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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HE TOUCHED HER
Please I have an issue.
Please I have an issue.
I'm a single mother with a 10 years old girl. She is on the big side, looks bigger than her age. So I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for over a year now. He takes my daughter as his though I take care of her bill.
This boyfriend usually visits every weekend. He sleeps over till Sunday then he goes home because of work. So he came over last Friday, while watching our usual family Friday movies we all slept off in my room including my daughter. I have a 6 x 7 bed in my room.
I couldn't wake her to go to her room. In the morning of Saturday, I was rushing to go out when my daughter started protesting that either she goes out with me or she stays alone in the house, cos I wanted her to stay with my boyfriend. I didn't take her serious and I left the house.
It was on Sunday night when my boyfriend had left that she told me how my boyfriend was fondling with her breast that Friday night. Honestly my world came crashing because I never believed he could do a thing like that.
I had a deep thinking all through the night. Then in the morning, I picked every of his belongings in my house, drove straight to his office, confronted him. He denied it. He cried, he swore with his life and all to convince me otherwise. But I was so scared for my daughter to listen to him.
I told him that I don't ever want to see him in my house again. Now he is saying I made the whole thing up to get rid of him, playing the victim. I've been questioning my daughter and she has been consistent with her narrative. In fact she said he continued until my alarm rang around 4am, then she noticed him move towards me.
Please did I overreact. I know my daughter can't be lying. He is someone she respects a lot.
*It is better to believe your daughter than to disbelieve her and then he rapes her..... Dont bring in anyone you are dating to sleep in your house and molest your daughter...In fact stop bringing men into your house and dump that supposed boyfriend of yours.
Please this is not operating at the level of "belief," but knowledge. HE FONDLED HER BREASTS. Full stop.
ReplyDeleteYou either put a stop to it or sacrifice your daughter for vanities.
I can’t believe this poster gave that perve opportunity to explain. Animals like him deserves to be locked up. You should even be hailing your daughter for being courageous in speaking out. Believe whatever she tells you about sexual harassment or you shut her up forever.
DeleteYour daughter could be the worst lier on planet Earth, it does not matter.
DeleteWhy did you have to question her over and over? Because you are lucky enough to have a daughter who spoke up?
But some of you women are so incredibly DAFT.
DeleteCompletely DAFT.
Is it that you don't know that just born as a female in this country, you are immediately at a disadvantage????
You are not aware that most Nigerian men are more randy than dogs?
Abi you think its ghosts that are fcuking those mad women that roam the streets that have not bathed in years?
Was it not here that another DAFT woman came and said she caught her husband putting his pe.nis in their daughters mouth and forcing baby to swallow sp.erm.Most of you are married to street dogs.
You have a child still in her formative years.
How many men do you want to bring to sleep in your apartment.
Are you a professional prostitute?
As your childs role model, how are you developing this girls psyche?
This girl insisted on leaving with you or staying in the house alone, you are there asking stupid useless JAMB questions, afi did you over react, instead of taking your daughter for therapy for sexual assault.
It's like they switched your puna with your brain.
Next week invite another alika to sleep over na, DAFTO.
Don't take him back. Such a wicked pervert.
DeleteThank God you listened to her.
That guy would have raped your daughter had it been you allowed both of them stay at home together.
There is no overreacting once it concerns your child abeg.Follow Stella's advice without looking back
DeletePoster
DeleteYou said you did not take your daughter serious and left the house leaving her with the psycho?
Thank God he didn't take her. Your daughter should come first pls. I love the relationship you built with her that makes her outspoken. Pls don't let her withdraw binto her shell by not taking her serious on cases like this next time
Poster
DeleteYou said you did not take your daughter serious and left the house leaving her with the psycho?
Thank God he didn't rape her. Your daughter should come first pls. I love the relationship you built with her that makes her outspoken. Pls don't let her withdraw into her shell by not taking her serious on cases like this next time
You did not overreact o
DeletePlease keep that useless fool out of your house.
Wicked soul
Poster! You let your daughter sleep in the same bed with a man that's not her father! As if that's not bad enough, when she insisted on leaving the house with you, right after spending the night in the same bed with your lover, alarms still didn't ring in your head!! You are so careless and I worry that your daughter may one day be indeed, molested. Luckily, she's smarter than you, dumbo!!!
DeleteYou don't have to believe this your bf. He did and trying to play victim. Your child can't lie In fact children don't lie o. Don't bring your male folks home especially as you have daughter who's on the big side. Ensure you protect your daughter please and always listen to her. She can't be lying either. All the Best poster
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said except the children don't lie part. Children start lying from the age of 2. Plus her asking the daughter for more information is a good thing too because I have seen cases like this where children lied about molestation to break relationships. In my office, the lie got the man fired because police was involved. Turned out the girl, 7 years old, lied because the father scolded her. She learned how effective that lie would be from TV! I'm glad this poster showed her daughter support and hope she picks better next time. The sad thing is you just can't tell what will happen. Poster, may God guide you and keep protecting that outspoken girl. Don't blame yourself for one second. If you hadn't raised her well, she would have hidden it from you.
DeleteYou’re a failure of a mother so you sleep in same bed with your bf and pre teen daughter??!have sex with him on same bed with your daughter in it?!! You’re an abuser too! Ah God!!.wish I can see you to beat sense into your head. My mum also disbelieved my sis when she told him her bf was abusing her.bad mother’s!!pls disbelief your daughter she’s lying. Small boys dirty prick will not allow some of you dick livers think straight. Instead of reporting his paedophile ass to the police you’re asking questions. Idiot!!
ReplyDeleteWhy so bitter ?? Your bitterness did not allow you see the part where she said they slept off??
DeleteWhy do I get the feeling that the real cause of your outburst is imagination that the poster has sex? You made sense but sound sex starved🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete15:08, pls where in this narrative did the poster say she has sex with her boyfriend whilst her daughter is on the same bed with them?
DeletePoster has made mistakes, yes but don’t exaggerate her errors.
He is sick. Touching a child? So he would have continued if your alarm didn't go off?? You didn't over react. Good thing she was able to tell you.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think ur daughter is lying. If she is consistent with her story, she’s probably telling the truth.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that she refused to remain alone in the house with him before even telling u what he did is more than enough proof to show u she probably knows what she’s saying.
No, u are not overreacting. I’d rather find out she lied than believe my boyfriend only to find out he actually molested her.
I agree with you absolutely. Especially your 2nd paragraph.
DeleteAnd she even left her in the house with him. Kai!
DeleteYou are a careless and reckless mother!
ReplyDeleteWhy do women do this, what example were you setting for that 10 year old girl; to keep a man, you are not married to in the house and fornicate?
What a shame. And you are here raising foolish questions about "did I overreact?"
No you acted excellently, come an receive an Oscar award for a good show of shame!
Reckless is an understatement. Imagine asking if she overreacted why hasn’t she reported him to the police?
DeleteNa the question dey even pain me pass. Poster you better buy your daughter gift for speaking up.
DeleteI know you may not be having sex with him in your house but the koko be say he sexually assaulted your own child. Fuck however he feels and celebrate your daughter for speaking out. Dump the fool
Poster I am angry with you already. I stopped reading where you ignored your daughter's request to go out with you or she stays home alone.
DeleteSo you mean that with a child that can express herself you still can't see or comprehend?? You're daft. You decided to throw away the instinct of a mother bcz of man. SMH
You and your shameless user of a boyfriend are worthless. Tueh!
You better choose your daughter over that scumbag, deal with the reality and win your child back.
If you decide to play safe with that paedophile, he will show you shege!
Report him to the authorities, mumu woman.
Co-sign ✍️
DeleteYou're not supposed to bring any guy to your house until he marries you. Your daughter's safety is very important. Please stop.
DeleteThis Chronicle weakened me ,I cannot believe that the poster shunned her daughter's request to go out with her , a girl that can speak for herself narrated her ordeal and this woman is here contemplating her reaction when this man should be cooling off in jail ? The well-being of a child should never be overlooked for short term pleasures.
DeleteAll in the name of "wokeness", you are doing family night and watching film with your BOYFRIEND and 10year old daughter on the same bed? Abomination!!
DeleteDear Lord, biko, let me remain old fashioned. Thank you Sir
Madam please keep your boyfriends away from your kids. They are highly impressionable. If there must be a sleep over, GO TO HIS PLACE. Wisdom is profitable to direct.
I'm, glad your daughter spoke out about it. He didnt see that coming too and he thinks trying to change the narrative will help him.
ReplyDeleteAgain, it would have been good if you had reacted in a different way and instead set him up by installing a camera in the room before he comes over again, then allow your daughter to stay in same bed with you like before and that's it. Then sue his ass with the evidence. With this, he cant deny it.
Please women should do all they can to protect their children from these predators who cant take their eyes off children.
Poster please ignore the part of letting an abuser into your house to traumatize your daughter the second time in the name of setting him up.
DeletePoster do NOT sacrifice your daughter on the altar of evidence seeking please. Let it go and do better by that child.
DeleteMadam you and your daughter should kneel and receive Jesus let him save you from this way you think is good but that leads to destruction.
ReplyDeleteWhy should the daughter kneel down, abi you want to say 10 year old seduced over 40 year old man. Egbe getat!!!
DeleteMadam I don't mean to be judgemental but you are not fit to be a mother..
ReplyDeleteHow could you bring a man, not just a man bust a useless one at that to spend the night over with you at home, what message are you passing to your daughter??
Is that how a Mum ought to behave?
Secondly, what morals are you instilling on that little kid as a Mom??
Thirdly, How do you want her to see/rate you?? A good Mom? A mom that sleeps around with his boyfriend at her presence?? Or a Mom that lacks decorum??
All this are what I want you to ponder on..
I have nothing to say to that Guy of yours because for accepting to spend a day at your home and still had the effontery to molest your child shows he's a beast...Better thank your daughter because if it's other spoilt kids, they will keep mute and the he goat you call a boyfriend will take turns sleeping with you both.
Obiagbowagom!!!!
Na ashana na, sleeping on the same bed with boyfriend and daughter.
DeleteWhen the useless boyfriend opens mouth to ask for threesome, maybe you will get sense. Maybe.
I really pity the daughter.
She go don see tire.
I hope you don't fcuk any of your boyfriends in front of her, not her fault you were the one who gave birth to her. E yin woke mammi...yimu
Please some children keep quiet because of fear and not because they are spoilt. That is why it is important for this poster to reassure her child that she believes her and should continue to open up to her on all issues.
DeleteAbomination!!!!!
DeleteNne your daughter will never lie to you. I am not her mother but I believe her 100%. Please be careful and be watchful. This is my fear in entertaining male visitor as a single mom. It take the Grace of God for another man to whole hearted take your kids as theirs without ulterior motive. Shame on that man big shame on him.
ReplyDeletePls your daughter can lie to you
DeleteLife is not fairy tales
How can you ask if you overreacted, esp as you still believe your daughter can’t be lying?! He is lucky you didn’t take him to the police. What you did is the minimum I expect you to do.
ReplyDeleteThis is the problem you have to deal with. You don’t only have to think of side chicks or if the man is cheating, you also have to consider that your child could be at risk as well. You don’t have the luxury of giving anyone the ‘benefit of the doubt’, he is not her father. Please bear this in mind in further relationships, your child could be at risk, some twisted dudes could see her as fair game, the older she gets, the worse it becomes, because there are no blood ties.
That’s why some women decide to put a hold on relationships until they’re kids are adults, but then where does that leave the woman, lonely, for how long?
Why bring a man home where ur daughter lives with u?
ReplyDeleteWhat are you teaching her?how will u correct her when she's of dating age?so u want to pick ur boyfriend over ur daughter?hmmmm
Please think about it very well
Honestly nobody knows what really happened
ReplyDeleteThat’s all I can tell you. He could have done it. But also Ten year olds lie and know how to get their way. It’s also possible that he did it. It’s also possible she doesn’t want him taking her mom from her. If you’re like me, and your instinct about people is always right then go with your instinct. You love your man, keep him away from the house but pray to God to reveal the truth to you.
In essence she should keep dating him. Someone that should be cooling off in jail by now. Poster, you should be asking us of ways to console your daughter, not this nonsense you sent here. Please give her some mum therapy so that she doesn’t see this as normal, then stop bringing men you’re not married to home to sleepover. They can say hi, but never sleepover. What are you teaching your daughter?
DeleteI’m sorry 15:59 but I’ve seen kids tell this same lie to keep their mothers from dating or remarrying. I was just reprimanding a 9 year old for telling a big lie. See kids don’t always know the consequences of their lies so they don’t have to be evil to tell a lie. Kid might think ok I don’t like this man and I don’t want him here.
DeleteI agree either it happened or her child doesn’t like him and both are reasons to keep him away from the child
Kids don't tell lies poster don't listen to this fool
DeleteAnonymous 15:19 you're a fool. Getat abeg!
DeleteHow can you ask if you overreacted, esp as you still believe your daughter can’t be lying?! He is lucky you didn’t take him to the police. What you did is the minimum I expect you to do.
ReplyDeleteThis is the problem you have to deal with. You don’t only have to think of side chicks or if the man is cheating, you also have to consider that your child could be at risk as well. You don’t have the luxury of giving anyone the ‘benefit of the doubt’, he is not her father. Please bear this in mind in further relationships, your child could be at risk, some twisted dudes could see her as fair game, the older she gets, the worse it becomes, because there are no blood ties.
That’s why some women decide to put a hold on relationships until they’re kids are adults, but then where does that leave the woman, lonely, for how long?
You better listen to your daughter. That man will rape her one day if you let him back into your life.
ReplyDeleteLook woman if you go back to that sick boyfriend of yours your daughter will never forgive you!
ReplyDeleteNot only will you fail her as a mother, you will also fail your womanhood! You should be happy you’ve got a smart daughter who can speak up without shame.. as for that boyfriend, iwabo o fiekun gbe! Ashawo kobo kobo
I will take a random woman’s side before a man let alone my own daughter.
ReplyDeleteI love that your daughter can comfortably tell you what he did. Some kids her age won't cos of fear of what the parent will do. I believe the little girl. I don't want to even imagine how far he'd go if your daughter wasn't bold enough to open up to you. Raising a girl child that has been repeatedly abused is no joke, cos once she starts retreating into her shell you've lost her. She will then hate you for bringing home someone who damaged her, she won't tell you this cos it will be her secret and you'll be there with the thousands of thoughts of what happened to your once sweet girl.
ReplyDeleteYou did the right thing poster. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
Why would bring your boyfriend to sleep in your house and you have a daughter? She will learn the bad way. She will grow up thinking it's okay to do that. It's not okay.
ReplyDeleteFollow Sdk's advice pls.
And what is wrong with learning that Mum has a boyfriend
Delete@16:21, shey WA okay Sha? What was my first line if you read and understood correctly?
DeleteWhy would she bring her boyfriend to sleep in the house?
By the way how will she marry, if she doesn't first make friends with a man?
But bringing him to sleep in the house when she has a young daughter is irresponsible.
Isn't that why we are here having this discussion in the first place?
Poster, protect your girl child. How her life turns out in future is a reflection of what she sees and learns from you. Selah!
The b*stard molested your innocent daughter! Arrest him! He needs to pay. Anu mpama
ReplyDeleteHow do you know
DeleteWhere you there
I wonder what these men actually want sometimes.. na wah.. smh
ReplyDeleteYou should be asking your daughter for forgiveness for almost scaring her for life. Please go and do that and flow Stella's advice afterwards
ReplyDelete*Follow
DeleteMadam please your daughter is not lying please... Get rid of him very fast. She even wanted to follow you out or stay alone.. If you accept that guy back and he sexually molest your daughter God won't forgive you... Please protect her with everything you got... Please she is not lying, i repeat she isn't lying... I have seen and heard alot... Never vow for that boyfriend of yours. So scared that you might accept him back and he will finally succeed. Please don't poster
ReplyDeleteMadam sorry o... What sort of nonsense question is that?
ReplyDeleteLike, I am so so angry at you right now... Wtf?
You know the way the world is, why would you be so comfortable having a man you are not married to in your house, around your little girl?
That is just wrong... Single mothers I believe should be extra careful with their children
You better don't use the lust you feel for the man to destroy the future /destiny of your daughter because this little experience can damage her for life.. God forbid
And please, that man is being manipulative. Why are you still talking to him btw?. Cut him off please, he is just trying to blackmail you emotionally. Do not listen to him, don't get fooled. Open your eyes and think with your brain and not your p***y
That young girl is your responsibility. Protect her with your dear life and always remember that one day, you will answer to your creator
Yeye man.. Passing nights in a woman's house. Mtcheeew
Stella Post my comment ooooo
There’s something inconsistent about this story
ReplyDeleteI would expect that you were in the middle of the sleeping sandwich so what do you mean he fondled her in sleep and then moved towards you at the alarm. That’s only possible if he was in the middle of the two of you which seems unlikely
No...you didn't overreact,you have done the right thing...do not give him a second chance.
ReplyDeleteMy God!you are asking if you over reacted,very useless pedophile boyfriend of yours,he is an uncontrollable monster,he sleeps with you and still has the urge to touch your daughter,he is too ashamed to take responsibility for what he did,he is a danger to your daughter,I feel like slapping him,as a child I experienced several doses of breast touching by adults who were supposed to take care of us both male and female and I couldn't tell my parents,please stop bringing men into your home,the day one of the security boys at my daughter's school told her he liked her,and she told me after school, guy's let me not say what happened.
ReplyDeleteYou are very lucky she opened up. Some children will derived joy till evidence of pregnancy. Please believe your daughter 100%
ReplyDeleteWhat do you mean some children will derive joy till evidence of pregnancy? This is a very crass statement. Don't you know about consent and underage rape? No minor should be raped or molested for any reason,whether they are perceived to be enjoying the molestation or not. How can you think that?
DeleteChildren don't lie about these type of things. Just let the bastard go. Don't be fond of letting men sleep over, it's awkward. That familiarity is too much for a guy you obviously didn't know too well.
ReplyDeleteWhat a mother!!! Some of you mothers are not fit to train a child, like how can you sleep on the same bed with your bf and your daughter. Tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteWhy do I have a feeling you are trying to discredit your daughter and take d man back? Do you honestly think your daughter would make up a story like that? Abeg... best believe what that little girl is saying o.
ReplyDeleteWhen my husband said he wants me to be touching him when we’re all in the living room watching tv. My mind checked out of the marriage I vowed never to leave him alone with my daughter. Sick men everywhere.
ReplyDeleteCalm down
DeleteWhy should she calm down? Is that normal? Right in front of children?
Delete17:17 He might think it could be done without them catching on. Depending on their age as well. This doesn’t make him a pervert. Just say you’re not comfortable doing that when they around in case they catch on. No need to label him a bad human
DeleteHe can as well do it in privacy where the kids don't need to be involved. There is a reason the mother is not comfortable with it. Maybe the daughter is not that small and we know how children like to copy and repeat things verbatim.
DeleteLet me start by commending you for "choosing" to believe your child over your boyfriend. I hope you noticed I typed "child" and not "daughter". Yes, because boys can be molested too if left with paedophiles. All children matter.
ReplyDeleteDid you expect your boyfriend to agree or confess? When he is certain there's no cctv/video evidence? Even the one with cctv evidence gan sef, some people will still be lying and swearing while crying crocodile tears. Thank God you have a child who could confide in you and thank God you did not let that child down.
Now to you inviting your lover to sleep over. Hmmmm? I do not think it is morally or emotionally healthy for your child. Why does he have to sleep over when he has an apartment of his own? Why can't he visit during the day and go home to sleep? If you want to spend "time" together, you can take your child to go and spend the weekend with your parents or reliable female siblings who are willing to "babysit" her. It's good to foster good relationship between your daughter and this man especially if you are both looking for something permanent but too much familiarity (like y'all crashing on the same bed) breeds trespassing. Why won't he be pressing her budding boobs like one of your soft pillows? As Piraakot people would say: "Madam, die it!" Let it end NOW! Meet your new/next boyfriend away from your home until you've both decided to get married in which case you can invite him in day time to meet his future stepdaughter in her "safe" territory. This is important for her all-round growth as "a total child".
God bless you for this @ Amebonawork
DeleteMaybe na under bridge he dey stay, eyin local breed..upcoming paedophile,awon Baba Ije.sha inlaws...
DeletePlease believe your daughter!
ReplyDeleteBlock him everywhere,and let your daughter know no matter what, you'll always tame side with her, she will grow up to be your friend
ReplyDeleteThis my gender ehn..I can't even introduce my boyfriend to my son let alone inviting him to sleep over
ReplyDeletePls poster believe Your daughter. The world is so corrupt now. Crazy things are happening. Even if children lie at times but not with something like that. Boot that guy out of your lives.
ReplyDelete...MadeNew...
Your boyfriend slept between you and your daughter. He had access to your little girl's breast for a while, once the alarm rang he moved to you and did same. You obviously sleep like a log of wood, dead to life once you close your eyes. You deliberately endangered the life of that little girl. It is foolish allowing your boyfriend , your daughter and you sleep on the same bed regardless the size of the bed. Asking if you overreacted shows you doubt what your daughter told you. Were you honestly expecting your irresponsible boyfriend to admit abusing your daughter. Stop allowing men sleep over in your house
ReplyDeleteI don't know whether she expected such an irresponsible fellow to admit to such act.
DeleteHonestly, she has a good daughter. She shouldn't trade her for any yeye man.
The story doesn’t sound right
DeleteMost people sleeping like this would have the child sleep next to the parent.
I think there’s something off about the story
Thanks Alex.
DeleteShe there asking JAMB question.
Anon 16.48, so it isn’t possible the child slept in the middle?
Delete18:17 it's very possible for a child to be in the middle but the story said the man turned to the mom as soon as the alarm went off
DeleteI guess the bf slept in the middles. Yeye man!!!
DeleteMiddle*
DeleteSee what this fool is saying??? Aa he was running your daughter's breast you dont know know he was pressing his worthless, useless penis into her buttocks?
ReplyDeleteOr maybe you were the one in between so he was digging his prick into your buttocks while squueezinh her breasts.
The two both of you are useless, you and the man.
You in particular is extraordinarily stupid. Somebody you should have locked up for sexual assault, you don't know it is a punishable offence, you are asking equally stupid question 'hope I dinnor react.'
No man you did not overreact, you under reacted.
If you are missing his prick and the possibility of a potential suitor, say so and stop forming you actually care.
Are you minding her,the thing she wrote is just annoying me,that's how my dad's friends was always touching my breast whenever he comes to see my dad and meets no one at home,I'm married with kids now and I talked about it in our family watsapp group and my immediate younger sister said he did same thing to her,no wonder she was never afraid of him as a child,she would always insult him,he is still alive today and I hate him.
DeleteHahaha, what did I just read? My sister,I blame you.Your daughter CANNOT be lying.See I'm a single mom of an 8yr old smart girl like yours so I can relate.Next time be more sensitive, immediately your daughter insisted on leaving with u,u shd have suspected your boyfriend.Above all,stop bringing men to your house not to talk of sleeping over.Common these kids are soooooo smart.i have never brought any man I'm romantically linked to to my place,I do not allow any man sleep over despite the fact that my house is very big,so that tomorrow I can look my girl in d face and correct her appropriately.Lastly I've decided not to marry until my girl is old enough for secondary school.Fathers molest their biological kids talkless of boyfriend.That GUY WILL RAPE YOUR CHILD,STAY AWAY FROM HIM!
ReplyDeleteBest decision you made. I abhorred my mum for bringing her useless leeching boyfriend to our house and he in turn molested my sisters. I started rebelling against her . He couldn’t try it with me.useless man I hope he’ dead now
DeleteAllowing a man pass the night in your home is setting a totally wrong example for your child.
ReplyDeleteI understand that as a single mother, you are in need of companionship but don't let temporal pleasure hamper your child's future.
Unconsciously, you are setting an example that sex outside wedlock is OK.
please do well to re-orientate your girl and STOP bringing men home.
DeleteHow many alika will you invite to your house to sleep over?
Even if you don't care about your own reputation, have you for once thought of how this will rub off on your daughter?
Of course not, be asking DAFT questions there.
Madam, you no too try. Why would you be questioning your daughter over and over as though she was not being truthful. If anything happens, she may not want to open up to you. Imagine na... You no try. I just read that a woman cut off her husband's piece because he was doing one kind to her niece but here you are wondering if the small you did is overreacting when it concerns your own child!
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, the term "mother" usually connotes "sacrifice", amongst other virtues. In all honesty, you shouldn't allow your boyfriend have sleepovers when you have a daughter of an impressionable age. Apart from the fear of molestation, you are sending the wrong signal and setting a very wrong example. Sometimes, parents have to sacrifice pleasure for the greater good of our children. I'm not saying you can't have a boyfriend, you can if you're so inclined. However, no sleepovers. Your daughter shouldn't even know the man you're with, until you know him well enough and the relationship is "serious".
ReplyDeleteDon't second guess your decision. In matters like these, best to err on the side of caution. Allow me play devil's advocate, just to put your mind at ease. Let's assume that your daughter told a fib, you still have to end the relationship with him because a child that troubled needs more of your attention and you should keep the object of her "attack" as far away from her as possible. If on the other hand she is telling the truth, which I'm leaning more towards, you have no business dating such a predatory pervert afflicted with subhuman, animalistic tendencies.
It's bad enough to fondle a CHILD, whose mother you're in a sexual relationship with, but to do it right under the mother's nose, on the same bed??? That's as foul as it gets. Darling, you too have to do better. I know how seductive it is to feel like your man is part of your happy family, like a father to your daughter. Reality check, he is NEITHER. On no account should your daughter be on the same bed with you and your boyfriend! I don't care how tired you were, you should have taken her to her room and tucked her in bed before returning to your room.
You might think what he did was slight because there was no penetration, but what he did is enough to leave a psychological scar on her psyche. You have to do better, your daughter should come first. A widower friend of ours vowed not to have any serious relationship with any woman until his only daughter gets to tertiary level. She was a child when her mum passed, he kept his promise and only started dating when she got into college. His daughter knows her dad is dating now but he still hasn't introduced her to anyone yet because he is waiting for the "right" one. As parents, we have to step up when the need arises. It may be difficult but not impossible.
e-hugs and kisses.
If he can't sleep over as boyfriend can he sleep as husband
DeleteOr you guys saying she should not marry
Ah wise one where have you been? We missed you here oh.
DeleteWho am I seeing, mama I missed you so ooooooo much. I have always been anticipating your insightful comments and have been longing to see them so bad. Please do drop by here frequently, plssss Ronalda. I love you.
DeleteThat is why men should steer clear of single mothers to avoid situations like this from occurring.
ReplyDeletePoster does not believe her daughter, trust me. For her to ask if she over reacted says it all.
ReplyDeleteWho lets their boyfriend sleep in same bed with their daughter?
When she told you she didn’t want to stay with that sick boyfriend of yours, common sense didn’t tell you you were making a mistake leaving her with him.
With the horrible stories we read and hear everyday, you didn’t think it was unwise to leave your girl with him. Smh.
Kids like to go out with their mom
DeleteHow does that mean he’s a pervert
So if my child says take me out and cries not to stay home with dad, that means he’s bad
I feel like plucking plantain leave and flogging the living daylight out of you. Onuku
DeleteYou have done the best thing. Trust me, if you had listen to him over your daughter, he would have succeeded in molesting your daughter. Kudos to you.
ReplyDeleteShe said she has 6x7 bed as if it’s as big as Nigeria or bed size can deter a paedophile. It only goes to show she disbelieves her child
ReplyDeleteMy dear, pls believe your daughter who is your responsibility and your flesh and blood over someone else. You're lucky she is expressive enough to insist she wants to go out with you and to speak up of what happened on the Friday night. EVEN IF your daughter is lying, it means she is uncomfortable around this man and you still have to let him go. Fortunately and unfortunately, parenting is a sacrifice and every decision you make you have to consider your family.
ReplyDeleteAnd some people call Kanye vile for fighting for his kids especially daughters not to be anywhere near their Mama boyfriend.. he knows what men are capable of. He knows. Hear his lyrics "When you got daughters, always keep them safe; Watch out for vipers, don't let them indoctrinate" "Raise our sons, train them in the faith; Through temptations, make sure they're wide awake"
Kids don't lie
ReplyDeleteWhy would your daughter lie against your boyfriend? That your boyfriend needs to be arrested. Secondly, how on earth do you leave a girl-child (even boy-child) with your boyfriend? Parents, protect your kids. You owe them that.
ReplyDeleteWhy should you even be questioning your daughter over and over again?
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't even be considering taking the man back or coming here to write about a chronicle and asking such question.
Anyways, you're a good mum. You raised a courageous and fierce daughter. Please continue being her friend so that she can always open up to you.
My cousin told me what a distant uncle did to her when she was very young.we saw him again in 2008 and he was in his 60s back then during a family gathering. I stood in front of him and accused him of everything he did to his niece , he stood der shivering....he was beaten to stupor when another older cousin started crying and when they asked her she said he did horrible things to her as well. He died after 3months or so
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DeleteThe guyman thought he was fondling your own breast,not knowing na your daughter own cos probably he forgot you all slept in one bed,yeap.
ReplyDeleteBut why didn't you give him breast to suck naw before you all slept ,you've seen what you caused now.
You may keep an eye on him or you let go.
Lily Are you for real or is this some sick joke?
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