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A DIRTY PAST THAT WILL NOT BE HIDDEN
I battled with serious low self-esteem while I was younger, relations will call me names, peers and teachers will call me names too. To worsen matters, I was fat and had no shape. While my peers were getting admirers, I was being called mummy, sack of beans and all.
Older and mature men started looking my way, I was basking in the spotlight but I didn't date any of them, During an ASUU strike, I met a slightly advanced in age guy that had just been jilted at the altar and we started dating.
We agreed on no s#x at first, but we later did, I took precautions but it failed and I ended up being pregnant, I was scared of keeping it, he wanted me to keep it but I was scared of telling my parents, I had to abort it.
I found out he was desperately trying to settle with other ladies, one morning, he said something insulting to me and I took a walk, I met someone else few months after, turned out he was married but living single and I also got pregnant along the line but couldn't keep it.
I veered off and began to move from one troubling relationship to another. Few years after, I found God and noticed evil marital patterns in the males and females of my paternal and maternal lineage, asides from my parents, no one has a settled marriage, they were always marrying to remarry and divorce. I found out that my great grandfathers were wealthy and used that wealth to debase women, hence, this explains why their descendants have no settled home.
I also found out that I have been destined for greatness, low self-esteem and feelings of inadequacy was part of the devil's plan to derail me. I have been redeemed by God, I don't struggle to obtain my needs and I am not going to hide my past from my future partner because God does not consult our past to bless our future.
You will reveal all the dirty stuff you have done to your hubby when you get married? Well i wish you luck with his reaction........ you will find out the reason why they say some secrets and some pasts should remain buried.
Poster I see you’re a new convert PRAISE MASTER JESUS!!
ReplyDeleteNow hold your ears, confess to ONLY GOD and keep your mouth shut. Asikwana nam agwaro gi
Bullcrap!
DeleteI confessed multiple abortions to my husband and the sky didn't fall.
Allow her live her truth, you can continue to hide yours from your husband. To each his own
we need to applaud girls who marry as virgins because they are very rare and I see it is a very difficult task for many.
DeleteWhile we applaud virgin females, let's also raise our boys right. Both men and women should stay chaste
DeleteMay God help you poster.
DeleteGo to God in prayers. He alone can show you mercy. Try not to repeat your past mistakes. Please dont hide anything from your prospective man in the future. You dont know what will happen in the future if the secret is later revealed. Its not a must to be in a relationship. If a man can not accept your past, move on from him. A man who will love you unconditionally will stay despite your past. In the meantime, continue to develop yourself and life your life to full, with or without a man.
ReplyDeletePoster, some things are better left unsaid. It's between you, and God. He has forgiven you already.
ReplyDeletePoster whatever you do, since you have been redeemed and saved, always seek the face of God before making any decision or telling all.
ReplyDeleteThe important one to tell is God and you have done that and obtained His mercy.
Go for checkup and ensure that your womb and vitals are OK, so you would not be deceiving someone's son when the time comes., then make informed prayerful decisions that will give yiu peace.
Wisdom is profitable to direct.
Multiple abortions should not be hidden from your potential partner, it could come back and bite you in the ass thank God she is in christ God will definitely send her perfect fit that wouldn't mind one bit just stay aligned and in God's will.. poster you remind me of myself alot in some aspects..
ReplyDeleteThank God for the new you
ReplyDeleteI don't advice anyone to go "revealing" a past like they are confessing to a higher being. In my case, my husband and I became friends and i was able to gage his level of intelligence and his views about certain things before I came clean with him. It wasn't done as a secret reveling session but in the course of our many gists...ah, we talked A LOT. He told me of his bad-boy days that made my own escapades look like a child's play. Meanwhile, I had an ex i had as good as married (well, he paid my bride price which was returned) who I knew that if I wanted peace and any shred of respect from, it's wise not to say "Pim".
ReplyDeletePoster, be wise and know who you are dealing with first. Most men are not that libral and will use it against you. They expect to have married a dove without blemish because they are the only ones licensed to make mess up. God forbid you ever experience a period of TTC...you are done for!
So most marriages are even invalid, because any marriage based on lies can be annulled and termed invalid, have it in mind that you are not married if you lied to get married, any day the man discovers he can have the marriage annulled.
DeleteKey word: Marry who you're comfortable with and able to gist freely about your wins, disappointments and mistakes. Secrecy in relationships/marriage is a recipe for disaster.
DeleteReveal if you wan reveal, who wan marry you go marry you. Don't let your marriage be built on deceit. Most of these men have asked girls to abort for tbem, so nobody holy pass
DeleteI now understand where this lady's excitement over her marriage comes from. She and her husband have a bond that came from their sincerity with each other.
Delete17.16 I agree. Bottom line, marry who you are very comfortable with.
You will do what??? Reveal this part of your life to your partner... You wan just use your hand go price and buy market wey nobody send you.
ReplyDeleteMen cannot handle true and honest confession of this kind of magnitude no matter how they try to act mature.
Jesus has set you free you don't need to tell your future partner this biko
Loll. Leave am. The book of Chronicles no dey finish.
DeleteSpeak for the men in your life. Not all men are shallow minded.
DeleteDon't waste your time advising her. She is already blaming her fore fathers and will not need the advice but continue to use her great great grandfather as scapegoat for her poor choices.
DeletePoster pray for wisdom. Let God direct you. Your husband is he clean?
ReplyDeletePertinent question
DeleteIf you want peace of mind, Ignore any advice not to tell your intended spouse about important details from your past. It hasn't been up to a month since someone wrote a chronicle about hiding her past from her husband, now he has found out and she is running helter skelter.
ReplyDeleteSave yourself the stress.
Such marriage can be annuled, if you lied to get married the marriage can be annulled, it is invalid, even during pregnancy you are required to let your doctor know if you have had any abortions, I wonder why girls can keep their body since they are not proud of their escapades then why involve in things you can't talk about and even do it repeatedly, anyway good men should strive to go for virgins girls, there are still many of them, virginity shows discipline do not be deceived.
DeleteThey are so afraid of losing a man but they are not afraid of God, women are really nothing without men, they live for men, see them fearing men but fornicating and offending God, but a man will boldly tell you his past and I found out more men have a cleaner past than women.
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DeleteBabe keep shut o! Me I didn’t tell hubby deep secrets. He even believed that he married a virgin cos yea he has a big gbola and I was tight down there…,blood came cos I was supposed to see my period the day we had sex. Hubby no still believe after 15years say I no be virgin 😊
ReplyDeleteShey tomorrow if you find out that he had a love child before getting hitched, you'd scream blue murder.
DeleteFear who nor fear women.
A lot of men are raising children that aren't theirs.
If you're a BV and you suspect a child isn't yours, run and go and do DNA o. These same women have been bashing Yul, now see dem. Tueh
Forget it, women are so deceitful, nobi here we dey read anonymous post, seriously, fear who no fear women.
DeleteI like that feeling of new converts in Christ. It's a feeling of refreshment.
ReplyDeleteMy beloved you are a new creature in Christ Jesus. Old things have past away. Behold all things are made new. Jesus has redeemed you of all your past sins. It's a new phase for you. Go and sin no more. Leave the past where it belongs. Don't allow satan trap you with guilt.
Jesus is Lord! Even u?
DeleteSo if she contracted HIV while still in the world, old things have passed away abi? And she shouldn't disclose it.
What a shame. SDK holy BVs be showing their true nature.
#hypocrites full this place abeg
Jesus is Lord! Even u?
DeleteLeave satan out of this. The Bible says confess your sins one to another, James 5:16.
So if she contacted HIV while still in the world, old things have passed away abi? And she shouldn't disclose it.
What a shame. SDK holy BVs be showing their true nature.
#hypocrites full this place abeg
Wisdom is profitable!
ReplyDeleteThank God for your life.........
ReplyDeleteBbjac
I am a believer in Christ too. I revealed my entire dirty past to my present husband who also loves Jesus. He also talked about his.
ReplyDeleteWe are so blessed in our marriage with trust and love that sometimes I wonder why I am so favored by God in my marriage.
We chose to do the right things and still do. Jesus did not come to condemn the world by that through him the world might be saved.
He did not save perfect people, he saved sinners to be perfect like him. We keep working towards perfection everyday.
Thank God for your making up your mind to speak the truth.💋
God bless you
DeleteWho is in christ is a new creature , it is better to tell the truth , i have seen someone who lived a dirty life in the past committed several abortion womb affected , surrender life to JESUS, she told eveything to the husband to be and the man said he was led by God to marry her , they are happly married with children. Let her open up if she lie now and eventually everything open up many of you will still condemn her for not telling the truth before marriage. GOD has a purpose for everyone on earth
ReplyDeleteI think I will ask myself, how critical is this ‘truth’? Is your body damaged in anyway? If yes, then tell him, if no, I suggest you keep it moving.
ReplyDeleteThe bigger information for me though, since you believe it, is the ancestral issue of unstable marriages you have noted within your family. That to me is more relevant to share than the abortions. You both would need to join hands in prayer to work through that.
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Girl do what your heart has convicted you to do, I applaud you for coming clean with your future spouse and I really believe that since you’ve truly found Christ and are grounded in Him, God would send you a partner that would love you too much and not care about your past
ReplyDeleteNothing but the truth ❤️
DeleteCongratulations poster. I'd advise you to do as your spirit leads you, I believe God will send you your own partner when it's time for you to settle down for it takes a lot of courage to come out clean.
ReplyDeleteKofi n faste
DeleteWhy the pressing need to share your past though?
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