CAUGHT IN A LIE
This is my chronicle, all i am asking God for is mercy..
I lived a carefree s#x life while growing up. Had abortions and multiple s#x partners. Met a beautiful soul who asked me about my past and I denied and painted myself a Saint.
We got married but i didn't delete my old conversations and that was how sweet hubby went through my phone and uncovered everything.
I Should have used the opportunity to tell him everything but I still lied about the abortion.
I Should have used the opportunity to tell him everything but I still lied about the abortion.
Now he got to know about it again and my home is no longer what it used to be. We don't have any child yet and i am feeling God is punishing me for my past.
Please all I need is God's mercy and forgiveness..
*Oh Dear, Oh dear, oh dear!!!!
You lied but saved evidence? I hope someone learns from this!
Try to find peace and accept whatever decision your hubby makes...The revelations must have been a big shock and i dont think he may want to stay married to you....
Take heart! God has already forgiven you, please forgive yourself.
When some of us here preach about being truthful about your past with your new partner, many said never! A man that will stay, will stay no matter your past. But just be open and hide nothing from him/her especially if he/she is one who is mature and sincere about the relationship.
ReplyDeleteOnly God knows what your man is thinking. He will feel betrayed and used. If there was a child, the situation would have been better. Keep praying he forgives you and as you do so, start planning for the future too.
There some chats you clear the history, if you know your private part is not exclusive.
ReplyDeleteFaulty foundation .
DeleteAs she forgot to delete it, wetin be your advice on her current predicament?
DeleteYou kept those chats so you could reminisce about the past.
ReplyDeleteLooks that way
DeleteThat is the truth, that she forgot to delete it is another lie. Poster purge yourself from every form of lie. The Lord intervene if truly you are ready to change.
DeleteRelax. God is not in the business of punishing anyone for their past.
ReplyDeleteYinmu! Ever heard about cause and effect? The world is already programmed that way
DeleteWell that’s you world people. That’s not God
Delete@18.01
DeleteThis is exactly what my mother used to tell me as a kid. The world has been programmed for cause and effect already, so it's not about God punishing us.
Poster continue to ask for mercy from God. To other ladies and men, tell your intended spouse everything, especially those things that are likely to also affect them, it's hard to rebuild broken trust.
Do I need to pity you?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmm
I don't even know what to say or tell you...you lied, got another opportunity to be sincere but you misused it again.
I pray you find joy and love again in him oooo cuz e no easy I swear...
Pls and pls keep begging and praying, the mistake have been done already, it can't be undone
ReplyDeleteI don’t think you need to share your past. I think keeping evidence is next level not smart
ReplyDeleteOh my days.. this is obviously a serious situation..I pray God touches his heart.
ReplyDeleteSorry oo. But keep praying and begging. He might want to know why you kept that part. He himself is not clean. So yours have covered his own. Ekpele. Yori princess
ReplyDeleteHow do you know the husband is not clean? You be him sister?
DeleteGod is not punishing you for your past sins, you are the one that chose the path of punishment for yourself.
ReplyDeleteGod gave you multiple opportunities to repent but you rather chose to lie and remain in sin, in darkness.
Confess everything and plead with him, your husband, he will forgive you. Amen!
I do hope that those who abort, fornicate, snatch and argue with anyone that tries to correct them will learn from
your mistakes and repent, confess and believe in Jesus Christ who died for them.
The past will always come to hunt, repent and forsake.
ReplyDeleteThose of you who have packed the things to "go to their graves"
ReplyDeleteHmm, looks like they don't always follow you to the grave, they mess you up.
Sorry for your predicament. Pray to God for forgiveness and beg your husband for lying to him. There is this prayer " Thank you Jesus rosary for Catholic. You can Google it. It works wonders. Say the prayer everyday even if you are not a Catholic, you will see how God will touch your husband heart to forgive you.
ReplyDeleteI just found out that I have PMS, but it's too late. Cos the mood swings has been the cause of my quarrel with my husband. Couldn't control my emotions, I thought I was going crazy. Left the marriage to find peace, only to found out the cause of my actions. But it is too late. The deeds has been done. Now I can stop blaming myself
God will give you a good second chance
DeleteLol ain’t you too young for it’s too late. Just call him up and explain to him
DeleteThis is me as well. Was so so moody yesterday and noticed my period came. He said I’m unstable and need help. Maybe also because the marriage is loveless or I need to find myself again. I don’t even know self. I’m tired. How do one manage PMS? I get so so moody Jesus Christ.
Deletethis is why the bible says he that covers his sin will not prosper but the person who confesses and forsakes their sin shall receive mercy.
ReplyDeleteYou thought that it was ok to lie to your husband and pretend to be who you were not, even when you had the opportunity to be truthful and truly do away with your past, you still lied to your hubby.
I'm sure your hubby is more offended with your lies than anything else..... he doesnt know who he married because if you can lie about that what else is it that you can lie about.
I'm not saying you should have told your hubby all the sordid details, but pretending to be what you were not was so wrong and you've now been exposed.
I dont think christians realise that God actually HATES lying, its repeated so much in the bible.
Now that God has exposed you, I hope you have truly learnt your lesson.
I will also join in praying with you that God has mercy upon you and he softens your hubby's heart to be able to forgive you.
Please also dont take to heart that you havent had children yet as being as a result of your former lifestyle, many people have children who have lied and covered up worse lifestyles, it may be a medical issue or maybe its just not time yet, either way I pray you receive mercy.
Thanks for this...
DeleteI so much love you
God bless you for this abeg.
Delete“Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it's broken, but you can still see the crack in that mother fucker's reflection.”
DeleteLady Gaga
Poster people make mistakes in life, never let the past. Rob you of today's happiness, pray to God for forgiveness
ReplyDeleteHe is always faithful. Cheers God bless your home
God is not man. Despite all the atrocities David committed in the Bible. He still loves him unconditionally. He is the man after God's own heart. God is a merciful God. All you need is to cry to him for mercy.
ReplyDeleteI wish she had just come clean when she was caught. If she had lied about her past ab initio, she should have gone to extra mile to delete the chat. I don't subscribe to over telling any information. There were lots of things I didn't feel was relevant info when I got married, I made sure I cleared my whole chat history because I realized the person I was marrying was a judgemental self righteous person.
ReplyDeleteNice one
DeleteHope my name will show
ReplyDeleteE don show
DeleteIs Yori Yori a person's name?
DeleteThanks Pinky. Testing the I'd after I got this new phone
DeleteThis might sound naive but I really don't see any reason someone should be angry about a spouse's ex either told or lied to. Once whatever it is, is not against the law, for me it's in the past.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure?
DeleteWe are really deceiving ourselves
I’m with you. I don’t get mad at someone not sharing. Now if you have a bad womb or bad relevant body part then tell me
DeleteIf he wants to pack up the marriage because of your past means he never loved you to start with. Is he without sin. He may be the one with problem sef. If you’ve begged and he continues making your life a misery free him. How many body count does he have ? Did he marry all? Abeggi
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness.
DeleteIs this what u have to type to this issue?
How do you feel when one deceived you or what would have been ur reaction of you got married to a virgin but on the day of honeymoon, u found out she wasn't a virgin?
Mc pinky how would you find out. Even if there’s no hymen she might still be a virgin
DeleteFind out if he is the cause of your itching. Some men know it is sugar water they are shooting but doing everything to make the woman feel guilty and refusing to go for tests.
DeleteMy dear why will you lie that you were a saint and you lived a rough life? I have friends who did loads of abortions and are married in their husbands house. They lived wayward lives, but are quick to act good girl and be judgemental on singles. I am not sure this guy will be able to forgive. You deceived him to marry you. You actually took a decent lady's husband. You should have gone for a wayward person like yourself or told him the truth , not everything though, instead you painted yourself to be a saint May God have mercy on you.
ReplyDelete.
The matter tire me I swear..even when she had an opportunity to confess,she still played the dirty hide and seek game
DeleteIt's usually heartbreaking when a partner lies.
ReplyDeleteMy hubby told me he has seen it all with all types and sizes of women, that he doesn't have time for ladies anymore hence his opting to settle down and focus on our marriage. Just about four months into the marriage, I found out he so lied to me.
This man is a chronic womaniser and unrepentant flirt.
Never again will I trust any man who is so attached to his cell phone, they usually have things to hide
Since I have a target I just kept him as an intimacy gadget for the mean time till my documents are ready. I can't find myself cheating now
Same story with the guy that raped me.
DeleteThis happened to me,although not multiple abortion only one which I didn't disclose. we are Muslims so hubby took a second wife I live In regret since cos he has been awesome but the lady being in our lives is a constant reminder of how I messed up. It is well poster, keep begging may God soften his heart.
ReplyDeletePlease don't continue blaming yourself. he could still have married a 2nd wife even if you had married him as a virgin
DeleteI don’t understand what your abortion has to do with his second wife
DeleteI asked if the abortion stopped you from having kids but the question was not posted
@ Anon 20:34, from my understanding, it appears that after the husband discovered that his first wife had an abortion that was not disclosed prior to marriage, he then took a second wife when he found out at some point later on, instead of remaining in a completely monogamous relationship with the first wife. She goes further to say every time she sees the second wife it is a reminder of her mess up. She has no actual bad feeling toward the second wife, it is simply her own inner reflection of how things turned out not so well for her because of her past choices or opting not to disclose her full history to her husband.
DeleteJust stop the continuous lies and come clean. Tell him you were scared hence the reason for the lies. Just stop the lies and be honest for once let him see it.
ReplyDeleteIt is always good to be as truthful as you can be. Yes, there is stuff that you cannot tell everyone, but when it comes to your reputation especially if it is known by others you cannot paint yourself a saint if you were not. If he didn't find it in your phone, someone would have told him. But I get it, you didn't expect that someone good would come your way, so you did everything to make yourself look good to lock it secure that person. I cannot judge you, who doesn't want good in their life.
ReplyDeleteAll you can do is continue to be dutiful, loving and supportive. It is up to him to decide if he wants to forgive you and continue with the relationship. Give him time and space if he needs it. If there is anything else that you have lied about it probably is wise to lay all your cards on the table now, so that this issue never resurface again. If he does forgive you and continue with the relationship, there is no guarantee that he will do so if another bombshell drops. So, please lay everything out there and pray for guidance and wisdom.
Babe, pray to God to help you, if not this might not end well
ReplyDeleteJust pray for God's forgiveness. Tell your husband about your past and seek for his forgiveness. I am not sure if d marriage is going to be the same again bcuz trust is absent from ur marriage. Nawa oh this life Sha. People wey don commit countless abortion dey marry. We wey we never do abortion still dey find husband. Well God can't be questioned. U are actually suffering from the sin of ur past. That's why d Bible says no sinner will go unpunished.
ReplyDeleteOwn up to your mistake. Ask for his forgiveness and seek God's face.
ReplyDeleteGod doesn’t punish you after he has forgiven you. It’s either you are forgiven or not forgiven. You can’t be forgiven and punished. God is not an author of confusion
ReplyDeleteLAY YOURSELF BARE BEFORE YOUR HUSBAND AND GOD. ASK HIM TO ASK ANY QUESTIONS HE WANTS TO, AND YOU IN TURN SHOULD ANSWER VERY TRUTHFULLY. LET HIM KNOW YOU WILL ACCEPT WHATEVER DECISION HE MAKES ( SO LONG AS IT DOES NOT INVOLVE INFIDELITY OR ABUSE ON HIS PART) AND HOPE FOR THE BEST. BUT NEVER EVER LIE TO HIM AGAIN. MAY GOD HELP YOU.
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