Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - UPDATE

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RE - TIPS TO CALLING OFF A WEDDING AND HANDLING A BABY DADDY



Hello SDK,

I was the person who dropped that CHRONICLE posted on THURSDAY MAY 6, 2022. It will be wise I clear the air so that people can really understand what is happening and advise accordingly.



The person pregnant is my sister she only told me about the pregnancy in January. She called to tell me that she try to see if she could fall pregnant and boom it happened. I was angry with her knowing fully well that the society will not be happy with her. So asked her what her intentions was which she said she was confused that she hasn’t told the guy about it but he suspects already she is pregnant.



Then I told her it will be best she speaks to the guy to understand if he want the pregnancy or not but no matter what the outcome maybe she should be ready to keep that baby cos I can’t be a party to abortion especially now that age is not on her side.




She spoke with the guy who agreed for her to keep the pregnancy promising to come and see our parents and do all the needful before the pregnancy start showing. He came to see my dad and declared his intention with his uncle which he requested for the list to do the needful.



The list is 5k Oga has refused to send the 5k since he visited my dad without any reason. According to her that he said very soon he will send it when he is ready. Now we wanted everything to have be concluded before or by Easter but as it stands now she is already in her 3rd trimester which is why we wanted everything to be rushed to avoid people talking.



The guy has refused to take her to see his mother always saying his mum travelled for a conference. He also kept on giving her excuses of busy with work and not finding time to go and see my elder siblings cos my dad is saying she should take him to our most two elder sisters house to see them and their husbands. The guy works with FRSC but kept on claiming no space for him to take out time and take my sister to his mom or visit our elder sisters.



Third trimester this guy hasn’t even boarder to give her money to shop anything for the baby not even the hospital list. She registered herself for the anti natal till date she said he hasn’t asked her how far with her feeding. The guy doesn’t even give her money atleast to support herself in this her condition rather he calls her to ask her if she cooks and when she said yes Oga will come around to eat and even spend a night which I know he will still browse her over night abi body na wood.



According to her where Oga stays has insecurity issues which he comes over to her place to spend the night, she stays in a self con. A Neibour is moving out from one bedroom apartment which she discussed with him to get the place since his place is not safe so that they can move in together but Oga kept on saying he will do that as his usual response.



Oga kept on saying he is interested in the marriage and pregnancy but his actions says otherwise cos to us he is not showing any seriousness with the whole process. Baby will soon arrive you haven’t given any money to buy baby things. You haven’t even seen my parents to do the needful. You don’t want to take her to see your mum so we are thinking he may be hiding something from us cos my sister has asked him severally she wants to see his mum but Oga kept on giving excuses. If you want to marry a lady you should be serious to take her home to meet with your mum.



He doesn’t give her money for food or anything rather he comes over to eat the one she prepares. No future here the reason I supported her not to enter into marriage with a man like this cos her suffering will be forever. He hasn’t said he will not marry her but his actions doesn’t sound like he will marry her at all.



She had a discussion with him about buying the hospital things and going to pay bride price Oga ended up saying she is nagging. My sister is the calm and quite type if it was to be me I will say I could have nag or complained more or even stress him to get him do the needful but my calm sister except pregnancy hormones has changed her.



I have asked her if he was like this with not giving her money or buying anything when coming around rather coming to eat her food but she said he was never like this. Saying men are terrible when they are looking for you they act like angels but once they have gotten you they start giving you attitude. She on the other side is no longer comfortable with his attitude that is why she want to coparent with him in peace and forget about the marriage.



She is the one paying for her accommodation at the moment we just wanted to know if the man should be responsible for her accommodation and for those calling us tif please stop already . I cannot continue talking or blaming her why she got pregnant without waiting for the right thing. I am sure she has learnt her reasons in a hard way. Right now I can only be beside her to encourage her and not to make matter worst , she has already made that mistake. Should I reject my sister cos she made a mistake or would you have advice I tel her to abort an innocent child at her age?



Please you all should understand she want marriage at her age but if a man cannot provide for you and his child waiting to be reminded to perform his duties still he is not willing to perform his duties after the reminder then in marriage same thing will happen.



I hope you all can now advise her well cos she will be reading this please be soft with your comments, remember her condition, remember no one wish herself bad things in life. Remember shit happens, remember who never fuck up hands in the air.



My information is based on what she told me but I am not saying my sister is perfect, she has a job she is managing but she need his support cos of the baby. I wish no baby is on the way coming she would have blocked him long time ago but now that a child is involved she need help.




Thank you all.

*Your sister has no right getting married because she is pregnant..... Both of them dont appear excited or in love...

Your sisters boyfriend sound like he has no money but does not know how to tell her and your sister is so concentrated on Marrying that she did not see the signs.......

Let her work hard to take care of her baby, i dont see this man being a part of this baby's life financially.