“I told him what he did was rape and he said but we were in a relationship.
“But was I ready? that was the question, did I say I was in the mood? I kept saying no, stop it, stop it, you pin me down and you’re doing whatever you wanted to do and you’re smiling saying don’t worry.
“And you’re kissing whilst I’m crying, that means you’re a rapist and I had to leave that relationship.
“I fought my way out of that relationship because he even locked me up in his house for days until my sister Sonia came to find me.
“I was scared, uncertain of what to do because this guy was huge and taller than me. He can raise you above the wall. And just imagine that it was every day. Every day, he wanted to do something. That is rape.”
The 36-year-old curvy actress further advised women in any form of abusive relationship especially that which involves rape to draw courage and report their partners to appropriate authorities.
“You’re naive. Who do you go and tell? Who would come and fight for you?
“But ladies you can report it now, go and report. If your husband is forcing you to do when you’re not in the mood; it is rape and I tell these men that you cannot force a woman.”
“But was I ready? that was the question, did I say I was in the mood? I kept saying no, stop it, stop it, you pin me down and you’re doing whatever you wanted to do and you’re smiling saying don’t worry.
“And you’re kissing whilst I’m crying, that means you’re a rapist and I had to leave that relationship.
“I fought my way out of that relationship because he even locked me up in his house for days until my sister Sonia came to find me.
“I was scared, uncertain of what to do because this guy was huge and taller than me. He can raise you above the wall. And just imagine that it was every day. Every day, he wanted to do something. That is rape.”
The 36-year-old curvy actress further advised women in any form of abusive relationship especially that which involves rape to draw courage and report their partners to appropriate authorities.
“You’re naive. Who do you go and tell? Who would come and fight for you?
“But ladies you can report it now, go and report. If your husband is forcing you to do when you’re not in the mood; it is rape and I tell these men that you cannot force a woman.”
from The Nation..
No Nigerian woman will report her husband to the Appropriate Authority for this..... They will bear it and even thank God he desires them..... Abi i lie? Some will be scared of losing the marriage and will stop talking to anyone who gives them such advice....
Talk true, you were not ready to escape.
ReplyDeleteDid you scream for neighbours? No.
Did you report him afterwards? No.
Did you fight him off? No.
Thank God I ve just finished praying. I would have said something very ugly to you.
DeleteThis is not a nice thing to say,pray you never find yourself in such situation,then you can come back with all these logic.When are we going to learn how to empathize with others.Do you know how she felt then? Pray you never find yourself in situations that leaves you helpless.
DeleteThose of you that has not experienced such just thank God and pray never to experience it. Those who have experienced it know why they could not scream.
DeleteIn another note, most women especially are married to their rapists.
Jeweluchi Stella you are right about some Nigeria woman on this, we go die there, that is their antem.
DeleteSome women eye don see in rltshp sha. Women it really is okay to BE ALONE.......Before i got married i had long periods and i mean years; i was not in relationships, bcos i knew what i was lookn for. Not every man u must say yes to,rich or not. Check his lifestyle and character. Stop jumping from man to man, being single as never killed anyone. Dis sort of man can kill. Some women cant function without a man,You just date whoever in d name of i have a man.
DeleteWhat’s the guys name madam cloutina
DeleteBnR, preach it!! 🙌
Delete"If your husband is forcing you to do when you’re not in the mood; it is rape and I tell these men that you cannot force a woman.” Trash! If u don't want to have sex, pls do not married fa. What is this rubbish gan sef. U cannot commit adultery, yet your own wife ll be withholding sex. Omoh, if I come back to this world- that is even if there is anything like dat - I will avoid having anything marriage to do with this hypocritical gender. Nonsense and rubbish!
ReplyDeleteYen yen.... If u do not want to have sex, don't get married. I agree to d fact that I am a fool. You know, WISE ONE, if u continue to be bias, u ll continue to wallow in ur mega WISDOM and d untold suffering it brings. Some of these irreconcilable differences sometimes boils down to sexual issues in marriage. I do not support adultery, but then, I also do not support sexual violence being perpetuated by ur gender, that is if u are a female, in marriage. Peace be into u. Ndo
DeleteYen yen.... If u do not want to have sex, don't get married. I agree to d fact that I am a fool. You know, WISE ONE, if u continue to be bias, u ll continue to wallow in ur mega WISDOM and d untold suffering it brings. Some of these irreconcilable differences sometimes boils down to sexual issues in marriage. I do not support adultery, but then, I also do not support sexual violence being perpetuated by ur gender, that is if u are a female, in marriage. Peace be into u. Ndo
DeleteWhat's happening here?? 🤔🤔🤔
Delete@ Danity, I am confused as you are. So wait this is how people make contradictory statements anonymously. Hmmm, this is a form of mental illness.
Delete😂😂😂
Delete@Dainty and co, there was a response to d initial comment. I guess it was deleted
DeleteHmmm invincible talk, invincible answer 😝😝😝😝😝😝
Delete🤣🤣🤣 joro to joro things.
DeleteInvincible! Invincible! I hail o🤣🤣🤣
DeleteIf indeed there was a comment that was deleted, it would have shown... (this comment has been deleted by the author) or something like that.
How??????what is happening here?
Delete14.20
DeleteStop alleging something you don't know,. A comment can be deleted without leaving trace,. I have seen it happen couple of times here
I was about saying he replied to his comment but saw where he said there was an initial response to his comment. If that is true, then it's possible Stella removed the comment because it contains curse words. Anon 14:20, some comments can be removed without it showing it has been deleted when the comment is made anonymously.
DeleteHmmmm, my husband doesn't even desire me and following another man is a taboo in his place. I have been celibate for close to 2 years now. Don't know what to do. He stays in another state not too far from mine but does not like coming home. I've thought of leaving the marriage but then, I am even married to myself so no need.
ReplyDeleteLeave. You deserve a good relationship in this lifetime
DeleteMadam leave than this life you are pretending to be happy when your love tank is very dry, over empty is disturbing your love tank.
DeleteAbeg find you a man or woman who would #uck you till you squirt. Leave that taboo nonsense because the man has left you already, you deserve mind blowing orgasms
DeleteChai Anon I feel your pains.Why don't you get people to talk to him..his parents,pastor or someone he respects.
DeleteGet a vibrator.
Delete8:58, don't mind some of the useless advice here that can only lead to perdition. Get closer to God.
DeleteEx boyfriend..... not husband.
ReplyDeleteThis Juliet no get sense right from time.
I wonder why Juliet will come out here to vomit trash. In as much as i will agree that forcing a woman against her will for sex is abnormal, not when she likes money alot and traded herself to rich men who only want sex but not relationship. when you are in a relationship you will know not when love for money lured you to a man you don't have feelings for but just a give and take venture,
ReplyDeletemoney for sex, both concerns must maximize their interest.
Constitutionally, a man cannot rape his wife but must respect her position at all times likewise,
But i am seeing some selfish interest here especially we women. you will want to be satisfied sexually at all times and whenever needed but you wouldn't give in to your husband whenever and all times.When the man finds it elsewhere, same lady will start crying wolf.
Ladies, look at the antecedence of Juliet Ibrahim both in Ghana here , Abuja or Lagos where she does her secret runs and acting jobs as quoted. you will certainly see self deception.
Married women , please your husband , satisfy her in all ramification, leave these brainless advice from Juliet Ibrahim who only focus of pouring trash and not implementing what she suggested.
Asked her if she reported any of her encounters , both in Lagos and Abuja. ask her if she reported the ones that happened in Ghana, She went for runs and will be fully paid but she doesn't want to give in fully. if you are sure of what you are saying now, why didn't you report the matter.
My fellow ladies be wise ,do you dwell with half baked deceptive stories. some want to be relevant by all cost, such as this one., Although, there are true account and i am against going against anyone's will both men and women.
Dont mind her..someone that fucks anything..Juliet is a public toilet that doesn't say No to sex!..forget how beautiful she is but most Naija men have had a taste of her kini..
DeleteVery classless girl..with your small change,you can fuck her..
If your boyfriend rapes you, report to the appropriate authorities,. Anything other than that is clout and would be taken with 2 pinch of salt😏,. We know how these Queens would play the victim card, form a pity party all for attention..
ReplyDeleteI said boyfriend, cos under the Nigerian legal system, a husband cannot rape his wife.. you might sue for assault and battery but not rape or indecent assault,. Your husband cannot indecently assault you.. you can't indecently touch what is yours,. You can't steal what is yours- rape.
What Rape means to most of these ladies:
✅ BRUTAL/HARD sex
✅They EXPECTED you to give them like 1k dollars after but you gave them 100 dollar instead
✅The BARGAIN was for a higher amount but you gave them less
✅When they feel GUILTY/CHEAP after the sex
✅When you serve them 'BREAKFAST'
✅To cover SHAME when their ho£ lifestyle is exposed/become public knowledge
✅To punish a guy who REJECTED their sexual advances
✅When they're FEMINIST/WITCHES
✅For CLOAT so they can play the victim card and form a pity party,. These people can do anything for attention
Blessings ✌️
🤔" you can't indecently touch what is yours,. You can't steal what is yours"... I am here wondering, do I own my husband? Do I own his body parts such that I can grab and use any as I please and when I please?🤔 All I know is I am in the mood for something and I grab it not minding to convince or put him in the mood to willingly want to engage in that activity?🤔🤔
DeleteLol @Saph
DeleteNa you pay groom price or na him pay bride price 😏😏..
When una dey write long list give am una no know bah🙂.. let me tell you what SIMPs won't tell you,. Na him own you but no be you own am,. Just hope to get married to a reasonable calm guy who wouldn't make it obvious,. And you also show know how to SUBMIT and treat him like a KING
Chai! Dante, I need to book mass for you. Your matter don reach prayer point!
DeleteYou can't possibly be reasoning like this in this time and day naw...come on.
Dante how much be the bride price sef? Shey e dey equivalent to human life??? You might as well carry mud and mold what you want to see, stick your rib into it and own it as your property.
DeleteIf you have never been in an abusive relationship and raped, u won't imagine how this messes with your head. Man asks you out nicely, says the right things, treats you like a queen.The sex is ok, nothing kinky. Then his friend u are 100% certain that u have never seen before comments that u remind him of one lady he dated that gives great blow jobs. That was all. As soon as the door shuts, u see a beast. Blows from all angles, u are tied like an animal and stripped. Then cut with razor blades. All the while he is screaming calling u a cheat. Then he is crying and saying he knows you will leave him. And he can't let u go. That's when ur heart stops beating and your mouth is suddenly dry. How I managed to crawl to him, collect the blade, cut my thumb and his, demanding for a blood convenant. He was so focused on my face,I switched to an uncut finger and said the words that meant nothing. Let him rape me again. Played wife for a week and when he was convinced I was his, took me to the supermarket. Raised alarm, he was apprehended. For weeks,I cried. I was so ashamed,felt worthless. Gave myself time to grief and heal. It was never easy
ReplyDeleteAhhh, God saved you from a psychotic animal.
DeleteNawa o
DeleteOh my God! And it's cases like yours that people like Dante and Invincible misinterpret to arrive at the sick conclusion that the victims are faking it. To men like them, so long as a victim is not killed or not a baby, they never believe their gender is capable of monstrous acts.
DeleteNdo o.
Oh no! Thank God you are free now.
DeleteWow, what a monster!
DeleteI am so so sorry for what you went through. Sending you hugs and healing.
DeleteWow! He is a demented being
DeleteOMG!
Deletethought such things only occur in movies😢😢😢 You are lucky to be alive, you dated a psycho, a crazy one at that.
DeleteMany men don't understand rape (and even some women). Many know that they deliberately engage in it. Others do it on a low key, so they want to absolve themselves from guilt. And yes, rape can occur within marriages and relationships. If you lose guard with some of your male friends it will shock you what they will do. Gang rape is becoming common, perpetrated by boyfriends and their friends. I have so much to type on this topic, but I am already so tired today. Going through a lot personally. The abuse on Juliette is unwarranted. She is brave talking about her experience in a society such as ours, where even some women are complicit. I wish men can drop their egos and truly learn about women and how to treat, respect and engage with them.
DeleteI am so sorry for all you went through. I am happy he was apprehended. Wicked soul.
Delete#push up (original)
No one should stick to an abusive partner no matter what is the situation,leave while you can.
ReplyDeleteJuliet Ibrahim is 36? Oh come on... Wtf is going on with African women?
ReplyDeleteJewelu I agree with your comment.i was in a salon one day and two babes were gisting,one was telling the other how she wants to quit her relationship with her boo.The other was surprised and asked y she wants to leave that 'stinkly rich dude'. The babe said he rapes her,that that's the only way he enjoys sex.The other one said so?That if she's the one,she won't leave o,with the kind money he laviehes on her.
ReplyDeleteThis one and boyfriend matter all the time
ReplyDeleteAs in eh
DeleteWith Juliet's antecedents, how many ppl will take her serious? Let her prove non consent, if she can. Then again, if she's serious, she shd go the legal route; report to the appropriate quarters with names and other facts and figures. Otherwise, she's merely chasing clout to take over from Yul/2nd wife and doggy girl, this wk. Chikena.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe him. Listening to her made me feel she is just telling lies for clout. No emotion, no pain, no...She was just acting. And this lady is so mature for all these non sense. Rape is very real and worse than death, because the victim dies daily without dying physically. And the pain is never completely healed or erased. Many women are strong and choose to die with their pain rather than open up only to be mocked and stigmatized by society. If we truly want to help these victims, we must be genuinely interested, be empathic and sincere, rather than use one's popularity to create a 'silly' awareness. Not Juliet Ibrahim, please. Let her go to Ghana and talk that trash there.
ReplyDelete💔ha!
DeleteThis comment is really unfortunate.