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WICKED MOTHER
I am on my bed broken and thinking about my life and how God has brought me this far. I am alive, healthy and doing well after being abandoned by my mother at age 2.
I am on my bed broken and thinking about my life and how God has brought me this far. I am alive, healthy and doing well after being abandoned by my mother at age 2.
Today she is old needy, and alone and wants me to look after her at old age. Her loving child she claimed as her first child died at age 38 and she suddenly turned to me after over 42 years. We met at my father's burial -her husband, not my biological father. That one too abandoned me.
I dont know my biological father. I dont even care.
As she doesn't have anybody that might bury her, i have fixed some money whenever God calls her. But for now she is dead in my life, though we spoke last in November,.
She is left with 1 wayward son who did not go to school and doing nothing, i dont relate with that 1 too. I heard the son doesn't reckon with her. He is too dangerous to be brought close. But i feel pity at her and the condition I saw her last but she is lying on the bed she made.
I still find it difficult to forgive her though I have tried. The pain, the hatred, the suffering I went through as a child living with strangers as house help. How do I forgive a wicked mother who does not still show me love even till now and only after what she can get from me.
I told her to pray for me. I told her to bless me but she pretends with tears. I heard she curses behind. How do i forgive? she is very frail with no money but has little pension.
This is so sad already, please since she is old and frail and regretting her actions.... forgive her but keep a distance... forgive her totally cos you will regret not doing so when she is gone... Release yourself from the pain and forget whether she curses you after blessing you...
This is so sad already, please since she is old and frail and regretting her actions.... forgive her but keep a distance... forgive her totally cos you will regret not doing so when she is gone... Release yourself from the pain and forget whether she curses you after blessing you...
It is not easy but do it.
Do you know why she abandoned you? have you asked her who your father is? All these questions will also help you heal.
Good luck..
Aye mi te mi,bami
ReplyDeletePrudent you have come again with this your new year resolution comments🤣
DeletePoster, for you to write in it means your conscience is pricking you. My advice is, it's high time you did something for yourself which is forgiveness. Yes,forgive her but stay far. Send her what you can where you have. Don't forget whatever you are doing, you are doing for yourself so you will not let her stress you. You will not be available for her or her son to "use". Do not invite her and do not visit. Call once in a while and send her regular up keep.
Its not easy. Just try and forgive her whether she's remorseful or not and don't have anything to do with her son. Don't release your number to them. You can use the opportunity to ask her about your relatives. Be wise in all things.
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ReplyDeleteAsk God for directions, you never know
DeleteLike Stella said forgive her for yourself. Forgive to be free. It won't be easy but try. It's well with you.
ReplyDeleteOh dear, you’ve really been through a lot and I totally understand how you feel.. Please try forgive her and let go.. I bet you also feel relieved when you do so.. God be with you
ReplyDeleteSome mother’s ehhn pls if you don’t forgive her heaven will understand wicked mother’s. Mine doesn’t reckon with me anymore cos I don’t steal to give her anymore. I don’t care.
ReplyDeleteLet her not recon. When singers compose sweet songs expressing how precious mothers are, truth is that a woman does not automatically become precious because she carried and birthed a child. It is how much she is able to be there for that child that makes her precious.
DeleteMy mom abandoned us too(was 3 and my sister wasn’t even 1 yet,got very sick and almost died)but Iv forgiven her and do what I can when I can so my advice is that you forgive her and do what you can to take care of her.don’t allow one mother make you don against God.
ReplyDeletePlease find it in your heart to forgive and heal. All the best dearie
ReplyDeletePls forgive her, you are doing it for yourself. Also whatever help you want to render do it from a distance.
ReplyDeleteMy dear forgive and allow how die naturally without aiding her. We live with the consequences of our sins. Remember you don't owe her anything period!
ReplyDeleteI can imagine your pain. Please forgive her for your own sake and help her🙏
ReplyDeleteNot easy forgiving and forgetting, but for your own peace of mind forgive her totally and set her free from your heart, send her anything you can just for the sake of Christ. If you don't want to have any relationship with her please feel free. I just can not understand how wicked some parents can be, this kids did not send you to commit adultery and bring them to the world, after abandoning your child at as a baby, instead of you to make amends when you finally reconnected to her you still bless her in front and curse her at the back thinking that you are doing her, poster you need only Jesus to take you to where you want to be in life, as long as you surrender yourself to him and his Will, most African children makes some of these wicked parent feel like dem gods that without their blessing they can marry or amount to something in life, for me o whom the Lord as blessed no man can curse biko poster focus on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Las Las it's a lesson to this generation close ya legs tight if you know you don't have any love to give to any child at any stage you find yourself in life. Poster do your best for your mum like i earlier said for CHRIST SAKE AND YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND. Thank God he never abandoned you just like your parents.
ReplyDeleteForgive her for your mental health, do what u can to assist her. If you don't feel like building a relationship, don't. But don't let her die and leave u with stains of guilt after all u been through.
ReplyDeleteNot easy forgiving and forgetting, but for your own peace of mind forgive her totally and set her free from your heart, send her anything you can just for the sake of Christ. If you don't want to have any relationship with her please feel free. I just can not understand how wicked some parents can be, this kids did not send you to commit adultery and bring them to the world, after abandoning your child at as a baby, instead of you to make amends when you finally reconnected to her you still bless her in front and curse her at the back thinking that you are doing her, poster you need only Jesus to take you to where you want to be in life, as long as you surrender yourself to him and his Will, most African children makes some of these wicked parent feel like dem gods that without their blessing they can marry or amount to something in life, for me o whom the Lord as blessed no man can curse biko poster focus on Jesus the author and finisher of our faith. Las Las it's a lesson to this generation close ya legs tight if you know you don't have any love to give to any child at any stage you find yourself in life. Poster do your best for your mum like i earlier said for CHRIST SAKE AND YOUR OWN PEACE OF MIND. Thank God he never abandoned you just like your parents.
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ReplyDeleteThe way my bf chews is annoying. Pls how do I correct him so he does get angry or spoil the relationship.
Make una answer me na!!!🙄
DeleteTalk to him about it.
DeleteTell him.to his fave abi u dey feqr am??
DeleteDecide to forgive her because that will be the appropriate thing to do even for your own peace. You may stay afar and be supporting her, if you are not really sure of her intentions; you can also try and find out why she did all that to you.
ReplyDeleteRomans 12: 17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone.
ReplyDelete19Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.”b
20On the contrary,
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him a drink.
For in so doing,
you will heap burning coals on his head.”c
21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Matthew 6:14-15 NIV For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins
ReplyDeleteNot forgiving this woman can cost you eternal life.
ReplyDeletePoster please you need to find a place in your heart and forgive this woman especially now that she is old, close to her grave. If I tell you is easy to forgive is not most especially when the people that hurt you, betrayed you are those people who are close to your he, people that should give you closure but they rather give you high blood pressure.
ReplyDeleteForgive her, start taking care of her wirh the little time she has before you start having sleepless night when she is no more to beg for forgiveness.
Life is too short, let her mind judge her, free your spirit. Please find a place in your heart to forgive her ans show her some love. She be your mama no matter what she has done to you.
Forgiveness is key and please take care of her if you can
ReplyDeletePoster this is really painful but fir your inner peace and joy.... Forgive her and set yourself free too. I'm sure she might be regretting some if her actions too. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteYou have to forgive her for your own sake.
ReplyDelete1. It will give you peace
2. Unforgiveness can hinder your progress
3. It can hinder your prayer
4. It will stop you from making heaven
Please forgive her
poster please forgive your mother not because she deserves it but for your own piece of mind
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your pain dear.....but please forgive her
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's advice and ask her those questions, they will help you find closure and peace.
All the best
So sorry for your pain dear.....but please forgive her
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's advice and ask her those questions, they will help you find closure and peace.
All the best
So sorry for your pain dear.....but please forgive her
ReplyDeleteTake Stella's advice and ask her those questions, they will help you find closure and peace.
All the best
Hmmmm, no be only you dey this yard, in my own case, I just play along like we are legit, because this have been really tough and peeps keep saying that I need her blessing....not easy to forgive and forget oh!
ReplyDeletePoster you need to forgive and forget whatever she has caused you,God allowed something to happened for to be strong,you should be grateful to God and give glory to his name,those people abandoned you but God took care of you and make you who you are today,dont only save money for her burial also provide for her till the day she will join her ancestors,dont allow the devil use you.
ReplyDeletePls forgive & assist her
ReplyDeleteHmmm. Poster, come here let me hug you. I wish I could hug you so tight, I wish you could lay your head on my shoulder and cry out the heart ache you have carried all these years.
ReplyDeleteForgivesness is one of the toughest things to do. However, let me ask you one question; if that woman dies today without forgiving her, how would that make you feel? Glad? Sad or guilty? See poster, you need to forgive her for your own peace of mind because if she dies today, I bet you would wish you did.
Forgive but keep her at arms length.
Thank you all.
ReplyDeleteI actually called her today and spoke peacefully with her reflecting on a lit of things. I am sending her some money tomorrow as she was lamenting of hunger and money to buy drugs and pay her house rent.
She prayed over the phone for me. I believe it's just to encourage me to send the money cause I told her I will send. She told me to pay into the son's account as she can hadly move around. Since the son will share in it I need to put him into consideration if not so he will not release the money.
Though I am keeping my distance, i will do my best to alleviate her suffering.
God bless you
DeleteGod bless you dear. I know you are experiencing a kind of peace in your heart right now. Close your ears to any comments from people about what she might have said behind you. You are already blessed and a blessing.
DeleteAsk the Lord to help you and heal your heart totally. Congratulations on your new life dear. Cheers.. 😍😍🤗🤗
Whether or not she is remorseful, forgive her. Forgivenesses is not for her but you, you will be freeing yourself. Even though you have forgiven her, still keep your distance and do what you can for her that is within your capacity. You also have to forgive all the people that have hurt you in your life, this way, you can move forward. Get closer to God and ask him to help you forgive, you’d need the Holy Spirirt because forgiveness is a divine gift and not an easy thing.
ReplyDeleteDon’t let the devil win. Wishing you the best!!
I just read the poster’s response after my comment. God bless you dear for making the tough but right decision to reach out to her. I forgot to add that you should pray for her too. Just a simple prayer that God will touch her heart so that she can at least make heaven.
ReplyDeleteGod is winning! Wishing you the best!!!