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NARRATIVE ONE
EXTREME ANXIETY
Hello everyone.
I suffer from extreme anxiety which makes my heart palpitate. I have tried all I can do, Pray, hospital, shrink and all. I just can't relax,I have extreme fear, anxiety.
I heard pregnancy doesn't stay once U have anxiety. I don't want to miscarry because of my useless and foolish sef. I feel like ending it all sometimes but I Love my husband.
BV's has anyone ever seen or heard about anyone that went through safe pregnancy with such anxiety?? Am I cursed?
Are you afraid because you are pregnant or you were like this before you fell pregnant? I am asking because i was a little like this when i was pregnant and it was the fear of labour......
Are you afraid because you are pregnant or you were like this before you fell pregnant? I am asking because i was a little like this when i was pregnant and it was the fear of labour......
Should i say you will be fine? This has nothing to do with being cursed... you will be fine!
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NARRATIVE TWO
My marriage is just one month old and my problem is that my husband lasts more than an hour during the do and I don't like it.
His Libido is too high , Stella help me , is this what i am going to pass through all my life? He doesn't take any s#x enhancement drugs, i am very sure hmmm ...
I am scared .........
One hour!....Abeg thats too much naaaaaaah...
One hour non stop pounding? na wah oooooo. Can you not have a conversation on this with him? For you to be counting shows you do not enjoy it at all...
Discuss it with him so that he can find other ways to do this...
Sorry ooh, marriage no easy at all.
Poster 1: Try to free your mind and self from all negative thoughts. Fill your mind with positive things and set a goal that will take your mind away from things that scares you. If you are busy with something important, you wont have room for anxiety and fear of the unknown.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Maybe you should talk to him about it. Most men are like that but I wonder where they they such strength and time from... You guys can find a way to shorten it.
You say shorten wetin shabi some women want longer sex not short one
DeleteFaith to your rescue ma'am. This is the very reason the Lord invented faith. Start from there and see yourself soar.
DeletePoster 1 try the breathing technic, there must be something causing the anxiety, maybe an impending bill. I had same anxiety and cause of it I miscarried at 7 weeks. Please miscarriage is the worst tragedy ever, don't let it happen to you. Relax, everything will be fine. Even the problems that seem like mountain eventually give way. God be with you
ReplyDeleteYou didn't state the cause of your anxiety. There's always an underlying cause. Just tell yourself that everything will be alright. Life is not easy and nobody has it all. Whatever you lack in your life always look on the bright side, you have a husband whom you love and you'll soon have a beautiful baby. These are blessings. Don't ever compare yourself with anybody. Our lives are different. Live yours.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, enact a sex timetable in your home and stick to it. On sex days, endure. Marriage is about sacrifice. Also make him engage in a lot of foreplay so that you can become very wet before the do. It'll make him cum quicker.
Anon 15:16, you say wetin abeg?
DeleteThat the Poster should have a sex timetable in her house?
I laugh in Swahili 🤣
Poster ,kindly disregard this.
Anxiety patient, add 30 minutes of aerobic exercise to your daily routine. You'll get better with time
ReplyDeleteThis life is a mistery ,some call their husband one minute man see another one calling her husband one hour man,madam there is nothing you can do pray for grace ,it is your cross,men don't listen when it comes to sex,really sorry for you but what can you do that he won't interpret to mean you are giving him free licence to cheat?
ReplyDeleteI wish my husband can even pound for 5mins
ReplyDeleteChai
DeleteIt is well
DeleteDon't know we're they're getting all that strength from......you wouldn't help me do anything for house but you go wan lye on top me for 1hr plus....even when I will be screaming I'm not breathing well, he will tell me to endure with his big gbola but you can't endure for 10 minutes.....na push I dey do my own. Like RIP she died on top pric*k.....lie lie no be me onugo?
DeleteThis life🤷🤷🤷
DeleteThe Lady with extreme anxiety pls go to a teaching hospital and do a thyroid function test ist before seeking help from social media . Hottie 7
ReplyDeleteHmmm 1hr pounding...na this kind thing dey vex me.
ReplyDeleteI must test the p & the guy strength b4 I say yes I do.
Poster with anxiety na wah o. I dey pray for you
Poster 2,you have my sympathy. WTF!!! Ihr for what naa.
ReplyDeleteAsk him if he used to watch porn and relieve himself. That's the major reason why he stays long on the do. Your body does not move him to release fast.
God bless you poster. I think when a woman's body moves him or he's really into the sex he doesn't stay that long but when he's not moved or he's used to porn, he won't come fast.
DeleteI know a girl, a single girl who was in love with a very nice gentleman and they were planning marriage. Then this anxiety of a thing hit her like hammer. It got so bad that she resigned from her job due to undue mistakes. Her fiance was so supportive and did everything to reassure her but all to no avail. Then, there was the added one she never expected; anxiety about being married. She ended the engagement by herself and was becoming suicidal. Attempted suicide once and that was when she came to her senses. It was at this point that she gave her life to Christ (actually the lady who found her after the attempted suicide was instrumental to leading her to Christ).
ReplyDeleteShe still wasn't healed of the anxiety. Overtime, reading her Scriptures (Isaiah 8:19-22, Romans 1 etc.) She stopped two things; Yoga and Horoscope addiction and that was when her anxiety left her.
Demonic possession… when I tell people yoga is demonic the don’t listen..yoga was birth by gurus from eastern religion and all of them do meditations and mind possession. Yes you can stay on the periphery of yoga and still get away with it but as you get deeper you can get demons into to you during meditation techniques…the only thing that should occupy anybodys mind is the Holy Spirit..
DeleteShebi you know you can still preach and make your point without having to form imaginary stories for effect
DeleteJust saying respectfully
Darajah 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete@Darajah
DeleteThere is nothing respectful about your insulting comment.
You just dismissed her comment as "imaginary." In other posts,
you will be screaming don't judge.
'he doesn't take sex enhancing drugs I'm sure" see madam I work in a pharmacy these men buy sex enhancing drugs and tell you to remove it from the pack some get water and take it there immediately and tell you they dash you the pack.there is one that used to send his wife to come and get it for him but he will call us first and tell us to remove it from the pack and the will think it's his normal drugs cos his diabetic patient, so don't make that kind of naive statement again o
ReplyDeleteMe gan i saw delay spray in his box yet he didn't last long.
DeleteWhich one be delay spray. Please enlighten me
DeleteAh poster 2, I feel your pain. Kindly talk to him, he might be thinking he's impressing you but he's not.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, before the somatic signs of anxiety sets in (such as jaw tightness, chest pain/palpitations), there are negative thoughts that creep-through your mind.
ReplyDeleteFirst, identify those negative thoughts when they come, then counter them with positive and logical ones. Eg: if thoughts like 'I may die in this pregnancy' comes, counter it with "thousands of women give birth successfully everyday, mine wont be different".
Also engage in daily verbal positive affirmations and do breathing exercises (take deep breaths, count to 10 and exhale).
With time, the negative thought patterns lose their frequency and strength, so also will the palpitations.
Poster 1, Anxiety/panic attacks is an actual medical problem. Some persons have it when faced with stress from school or work, some due to past traumas. Watch One Day At A Time, a series on Netflix. Season 3 episode 9 was focused on how the characters were helped to cope with this. It may help you too.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, pls see a new doctor
ReplyDeletePoster 2, stop him from pounding after sometime and distract with other things like oral sex on you or him and with toys. Also use good lubricants
No 1 poster, just try and relax everything will be fine.
ReplyDeleteNo 2 poster, one hour of sex ke? as in one hour pounding ? I don't want to believe is ordinary, sit your husband down and ask him questions, does he want to kill somebody's daughter.Abeg o
One hour of sex 😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteWhere una dey see this energy of endurance. I for don dey cry oh. Shey ur leg will not even start shaking balabalabala?
Lol this comment got me laughing
DeleteEka joy you are a clown i swear see me laughing like hyena here🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 OMG!!!!
DeleteShebi some people are complaining that their men do not last in bed
ReplyDeletePoster 1, please know that you're not alone, anxiety is more common than we think. Sometimes, the more you seek treatment or help, the more anxious you become. I did experience anxiety once upon a time, it wasn't easy. What I eventually did was engaged in exercises, more walking, and breathing techniques.
ReplyDeletePoster 2- your marriage is still very young and I think it's still early to tell if your husband is using sex enhancer or not. What I can say is that for most men, sexual act and ejaculation timing are psychological. When you do the do and you come before your husband, this can influence his mental and subsequently prolong the timing of ejaculation.
Also, when you engage in the act with your husband and it appears to him that you're not enjoying, this can delay the ejaculation. The moaning and positive tone from the wife can hasten the timing.
Also how much a man loves a woman and how attractive the man finds the woman can make a sex very pleasurable for a man , and as such bring about early ejaculation;it worth to note that some men have premature ejaculation as a result of this factor.
The dexterity of the wife can also determine this.
To make your husband come early, you can try squeezing your vaginal wall/pelvic muscle tightly while he is inside you (squeeze and hold for 2-3seconds), leave few seconds before the next squeeze, this works for most of the time.
I believe with time your husband will understand what you want in bed, and vice versa, so try and keep the communication channel open.
Poster 1 you're probably bipolar. Visit a psychologist. Not a marriage counselor, not your pastor. Find a very good psychologist, preferably someone that knows nothing about you but is willing to listen to you without judgement or condemnation. He/she may also prescribe some tranquilizers and antidepressants for you but you just need someone you can talk to, cry to, scream at and/or whatever you need. Your major concern is not just miscarriage but post partum depression as well. Pregnancy hormones can be overwhelming so do you need to do because it's not about just you any longer but your unborn child as well. You might also want to engage in new forms of activities especially fun ones. Running helps, cardio helps. If you love movies then put yourself into it. If you love music then download lots of it but most importantly find someone you can talk with. It doesn't have to be about anything in particular just whatever comes to mind.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 one man's meat is another man's medicine.
Anxiety does not indicate bipolar
DeleteRubbish, how many women do you know who can endure sex for 1 hour?
DeleteThanks Troy I suffered from severe anxiety too and I've picked a few things here. Poster, may I also suggest dancing? Go to youtube find a good "danceable" music and just let yourself go.
DeleteIt is well with you.
Poster with anxiety, go to YouTube and search Dr. Joe Dispenza. Listen to his lectures, follow his teachings and practise them - this was how I got healed from serious anxiety.
ReplyDeleteTo married women does sex kill? Is one hour too much for sex?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your husband takes sexual enhancement drugs
ReplyDeleteAnxiety girl, try staying away from social media for some time, you can get a nokia torch phone, it helped me alot, it can help you too
ReplyDeletePoster 1, amongst all the above stated suggestions by other great minds, i will advise you to avoid watching movies... especially movies with much suspense.
ReplyDeleteAvoid using your mobile phone in a dark environment. Moderate what you feed your eyes and mind too.
Watch more of comedies and get a good laugh.
Get some exercise.
Poster 2.
You need to give your hubby a good ringing tone. "Bebere ya akwa onu"
Even when you haven't getting to the promised land, tell him you are about to Piaaaa...
Shiver... quirk...feed his man ego.
You will be surprised he will be nutting anyhow.
Poster 1, please do not kill yourself.
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