Hmmmm...
Good day Stella.
I just remembered how God has brought me far in my marriage . I married the Love of my life after dating him for 10 solid years.
Firstly after my B.Sc., I went straight to do my masters and later came back to live in the same city with him.
He was hustling likewise me. And in between those 10yrs, we broke up and came back even though those breakups never lasted for 3months. We later got married.
At first I was scared because I was earning 30k as at 2016 same as him. His own was not constant but mine was.
Most times he goes out for weekend jobs and that was how he was surviving till he asked me to marry me. I come from a home where my money was not needed. My parents were doing fine and my siblings were all older than me and so I was asked to just take care of myself.
I left my comfort zone because I wanted to work and make my own and also because I loved My husband then boyfriend .
We met at school and he was my first.
So when he asked me to marry him, I was scared because; how would we cope with that little money we were earning. He was already living alone and had all the comfort a house needed eg.. washing machine, microwave, a gen, bed, etc. So it's not like we will start to buy stuffs. But the fear of the unknown was my biggest fear. Even though I knew if I ask for assistance my folks will give me but am the very shy type to ask for money . I prefer to earn it .
Well we finally got married with the little we saved . We prepared for a yr plus and got married.
The first yr was tough but we managed because I wasn't the type that loves material things so I managed out little resource that came. He kept assuring me we will move to a better place. Truly we moved from a 180k apartment to 250k. The following yr, we got a Car , the next yr, we started a business and then that same yr, we both got better jobs and then we purchased our first plot of land.
Stella just last yr, we have moved to a 2bed apartment. It's been 6 beautiful years . God has been faithful to us. Our Anniversary will come up by July and we shall celebrate with our first child because we are expecting. For now I have stopped buying hairs and cloths and shoes. Focusing on baby things now. When we in excess we will resume.
We plan to start building by next yr. We are working towards that .
I Am sharing this to give hope that God is indeed God and truly he never falls.
Keep holding up he sees you .
Nice story!
I honestly hope that this encourages someone out there!
Whaooo
ReplyDeleteGlory Be To God.
Keep soaring higher poster
This made me cry so much because I am in a horrible place right now in my marriage, my husband is a good man and we 4 month in marriage. As soon as we got married his car sales business became epileptic, it's mine now that we are using to survive which is also not constant. I remember writing Stella one time out of frustration to help, of course it was a stupid move because Stella has her own responsibilities but when you don't have any option, you do stupid things. This is really hope to me and I pray things turn around for all of us Amen
DeleteYou married good man whose head did not scatter when he started seeing small change.
DeleteI thank God for you.
Emphasis on good man. If you like dont open your eye very well and study your spouse, go and do afar if necessary. Marriage is too serious to be doing e ni mi ni ma ni mo.
Hallelujah! May God continue to bless ur home
DeleteHallelujah! God continue to bless your home.
DeleteMay God continue to keep you both in His love
DeleteGod is so faithfull. May His mercies never ceases upon your family in Jesus name amen. Happy living.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful story.
ReplyDeleteOne thing I've come to understand is that alot of reasonable ladies don't mind starting/building with their men however, the issue is, when things improve will the man still have sense?
This!
DeleteGood question.
DeleteYou know a good woman when her man has nothing.
You know a good man when he has everything.
Poster,may your marriage keep being beautiful even when God blesses you guys with all you pray for. Amen
Shout the question louder for people behind
DeleteI unfortunately had a very bad experience dating a man that was broke to the tail, I would share my pocket money and send food from my house. Unfortunately and fortunately, when he became rich, he changed 180 degree, there still were some good part about him but boy o boy, did he change.
DeleteDear poster, may blessings continually follow you and your family.
So happy πππ for you, God bless your home more and more. Happy 6th wedding π anniversary in advance.
ReplyDeleteYour story is beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
DeleteIt truly pays to be a contented person. God is indeed taking us through a process to a place called BETTER. And while at it, we deliberately choose to be happy and satisfied with what we have and where we are on our way to where we are going (where God is taking us)π. We don't compromise our faith or take short-cuts.
We stay with God's plan, putting our complete trust in Him.
Just today, I was privileged to speak to youths in church on CONTENTMENT. With this epidemic of get-rich-quick syndrome that is all over the place, we felt it would be a good topic to preach on at this time and I thank God that He came through for me. He always doesπ.
So dear poster, thanks for being content. Move up higher and happy 6th anniversary.
If you are looking for great videos for youths (teens and young adults); if you need something that can speak to their generation, please check out YouthsCircleTV YouTube channel.
Kindly check this link for our latest videoπ
https://youtu.be/jRdtP0AyTbE
God is no man, poster thank God your man is a good man, and there are good men out there too who are looking for your type that is not materialistic to settle down with.
ReplyDeleteI actually believe so many ladies are ready to stick it out with a guy but are the guys ready?
ReplyDeleteThat fear of his real character will coming out when he has excess money is the problem, he might start maltreating the lady and flirting around. I built with a man too and so far so good, I really hope it keeps getting better.
DeleteThank you for this beautiful story and may God continue to build your home. You're truly a virtuous woman not the social media acclaimed.
DeleteYour story teaches one important lesson everyone seems to have forgotten; it really doesn't matter as much how you start, but both parties have to be united and purposeful in BUILDING their future. It's not rocket science or motivational quotes finally.
Are the ladies ready?? We can keep going round in this circle and end up in a self fulfilling prophecy or take a step like the poster and rejoice at the end of the day.
DeleteWow.I wish una well o
ReplyDeleteNice one.
ReplyDeleteThis is so beautiful and refreshing to read. Double Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary and your miracle baby, God continue to bless you and yours. π
ReplyDeleteVery very refreshing.
DeleteMore blessings
ReplyDeleteYou will testify next year, God bless your home π
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...That's good,quite encouraging.Key points to note:he is hard working,he already had a house and basic amenities,he was focused.Anything outside this apart from being God fearing,sister,OYO is your case.
ReplyDeleteYou try.... And if you will open up, there many challenges you faced and yet you push through..
ReplyDeleteI hope some of us can learn from this..
My marriage na the beginning of my wahala..
Sweet
ReplyDeleteCongrats
Nice one
ReplyDeleteIt's just as if I wrote this but the difference is that our wedding is in April and he is earning roughly 200k and I'm about to quit my above a 100k job so I can join him in his location. I'm seriously scared, I just pray I get a job quick in my new city cos I doubt we can live comfortably on his
ReplyDeleteI hope you have some savings or some form of investment you can fall back on when you get to his base though. It's advisable to have about a year Expenses in cash form to take care of your personal needs before you leave your job.
DeleteIf I were you, I wouldn't get pregnant immediately until I'm fully settled too.
Poster thank God for u guys. I love this kind of story. Mine is the complete opposite but like I tell people, that mine turned out badly doesn’t mean marriage is not sweet. Enjoy ur love I beg.
ReplyDeleteStay blessed
DeleteWow, good to hear this. Not everyday sad story. Poster God will continue to bless you. Oyibo people say when there is life there is hope.
ReplyDeleteWow.... All the best dear!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThank God for you dear poster
ReplyDeleteCongratulations and happy anniversary to you and your husband in advance
May God continue to bless and uphold your home...nice story
ReplyDeleteMore blessings π
ReplyDeleteGod bless your beautiful family. Amen. I love sweet testimonies.
ReplyDeleteThe "marry him rich and made" gangs, how far?
ReplyDeleteI know say una go attack this woman here or sing hypocritical "thank God for you"
The problem is when good enough to build now turns to not good enough to enjoy
DeleteUngratefulness breeds bitterness & scorn
God bless your home. Congratulations in advance on your baby
ReplyDeleteWow.. beautiful story, More open doors dear
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful story, may God continue to bless your home.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you Poster, may the good God keep elevating you.
ReplyDeleteA change for today. Poster thank you for sending in your story. It's so comforting to hear that your husband is not a slay king.. Your home is blessed.
ReplyDeleteLovelace
Ur story is beautiful,God bless your homeπ
ReplyDeleteIf God is in a vehicle with you crashing is not an oprion, involving God in all your doings is for your own advantage not God
ReplyDeleteGod bless your kind heart lady and I'm wishing you more blissful years in love together
ReplyDeleteStella not all marriages are bad,we still have good men out there,maybe I will also send my story in to uplift someone.
ReplyDeleteSo sweet a chronicle.
ReplyDeleteDouble Congratulations dear poster, may you and yours continue to flourish!
May God continually bless your home in Jesus name π π
ReplyDeleteYou married a good man poster.. May God continue to bless your home..
ReplyDeleteHighly inspiring. God will continue to keep your home and bless your family in Jesus name... More wins...
ReplyDelete