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NEW WIFE ISSUES
I need your help.
I am a young wife and I love to have s#x- with my husband. The only problem is I have Never had an orgasm.
Note that my husbands size is not a problem neither his usage because he asks me questions during the act about what I want or do not want, yet nothing.
This is making me so sad as I cannot imagine not having earth shaking orgasms till I die. I can ride and I have tried to ride and control the movement yet nothing.
I have even started praying. So I decided to come here and ask some questions, maybe God wants to answer me on this platform. Help a newly married sister. What should I do? Any tips? NB: He’s my first and only.
*Continue Praying and if possible watch that movie ' The Prayer room' LMAO!!!
Relax madam... With time, it will happen ...how you make it sound so serious tho😳
ReplyDelete@Shea it is where the shoe pinches a person. Poster- try fun play, sucking and fingering, some times it is difficult for circumcised ladies, but fun play, relaxed mind, bathing together and starting from there can help, etc. Let experts help. ORGANISM IS OVER RATED SHA, JUST DEY SHOUT DEY GO. E HAPPEN FINE, E N O HAPPEN, REMOVE YOUR MIND FROM THE OVER HYPING
DeleteLol @ just dey shout dey go.
DeletePoster, more foreplay before the do might help. Keep trying.
Organism bawo😁😁
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣Stella ooo your bvs are great @just dey shout dey go and organism.
DeleteHeaven is the goal
Dear psoter,I understand you perfectly well because I am in the same shoes. I had to go and do some research and discovered that some women just won't achieve orgasm through penetrative sex. It's not your fault,neither your husband's...it's just the way it is. That does not mean that you will never experience orgasm in your life...you just have to look for another way to achieve it. You have to explore your body and discover what works for you..it maybe oral sex or masturbation (which is the only way I can achieve orgasm). It may or may not involve you touching yourself or using sextoys. You have to be ready to explore your body,hopefully your husband can help you. Don't fake an orgasm and make him believe all is well. Talk to him and let him help you find what works for you.
DeleteAnd no...it's not because you have not jammed the dick that will make you see heavens cos even with the best of best...you may still not experience orgasm through penetrative sex. Do some research.
Hello everyone, Im the poster.
DeleteI had to confirm today if I was circumcised and I was not.
so the hurdle isn't inborn per say.
Thank you so much everyone for the advice.
I would book mark this for future reference.
thank you my blog FAM, I look forward to ground breaking orgasms.😂😂😂😂
My dear abeg forget orgasm. As long as you enjoy the sex manage it like that!. You never jam real problem. Uf you jam agbako orgasm will be the last thing on your mind
DeleteTell him to stroke ur clitoris for a while. I promise u it will be earth shaking and shattering. Ur clitoris is at the tip of the lips of ur virgina. Go to google and check an image To be sure. Then carry go. Thank me later
DeleteThat thing called organism hmmmm if you’ve not experienced it ehhn Pele. The feeling is heaven I start speaking in tongues 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteOnye nmehe 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteIf you are circumcised you can have orgasm because the simulator has been cut off
Deletecan't
DeletePretty grateful I’ve never had an “ organism” 🤪
DeleteWhat’s wrong with y’all keypads?? 😂 😂 very soon the only ORGANISM you’d experience after sex would be a very bouncing baby boy. 😂
DeleteAre you sure she knows when she is reaching orgasm
DeleteThis Organism get level o. 🤔
DeleteI don't mean to be insensitive but I find you rather insatiable!
ReplyDeleteAh ahh! You said his gbola size and usage is ok,What the he!k more do you want??
I blame this on people that over exaggerate sexcapades online.
Please Note:Reaching orgasm is never a criterion of a good sex.
Live and enjoy with what you've got haba!
What is sex without “orgasm”
DeleteHaving a huge dick or knowing how to use it is not enough. She deserves to have orgasms and her complaining is justified.
Sluttychic.
Sex without orgasm is a waste of time and energy.
DeletePoster May Jesus fix it oo
It's the main criterion🤭
DeleteHah! How can she not cum during sex? Where will the relaxed, happy cuddly feeling come from?
Na una sabi o😂😅
DeleteFidel leave me abeg 😂😂😂
DeletePoster please note that a woman mustn’t t cum upon every sexual inter course o. Yes, it would be great for you to experience climax during sex but don’t put your hubby under unnecessary pressure by thinking one must cum during every session pls.
DeleteYes a man can cum from just a 3 minutes quickie but then nature didn’t favor us that way. Ours need special things or trigger to get us there and it can take some time unlike for men.
Sex without orgasm is unsatisfying. Poster, you need to know where your G-spot is located, then try different styles to see the one that takes you to cloud 9. Mine is cowgirl, I cum so fast and hard.
DeleteYour hubby can also try fingering or giving you head while playing with your tities. That's another way you can cum so fast because the nerve in your breast is connected to the one in your clit and sends sensation straight to your clit.
Read it up on internet. There maybe loads of reasons. If may not be earth shaking as you describe it there. And you may have reached it without knowing. By the way how did you know it was earthshaking? Pls read it up and bodies are different. And don't worry you will sure have it before you die.
ReplyDeleteBy the way how did you know it was earthshaking? Answer romance novels and hearsay.
DeleteSister Poster, it is different for different people (men and women).
Relax. Do not put your husband under performance stress o. Thank God he is caring enough to ask you about your needs. You both should continue to experiment on touching different parts of your body to find out your most sentive body part. Experiment with different rythms of the act too. Best wishes.
I feel the strong need to comment on this, though I'm not married.
DeleteIt took me like 7 years of having sex to experience orgasm. That's because you need to do lots of self discovery to what your body likes. Mind, you I stopped worrying about cuming. I rather focused on what makes me tick.
For many women, the G-spot is where the center of nerves are, you can start from there. Shower 🚿 head is also a great help.
Just relax, research, keep your mind open and explore your bodies! It will come..
7 years is long pls
DeleteY’all need to get professional help when issues arise
Do you guys do a lot of foreplay,touching,eating,licking etc it helps a lot and can get you ready before thrusting starts.
ReplyDeleteGbam for this comment. Spend time on foreplay
DeleteI started having sex in 2013 and I just had my first orgasm in 2021 , my hubby is simply the best , I achieved this by riding his finger , I climb him and he positions his finger on my clit , I move about to derive pleasure on it for a couple of minutes and after building up , I cum … try this method
DeleteDear poster in same boat, most times I just allow husband man to stroke my clits with his finger to c#m but with his large dick rara I don't c#m. The cause might be because of years of masturbation which God delivered me from. Another culprit is spirit husband believe it or not. In fact so long as you masturbate there is a spirit behind it and it is called spirit husband. Let's keep praying and hope we experience the big O someday
ReplyDeleteMasturbation has nothing to do with spirit husband Nigeria women and outdated mentality.
DeleteSome people only get clitoral orgasms
DeleteMasturbating has nothing to do with it
If you stimulate the insides, you can orgasm from penetrating but not everyone will
At cannon 16:00 make your damn point and disappear. That is my mentality and I own it. Keep moving
DeleteYou are so wrong. Not having an orgasm has nothing to do with spirit husband. I doubt if mastubation has anything to do with that too. Not all women cum from penetration...for hubby and I, I just enjoy the trusting till he comes then he uses his hands to rub my Clit till I come. I like him doing that while I like down doggy style. He spends time on foreplay so I am all to ready...sometimes though if we do a style that makes it easy for him to also touch my clit while thrusting I cum too...poster let your husband spend time touching your body and your clit if you have one...sex without orgasm na nonsense
DeleteNne it's too early to worry about orgasm. Read up on the internet and explore each other's body. Enjoy your marriage.
ReplyDeleteFast and pray And study the teachings of Christ. Godliness is profitable in all things. Hugs
ReplyDeleteFast and study the teachings of Christ keh🤣🤣🤣🤣how will that help her to achieve orgasm😂😂Abi is this playing?
DeleteNo matter ur level of spirituality craving sexual satisfaction from ur partner is not a sin na.Shebi they say legitimate pounding is the sweetest and sex is only for the married? Now she is married and still yearning to be satisfied and enjoy her sexcapades and u are sending her on another entirely different errand.She is not doing anything wrong by asking for ways to explore sex with her husband
If u can’t advice her properly please rest.
Overzealous Christian Abeg allow her look for orgasm o which one be fast and pray again,abeg swerve.
DeleteEverything is not “fast and pray”. Something that has a human solution una go still dey shout.
Delete@Poster, first thing to check is whether you are one of the circumcised ones. If yes, orgasm is far from you a bit.
Now there are some ladies that can’t reach orgasm during normal dick inside toto sex. Please try below actions.
You and your hussie should get in the 69 position and give yourselves (you (poster) don’t necessarily need to do it but your concentration is required and fold your own legs towards your head) fellatio and cunnilingus respectively.
Your hussie should use his 2 thumbs to move the flesh around your vjay backwards and this will expose your clitoris. Once he starts stroking the clitoris back and forth (gently) with his tongue, you are on your way.
I am coming back to type the remaining styles.
Oooo sis you are missing, tell your hubby to do enough foreplay that is the core. Gently bite your nipple while sucking and caressing, then his hand game and clitoris is what sends one to partial stroke. My Fiance is yet to penetrate but his foreplay is MAD. I do not want the sex just his sucking and clit stimulation does it. See me vibrating like electric shock. Omg I'm on my way to get some. O LORD HAVE MERCY ON YOUR DAUGHTER AND FORGIVE ME FOR I HAVE GREATLY SINNED AMEN
ReplyDeleteToday’s chronicle ehn, lemme be jumping under you peoples comments like an efulefu that I am
DeleteIf you've never had sex before, how can you tell you haven't orgamsed? Or you have experienced orgasm through masturbation?
ReplyDeleteWere you circumcised? If you weren't, then I'm surprised that you don't orgasm when you ride him. There's a technique to riding that ensures your G-spot and clitoris are simultaneously stimulated, leading to a satisfying orgasm.
One doesn't necessarily need to have sex to experience orgasm,For some foreplay does it.
DeleteIf you orgasm for the first time, there is no how you won't know o. Ah! You will know se
DeleteAnon you’re right and I’m sure HRH knows that too.
DeleteBut HRH’s comment is based on what OP said as regards cumming during sex, of course she can be made to cum with foreplay but we all know cumming during the main do itself is a different kinda cumming..hehe
If she isn’t circumcised and she rides the D well then that technique HRH talked about needs to come into play while she’s on top.
The husband in his lying position has a little role to play too especially when she’s about 5min into the act. He just need to direct a few intentional strokes here and there with his lips sucking on one nipple, one of his hand nibbling on the other nipple, the other hand caressing and spanking her ass while she grinds her clit on the base of his D.
Which ever angle/direction she responds to the most while his directing the strokes, he should maintain and before he gives her another ten strokes trust me she’d be vibrating with fire and ice.
But madam hope you have peace of mind and also try not to be too tensioned about it, eventually you’d get there with time just relax.
Even if you have things bothering you as is the case with every living human, try to free your mind during love making so you can actually enjoy it because if you don’t learn to enjoy it…it’s only a matter of time before it start seeming like a chore to you which will in turn affect your husband because he’d notice.
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Chai.. Big Booty!! Oga na master🙌🙌🙌
DeleteBaba o! Baba o!!! I hail o @ BBM
DeleteWatch the principles of pleasure on Netflix and no dey bother yourself too, it took me 18 years of knocking with hubby to experience after I spent time to understand my body with my partner flow. Don't be carried away by stories, understand you first
ReplyDeleteMy sister, the only thing I can tell you is enjoy your new marriage, husband and sex life... thank God and be happy that he tries to communicate with you, take you along and let's you have control during love making. Don't be so eager to experience orgasm abi na earth shaking, it will come when you least expect, in the meantime enjoy yourself to the fullest, don't hold back or try to question him or try to look for what isn't missing.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy every moment of this new adventure of yours and watch as things will take it's natural course.
Congratulations on your marriage and I wish you plenty eart shaking experience to come!
PS: DON'T OVER THINK, JUST GO WITH THE FLOW
KEKZ
You have started praying 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteSorry to laugh, what’s your prayer point?🤣🤣🤣🤣
This, I want to know.🤣🤣🤣
DeleteFor an orgasm
DeleteIf God created all good things why can she pray for this
To discover how to go about achieving an orgasm
DeleteFan there's nothing prayer cannot do o🤣
DeleteYour state of mind helps. The seriousness, responsibilities and expectations that surround marriage is enough to hinder that earth-shattering experience. I enjoy it most when it is not traditional; when it is naughty and mischievous. Try awkward places like in the car or office. Go clubbing, scream, dance, jump, get drunk and have a quickie in some naughty corners where you run the risk of being caught. The adrenaline from that naughty act will take both of you weeks and constant sex like rabbits to quench.
ReplyDeleteHaaa,car or office ke?
DeleteBody differs.
DeletePoster, since your husband is your first and only, give it time. by the time your body gets used to the constant kpanshing, then the Earth Shaking Orgasm wey you dey find, na you go even tire for am you know practise makes perfect, what's your sensitive spot? i.e the place that gets you wet or puts you in the mood when he touches/s*ck it.
ReplyDeleteif its your breast, tell him to su*k while you are riding him the cow girl style. that way you might cum. Don't be shy to tell him the right way to pleasure you.
Sex is 100% enjoyable when both partners teach each other the right way to explore their bodies.
Well, it takes time to learn your body and how to use it. Are you circumcised? Not having a clitoris will make it much more difficult, not impossible but difficult.
ReplyDeleteMaybe try tantric sex. Rwandas have a process method that men use which is very effective in bringing on orgasm in women, I can't remember the name now, but it alternates between penetration/thrusting and pulling the penis back out to rub and beat on the clitoris. Keep alternating back and forth with that until orgasm is reached. This technique requires a little skill on the man's part, but it will work if it is done properly.
Stop stressing yourself out. Do massaging, lots of foreplay, dirty talk if that is something up your alley, sometimes take weekend getaways if you can afford it, change the scenery, sometime a little role playing. Make it fun and enjoy the process.
This!!!
DeleteKeep riding, you'll get there
ReplyDeleteUse a vibrator. Hubby can be around or not. Some people only have clitoral orgasms. Try reaching those first with a vibrator or by self stimulating with your fingers.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to try with hubby, try doggy. He needs to stimulate you in a way that allows you give up control of your body and that’s where some good wine helps
Stella, where is my comment nau😳
ReplyDeleteSee wahalaaa.. chai this is what reading fake stories of orgasm can do
ReplyDeleteYou need to read up on orgasm and stop believing other ladies stories. Many ladies have never experienced orgasm but claim they have.
You need to explore your body and find out what makes you orgasm and unlock it.
You have a husband that listens to you during sex so don't mess it up. Read and explore
Lastly orgasm is a thing of the mind so relax and don't put yourself under pressure
Try having sex in fun positions,it mustn’t be the traditional bedroom and prepared sex,try to be spontaneous, sip some wine,sometimes u can start the touching body and foreplay from the car start teasing urselves,giving a head,it sets the mood, sex can be in the kitchen,sitting room,dining area,in the shower,just try to be spontaneous and stop bin too anxious for an orgasm, initiate sex too don’t always wait for him to make the move,give him a badass head,let him reciprocate then finger u before he finally penetrates😂😂😂.i wish u mind blowing orgasm.
ReplyDeleteThis kind chronicle in this weather..Poster try more of foreplay
ReplyDeleteHas he tried rubbing his penis on your clitoris? Also try to understand your body
ReplyDeleteTry and use his penis to rub your nipple while his penis is releasing small small egg white. This might help
DeleteDon’t bother so much about it. Most women never had an orgasm during penetrative sex. Am 32and I have only had it twice through penetrative sex in my entire life, And it was while I was riding, So don’t worry yourself, you guys can introduce sex toys, vibrators to do the trick. Oral sex can also make you reach orgasm if properly done, but most people don’t know how to do it. So don’t worry dear, you would get there someday, in the meantime try my suggestions.
ReplyDeleteShe hasn’t had any
DeleteCheck that stats on penetrative orgasm for women. It's very low. Maybe less than 30% of women experience it. With that in mind, just enjoy the journey. It will come with more experience.No pressure. I only ever experienced it after my first baby.
ReplyDeleteYou want to experience wind rushing through your ears as your abunna involuntarily clenches and milks him.
ReplyDeleteyou know this 🥹🥹🥹
DeleteWatching lesbian porn makes me wet and horny, to think I'm not even a lesbian.
ReplyDelete🙄
DeleteLike u rightly said he is your first. Maybe u should try to learn your body parts that arouse you, e. G clit and have him play with those parts during mekwe
ReplyDeleteHopefully this will be posted. 1st of all, when you are having your moment with your husband, remove your mind from that will I even cum? Just free yourself and tell yourself you are doing to have a good time. Tell your Husband to engage in other plays with you like sucking your breast and all. In the process, tell him sweet words and allow him express himself to you as well. Make your play last for like an hour Afterall the main action is not more than 15mins anyways. Get a good lubricant too even though you get wet, still use it on him and allow your body relax. May God give you peace and enjoyment in your union. Amen
ReplyDeleteJust lay down by the side of bed, spread your legs with your eyes closed. Let your husband use his erected penis to beat your clitoris.. You will cum
ReplyDeleteLol. Why is this funny?
DeleteAnonymous please don't 😁😁😃😄, our sister is in distress. Na solution we dey find.😄
DeleteEat alot of fruits and be drinking beater all the time.
ReplyDeleteFind your self first. We are all different, some from foreplay, some lovemaking, some rough riding, some hardcore, some bdms,somesamesex en all Same goes for squirting.. discover what turns you on and really moist down there work on it.
ReplyDeleteSome women do not experience orgasm through penetrative sex, you just might be one of them. There are other ways for you to experience orgasm outside penetrative sex. You guys could try clitoral stimulation with his hands, you can try grinding your clitoris on his thigh, if you guys are more adventurous, a vibrator stimulating your clit will definitely help you orgasm
ReplyDeleteEverything is not “fast and pray”. Something that has a human solution una go still dey shout.
ReplyDelete@Poster, first thing to check is whether you are one of the circumcised ones. If yes, orgasm is far from you a bit.
Now there are some ladies that can’t reach orgasm during normal dick inside toto sex. Please try below actions.
Number 1
You and your hussie should get in the 69 position and give yourselves (you (poster) don’t necessarily need to do it but your concentration is required and fold your own legs towards your head) fellatio and cunnilingus respectively.
Your hussie should use his 2 thumbs to move the flesh around your vjay backwards and this will expose your clitoris. Once he starts stroking the clitoris back and forth (gently) with his tongue, you are on your way.
Number 2.
ReplyDeleteUse copious amount of coconut oil, KY gel or any other slippery stuff.
Your husband should lay on his back and stick out his left or right knee flat on the bed.
You should lay on him in such a position that both your are open and your vjay is sitting directly on his knee.
Start foreplay (kissing, fondling etc.) and continue grinding your clit against his knee. Meanwhile, let him stretch one of his hands across your bum and towards your vjay.
As your clit grinds the knee, the back part of your vjay will also be brushing his hands. Maximum is 5 minutes, you must release cum. If you don’t come and use finger press my nose.
Number 3.
ReplyDeleteUse copious gel. Get into horse riding position with your hussie.
Once you are set and everything is inside, lay on his chest and put your laps directly on your his laps and fold your legs towards your head.
Now start grinding in such a style as if you are swimming whilst he should be sucking your boobs alternately. E sure die say you go scream with tears of joy.
Number 4.
ReplyDeleteMake you go try 1 to 3 first because number 4 upwards can turn you into nympho.
Let me go and drink water.
Madam, don’t stress yourself.. all you need is good mouth action.. no fasting and prayer needed.. just lay on your back, tell him to open your gate with his 2 fingers(to avoid eating wrongly) then he should gently worship the throne..lick the inner pinky flesh, roll the tongue on the clit , while his finger is in you rocking the upper part of the puma… come back and thank me later .. lobatan!!
ReplyDeleteLet him eat your punana not like chewing gum o, but like lolipop/icecream, tongues focused more on our clits and fingers stimulating your nipples. Or you position and gbensh his tongue if his fingers don't get to your nipples in this position use yours, start slowly and advance as your body demand. You will explode from any of this.
ReplyDeleteTry making love on your washing machine and see orgasm.🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
ReplyDeleteYou just started it with your husband, the pain for now will not make you feel any orgasm. After some months or years you will start feeling it.
ReplyDeleteThis could also be a result of sexual incompatibility. With the right partner, reaching climax shouldn't be a struggle.
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous 19:45 has given you the answer. Some women do not reach orgasm through penetration. Some women may achieve orgasm through penetration when they are younger but as they get older (I mean even in your 30s) it may vanish. The main driving force for orgasms in a woman is the clitoris. That is the powerhouse of the female orgasm. I encourage you to explore that. Clit orgasms as even stronger most times (heavenly for me). You can also explore clitorial stimulation during penetration and see if that works for you. Or even nipple & clitorial stimulation. Every woman is different, you have to find out what works you up to an orgasm.
The person that said that the veins from your breasts are connected to your clit - this is so true.
For those saying that orgasms are not necessary in sex - hmm, you never jam. You are probably saying that because you have not experienced one. You need to experience it in this lifetime - it is very necessary in sex. Which kind put your husband under stress - Na waa o! If he does not know how to bring you to an orgasm, he is not doing his job!!! He should go and find out how to please his wife. God designed the clitoris for pleasure!
If you are however circumcised, I am really sorry. I do not think all hope is lost for you because I learnt that the clitoris is a very huge organ - I also runs along the walls of the vagina, (the g-spot is actually part of the clit), if you can access it, and stimulate it, you will get the pleasure - do some research and some practice.
Indeed, there is no shame is desiring sexual pleasure during marriage. That is when and where you should get it.
Try to understand your body first by yourself, play with yourself and figure out what excites you. Alot of ladies don't cum through penetration. Play with your clit during sex, you might be able to cum through clitoral stimulation
ReplyDeletePoster, I was like you initially. In my case, we met when I was 19 -young & innocent. We did it for the 1st time on my 20th bday. We dated & gbenshed a through till we finally tied the knot when I was 26.
ReplyDeleteOn our first wedding anniversary, I was just running my mouth on how sweet a person he is and how fortunate I am to be his wife. In his response, he didn't share my joy as he told me that he felt less of a man and unfulfilled cos for the number of years and the past year he was unable to bring me to orgasm. I told him it wasn't his fault but my parents who decided to cut off my clit. He told me had several circumcised GFS in the past who climaxed.
That was how I started faking orgasm o and he started feeling good and would brag about how he would make me cum if I don't do his bidding...lol. He was happier and his self confidence increased.
3 years down the line, I was still faking until one day while riding him with my boobs in his mouth suddenly his manhood scrubbed against the wall of my pussy and I felt a sudden wave of pleasure that was so deep and I let out a scream. Note that I don't moan during sex, I'm a quiet gbensher...lol. so that scream was out of place but he also came instantly and I now understood what it meant to arrive together at the same time. Later on, when we spoke about it,he said he has never felt my pussy tighten on him the way it did and my body shook with trembling like there was a spasm going on. Then he told me that he finally located my G.spot and that all the while I thought I was cumming, that I wasn't, that this is when I have started cumming.
Well, I rode/ride him more than he rides me but I still don't cum each time. So try to scrub his dick on all sides of your pussy as you ride him to locate your G spot. I believe every woman with a vagina has and circumcision has nothing on it.
Good luck.
Poster let me tell you my secret. Let your hubby finger you and touch your nipples, then close your eyes and imagine watching porn or imagining people having sex in your presence I bet you, you will come.
ReplyDeleteHuhh?? To imagine others having sex?? This is such a ridiculous statement! She should fantasize her husband banging her and not others jeezzzz
DeleteWith my plenty sexual experience, i didn't experience orgasm till i met my husband.
ReplyDeleteSome of us don't achieve orgasm by penetrative sex.
What makes me come is when my husband is squeezing my nipples while i or he uses his penis to stimulate (very delicately o) my clitoris concurrently.
The clit is very important