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TOO YOUNG?
I finally met this amazing man that ticks all the boxes but am eight years older than he is.
I finally met this amazing man that ticks all the boxes but am eight years older than he is.
He was born in 1984 while I was born in 1976.I love him so much but I worry that I am preventing him from meeting someone younger.
It would break my heart if he has to go,living without him would break me completely as i've been through so much but i just don't know what to do
He is all i've ever prayed and wished for.My dream man,my gist partner,we spent almost three hours last night talking.
He makes me so happy,he has told me he is with me because he wants to but the age difference is killing me.
Do i break up with him or stay?
My dear, to some, age does not matter...
Does your man know about the age difference? Is he comfortable with it? You sound like you want Marriage? Have you both discussed it or is this just a relationship? Do you think he is controlled by his family who might find your age a problem? Find out all these things before you decide if you want to break up or not....
Good luck dear!
Have you told him your age?
ReplyDeleteThat is the one that will be a problem if you haven't
Ok, '76 means you are 46 and he '84 is 38.
DeleteWhen you say you've been through a lot, trust me, I understand. My advice is enjoy yourself. Love and attention has a way of making you glow and more attractive. Just hang on with him just for as long as it lasts. You didn't mention he is breaking the roof asking you to marry him. Many of them are in it for the time being for what they gain from mature women taking advantage of their needs then they bail. Even when they marry, they make you grovel and practically buy them. Hopefully, b4 then, you will attract someone else who will tick even this age box. An older man has higher tendency of treating you better and you won't feel inferior hanging out with him like this 38 year old. There are single late 40's and 50s men out there. My ex is still single, my husband has friends that are still single, not to mention divorced and widowed men out there. Please, magic can still happen if you take advantage of this current relationship glow and be happy. Get rid of the worry, it will only rub you off that joy that gives you that inner glow.
Sis, enjoy your love, hmm, love no too dey. Hold am tightly if he chooses to stay with u. Who no like make e hug transformer.
DeleteSorry sis but don’t listen to waiting for another. The older man might leave you too. Anyone can leave you. If you have the money, marry him but leave Nigeria. Come to the u.s or Canada or some other country. Over here people enjoy their marriage in peace without all the older than younger than tribe this tribe that. Unless you travel out and go find trouble mingling with trouble makers that will be interested in your life
DeleteI'm in thesame boat as you. He is everything I wish for but I don't encourage him to talk about marriage. I just want to enjoy that moment.
DeleteIf he chose to be with you and respect you, while fight it?
ReplyDeleteIf he was my brother, would not allow him marry or friend you in this 9jia. Age matters a lot. Tell him your age and go from there. Funny enough you are my age mate,and the guy my sisters ade mate.
DeleteTell him your age. If he stays, then he has made his choice. I have never read that a marriage broke up or became unsuccessful because the husband is younger. What matters is the characters of the spouses.
ReplyDeleteCharacter is sometimes or rather mostly a function of age. It could be the difference between being mature and immature in the relationship/marriage
DeleteMarry the man if he wants to marry you
ReplyDeleteWhat’s the worst that can happen? Divorce
What’s the best? A great marriage
Don’t talk yourself out of the chance for a lovely marriage with someone you believe loves you. He’s 38 years old. Not a baby. He’s old enough to make his own decisions
How can you break up with someone that makes you happy?.
ReplyDeleteMe I like youngsters oo
The younger the better mehn..
Those smallie are the real deal mehn..
Enjoy while it last
Hahahaha no be u again
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DeleteQueen Linda abia kwa🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lmao! But those smallies might have their own "smallies" on the side o. You may not know.
Delete😂 😂 😂 😂 Don't worry MM Linda knows. Whether she cares is another matter...........
DeleteWhat will crash this relationship or marriage is that he finds out your true age, if you hide it.
ReplyDeleteYes to Stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteYou need to ask questions and find out somethings for yourself,because a man of his age might have a family somewhere and might just be using you to catch cruise due to your mature age which makes you seem desperate.
FIND OUT PRIVATE THINGS ABOUT HIM.
Ask him about marriage plans,don't be ashamed,He is long overdue for marriage likewise you.
Goodluck!
I don't think you understood the chronicle. The lady is older with 8yrs.
DeleteNo one is ever long over due for marriage. Whenever they find their soul mates, that is the due time!
DeleteTalk to him about the age dfference. All the best
ReplyDeleteI totally understand your fears but if he chose you, he had his reasons..
ReplyDeleteFind out his reasons for choosing you
DeleteDoes he know your age? Don't hide it from him.. That's likely the only thing that can crash the relationship
ReplyDeleteIf he's okay with the age difference, marry him.
ReplyDeletePoster give it a little time and be observant. You will know the truth deep down by the way he treats you. Actions speak louder than words. Also it seems to me you are becoming too invested too fast. Maybe apply the breaks a little, have you heard the saying "when you rush you crash"? Try to take it easy. If he is genuine ride on, if not consider your future and try not to waste your time being too invested.
DeleteWhy are you creating problems for yourself where there’s none?id say give the relationship a shot cos that age shit is old school now.what do you stand to lose?you’ll be hurt if you let him go after all so just enjoy it while it lasts and hopefully it lasts for a long time.i wish you all the best
ReplyDeleteFell in love with someone I'm 2 years older than , left because of that . He was even more in love with me hmmm. Now I'm married to someone 4 years older and everyday is premium tears. can I go back ? Hell no! Can you make a better choice ? Please go ahead as long as he loves u and he's well aware.
ReplyDeleteMe I can go back
DeleteMy friend is married to her ex after 8 years with the one she chose instead of him. I know people might say leave the guy alone but why, he too may want you back
You left because you’re just 2 years older than him? Even though he makes you happy? Well deal with your everyday premium tears. A lot of you women don’t know what you want honestly.
DeleteDoes he have a mother? Hmmm
ReplyDeleteYou want to kill his mother? Why that question
DeleteAll those telling you to go ahead are hypocrates men are usually sensitive to this especially Africans and what if his people are not comfortable with it ,they will soon find out,men can say yes now and under pressure of age turn against it later ,pls tell him and don't give him cookies until marriage otherwise he will soon see opeke ,if he is oyinbo ,I will say no problem but Africans that can carry other people matter for head when dey no send them are the problem,
ReplyDeleteGod bless you i just made a comment down there on how it never ends well for Africans when it comes to age. You are the only truthful one here.
DeletePeter Okoye is still married to his wife in spite of everything. His brother that married a younger woman is going through a divorce.
DeletePoster, if he sees nothing wrong with it and is a genuinely good person, please go ahead. Most of the women that have been going through rubbish in their marriage are married to men older than them.
You go chop breakfast I’m not capping …
ReplyDeleteDon't hide anything, if he throughly loves you,definitely he will stay,,the early the better for you both,tell him all he needed to know.
ReplyDeleteWe moveeeeee
So that makes you 46 right? Are you still looking to have kids? Does he want kids? 8 year gap a bit up there to be honest. It doesn’t matter if the guy is 8 years older or you are. You need to open up to him and not lead him on. Not fair to him at all and not fair to you as well because you’ll end up in an emotional wreck if care is not taken. Tell him the truth and let him make that decision. A lot of outside influences can break a marriage or a relationship. Good luck.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, whatever you do, do not ask him about marriage or what his plans are. Trust me, he knows what he wants, if it's you, he will pop the question. Don't let your fears make you stop enjoying the moment and a beautiful tomorrow, if tomorrow ever comes!
ReplyDeleteAsk him oh
DeleteIf not, he might later say he thought she understood they were just having fun
Wake up from your slumber poster, it never ends well for Africans when it comes to age difference, don't say i did not tell you.
ReplyDeleteI’m not saying they won’t talk about you if you marry him
ReplyDeleteBut aren’t they already talking about you
Girl grab him if he wants to marry. Na their mouth let them talk. You use yours for better tin
I have seen my cousin marry a woman that's is 15 yrs older than him, my cousin familyb the lady to my cousin and he accepted. The lady has bastard money.
DeleteBe happy and don't think much about the age gap. Whenever happiness comes your way, enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteBut tell him the truth about your age. Everything will be OK.
Those younger dudes are so caring.
Enjoy the thrill of dating a younger man but do not marry him. It will not end well. The age difference is much in my opinion. Look for someone older or just relax and enjoy him for now. All the best.
ReplyDeleteMarry him
DeleteWhat’s the worst that can happen
You born your pikins abd he waka of you stay and no born pikin
Babe please leave him alone before the feelings gets beyond you. ,8years in Nigeria is a big age difference. Even if he says yes. Society will put him under pressure that he might not stand with you for so long. Imagine hanging out with his friends and you are the oldest amongst them. Your own handsome man will.locate you. Gone are the days when women are desperate for marriage. Enjoy your single life very well and wait for your own man.
ReplyDeleteDon’t wait
DeleteMy sister she’s 46. Marry the one you see now if he’s good to you
Forget Nigerian people’s mouth
Once you born pikin in the mans house,they will change and start supporting you
Carry your marriage and run to a country where no one cares. I wish I could get you to the u.s. Travel out and stay away from “typical” Nigerians till your marriage is well settled in
Age is an issue here in Africa
ReplyDeleteAre you sure he isn't there for your money
ReplyDeleteIt could be
DeleteBut she can born her pikin and he can go after
Both can happily use each other
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😅 Anonymous, you are wicked.
DeleteAll these "it doesn't end well", all the divorce stories we have been hearing, what's the percentage of those with older wives? Abeg make una rest.
ReplyDeleteI'm just surprised poster and the man have not spoken about their age.
Exactly is the percentage 80%?
DeleteI’m sure he has told her it’s fine
DeleteBut she can’t let go and let God. Enjoy sister
If he knows your age differences and still want to be with you then I see nothing wrong. I hope you can respect him as a man or as your husband, if you can be submissive to him in all aspect without considering the fact that you are older than him please go ahead with whatever you feel for him.
ReplyDeleteYou both should try as much as possible to keep your age difference away from your both family cos most times family members are the ones who makes mountain out of a hill.
Love is not a respect-a of anyone so enjoy your sugar boy.
Dear Poster, I am 9 years older than my husband, I didn’t want to marry him initially for this reason alone. Now I’m glad I did, he’s my gift from God. The trick is to keep the age difference to yourselves, most people will not understand but you are d ones in d relationship not people.
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