Hmmm.....
KEEP THE BABY OR GET RID OF IT FOR CAREER SAKE
My girlfriend is pregnant again. Her first baby is just 8 months old and she needs to go on a one year trip with her department out of the country.
The travel is fast approaching and now, she just found out she's pregnant. She called me in distress and told me everything, I told her to chat me up on whatsapp which she did.
I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she was confused. She said she wants to abort the baby and sought my advice.
My people I told her to hold on so that i can ask for advice here.
She didn't do any abortion when she was single, why do it now she's married?
In fact she was deflowered by her husband. I understand her perfectly well. She has been waiting for that trip and she has already given in her all. It's very important in her academic life. I don't know what to tell her honestly, as I'm not married and haven't experienced such.
Please what should I tell her?
She has been my friend since childhood and we attended the same school but different departments. She comes to me for advice but this one pass me.
*Since when has a career become more important than a child? Was she told she could not travel if she is pregnant?
Please tell her to keep the baby and forget about the trip for now..... Travelling abroad or trying to give your career an uplift is nothing compared to a child ...
She should keep the baby.... #my2cents
Let her keep the baby....
ReplyDeleteWhy can’t she go on the trip pregnant?
DeleteShe should have her baby o
Push up (original)
I no fit tell your friend make she commot pikin sake of sey one year of wetin I no know.
DeleteFor those asking alot of these type of courses will not allow you if you are pregnant, especially if its a 1yr course,its an inconvenience and they will need medical insurance there. Something like thing happened to a friend of mine, she is even a Chemical Engineer, so for her field it was out of it. We dont know this posters career... keep ur baby, there will be other courses.
DeleteI don't support abortion no matter what the reasons are,so I will say keep the baby.
ReplyDeleteWill the pregnancy stop her from the travel? If no then she should keep it, but if yes then she should also keep the pregnancy . Oh are you expecting me to tell you to abort the same pregnancy you open your eyes wide open till it enter your body?? God forbid.
ReplyDeleteShe is married and a man is responsible for the pregnancy. Her first consent should be from her husband, not the public. Talk to your husband first and decide what you both want to do.
ReplyDeleteShe should know that her baby should come first before her career. She should keep the pregnancy and hope for the best.
She can talk to the company to delay her trip and maybe allow her go with the pregnancy. In all her baby is more important. Good luck to her.
And what if the trip is canceled, what if she get complications during the abortion, what if she cant be able to have another child in the future after he abortion? what if and what if?
Thank you for typing my mind... Her husband should be part of her decision not strangers.
DeleteLol. People out there are crying for a baby and this one wants to abort because of a trip. Leave that innocent baby alone please.
ReplyDeleteWhy are u the one seeking advise for her? Where's her husband? Abi he doesn't have a say in the matter? This is husband and wife issue please. I suggest u stay the hell out of it
ReplyDeleteMy guess is she wants to abort without her husband knowing. 🤔
DeleteThe trip forbids pregnant women from attending? Na wa o. Carry the belle and travel, if you are denied, stay back and have your baby. Another chance may come or not. Be grateful u can be pregnant easily o.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what hers is but there is a scholarship i applied for recently which states that if you are pregnant you will be disqualified(a medical check up will be done once you arrive the country)so maybe it same with hers
DeleteSounds like the one I got in South Korea. I was so pained cause I was really looking forward to going. Honestly, I felt like removing the pregnancy, I won't lie. I was so heartbroken when I saw that you will be disqualified for being pregnant. I honestly wish I was still single, only God knows when such an opportunity will come again.
DeleteA better opportunity will come but if you remove the baby and damage your womb, or babies stop coming, that's the end.
DeleteTake it from someone who has had to TTC for 6 years before another child came along.💖
I don't understand, who says she can't go on the trip while pregnant. What she needs to do is inform her organization about the pregnancy. She will also need lots of support from her husband and possibly her family to navigate the pregnancy, her career and the 8 months old she has. In all, I think it is very doable to have her baby and further her career. If she thinks it will be too difficult, she can always defer the trip na
ReplyDeleteMy coursemate came for her masters in the UK in September 2020 while pregnant. She gave birth in January.
ReplyDeleteIt is hard but not impossible. She also came alone as Pandemic lockdown and travel restrictions made it impossible for the husband to join her. We rallied round her, her lecturers were very understanding and even gave her more time to submit her assignments.
Now the baby is 1yr and thriving. She's back to her family and things are marvellous with them.
Do not, for the sake of current opportunities, throw away future blessings. There's is always a path. There is always hope.
Regret is not something to look forward to, which is why the right decisions should be made today.
Opportunities will always come. Doing an abortion may lead to complications which will prevent her from having another baby.
DeleteShe should be wise.
Hmmmmm, there is a way that seemeth right to a man but in the end ...............
DeleteWhat makes her think the course and pregnancy are mutually exclusive? She can handle both. She should have a talk with her body and the baby and tell them she needs their cooperation and non should stress her.
ReplyDeleteIt worked for me in my first pregnancy and the entire journey went uneventfully. No morning sickness, I was full of energy and never sick. Career and motherhood, you need to be a supper woman to balance them.
She should keep the baby. We are here praying and fasting for such blessing and some people want to abort. Chai this life is not fair to some of us at all.
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby....only God knows why you got pregnant when you where suppose to travel... children are gift from God✌️
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is sacrificial. Please advise her to keep the baby.
ReplyDeleteIt depends on what she wants to prioritize at the moment. She can have an abortion if she really wants the trip
ReplyDeleteMake she keep her child abeg. Another opportunity with better benefits will present itself. But wait oo have they said a pregnant woman can not go on this trip? If so she can have a discussion with the department head after all hin too na person born am.(might be sympathetic to her). She should not lose out on a great 👶child because of something as fleeting as a career boost/opportunity.
ReplyDeletePoster, I don't see any where in your write up where you mentioned her discussing it with her husband. What I can infer from this chronicle is that if she decides to abort the child, she will be doing it without her husband's knowledge.
ReplyDeleteI don't see why her pregnancy will get in the way of her going on the one year trip. Do most pregnant women not work until it is time to give birth? Does she want to put her career ahead of her family? These decision should be made by her and her husband and not you, her friend.
PS: I don't see the relevance of this sentence you made in your post " In fact she was deflowered by her husband."
Hahaha the last sentence was to tell us that she is not a bad girl na, say this talk of abortion na the first one wey she dey do in her life.
DeletePoster this story is yours and not your friend's. Do the right thing. Listen to your conscience, if you don't want to listen to God.
@poster... Tell her to calm down. Believing in God for a better tomorrow is necessary. Birth your baby in peace n stop worrying over things God can handle.
DeleteLet her understand there is a reason why this particular child is in her womb at this point,she should do nothing to that child.
ReplyDeleteThis decision should be made between her and her husband. You don't have any business advising her on something so delicate. Pls redirect her.
ReplyDeleteYou can advise your married friends. No man is an island. Some people are still
DeleteMarried today because their friends helped them settle their anger against their husbands
Life is not the movies. A better opportunity doesn’t always present itself
ReplyDeleteMany people do regret having babies when they did. Such is life
Will the pregnancy stop her from traveling? If yes, this might be a blessing in disguise.. please, keep the baby and stay back.. God definitely has his reasons for the situation
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby,
ReplyDeleteThe regret is not worth it
ReplyDeleteKeep the baby. Be grateful that you have this without stress.
ReplyDeleteWell most organization don't allow women with pregnancy to go on such course with long duration reason being complications associated with some pregnant women,this also applies to federal govt of Nigeria,I remember vividly in 199that my boss and I were to go to Nederland for 3 month course only her was called and asked whether she is pregnant or is she looking to be pregnant ,so it is a requirement so the best is to discuss with her husband what is their priority,baby or journey but she may not be allowed
ReplyDeleteI was pregnant with my fifth child when I traveled to the US and it was in winter. That was my first time of going out of Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteI had exams to write and I did all while pregnant. Well the only difference here was that my husband was with me. I look at my child today
and I am so so happy and grateful to God. Yes, I fulfilled every academic obligation for which I traveled.
If her husband can get a leave from work and accompany her, good. If not, she should just go. The only thing a pregnant woman
should not do is sports. In my final year in school, more that 5 of the ladies were pregnant and delivered successfully and graduated.
And we are talking about a a high demanding professional course here.
pregnancy doesn't stop her from anything dear,after all still early, i just lost my 2months preggy and im so sad about it, toughest week for me, still bleeding and its been a week now,the cramp,the fear of having some tissue left after the miscarriage,my friend advice i go for D&C for proper flushing...
ReplyDeleteI don't know if u can still see this. Pls I don't advise u to do the d & c. You can take the appropriate dose of misoprostol required to complete it. An ultrasound scan can be done after to ascertain if it is complete which I m sure it will.
DeleteSorry hun
Thank u hun...
DeleteShe should please keep the pregnancy
ReplyDeleteShe should keep that pregnancy, let never touch it no matter what
ReplyDeleteWait ✋🏽 wait 🛑 wait ✋🏽. Too many unanswered questions. (1) When is the trip? (2) How far along will she be when she goes on the trip? (3) What’s the duration of the trip? (4) Can the trip be deferred to next year since it sounds like it’s an academic trip and part of her course? Basically, what I’m saying is this, there’s a way to do both Have her baby, then travel the next year.
ReplyDeleteBut, first of all please discuss with your husband first. Abortion is never an option please. The regret is a lifetime.
Wait ✋🏽 wait 🛑 wait ✋🏽. Too many unanswered questions. (1) When is the trip? (2) How far along will she be when she goes on the trip? (3) What’s the duration of the trip? (4) Can the trip be deferred to next year since it sounds like it’s an academic trip and part of her course? Basically, what I’m saying is this, there’s a way to do both Have her baby, then travel the next year.
ReplyDeleteBut, first of all please discuss with your husband first. Abortion is never an option please. The regret is a lifetime.
What a pity? I can't find the right words to describe this situation. For a woman to opt for abortion for a trip for whatever. Where she's going do they forbid pregnant women or children? What is wrong with some women self...???
ReplyDelete