STANS ALONE NARRATIVE
LOST HOPE
Good day ,
I have been a silent reader of your blog for the past few years, now,lets say like 5years now been trying to get blog ID few,times didnt, sussceed maybe was my phone type, i am wrtiiting,to you cause am in a tight corner of life and confused.
I know,how you have used your blog to bless a lot of people GOD will surely reward you back,back,to,my story i became a single mum 4 months ago, my baby father dissapeared ; he doesnt want to be involved in our lifes:
Life became tougher i had, c-session after i almost died trying to conceive natural, i had enlarged bladded and other medical condition, the hospital billed me twice of what i was suppose to pay ,after i got discharged .
Due to botched c-session i had caught infection i, almost died became a shadow of myself few friends gave what they had i went from hospital to,hospital i was,not,strong enough ....
My sister, arranged with a, doctor whom was coming to the house to treat me coupled with baby, expenses,i,lost my,savings...
When,my,sis realise,i could,no longer contribute to house expenses she,kicked me,out,of her house with my baby.
I went to river state to stay with our seniour brother whom at first,was helping,me but his wife changed his behaviour towards me ,i have,not,fully, recovered,but they have turned, to their househelp and the,enviroent is so toxic i would,like to leave the environment but i cant afford to,leave:
My brother,told,me he has no,money or transport to give to go back to,lagos ,i wanted to go back to,lagos to,go squat with a friend whom is married she stays,with,her husband and,kids in one,room,apartment:
I am suicidal and,confused dont know,where to go from here so pls,ma i know,you have angels,on,your,blog if there is,anyone willing to help,me,with,anything for,me,to get,on,my,feet again or someone,looking,for,a maid,live,in maid,with,accomodation cause of,my baby pls help,ma i dont,know,where to,go from here.
May God see you through.
ReplyDeleteSo all the advice for this ogbonge blog no teach you something make you for reason yourself? Meeehn let me just leave you because of your baby.
DeleteI hope yesterday's poster is reading this.
DeleteSometimes, abortion is way better.
Abortion, you mean murder. It beats me how you claim to be a Christian yet openly advocate for sin. Please, choose a side.
DeleteYou were desperate to get pregnant without a secure income.
ReplyDeleteYour baby daddy doesnt want to live with you, your sister cannot cope again after staying with you, ur brother too doesnt want you around anymore.
According to you, they want to turn you to housegirl which you are resisting but you are soliciting for the same house girl work from strangers online?
I would suggest you work on improving your character so that you can live with people peacefully without drama or entitlements because no matter the help you get, it wont last until you work on yourself
BV Sylvia
I’m beginning to think otherwise. You can’t help out your sis but you are willing to be a maid for a total stranger...hmmmmmm.
DeleteAnother angle.
DeleteYou don’t know life that’s why you said all that. All these people are acting like this cause rich husband they thought was coming has disappeared
DeleteShey it’s here that a lot of you advice mature single ladies to conceive, maybe she is one of them that has taken that advice.
DeleteWomen you need to be wise, poster May God show you mercy.
Atleast if she’s a maid for someone else she’ll be getting paid. She being a maid to her brother and sister doesn’t pay her, they’re only adding more stress to her already stressed life.
DeleteReason 909 why you people need to think twice before having babies for someone who doesn’t care nor have plans of being committed to you.
You’ll be alright sister!
@Sylvia...
DeleteThe part that said she almost died from conceiving naturally should have read - "delivered naturally/v*ginally" - hence the need for a c-section (which she wrote as c-session). Her OP is riddled with spelling and grammatical errors, so I can see why you interpreted it as you did.
@poster...
I find it odd that you want to be a househelp for a stranger, but cannot do so for your brother's family. At least, even if your bro doesn't pay you (much), you get free accommodation, food and you don't have to pay for transportation to and from work. You will also be able to check on your baby as often as you like. If someone were to hire you now as a live-out household, you would need to sort out accommodation (1-2 years upfront payment); pay for transportation; cover you and your baby's feeding. Don't forget that you will also need to get someone to watch him or her whilst you work, as no employer is going to want you to bring your infant. Stay with your bro and convince him to pay you a salary, that you can save. One day those savings can be used to move out on your own or start a small scale business or whatever you want.
You can’t keep moving from one place to another. You said your friend lives in Lagos and you want to go over there to squat with them in their one room apartment....that sounds scary.
ReplyDeleteHow about your parents? Have you tried reaching your baby daddy’s family? What were you doing before you had your baby?
What you need is a job. I hope you get one soon. You can learn a skill too.
Stella please how sincere is she? I’ll be back later
ReplyDeleteGod bless 🙏 u
DeleteMe too. No use blaming. Some people are looking for a child anyhow.
DeleteThis is serious....All these men from the pit of hell..is it by force to do ni?
ReplyDeleteI think it's time for women to be very careful and watchful before saying I do else,the word I do will finish you oo..
God,,this my gender is making me angry...
I pray my good Lord come through for you soon
May God come through for you and your baby Amen.
ReplyDeleteLastly,,try and learn a skill,,get something done for ursef instead of trying to become a live in maid..it won't help you.
ReplyDeleteThanks
Yes you are right! But didn’t you see that she’s penniless? How does she start a trade? Let your advises on this blog come from your head not your anus ! I too know.
DeleteWhen you encourage some people to learn a skill, you’ve invited trouble to yourself. Some will even tell you “ you dey try o, I nor fit” and be slaying away.
DeleteIn this harsh economy, do you even need to be reminded to learn a skill?
Even with my education, I’ve learned two skills.
You believe it’s a man’s duty to provide for you 💯. What would you fall back on if something happens to that man?
@Anon 15:20
DeleteYour brain is not working fine. If not,you should have known how to address issue without going beyond ur boundary.
You just come online and talk to people as if they are ur maid...u are not well cultured.
15.20 no need to be rude or abusive. Scroll past his comments, that's what I do.
Delete20:56 that's exactly what I do. It never makes sense so I always jumpampass. The rudeness is very uncalled for.
DeleteHmmm, people going thr' a lot. May your angel locate you dear. Amen
ReplyDeleteMay God help you 🙏
ReplyDeleteMay God have mercy on you and send the help that you need.
ReplyDeleteDear poster,all hope is not lost,God will see you through
ReplyDeleteGrow some liver. Stay with your brother. I’m sorry I wouldn’t want anyone to stay in my house if I don’t want them but as long as he’s not driving you away, stay there. Stop being so weak speak up for yourself. Call your baby dad and the family and let all know what’s happening. If still not help from him, file for child support. You say all these started in Lagos. Lagos is good at ordering child support so go and file. If not enough, apply to justice court online for help with the case. Check them on YouTube
ReplyDeleteYour commas are confusing. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteYour commas are confusing. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster, I think you have attitude problem. If your relatives can't accommodate you, then who? I am sure your baby daddy does not want a baby but you forced one on him and he fled. Close your legs, wahala, use protection, erho.l only feel for the poor baby you are dragging from one place to another.
ReplyDeleteYou've been a silent reader and you haven't picked anything?
ReplyDeleteIf not from the posts at least from the comments, advice and life experiences.
5 years?
Ok.
Its 's best you stay with family.
It's better to be a househelp within your family, than househelp to strangers.
Learn a skill.
Approach your people in the most humble way posdible.
Tell them you want to learn a skill so they you won't be a burden on them.
Once you've saved enough money and move out.
There is no pride or raising shoulders when one is in need. If you don't know how to stop to conquer, you will suffer till death comes knocking.
I wish you the best.
Stella, how can I help her. I want to give her small cash.
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DeleteYou should learn how to cope with people in the world. How can you go to inconvenience your friend staying in a room's apartment with husband and kids? Since your brother and his wife has not thrown you out yet, swallow your ego, be humble and eagerly seek for something doing to assist them financially and the insults will reduce. It's not easy anywhere. Your friend will give you more attitude.
ReplyDeleteI feel ur pain my sister, may God see u through...how I wish I can help u but I don't have,I pray u see someone to assist u,🙏🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteI like how smart Stella has become sha, see her response.
ReplyDeletePoster, I pray God sees you through whatever you are going through.
Format, go to your church.
ReplyDeleteYou have been reading SDK blog since five years and you didn't learn anything from it. In SDK blog,our motto for the single sisters is "cross your legs like mermaid".
ReplyDeleteNa you don allow the paddy man score goal. You are here disturbing us,when you dey enjoy the dike(d**k) you no tell us.well because of that precious gift wen dey your hand I no go insult you.By the way you are looking for where to work as a maid, but you said your brother want turn you to maid., work for your brother tell him to employ you as a house help.
Pls read and understand..her brother wants to turn her to a maid (free) so instead she's seeking to be a paid maid with an apartment aside and I think with this she would be able to save some funds to do whatever.what I think tho..
DeleteI don't believe any of these analysis
ReplyDeleteRather than go and inconvenience your friend who I am sure is already uncomfortable in a one room apartment with her family, or go and be a maid for someone else, stay with your brother and be that maid for your brother and his wife instead. Make yourself useful and available to her. Do the necessary house chores without being told. If you do this, you can easily win her over and gradually chip it in that you will like to learn a skill.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a needy and emotionally weak person, and oversensitive people like you can be a burden. Not everyone is able to cope with people with fragile emotions. Anywhere you go, you will probably encounter the same challenge. Because lets face it, you are not looking for work really, you are looking for another person to lean on. It's probably why your baby daddy left. Not enough reason to abandon his child though. But the truth, it can get very suffocating to be with people with your kind of personality, as they tend to lean too much on people and subtly use emotional blackmail on people. Of course anyone you meet will be sympathetic initially, till you stretch them to their limit and they realize that playing the victim is your default self. You need to learn how to be strong, daring and face life with more determination.
She just had a child. All this work where is the energy
DeleteIf you can work as a maid for a stranger just to have a roof over your head, then you can as well help out in your brother's house without any I'll feelings. I don't know why I don't believe your story but in any case, just find something doing there in Rivers where you have a free accommodation and help out in the house whenever you can. Your situation will improve with time.
ReplyDeleteWhatever happened to Empathy? Especially those blaming her for opening her legs the mistake has been done why the use of harsh words if she's not a scammer this could really do a number on her self esteem.
ReplyDeleteI understand exactly how she feels that the environment with her brother is suffocating and toxic mind you this is a woman that has just gone through a traumatising child birth and nursing a little one (if the story is true)
This is how that late doc on twitter twitted she had been shot and someone went ahead to ask if she's dead Poster if you can read this don't let the harsh words get to you..
All I can say to you is that you are deeply loved by God, he knows your name and the situation you're in, he has a plan for you even in that mess you're in lean into him desperately and seek him in prayer daily in prayer and he will answer.
Wish I could help but I'm just managing my self small small..don't let this episode define you but cone out of it stronger, you are beautiful, you are loved and accepted in ABBA lean into him.
Because liars are too much and I notice some certain age group don't want to be useful but looking free life,only few people have it easy from start abeg,She should make herself useful.if someone employs her she will still complain.This generation always looking for donation up and down.
DeleteAnnon 19:34, where is empathy you say? Sometimes it doesn’t work, ever heard of TOUGH LOVE?? that is why sometimes we give harsh advice, if not, you would be here, this same poster will write and tell you that after she found her light at the end of the tunnel, the baby daddy suddenly came back all mushy mushy and promised her marriage again and impregnated her the second time. Some people don’t have guidance, these are some of the only places they get to hear the bitter truth. Let her know that it’s a jungle out there and every action you take has a consequence.
DeleteFormat to ask for money. Sex is sweet but you didn’t think if I have a baby, what next?
ReplyDeleteDo you have your baby daddy's details? Do you know where he resides or any of his relatives. If so, contact FIDA or AWLA in Rivers State. These are associations of female lawyers. They'll take up your case. But you sef, you no try.
ReplyDeletePoster, listen to wazobia (ph) radio program on Sunday's by 8pm, by Smart Dawn. Try and copy their numbers and share your story. You may get help.
ReplyDeleteDoes your baby daddy live in Lagos? Do you have his number or address or anyway the court can reach him? If yes, Search for "Judge Funmi Justice Court" on YouTube and apply online through the link in the YouTube video description. The court will order him to give you monthly allowance for the baby's upkeep as well as accomodation if he can afford it. They may also help you get something to be doing (job or business) if you have the right attitude. All the best.
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ReplyDeletePlease do not kill yourself.
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