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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
STEALING SPOUSE..
Dear Stella,
I am married to a VERY STINGY MAN and to balance up, i started stealing his cash... He brings home coded money cos of his line of business.... I pretend i dont know he has cash and he takes it to the Bank in the money cos he closes late.
What i do is that i put sleeping tablets in his drink and when he is fast asleep, i take the keys to the car and help myself out... I dont beg him anymore for money and have faced my front...I use this money i steal to take care of myself and our child...
The problem i have now is that i heard my hubby talking on the phone that someone has been stealing his money and he would deal with the matter his own way...
I dont know if his own way means spiritually... I have been so scared with worry and i am thinking of going to confess to him....My confession will end the marriage but at least i will be alive...
Now my question is this......I am very scared and not thinking straight.... this man might want to visit a native Doctor..... Should confess to him and beg him or move out before hr comes back and send him a WhatsApp confession? The problem with the WhatsApp confession is that he will forward it to people which would be very embarrassing but if i beg him physically he wont have proof to mess me up with....
Please i need advice...
*You steal your husbands money? his hard earned money? Oh Dear!!!
*You steal your husbands money? his hard earned money? Oh Dear!!!
I pray you get good advice cos I am still processing what to advice...
Coded money. Is he into wire wire?
ReplyDeleteTell him you took it coz you n the kid were hungry, no food at home, heaven will not fall. Unless you ain't saying the gospel truth.
Madam tell him you took the money since he refused giving you house upkeep money. Don't say you stole. And never admit to giving him sleeping medicine. Next thing they will twist the story that you wanted to poison him.
DeleteAlso go and start a business. Work for your own money and stop depending on husband. Even Regina Daniel's married to a billionaire is hustling her own money.
I doubt the narrative the poster has presented. If we pay attention to her opening sentence, she described her husband as stingy. My question is stingy to the extent that he doesn't provide the basic for the family? In my opinion, the poster has used this opening line to justify her stealing. This is a ploy to play the victim.
DeleteYou sef… stealing is bad. Just confess
ReplyDeleteNative doctor is not nearly as effective as many of you hope. They are only as powerful as you believe they are. Maybe his way might be to plant a camera in the car or bring home counterfeit notes...ehen, that sounds more like it.
Delete@Ms Saphire, you can say that when you are not the one going to face the consequence. Just so you know, the guilty mind will always be trouble by the slightest action whether powerful or otherwise. From what we can read up there, the poster is seriously worried maybe out of guilt or knowledge of what her husband can do.
DeleteTell him the truth verbally and brace up for the consequences. Don’t fail to remind him why and show him what you have used them for. Hopefully, you bought tangible things that can backup your claim, if not, nobody will believe your story if he is not giving you money. Why didn’t you start a small online business with it. Something that won’t take you out of the house but still make money.
ReplyDeleteHer reason is probably not cogent. She has only used the "very stingy man" line to avoid bashing here. It is more of greed on her part, I believe.
DeleteMy husband cheats and sends money to girls anytime I see proof that he sent another money, I take his money, sometimes cash and sometimes I transfer from his account, or I make outrageous demayfrom him, dats what I use to calm my anger. Anyone that come here to type thrash Na you sabi. I don’t have sex with him any more because I’ve disconnected emotionally. And I am not leaving him because he is a good father and i will b leaving d country soon, I will b free from his emotional abuse. Who never fuck up hands in the air, no one?
ReplyDeleteOutrageous demands*
DeletePlus he is the sole sponsor of my travel
DeleteYou are making the cases for people to support your folly but I am not one of those.
DeleteYOu are a thief; people do not spare a thief because she stole to support his hunger; do they?
You think "abroad" is heaven or a shield from you; yes you. It is not a panacea to your thieving,
repentance is.
Don’t tell him. Just stop. Nothing will happen.
DeleteRest pls. We have heard. Cheat married to a thief, You both deserve each other. Nothing extraordinary here.
DeleteWell done!!!! My type ommmm
DeleteThe money she stole would have been spent on a side chick anyway. Two wrongs don't make a right, true, but she must find an outlet for her frustration. At least she is not having a revenge affair or drawing a knife at him or his side chicks. Stealing from him is a lesser evil and he does not have a monopoly of stupidity and sinful nature.
Delete@Saphire
DeleteEvil is evil, lesser or greater, it is evil. She is a thief and if you love her, tell her to repent and confess.
He is stingy
ReplyDeleteYou are a robber
You are afraid of "native doctors" (Satan's agent, thus satan)
But you have no fear of God the father of all spirits?
You have concluded that he will divorce you already?
No, that's a wrong step and conclusion.
Foremost; repent, ask God to forgive you for stealing and for being a sinner; yes, we are all sinner but some of us have found salvation through Christ.
Next; fast and pray -humble yourself before God and confess to your husband. Confession will open a new lease of life and blessing for you rather than curses.
Once you come under the protective cover of the Lord Jesus, he won't be able to do you a thing.
That is why salvation is the first step.
Tell him that his act of selfishness forced you to do this but please do not ever talk about the sleeping tablets bcz I am not sure I would forgive someone easily for drugging me.
ReplyDeletePromise him that you will never do that again if there's enough money for you to manage the home.
Infact wake him up at 3:00am and narrate a scary dream you just had and link it to your true confession.
Make him start thinking that he has supernatural backup that has warned you in your dream about pending doom if you do not repent.
Make it look real like screaming before opening your eyes from your sleep.
Don't confess but stop stealing.
ReplyDeleteThank u anon. Nothing will happen. Don’t tell him and just stop. U are already afraid. He suspects it’s u and is using psychological sense to get a confession. Don’t confess. Just stop that’s all
DeleteNo amount of "nothing will happen" will make something not to happen. You all should be telling this thief to repent. Zoputa isi onwe gi before you begin to search for your husband's.
DeleteIf native doctors were nearly as potent as you believe, foreign religions wouldn't have been accepted as they were. They are all impotent and only feed off the fear they inflict on you.
DeleteAwon "nothing will happen" e go shock the poster when something happen if she believe you all. Her conscience alone will make something happen.
DeleteHe knows you're the only stealing his money. That was why he put that fake call in your presence so as to stop you from stealing his money. He won't do anything in his own way. He said that to put fear in you
ReplyDeleteYou too stop stealing your horseband's money. Why did you even marry a stingy man?. Anyways that's in the past. Why not get something doing instead of stealing?
Thank you.. prudent T
DeleteMake una continue to dey give the thief of a poster mind instead of una to advice her to change her thieving ways and turn a new leaf.
DeleteIf you Know he won't beat you then tell him .Don't tell him the part where you out pills in his drink though. But you are a dangerous person,what if you mistakenly killed him nko?
ReplyDeleteGo to your parents house and tell both your parents and his parents about the happenings
ReplyDeleteTo what extent was he stingy? He was not bringing money for necessities? School fees? Or he was taking care of those fixed fees and not giving you enough for things like food? Or is the problem the fact that he wasn’t giving you money for yourself?
ReplyDeleteWhy does it matter? I believe what you are taking the money for will determine how to approach this apology, because rest assured, people will hear it. So when they do, do you have enough evidence to get people on your side? Or you just stole for clothes and shoes?
2 options - if you are brave, just stop stealing his money and keep quiet. Hopefully, he doesn’t do anything further since the theft has stopped. Option 2, stop stealing his money and confess to him. This is preferable because if he is a trader with apprentices, he may really want to find out the thief to send him/her away, even if the theft stops.
Either way, stop stealing his money. It does not look good on you, no matter what you think your excuse is.
And ear must not hear that you put drugs in your husband’s drink. The assumption is you can kill him. You will throw any teaming trust to the gutters. How can you even do that?!
DeleteMadam, you are not a good person, check your values. Seems your moral bar is pretty low.
Hear must not hear that, abi? I am surprised no one has chastised her for that action alone. Such a wife can kill her husband. I bet you if she gets desperate out of fear that he will find out she is the one stealing the money, she can decide to poison him and kill him. This woman is evil!
DeleteYou married a guy man..
ReplyDeleteHe is guessing you are the one stealing his money hence why the call so you can hear it and have fear incase his guesswork is correct..
Stealing is bad nevertheless;please stop and work too;Gods blessing are not gender specific and you can do much better as a woman.
If you decide to confess to him;its your choice so brace up for any reaction you get from him..
@MARTINS
Same thought I have. If it’s me I won’t even stop sef. Nonsense
Delete1606 dont stop hehn till dey invoke ur spirit at 12am and k!ll u instantly via mirror u go knw
DeleteHe knows you're the one, he purposely made that call for you to confess. Oh my God, how do you drug someone please. Just what if they don't wake up from the sleep nko. Please never try this again. Your husband knows you're the one and wants you to confess. Go to him and tell him it's you and why, you can send him a message or VN, or go to someone he respect. In all that was wrong
ReplyDeleteThe woman is a pro. Apart from stealing his money. She's also drugging him.
DeleteMadam, have thought of the after efect of the drugs on him?? You don't even consider his health. Hmmmm stop it before it's too late...
Confess to him and ask him for forgiveness.
He is into shady deals and you are benefiting from shady monies.
ReplyDeleteYOu are both an accomplice and a thief. REpent.
He is a stingy man. How? No details. It is the way of man to tell the story in a way that benefit him. Hence Adam blamed Eve who blamed the serpent.
ReplyDeleteIf he dies from drug interaction or reaction. And his family accuse you of killing him based on their scientific or non-scientific investigation, you are likely to claim widow's victimization.
It appears you chose to steal from the money because you believed that your husband would not shout much since the money is illegitimate (a.k.a. coded money). Well, know that even thieves can be brutal in against those who steal from them
Stealing is not the proper response to a real spousal stinginess. Dialogue and evidential based demands are two of several ways to go.
Well, stop stealing and beg him to forgive all past acts.
Hopefully, he too will stop carrying coded money.
@Anon, thank you very much. If he was to pass on in his sleep due to the drugs she puts in his food and she gets found out, I can bet you that she will claim abuse. Just the way she has claimed the man is stingy, she will claim abuse if he doesn't wake.
DeleteYou have liver o! How can you be drugging someone, you're not even afraid there can be complications one day.
ReplyDeletePlease stop all you're doing, it is wrong. Your husband is not being fair to you by being stingy, have a conversion with him and if that doesn't work, please try to find ways to increase your income.
Not just drugging someone, but her husband. All in a bid to steal from him. She is evil! I very much doubt her assertion that he is stingy. I guess she decided to use that to justify her theft!
DeleteHow some women fear their husband's is what I don't understand.
ReplyDeleteIt was wrong to have stolen his money.
, I remember when my father used to hide money in his wardrobe and my mom and sisters would go there and take out of it, it got to a point dad started noticing it and he asked, they boldly told him they needed it, and he was not around so they decided to help themselves.
Even me I tried it once o🤣🤣.
He stopped keeping his money in the wardrobe and he said we should ask instead and whatever he gives we should manage.
You don't need to send him any message madam.
Tell him to his face that you took his money and spent it for the home upkeep cos the ones he usually gives you didn't go far. Tell him you are sorry for going that route but you were tempted.
If he is the violent type call somebody to be around in your house while you confess to him face to face.
After which if he is threatening to kill you or divorce you jejely pack your load and go.
You all never drugged him, did you? What you've described up there is totally different from what this poster has said. She also didn't mention the amount she has stolen on the numerous occasions.
DeleteMadam, putting a drug in your husband's drinks without his consent or knowledge is inhumane. If your husband is stingy please find a way to bring something to the table as well. I hope your husband got to know about this and run for his life instead of staying, drag it with you and allow you turn him to a demoralised man.
ReplyDeleteWhat you will do id these
ReplyDeleteFirst be on your knee sincerely ask God for Forgiveness and God to touch his heart to forgive you confront him and tell tell him but if you dont have the courage If you go to church meet your pastor explain to him tell him you want to do restitution to your husband , let him follow you
It is well God will see thru
That is stealing. You did wrong. What is wrong in communicating with your horseband that your son is hungry.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo, your horseband go carry you go babalawo. Better confess to God Almighty to forgive you and then talk to your horseband
can one steal from herself? No!! you guys are one flesh and bone, that means his money is yours vice versa, so since his money is yours too, that means you didn't steal but only collected what is yours.
ReplyDeleteeven if he finds out, go full offensive and not defensive turn the table around against him
Are you for real???🥺🥺🥺🥺
DeleteSome women sef.... From your chronicle, it seems you are not really into the marriage all because he's stingy? What you should have done is confess to him, tell him why you did what you did and ask for forgiveness. Promise him you will not repeat it. If he still doesn't give you money, tell him to set you up. Why are you thinking of separating from him when that might not even be his plan for you. That phone call might be that he knew you was the one but just wanted to scare you.
ReplyDeleteMy own is never ever tell him you drug him
ReplyDeleteIf it was a man who posted this chronicle will your advice be this?
DeleteSleeping pills?!
ReplyDeleteYOu are both a thief and a murderer
Supposing he died from sleeping pills?
Please confess, repent and let him do whatever.
Your actions are wrong.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT SAY A WORD TO HIM ABOUT STEALING. IT MAY END YOUR MARRIAGE. BUT STOP STOP STOP STEALING. PRAY N FAST FOR 3 DAYS ABOUT THIS MATTER. THEN PLEAD WITH HIM TO GIVE YOU MONEY TO START YOUR OWN SMALL BUSINESS. WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT CONFESS, UNLESS HE CONFRONTS YOU WITH EVIDENCE. GOOD LUCK
ReplyDeletePlease stop it.
ReplyDeleteSome ppl are really going through things in this life. First you have to resort to theft for survival, now you have to be worried about your own survival.
ReplyDeleteConfessing to a heartless person is useless, he could still choose to deal with you after your confession. He could already suspect you why he spoke loud enough for you to overhear. What should you do? Start demanding that he provides for the household, you shouldn't have to resort to drugging him to get money to keep up the household. This is going too far, suppose the drugs harm or kill him one day? If he refuses then cook lizard and worms give him to eat cause this is foolishness. Make tomato or cabbage soup, the most basic and tasteless food. Better you leave if you can than having to go through all that. His stingy ass can eat breeze and he drinks his spit and live in darkness,put your foot down. A man like him would be quite content to see you hauling water, planting food, washing by hand, going to your own work and turning a slave in the home and wouldn't bat an eye or have one drop of compassion.
My dad too was stingy we all used to steal his money my mum and siblings and guess what he doesn't even notice so y u no just give us hmmm some men sha but all of a sudden my mom told us to stop and ever since God has been blessing everyone personally my bro still uses one of the wristwatch till date original Gold we laugh about it that it is daddy that bought it for him with out daddy's knowledge
ReplyDeleteTell him and apologise Place a phone for recording somewhere or camera anywhere u want to confess incase anything viloence want to happen u can hint ur mum or someone close about it
DeleteHow can you be drugging your husband? Scary and absolutely wrong!!
ReplyDeleteIt is wrong that he doesnt give you money for upkeep but drugging him and stealing his money is going overboard.
Can you consider doing business or get a job instead?