Remember Ese Walter? She became popular years back for calling out COZA Pastor Biodun Fatonyinbo who she alleged she was in a s#xual relationship.
Ese has called out her estranged Husband Benny Ark whom she alleged beat her and took the kids and she had to leave...
She is calling him out for turning the gateman into the Nanny while he goes and telling the kids their mother does not love them
Today I googled 'co-parenting with a Narcissist' to remind myself who I am dealing with and how to proceed with this new phase of allowing my children to call me.
FIRST CALL OUT
Today I googled 'co-parenting with a Narcissist' to remind myself who I am dealing with and how to proceed with this new phase of allowing my children to call me.
Tonight, Boobman said daddy said they are big enough to stay alone while he rushes out for a meeting. Meeting that will last overnight, right?
You irresponsible fool.
You kept our children from me out of sheer wickedness. You didn't think I will leave them for you. After taking them to Transcorp to roam the hotel because you didn't want me to have them, you have graduated to leaving them alone at home.
How does a 7-year old and 5-year-old take care of themselves?
You let the gateman stay with them overnight, washing their clothes and taking care of them, and for what? So you can bam bam?
Doesn't Arise TV abi Arise Media know that you left underage children at home with the gateman (after hitting their Mother who was staying with and catering to them for YEARSSS) when they asked you to come for a meeting on a SATURDAY night?
Benny Ark, the gloves are off now.
Let's fight dirty.
You are clearly not someone to reason with and I am done playing with the life of my children with you.
You wicked, wicked man!
Do you think you can do the things men of the older generation used to do and get away with it?
And if any idiot comes here to blame me for any of this, the thunder that will fire your whole entire life will do that tonight.
Any bigger idiot that wants to ask why social media... because this show I roll. Let everything be out here because this man's psychological manipulation thrives in silence and I'm tired of having family meetings.
Wherever you are in that Abuja, Benny, whether it's ARISE News abi TV or Media.... you have failed your first responsibility. You cannot say you are going for meeting and leave your children the gateman. Nope! Your oga kpatakpata is not responsible if he allows this.
The same ARISE NEWS casters that talk about child abuse on TV but call a single father with two underaged children to come to work and leave his kids with the gateman? Isn't this child abuse too?
I told my family then that this man is keeping these kids to wicked me. They said I have started again. He didn't know I will leave. After hitting me because you wouldn't give me my breastfeeding infant. You thought I'd come back begging so you can put me in what you think is my place.
You have taken, taken, and taken from me, Benny Ark. Your day of reckoning is here
It is time to return the favour''.
SECOND CALL OUT
''You told our son that I dont love him that's why l left.
Dumbass!
You forgot they were right there seeing you bully me.
My son said, "I wanted to help mummy, but I am too small. I wanted to leave with mummy but daddy shouted that I should go to the house."
That 7 year old is more reasonable than your 43-year old ass and you know why? Because I poured into him. I raised him. I taught him mindfulness and how to breathe and speak to himself when things on the outside seem out of his control. I DID THAT. ME!
That's how he has survived you.
He called me crying. You don't want him to speak to me when you aren't there to control what he says.
Well, he spoke to me just now. Whispering daddy has gone out and says we can take care of ourselves. Really?
A gateman is with our kids?
Has been staying with them since Monday?
Ah, Benny!
Great will be your fall.
It will not be well with you o....
You shouldn't have tried this shit with me knowing how unclean your hands are. You shouldn't have.
Your Karma will deal with you. It is coming
But you see our kids, not negotiation''.
The kids are always the one to bear the whole pain.
ReplyDeleteHonestly!!! And it's just so sad , my family friend's children told the mom that they'd need therapy due to the damage the rift BTW the parents is causing them.
DeleteNa wa. Some pple r crying for fruit of d womb. Just look at them
DeleteShe is not new to dragging exes on social media ....
DeleteYears back it was the Coza pastor ...now Benny Ark.
Even if she gets into another relationship or marriage, the next guy should prepare to get dragged. And insulted on social media when things go South
Girl is emotionally damaged..... She and Tonto dey the same WhatsApp group.
The Benny guy too sounds a tad irresponsible as well.
She should have taken time to heal emotionally from Cosza pastor before rushing into that marriage.
On 2 the Next!
You are right @Aymii
DeleteI don't know why some men change and become beast. Benny stop leaving your kids with your maiguard to avoid molestation.
DeleteHmmmmm... It is well!
ReplyDeleteTo meet, court and attempt marriage with a woman like Ese Walter, you have to be a superman and extra. She is not your regular woman. I also want to believe Benny Ark is the superman that gave her the extra courage those post COZA days.
DeleteI feel deeply for the kids. These 2 formidable personalities should have fathomed a way to use their nature to move mountains, but no...they will rather use their individual advantage and strength against each other.
What's the way forward now😭😭😭?
Ms Sapphire, why? Do you now Eze personally? Pls don't insinuate or say things based on assumptions. Don't. It's not fair.
DeleteLady T, please read me again. I didn't attack or blame Ese. Both of them are not our regular girl or guy, they are both super head strong individuals given what they have shown the public in these past years.
DeleteMs Sapphire u are stark raving mad for judging Ese who has been through so much.
DeleteSapphire
DeleteWhy do you like opening your mouth and talking out of place?
Don't you have a past?
Must she be manipulated because of her past
Beware of wolves disguising as knights in shinning armor. They will make your life worse.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
This girl and clout chasing ,yet she never blow. And the guy....make I no talk. Tueh
DeleteKing XO, I for reply you but...go and read both my comments again. You and I are almost saying the same thing.
DeleteComprehension o. Sapphire is simply saying that Ese is not your average kind of woman (in a positive way).
DeleteGod bless you 19.05
DeleteShut the hell up 17:22. Clout chasing when it involves her kids? Are you serious??? You should know when things are serious matter. She’s not always in the news! Some of these Nigerian men are big bullies and it’ll take a strong woman like Ese and the law to break them! Leaving the kids with the gateman?? Oh helllllll NO!
DeleteGod please I intervene in marriages
ReplyDeleteMarriage hmmm...
DeleteIt’s well with the kids 😢
ReplyDeleteFeeling for the innocent kids
DeleteChai,this is sad.I feel for the kids
ReplyDeleteShe looks to me the irresponsible mother here, if he took them away from you and you have the wrong d of leaving them, why can't you use police strom the house, park your kids clothes and take them away ,why coming here to make noise, see am a very action minded person, LET HER GO THERE AND TAKE THEIR KIDS
ReplyDeleteLol 13.29 you have no idea what you’re talking about
DeleteI am telling you . If they call you to say daddy is away, Rudy there and pick them up. No time for all these epistle
DeleteYou make it sound so easy, she should storm the house with the police to take the kids in this country? Really?🙄
Delete@Amacastel!! You must be a law abiding and responsible person for you to call police. Me call police??! Abi na area boys wey i go don give diff kind ogogoro i go bring come d house come scatter am and also go to his office go naked small dey shout there.
DeleteIf worst come to d worst i go go diabolical dey disturb am for dream, if dat one no work quick quick na to dey see my winch face as he dey cast news on air and he go dey run kita kita
Which police?! Meanwhile she is not in Abuja.
DeleteShe does not even need to go with the police. Since he leaves them with the gate man , she should storm there with two male members of her family, pick her kids and vamoose. Instead she is here making noise. If we check now, she might not be a good mother herself. I only pity the children they brought into this world. Two irresponsible people.
DeleteNa una way na. Blame the woman that left an abusive relationship then also blame the ones that died while staying
DeleteI am so pained for the children. They are still too young........ Mr Ben a gate man is not a nanny. Hire a proper nanny. It is better for the kids to be with their mother than all this, except the mother is totally incapable of caring for them. This is beyond pride and bickering. The welfare of the children is most important.
DeleteThank you Eka Joy
DeleteTruth be told Nigerian women will blame you for leaving an abusive marriage. People like Sapphire will tell you how she saved and brought a dead marriage to life. Once upon a time, gullible bvs asked her to teach them and she was just rambling from pillar to post.
I like Saphire most of the time but sometimes she gets on my nerves.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
@anon 14:07 😲😲😲😲😲🙄🙄🙄🙄
Delete@King xoxo calm down na
DeleteHahaha king xoxo is right about Sapphire oo🤣🤣 I swear sapphire vex me with her nonsense marriage talk! She sure also get on my damn nerves about her marriage talk I swear. She seems like a nice woman though
DeleteSelfish people make terrible siblings, parents, children, spouses, friends and every other wrong relationship you can think of
ReplyDeleteExactly Jet Li
DeleteWhy are MEN so wicked??
ReplyDeleteSo if a woman decides to leave she must suffer!
Dear Ese please fight that motherfuker ,even if it's the last thing u do for your kids.
DeleteParental alienation is mostly commonly with women, though there are few cases of narcissistic men who will do anything to alienate the mother of their children. 90% of time women get custody of the children and prevent the child father from having any kind of relationship with them. You will never see men coming online to rant. Ese should take the matter to court.
Did you forget to preface "men" with "some"?
Delete@merryment have you heard from the man? don't assume yet madam assumpta Reginald
DeleteWhen a stupid girl marries an anu'ohia. Two extremely stupid people. Parents need to actively get involved in their children's life irrespective of their age. This girl missed her way. From fucking that criminal Krest man to marrying this one. See wetin you marry Ese. After all the advice. Imagine how poorly they'll bring up these innocent kids. These kids will now grow up and become a function of their upbringing, getting into relationships with it. Ese has a very bad attitude no doubt and rude too, but she doesn't deserve what she ended up marrying. How can you close your eyes and marry a known Abuja gigolo? Get out of my face Ese. You no dey shame sef. You abandoned your kids with someone like this. Get out.
ReplyDeleteSir, the word is REBOUND.
DeleteEse was completely broken when Benny came along she made it public she never loved him,she had to manage who came out on her journey to another name.
The kids would have been mentally battered by now same way Ese has been battered by Benny because she was a terror at home.
If you watched any of her tv interviews,she never loved this guy,she knew he was a DAUDU,full frustrated though somehow rich abuja daudu.
Check those hotels he hangs out plus the so called meetings U*π must be there,they have a caucus known to many.
Ese got damaged from the abuse by that C∆£∆ pastor,she hasn't recovered she only needed a rebound and she picked Benny who has a truck load of Edo village demons tormenting him.
This guy,swkward looking in character and in person became a terror at work as a Cool Fm staff,when other staff stopped timing out and in at work along with him because of his excesses,loud mouth and violence,the management fired him.
Going by his child negligence which Ese is pushing forward, Arise News Network will definitely sack him,it's beyond work ethics in communication and media sector and Arise is projecting an image that this will alter, they'll not tolerate him.
The two are not worthy of raising kids,Ese has gone bananas,she has made attempts at strangling life out of their kid once,the baby was rescued,Benny has been leaving these kids to the evil nights to devour them when he forcefully decided to play dad to them,it's about time both families decide who raises the kids not Benny not Ese,holding series of meetings won't help in this issue.
Benny,Ese are unworthy to play parental roles from afar too,why? they are ungodly and mentally unfit. They need to be barricaded from the life of these kids now and in the future.
Utmost blame goes to the people who approved this union,it's a capital thumbs down on all of them.
Boss, free them, na Wetin fit them be that, dem no dey like hear truth, na people wey dey decieve and lie to them them prefer.
DeleteWhen you're real with them, they'll throw insults at you.
Leave them to learn their lessons the hard way.
Sunday blessings 🥂
This is way more serious than I thought. If true those kids need a godly and loving foster family. I am pained for the kids.
DeleteGod bless you anon 14.23 you said it all. Two unfit parents. It should be a crime to birth when you know fully well you lack the mental capacity to be a good parent. I suffer from mental health problems but I’m the best parent any child can ever wish for. One of my kids said to me that she’s blessed to be my child 🙏😭. I don’t let my issues affect my parenting.
Delete"who has a truck load of Edo village demons tormenting him"
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🙆
O Ceaser
DeleteEven as you recognized that Benny has issues, you still blamed Ese.
Real man Ceaser
O Ceaser
Calm down
How is abroad treating you? Or are you back to Naija. I can't believe you are still bitter after many years. Is it so difficult to forgive?
I miss Xp
KING XOXO MYSTERY
At this point, I'm tired. Men and women, please!! Ask God to give you guidance when choosing your life partner.
ReplyDeleteThat's why I always say love is never enough and can never be enough, some questions need to be answered like: What are they like? Do they genuinely fear God? How do they treat people? What's their temperament like? What kind of family are they from? Are they the type that cannot do without partying and clubbing and you think they'd change once they get married and have kids? Are they the type that parade themselves constantly on social media and even though it makes you uncomfortable, you think they'd slow down once they get married and have kids? There are many questions that need to be answered and if you ignore them because you think you "love" them or they're your spec or they have money, you're doing yourself and your future kids a lot of disservice. God abeg!!!
very well said.
DeleteWell said, Snarker. A lot of us prepare for the wedding, only a handful prepare for marriage.
DeleteMarriage is about meeting each others needs.
Selfish, irresponsible, egoistic, hard to commit people should remain single.
You are very much on point Snarker.
DeleteI agree with you snarker,my heart bleeds for those kids. Love is definitely not enough. God we are in your hands. These kind of negative things we are hearing about marriages everyday is not encouraging at all.
DeleteCorrect
DeleteYou're soo soo right Snarker, love is never enough. Compatibility is very important.
Delete@Snaker!!
DeleteIn other word,
Marriage is a sentence not a word
Starker
DeleteMarriage is deep
Some people can appear perfect and pretend to be all that you prayed for until you marry them. Then you will see the party animal in them.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
@king xoxo thank you....people change ...people fake...see my husband pretended formed born again...intact started attending MFM, infact goes for power must change hand...went for weekend deliverance...very calm...loving. My friend calls him over answered prayer....and we were not fucking but planning and talking...this is what I want...this is what i want..what do you want....if i do pile this will you be ok ....infact your happiness is my happiness...you are my best friend....i am now a born again,thank you my darlyn wife to be for making me know christ....infact MFM in his area na him dey buy fuel for gen....if i forget to pray my husband frowns at me...at night he brings bible at night we read and pray together...but few months after marriage...guy man has changed so much that even me I feel like I am married to a stranger...goes to club and comes back 2am..4am...chats girls on WhatsApp...even in my presence...this person begged me for marriage for two years before I agreed ooo...we were best friends ooo...he tells me I am a good wife ...my amazing wife...he always says he will marry me again and again but the change is so drastic and shocking...and yes I prayed and got a go ahead from God....and yes I am beautiful...smart ...hot amazing..make my own money...infact I go to weddings with him and men give me complimentary card...I always ask him what he is looking for...the day he took me out to meet his friends on my birthday...the nextday...he was so excited about how all the guys were taking about how pretty and beautiful and calm his wife is....I keep asking ...what are you looking for.... PEOPLE PRETEND...
DeleteSome people really have no business having children but then, God is merciful and kind.
ReplyDeleteIt is well with the kids.
ReplyDeleteEse drive to the house and park your kids since he left them in care of security man.
ReplyDeleteWhy should she?
DeleteThe kids belong to the man too.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Rush there with a witness and police and pick your kids. You dey write epistle
ReplyDeleteHow will she get thru the gate
DeletePolice will say they are with their father. Go to court and get an order
The kids are already traumatized from what the son says to her. Won't kidnapping them with police add to their trauma? What if he retaliates and kidnapp them back with police again? He's their parent too, without a court order it's kidnapping
DeleteHow can you trust the gateman with your kids? Some of them are pedophiles. Better go check on your kids. SMH
ReplyDeleteDid you at any time report him to the police, women or human rights group especially when he didn't let you leave with a suckling infant? Oh, you were having family meetings for about 4/5 years? Did I miss the part where he was awarded custody of the kids in court? Madam, if you are absolutely
ReplyDeletecertain of your claims, call NAPTIP or any other appropriate agency to go and collect the children abeg. But knowing
"you" (no apologies ma'am, you've got your own demons like the rest of struggling humanity), the question is: Are you ready, willing and able to care for the children if they were handed to you today? No be only to dey write epistle and use expletives online; are you mentally, emotionally and financially ready?
Are you absolutely sure there's no live-in-nanny? Just the gateman? Be honest o because if you won custody and needed to work, you'd need a nanny too. Let's not condemn your ex for trying. Medical/health personnel, the press corps and even politicians get called out to duty at night or odd hours. You know this. You two should not use these children as toys or bargaining chips please. See how you divulged everything the frightened boy told you in private when you are not there to instantly save him from his father whom you've painted as such a demon.
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Delete@Amebonawork, your comment makes a lot of sense. I appreciate the angle you view this issue.
DeleteThank you
DeleteDid you just say NAPTIP?
DeleteHahahahahahaha
Some of you are funny
Did you say human rights?
Those archaic women there will take the side of the husband and even tell her to go back to the husband.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Why not go to court instead of all the evidence ncea you are pouting on social media eh Ese?? Why why oh why?
ReplyDeleteGo get your kids and stop this rant, this is not the solution!
Cause this is Nigeria
DeleteShame is better than the law sometimes
Why should the kids have to suffer for the wrong decisions of their parents? This is so unfair. They didn't ask to be born. You both had better come together to make a sensible decision that will work for them. Han Han! 😏😏😏
ReplyDeleteIn all this the children suffer the most.
ReplyDeleteSo their father cant hire a Nanny or not,if u want to go gallivanting or go for meeting,put proper child-care in place abeg.
Leaving kids with gateman though. With all the sexual abuse that happens to children who would put their children our there like that? How can a gateman be safer to look after children than their own mother.
ReplyDeleteI honestly forgot about these two. Very sad to read that their life has broken down so dramatically. I always thought the union was too fast, but that was thrir business. Time has really flown, they are parents to a 7 yr old, wow.
May the divine hand of God descend on them all.
Iam just feeling for the kids
ReplyDeleteHonestly. I feel sad 😔 for the little kids. The little boy said 'I want to help mummy but I'm too small '. Chai 😪😪😪. I'm so sad. I hate to see kids suffer
DeleteIn my opinion, just that is not godly, a law should be passed for intending couples to live 5 years together first before giving birth to children, children are truly suffering for mistakes, pride , foolishness, selfishness, etc of irresponsible adults and it's painful. Marriage is overrated.
ReplyDeleteNot everyone has the time to wait 5 years for various reasons. It is good for people to be real and honest with themselves about why and what they want out of relationships and go into it with their eyes wide open.
DeleteThere was a heated conversation on this blog not too long ago when the Pope said humans were being selfish for not birthing kids. Some of us argued that it was better that way because, when u see the doings of our present times, clearly there are many people who are mentally, emotionally & financially unfit to be parents.
DeletePeople who are so selfish and cannot put their differences aside for the sake of their innocent kids are NOT FIT to be parents! They cannot just see beyond their pain & put their children first. Just look at this nonsense.
The saddest thing is, these kids will be negatively affected with a distorted view of marriage, love, self esteem, etc. Tomorrow they will act out and we will be insulting them not knowing what they have passed thru at the hands of self absorbed parents.
Many separated parents are finding a way to co-parent peacefully. They do this not because there is no animosity between them, but because they are putting their children's needs first. It's been a whole 5 years but these two have not found a way to move on & do what's best for their young children? Now it's even on social media? Haba!
I am also of the opinion that couples should live together for years before marrying and giving birth.
DeleteGet to live with who you want to marry. Let the dopamine fade and let the seasoned love grow or not. See your partner in all seasons.
This generation is different. So many sick people. Know who you want to marry.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Honestly a lot of people are sick and on drugs.
Delete17:42
DeleteLive together? For how long? With how many?
Have you not heard of long term live-in-lovers who separated or divorced soon after marriage?
"See your partner in ALL seasons"
DeleteVery well said KIDJO 👏🏽👏🏽
Hmmmmm. Benny Ark has always been a bad news and a gigolo. Marrying him was a mistake on Ese’s part and she knows it . Pls fight for your kids with all you have. They don’t deserve this trauma at all.
ReplyDeleteJossy
Hmmmmm. Benny Ark has always been a bad news and a gigolo. Marrying him was a mistake on Ese’s part and she knows it . Pls fight for your kids with all you have. They don’t deserve this trauma at all.
ReplyDeleteJossy
Hmmmmm. Benny Ark has always been a bad news and a gigolo. Marrying him was a mistake on Ese’s part and she knows it . Pls fight for your kids with all you have. They don’t deserve this trauma at all.
ReplyDeleteJossy
Who told you she wants to fight for them?
DeleteLord please fix this
ReplyDeleteMy greatest achievement in this life is that I could fight for my kids to be with me. I can't n imagine how life could have been if I have left them with thier dad. Men would always want to collect the kids from thier mum so as to satisfied their ego at the detriment of these kids. Marriage is not a do or die affair. I will divorce u peacefully but will fight u with my last breath if u try use my kids for your pleasure. Men learn how to accept divorce and let the women raise the kids except in a situation when it is obvious that the woman isn't capable. When my cousin and his wife divorced nd he claimed the kids although the lady first of all rejected the kids and for that my cousin refused her access to the kids. I was angry with my cousin and I told him no matter what he shouldn't deprive these kids of their mother as no one can be like their mum. I wasn't even married not to talk about having kids when this happened. When I see parent using their kids as weapon cos of divorce I always wonder why my ideology is different. Na me nd u get fight come for my kids be prepared for what I will do.
ReplyDeleteNo man can take my kids away from me. I go murd you.
Delete16:26
DeleteFathers should not take the children. But mothers are entitled to so.
16:39
A man should be murd so he can't have custody of his children.
Archaic ideas/thinking (please pardon me).
Any woman who has purposed to murd the father of her children to prevent him from having custody of his children does not deserve the custody of the children.
The trend today is co-parenting except where impossible or one of the parents concede full custody on well agreed terms.
Some of us should stop selling the idea that children are owned by mothers.
Some women fight sweat and blood for full custody of children of marriage, and also demand for provision for the children from their fathers. No be witchcraft be dat.
Two strong head marrying each other..
ReplyDeleteGod intervene in some marriages please.
It is well with the kids
ReplyDeleteTo be honest with you marriage is bullshit. Even the ones saying "marriage is beautiful" are suffering and smiling. All the married people I know personally are depressed, but fake life, religion and what society says will not allow them to come out. Of all the married friends I have,
ReplyDelete-One is depressed because her husband has had two children outside their marriage, but can't leave because she has painted the picture of a perfect marriage on social media.
-One is depressed because her husband has squandered all her life savings and inheritance on his "business endeavours" which never succeed, and now they're swimming in debt, had to use their house for collateral, now squatting in his family house and being tortured by his mother.
-One is married to an alcoholic. He works 11 hours a day only to come back home to a dirty house, crying children who haven't been fed and no food while his wife is out partying and getting drunk. She refuses to work in the name of stay at home mom, but she doesn't even care for the kids. All she does is watch Netflix, drink, spend his money on shopping and go from bar to bar. But when you see her in church on Sundays, ehn! Assistant Jesus!
-One is a popular influencer who is always bragging on IG about her amazing husband when everyone knows she's a human punching bag in his house. If I say more y'all will figure out who she is.
Then you add all the stories on social media. Coupled with the fact that my own parents are divorced. Just look at the pre-wedding pictures of engaged couples: all smiley, all hugging and kissing, looking so much in love. Compare them to how they look after marriage. They don't even hold hands LOL. They look like strangers. Omo, as a woman, make money and have a couple of kids of your own. Or even adopt. That's if you feel like having kids. Otherwise just enjoy your life and don't let society pressure you into marriage. Marriage these days is just wahala. Our mothers got married and stayed married back then because they didn't have many options. We do.
God bless you anon for this hard truth.
DeleteI'm very happy in marriage. Infact I'm happier and my spouse feels the same way.
DeleteThat's what I intend to do. I can't kill myself because of marriage. 18: 26, am with you.
DeletePoints made. Will the woman pay for the children or take them all to herself. Does the law allow single women and men to adopt or would the woman/man hire someone to fake as husband/wife?
DeleteYes, there is no perfect marriage. But there are good marriages. Marriage is a sacrifice usually by one of the partners. That is why it is challenging especially with a selfish partner.
Ese, you know he doesn't want them in your custody because you are mentally unstable.
ReplyDeleteNow because you are so pained, you decide to call him out.
If you were a good mother, you'd call him and find solution to this problem knowing you yourself can't take care of the children
Why men always drag custody of children with their mums,always beats me.U know very well that the mums are always better at taking car of the kids,yet they drag the kids only to dump them in the care of their female relatives or even girlfriends,just to spite their wives.Even if things are not working put between the couples,I think the welfare of the children and shared custody is healthier.
ReplyDeleteA woman was awarded custody by the court. She took the child from Lagos State to her mother in one of the south eastern States. Then she travelled abroad to school.
DeleteThe mothers are not always the best person to have custody. Sometimes the courts don't give the mothers custody. This is why in some States in USA, a grand parent can apply for custody of grand-children.
The standard for child custody is: "What is in the best interest of the child". The standard is not who is the father or mother of the child.