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Wednesday, April 20, 2022
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He's making sense!
ReplyDeleteEnough sense. Get a phone without internet access for them. Even if they want to use your phone,be beside them to watch what them are browsing on
DeleteThe way I hawk over my daughter now. I'm always uncomfortable whenever I see anybody carry her. God abeg oh.
They wont hear na.
ReplyDeleteI remember one BV from the past bragging about her underage daughter using the latest iPhone, and when other pointed how detrimental it is, she lashed back at them calling them "broke"
If you must buy them phones, buy kpalasa torch light phones or smartphones without internet access, cos the streets is no longer safe 💡
ReplyDeleteThank you. This is what I was gonna say. They need to reach you when away, so a phone without internet is ok
DeleteThank you Sir!!
ReplyDeleteI have always been team no phones
Even without phones, they still do wonders.
ReplyDeleteThank you ijeoma
DeleteAtleast some things will reduce nah.
DeleteMay God help us raise godly seed in this end time ungodly world. Amen.
Thank you Ij. It's not about keeping the phones away from them,some parents still don't get this. Teach them what is right and wrong because these kids go to school and may access the internet through friends' phones without your knowledge. My son has a phone which has some settings installed. He can't access certain websites and we can curtail his activities too, no youtube installed but youtube kids.
DeleteTeach and correct them with love, that way they'll discuss anything and everything with you, my son tells his dad and I all he does on the phone, even though we already have the idea through the checks.
It's not SOLELY about keeping the phones away from them, but that is a significant part of it.
DeleteA child that will become spoilt will become spoilt!!! Whether you give them access to devices or not. Not like I am proud of it or anything, but, I did worse than that child, at an even tender age, even without access to internet, devices or porn, but it didn’t stop me from soaring…. I was the best in my class right from kindergarten up until post graduate studies, I earn 6 figures salary and a booming business, happily married with kids, great sexlife etc. Just instill in your children proper values, equip them with life and social skills, teach them to set their priorities right and leave it there. Let them make their decisions, mistakes and let them learn from it, let them see you as their number one friend and confidant. Of course I wouldn’t want my kid having sex at such tender age, but there is only so much one can do as a parent. If you have preteen or teenage kids, let them watch a show “big mouth “ on a popular streaming network, my 9year old watches it and has so much questions to ask, which I answer with absolutely no filter. It’s best they learn from you the parents, because they are going to learn one way or the other, unless you wanna keep them locked up and end up with social retards years later.
ReplyDeleteIt's good to withhold the phones from them while teaching them good morals. No be to the teach good morals and pornographic content go dey mess up their mind. I hope you saw the anon who wrote how his dad's blue film he stumbled on messed up his mind. abi the dad no teach him good morals ni???? even setting your eyes on pornographic content can mess up your mind as an adult e come be pikin. let's be analytical sometimes,
DeleteThank you well said pikin wey wan spoil go spoil. Back in the day when phone no dey how many teenage pregnancies and sex happen boku.
Deletelearn mistakes the same way this woman and daughter are learning the biggest mistakes of their lives abi?. Teach them good morals yes but honestly they do not need a phone till much later. A lot is going on on social media and the less they see the better. of course they cannot totally avoid using the devices because we need internet for even school assignments these days but they can use parents phones, desktops, laptops at home which can be monitored and restricted. all our phones, laptops and smart tvs at home has age restrictions to adult content. I am constantly monitoring even the games they play and I even watch some of the cartoons to listen to the conversation. I personally also believe a child can also be spoilt despite all you do but we can keep some things away from them till later...do your part and let God help us with the rest.
DeleteAnon 12:06, withholding phone from a child in these century can't solve anything, you will make your child slave to children that have phones cos he/ she will be ready to do anything for them to have access to the phone. Communication with our children matters, let them learn things from the parents, I know a boy of 6 years that used to hang with teenagers watching porn cos the parents refuse him access to phone, the parents were not aware of this exposure, until a report came from school that he was fingering a female pupil in the class, the parents were shocked, now they gave him a phone with all these race games he plays at leisure and don't go after phone like there something too important about it. And a child that has his own hardly checks another person phone without permission. Start on time to tell them life truths, don't shy away from it. Without phones they hear stories, do you know what goes on in that brain of theirs.
Delete@anon 12:06. Remember I said you should let your kids be comfortable discussing such stuff with you the parent. The child having stumbled upon the phonographic content could have come up to his dad or mom to discuss such, had it been the had a great relationship and he/she would not have ended up so messed up and the parent would have guided him or her.
DeleteAlas, there’s no fail safe way to train up a child, everyone do what you feel is right. I am doing what I feel is right for my kids. My sister in-law once said(behind my back though, they nor born am well to talk am for my front) that I am spoiling my kids, as my kids say vagina and penis and menstruation stuff at ease around adults. No Wahala, lemme spoil my kids myself
anon 12:06. Remember I said you should let your kids be comfortable discussing such stuff with you the parent. The child having stumbled upon the phonographic content could have come up to his dad or mom to discuss such, had it been the had a great relationship and he/she would not have ended up so messed up and the parent would have guided him or her.
DeleteAlas, there’s no fail safe way to train up a child, everyone do what you feel is right. I am doing what I feel is right for my kids. My sister in-law once said(behind my back though, they nor born am well to talk am for my front) that I am spoiling my kids, as my kids say vagina and penis and menstruation stuff at ease around adults. No Wahala, lemme spoil my kids myself
baby Lou, keep somethings away from them until later you say? I laugh…. Whatever you feel that child doesn’t know, trust me, they know!!!! Unless they don’t socialize at all, that is; no school, church, neighborhood kids etc. THEY KNOW!!! They just are too scared to let you see that part of them. Even if you filter everything down to what the watch they still know, unless you wanna keep them indoor till they are off age, no school, church etc
DeleteI rest my case… good day…
Baby Oku, well said.
DeleteGiving them the good things of life is not it my dear. Without Jesus in their lives I.e. without leading them to Jesus early, we impacted nothing. Your time and this time are not the same, why? There are so many things that were not accessible unlike now.
DeleteAtimes, I will be browsing and reading some stuff, things like 18+ content will just pop up, will quickly remove let alone when a child is browsing and have data...
I guess if we lead them to where Jesus is taught with meaningful Christian songs with prayers early, they won't forget it when they grow up.
Pst David is right but its just medicine after death. But only the wise ones make amend fast. Not too late.
All these ppl talking,'phone or no phone, a child can still spoil', play ur part first. Children simply DON'T need that exposure or the distraction it brings, in their lives. If u must give them smart phones, monitor their usage strictly. Better to disable its internet function and use family desktop for relevant browsing. Monitor ur child's interactions to the best of ur ability. Most importantly, encourage a relationship with God, in ur child. One fails to see the correlation between keeping a strict eye on ur children and their turning to social misfits/morons. Na today parenting begin? A lot of ppl grew up under strict monitoring and they have no regrets today. They are, in fact thoroughly grateful for the upbringing they received from their parents. Apparently it's those that were left to grow up wild that find it difficult to see reason in something so logical.
DeleteIf you no buy phone for your child in this age make sure you are homeschooling cos out of curiosity he/ she will be checking out other people's phones when with them. Buy phone /laptop for your children with parental guide. Stop thinking that by being strict these children are godly ,no, they are pretenders, I am a mental and emotional health coach, a church invited me for their youth program, I was teaching these "innocent youth " on the ability to learn decision making by weighing their strengths and weaknesses to enable them decide on school/career, friends, parents relationship, dating/sex,addictions and self worth. Do you know these children asked me questions off microphone cos they don't want their pastors know what they are doing, the questions I answered that day still has effects on me. Children emotions develop before their reasoning. Parents let your child be open to you, teach them the Good,Bad and Ugly, tell them why the Good surpasses everything, allow them tell you their situations, ask them if they can identify any problem from the situation, ask them to think and list options to solve the problem, ask them which option they think best. Is not easy but we do our best and leave the rest to GOD.
ReplyDeletenot everyone who goes to church is godly or live righteous. some people just call God but do not have relationship with him so they just let their kids do stuff anyhow. you also have those who do godly parenting. yes kids will want to know stuff and we must be ready to tell them the truth. i dont know what is pretentious in kids seeking to know stuff
DeleteI see reasons with him.
ReplyDeleteThe internet seems to be doing more harm than good to these generation kids, with lots of potentially harmful digital footprints popping up your screen without your consent, and some parents unconsciously hand them the poison seed, and later cry sorrowfully when that seed germinates.
I'd always be an advocate of the 80s/90s, we had a GOOD life (even though we were completely oblivious).
The music had good rhythm and lyrics.
Our food tastes better without preservatives.
Our love lasted longer & genuine.
Our moral compass pointed uprightly north.
Our recreational games ("Oga", "Swear", "Okoso" "kite" etc) was fulfilled.
Our currency could strengthen up to the worlds fixed based currency.
Our harmattan was colder.
Even rainbows graced our skies.... etc.
I sometimes wish a reset button could be hit and we travel back in time when life was enjoyable even with coins in your pocket.
False Prophet so you are this much of a romantic? Wow...I agree with most of what you wrote except the moral compass part. In my opinion, it's this internet age that has exposed secret lives and information now travel fast.
DeleteI dey tell u false prophet...
DeleteWhat's happening now is as if we are in another planet.
We must also teach our children to discern right from wrong and stand up for what is right apart from not buying them phones.You might not buy phones for your children but they can have access to their friends' phones and do whatever they want without anyone monitoring them. That is when all your teachings will show its forth its fruit. Don't just tell them not to do something, tell them why too. Let them realize there are consequences for their actions either good or bad.
ReplyDeleteNa wah everyone don turn parenting expert. Last week na domestic violence expert. Next week e go be something else. Make we Dey look!!!
ReplyDeleteAs the spirit leads na, we go keep quiet before?
DeleteI bought a new Samsung phone, I didn't understand how to operate some of the features, my 9yr old daughter in jss1 started teaching me what to tap on the phone o. A girl that doesn't have a phone and uses my old phone for her assignments under my supervision. My phone is passworded so she doesn't press it behind me. How did she know how to operate my new phone?
ReplyDeleteFriends at school or neighbours kids with phone or ..... I asked her , she said some of her school mates bring Android phones during school parties and other occasions, also, after they finish their exams, they secretly press phones at a corner.
So whether we buy them phones or not, a child that will spoil will spoil. Just do your best in teaching them morals, monitor and pray for them.
You think her friends dont have phone? De there make pant de wear u
Deleteyou see one of the issues we also have 9 years old in JSS1..she will be in class with older kids who probably have no parental guidinace and thye stat teaching her all sort. so you do your part from home but the kid comes to school and turns something else, so except you are constantly monitoring, asking questions, make her close so she can confide in you things might be happening under your nose. If all parents decide not to give their kids phones which one will they use? so let parents sit up and refuse to allow too much liberty to these kids...stop giving young kids access to their own phones. let them use yours if necessary with restrictions.
Delete9 years indeed. she began primary school of 6years at 2years okwaya?
DeleteAt 15:03 it's very possible... Just because you started out in life late don't mean others do... I was nine when gained admission into secondary school too... But clocked 10 in the same class because I'm February born... Imagine I was born September or later, I would have been 9, all through JS1 and I graduated from the university at 20 only because I had an extra year
DeleteAnd yes, I started school at 1yr plus. So it is very very possible
U buy phone for them or not....they will still misbehave except you train them in the way they should go.
ReplyDeleteNo flogging in all schools and any attempt to flog Any student,the parents will come and deal with you..then how do you want such child to learn
Train up a child the way he should go,when he is old,he won't depart from it. A child in High school doesn't need a phone!!! Parents needs to do better
DeleteI was going out with my children and their uncle in a car, I told my brother to sit in the front row while my children at the back. My son(6) said no ooo, " mom ,someone that doesn't know he is my brother will think you are cheating on my dad" I was speechless, I later asked him why he said so , he replied" people assume alot". No new baby again ooo, na old people dey come back to enjoy digital age, I sha have discussion with him on people's assumptions.
ReplyDeleteI was going out with my children and their uncle in a car, I told my brother to sit in the front row while my children at the back. My son(6) said no ooo, " mom ,someone that doesn't know he is my brother will think you are cheating on my dad" I was speechless, I later asked him why he said so , he replied" people assume alot". No new baby again ooo, na old people dey come back to enjoy digital age, I sha have discussion with him on people's assumptions.
ReplyDeleteIf you train ur kids they will go out to mingle with other children who were not properly groomed from home.For children only phones without internet is good so u can communicate with them when u aren’t home,I really don’t think there is any need for internet enable phones,if they need to do assignments let them use urs,with close monitoring and u collect it afterwards.The way kids are so smart with handling phones ehn u go shock,most of them take android phones to school without their parents knowledge and u can’t tell the pages and sites they visit with those phones.They are also very inquisitive the things they don’t know about they ask their friends and their friends tell them about it.May God help our generation.
ReplyDeleteI don't support children in secondary schools using phones, nevertheless train up achid in the way of the Lord,when he is old,he will depart from it with prayers,this generation need prayers and strict training
ReplyDeleteYou can buy it, there are still phones without internet, my niece has one for emergency use. There are tablets that cannot connect to the internet too, they are just for learning. There are those with strict parental controls.
ReplyDeleteThe advice should be for parents to stop parenting lazily. The lazy way of doing the least, kind of parenting sytle is what needs to end. Instill values without fear and abuse, and for parents to also practice what they preach. There are many things unsavoury that children are getting exposed to at home through their parents' own doing. Look at the amount of people who willingly went ahead and watched that video, for what? There is a spiritual sickness in much of these so-called parents too, many of whom have no business guiding an innocent soul on this earth.
--> The advice should be for parents to stop parenting lazily. The lazy way of doing the least, kind of parenting sytle is what needs to end. Instill values without fear and abuse, and for parents to also practice what they preach.
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I used to think eh
DeleteThat no be to collect sperm born be the real deal o. To raise kids that the community will be so proud of even the Heaven's too.
May God help us raise godly kids o,Amen.
In my family, you receive your first smart phone when you gain admission into the university. They started with the firstborn and so no one complained, infact it makes you study hard to get admission. He presents the phone together with a laptop and congratulatory message.
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