The Past is a place some people are trapped in.....
For some, it is a no go area......
Are you haunted by the past? something you did that you wish you didnt do? or something you didnt do that you wish you did?
Does it give you sleepless nights?
Wanna share?
A BV Says ''I am currently trying to conceive in Marriage but when i was single i got pregnant every other month and got rid of all the Babies, this haunts me. if i had known i would have rather been a single mother than this torture of waiting to get pregnant....It haunts me!''
I used to steal my mum small small money when I was still in primary school, now my daughter is pro max in the same stealing . Anytime I wanted to beat her for that, my past will just flash to my face, thus making me to feel weak. Chai!!
ReplyDeleteBut na small change l thief then, why is she stealing in thousands????. I can’t even allow her inside my shop cos of this.
People will be like “you have a daughter like this and you are saying you need someone to help in your business “.
One day her daddy was so angry for her bad habit that he questioned who she resembled?. I felt weak again
Mine ehhh, I stole both mom and dad money , my dad will swear with his life if he ever has money to bring for feeding but he hides money and enjoys himself outside while we eat nonsense as food cos that's what mom can provide for. I noticed where he hides it, I will collect it and give mom, mom will tell me to go and keep it for him shebi he don swear, I will do so. I noticed nothing happened to the guy man. I will now steal the money and use it to enjoy myself at school, he can't even ask about his missing money after all he doesn't have.
DeletePray she doesnt get caught outside and branded a thief.
DeleteI have dated married men when I was in school cos of money. Now other side chicks are onto him. One day I saw on Facebook what to do to disengage them from him, but it work if the woman never dated a married man before. Eweleke, my friend was telling me to do it ooo, that she has done her own...I laugh...
ReplyDeleteDon't beat yourself too hard, if your man had self control, he won't fall.
DeleteYour dating married men while single is not the cause of his infidelity, he is just loose.
There are women who dated married men but married to faithful husbands, I am one of them.
There are also women who did not date married men, some even married as virgins but their husbands are dogs. I know a few women like that.
There are women who did not date married men and their husbands are faithful and the last category is your own category.
So just face your kids( if you have any) and business, if you can bear his cheating.
Karma
Delete15:11 People should learn to do unto others what they want done to them. Seeds we sow germinate in other areas, not just in marital infidelity. Better speak the truth rather than this blanket statement.
Delete18:31
DeleteWhat truth?
You want me to bash her? She is feeling guilty already and has learned her lessons. Or you want me to say my husband cheats when he doesn't? 🤣🤣🤣🤣You wish!
Say your own truth and keep it moving
No one is saying she should be bashed, I mean she is down already, but the truth is that there are consequences for every action, so let's not speak like there aren't. FYI There are worse things than cheating.
DeleteThere is forgiveness for a person who truly repents, not one who tries to wave their sin aside and claim it doesn't matter. Anon 21:29
DeleteI did DC when I was younger, not looking for Child,at 41, may God forgive me and have mercy upon my life .AMEN
ReplyDeleteWhat is DC? @ anon 15:14
DeleteGo for all the necessary tests and treatment, let your husband go for tests and treatment too, it will surprise you that your husband may be the cause except doctor already said it is from you. Change hospitals too, those doctors are better than one another.
DeleteI did two D and C, a friend of mine did almost Ten, we are both mothers to beautiful children.
If we had delay, I would have also thought I was the cause because of the abortions. Take your man for tests and treatment if you had not done so.
16.05 there are exceptions to every rule but believe it or not, a D&C increases the odds of something going wrong in the body.
DeleteAnd also those are beautiful children that never got a chance to live their life, something to be sober about rather than wave aside.
DeleteWhat is holding u back is your Wicked heart, your need to show people you have arrived and better than them.
DeleteYour heart is too wicked and because you feel in few Months from now,you will be elevated again,you have started misbehaving again.
The thing holding you back is your Prideful WICKED heart. Many women do and are still doing DC according to you. PRIDE is your fall!
True age don revel 41 no be 36 again.@15:14
15;14. I am a seerer. You have Pride and need to ask multitude of people you hurt in the past for forgiveness. God safe you
Delete19:33, SDK blog Seer, this name will suit you well.....after you reveal what my blog id is
Delete41+2.
Delete*now
ReplyDeleteMy own past that I regret are the abortions that I did, two of them. My first abortion was while in University for my school boyfriend. I was 20. I still remebered it last night and shed tears. I remember every single detail.
ReplyDeleteThe pregnancy was three months so the foetus was already forming. I had a D and C cos I was scared of all these abortion pills. A friend took me to her customer, a doctor who had a hospital but also had another office far from the hospital where he does abortions.
I was bleeding but lied to my mum that I had malaria. Mama put me in bed, was cooking for me, boiling water for me to bath and giving me malaria medicine😞
On the third or fourth day, in the evening like 6:pm, the bleeding increased, gushing out like a tap, I almost confessed my sins(mum would have fainted, she trusted me so much). Then I felt a big lump came out with the blood, I went out of the house into the bush behind our house to check. Lo, it was my baby, very tiny like the size of wallgecko, I cried when I saw it, then accompanying it was a sac filled with blood (placenta, as I later learnt). I buried both while crying and pleading for forgiveness ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
After that, the bleeding reduced drastically and stopped later.
Instead of me to lose weight, I added weight because of the special care mum was giving her good daughter that had malaria, poor mama!
I was young and naive then, the supposed boyfriend did not even care, he was even cheating on me but I was too stupid to reason well.
I had another abortion for a married man a few years later but it wasn't as dramatic as that first one cos I was mature, working and I was not as far gone as the first one. Thinking about that first one last night, I thought to myself, "you could have died, you were bleeding seriously but kept it to yourself, that is how girls die".
God kept me alive and showed me mercy, today I am married to a wonderful man who makes me his number one, followed by our two kids. I was scared of the kind of marriage I would have and also if I would have kids but I got pregnant the following month after marriage. 13yrs in marriage now and still counting, handsome and caring, loving, God-fearing husband and wonderful kids. I thank God every day and I keep pleading for his forgiveness.
I sometimes wonder how that my first fruit would have looked like, he or she would have been over twenty yrs now.
I pray that my kids turn out well and do better than I did.
Since you are still crying for that first baby, mourn (fasting and prayer) for him. It will help you a lot to be at peace about him. And make sure that you live for Jesus.
DeleteAt least you are repentant about it, compared to the other anon up there 16.05. May God grant you peace.
DeleteGood to read that there are faithful and wonderful Nigerian husbands.
DeleteIt is well, may God forgive us all our sins.
ReplyDeleteAmen😢🤲🤲
DeleteI'm not a perfect human. I know I cannot lie to myself. I have not done anything ugly in the past that is giving me a sleepless night or makes me feel like it's haunting me.Maybe because I apply discipline.
ReplyDeleteSame here and up till now no husband, the hediot I now tot was the one, now scammed me of all my savings.
DeleteIf you abuse yourself finish, who wan abuse you? I did so many bad things. If I look my life, I sometimes wonder whose life I fit borrow but nobody wan borrow me their life. so na to forgive yourself first then forgive the next man. 10 years going I never born, abegi, I gat to realize say nor be by to fuck and born. God dey mercy person. Even his mercy dey inside punishment. Nor worry. God gat you.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm wetin I never do for this life, I was WAYWARD with capital letter, but HIS mercy found me, and I'm a new creature ,married to a very amazing man,that I still wonder why God gave me to him,cos guy man is too perfect,despite the fact that I'm still stubborn and talks down on him, he still loves me and cares for me, me wey no even get job, still come get plenty bargages ,still he pets me as if I'm a diamond, 14 years down 57 more to go by God's grace, I just wish to be a better person for this amazing guy, but I no just know why, I no balance, I still chat dirty,cos an idle hand,na devil workshop,and despite all my snooping, hubby is 100 percent clean, which kind life be this my own, sometimes I attribute it to boredom,I just get luck, and I pray I no fuck this luck up, no matter how I explain,bvs won't understand.
ReplyDeleteAwwww i wish you the best. God will do it for you
DeleteYou better stop now, tomorrow may be too late.
DeleteLucky you. God blesses those he choose to bless.
DeleteFake story
DeleteThe kind of guys that falls into 18:07trap are the ones that belive that if you marry a formerly wild lady she is less likely to cheat. but like the saying goes a leopard can never change its skin.
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