacrificed much for my home, married him when he had nothing, slept on the floor for years with him. Prayed and fasted for his success, when the money arrived, he started hanging out with girls. Yet , I was advised to focus on children and be grateful he comes home.
I borrowed sense and made myself a priority.
Respectfully insult him whenever he disrespects me.
He got the message and now we talk like two matured adults that adults each others boundaries.
Sometimes, we enable whatever that's breaking us
* he got the message and now we talk like two matured adults that understand each other boundaries
DeleteIgnore him completely, get a dildo and pleasure yourself, try to be as self sufficient as possible knowing the kind of person you are dealing with.
ReplyDeleteRabbit dildo type with loud vibrating noise and fvck yourself when horny, even at night beside him. Make love to yourself and don't need him, he will long for you.
Delete"Some men like to be treated like trash ♻️" and submit to boss ladies, independent small girls, and fine face with big Yash, this should motivate where you channel your hunger for orgasm too.
Get busy making money, some men get turned off from women too dependent and available. Don't just get horny get financially horny to be respected
It is well with your home
ReplyDeleteHe feels you are worthless without him. Show him you have been existing happily before you met him. Thank God you have children. Download movies and watch if you don't know what to do while alone at home. Give him the 'I don't care attitude'
ReplyDeleteAunty
ReplyDeleteStay there until you get HIV