TUESDAY In House News...

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I salute you all.....

IN HOUSE MEMO

Every time i drop the memos, now it your turns to drop a memo...LOL

Some of you are sending in adverts with other people photos, na me una wan put for trouble? cant you snap what you are selling?

The winner of the Ghana versus Nigeria match prediction did not send me a mail.. why nah......

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD



I have this friend who is very, very lovely and has a lovely accent. I mean she was born and bred in Nigeria and has never left the shores of the country but she can switch accents in a sec. She speak normally at home but in public she switches to a higher pitched tone and belts out the accents from across Britain to America effortlessly.


I don't have any issues with the switch. Wetin be my own there, I even find it fascinating because I can’t change my accent ( tried it in my teens, e no dey work)


The main gist is that one day, I went to visit her with my sister unannounced and we sat in the sitting room with her gisting . l could hear her daughter play with the brother in the room. We could hear them from the sitting room perfectly. I could hear her conversations with her brother and it was all cute. The young lady was just six years old and was trying to have a serious conversation with her three year old brother on the consequences of running in the house.


The brother was obviously not listening and they started chasing each other so they ran to the sitting room when they saw me they were shocked they stopped in their tracks suddenly and greeted me and I answered back and tried to joke around with them.


To my amazement this little girl rolled her eyes , switched accents and was gesticulating widely. She was speaking with a slur, her accents were a mixture of Australian( I think), Anambra and Yoruba from her parents and some sprinkles of British ones too.


Not even her mum could have switched that fast, I could see the shock on the mom’s face, it was hilarious but for the girl's sake my sister and I tried our best not to laugh. She was putting so much effort into keeping up and wouldn’t stop , her brother kept asking her what she was saying and when he left her alone, she sat down with us and started talking to herself.


She would nod, turn her head, gesticulate widely to her own monologues, we ignored her and continued our conversation but it was very obvious her mom wasn’t comfortable. She kept on till we left almost an hour later and I could see the relief in her face as we stood up to go.


As soon as we stepped out of the door, I heard her scream at her brother in her normal accent and voice. Since that day, I have been extra careful about what I do and say in front of my kids. Children are like sponges, they soak up things, not just your words but emotions and energy too.


A person who is constantly manipulative would probably raise a more manipulative child because they tend to pick this things up even when we think we are hiding it.





The other day one of my Bambinos was talking to the dad and i heard '' I will show you shege.....'' I stopped in my tracks and called him.... Asked him where he got that from and what the meaning is...

He said he heard me saying it lots of times on the phone and he knows it means showing someone tough time from the sound of my voice........ I asked what else can you pin on me and OMG, i heard so much... My boy even said ''kini gbo gbo eleyi..''


I have switched to American and British accent and my Bambinos told me to choose one..LMAO

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REF - MONDAY CHRONICLE OF BLOG VISITOR NARRATIVE

Hello Stella. Please I would like you to post this as a chronicle.

 I've been wanting to send this post to you for a long time, but somehow I keep postponing it. Recent incidents of some people knowingly hurting others, with a feeling that they've gone scot-free and nothing anybody can do to them.

So I read yesterday's chronicle (the lady that has a child with her sister's husband), and it made me see the extent some people feel they have the right to do whatever, maybe because they have some privilege or they've got what another doesn't have.

There's an aunty S that I know. So it happened that she had a guy she was in a serious relationship with, which was altar bound. But somehow, her friend with the help of her mother snatched the guy from her and got married to him.

 She was heartbroken for so many years, and at some point had to relocate to the US. She moved on with her life and career and hoped for her own husband.

So in the year 2005, she got married in her 50s. It held in Nigeria, in her hometown. My uncle attended the wedding and even called my mum that day while at the venue, you know just to share in the joy of the day, because many people knew her story, and so they were happy for her.

The following day, on Sunday, my uncle called my mum to tell her about the friend that snatched aunty S' fiance, that he heard she lost her 3 children in an accident that same Saturday.

I was in my teens then. My mum told me more about the story, how aunty S and her friend were very close, and sometimes even visited her fiance together. The friend's mother was known to be a very mean woman who could do and undo.

Hmmm I was really shocked, mostly because while still trying to grasp the story of someone marrying for the first time in her 50s because a friend snatched her man, then hearing how the same friend lost all her 3 children the same day aunty S was getting married.

 I felt really bad for the friend, and even more for the innocent children that their lives were cut short.

My mum then said "it is not good to do bad or evil to another person because nobody knows tomorrow". That story was in my subconscious for a very long time. I would say I learnt from it, and also one of the experiences of others that I learnt from while growing up.

So you see everyone's reward is right here on earth in one way or the other, that's if you're lucky to even live long. I really don't know how people intentionally hurt other people and still feel they are untouchable.

 I guess life is a mixture of good people and bad people, so bad people will always be among us.

Thank you Stellz for this great platform.

It might just be a coincidence for something else she did abeg.... Snatching a man is enough reason for three innocent children to die? Hell No!.... Maybe she got served for something more sinister... To snatch man be like to fry egg, its so common that its almost not a big deal anymore....I see it a lot!

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