STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SHOCKING DISCOVERIES
Good day Stella and BVs.
Good day Stella and BVs.
Please I need advise.
I'm seeing someone and we're talking marriage at this stage but I'm confused because of some discoveries I have now. When we met, he told me he was an orphan and also an only child. He doesn't travel to his village cause his uncles killed his parents and tried to kill him too.
So he's just all alone.
He's well established with houses and investment. I'm also doing pretty well for myself but I'm a rooted person as in I believe in being in touch with your roots no matter what. So I started making some findings and discovered that my man isn't an orphan, his dad is alive though the mum is late and he has siblings.
Hes the first son with 4 younger ones. I connected with one of the siblings who opened up to tell me that their dad disowned him and told the siblings to cut ties with him or else he disown them too.
This happened in his 2nd yr in d uni.
The sibling didn't tell me the reason for the disowning cos I pretended to be from their place. Now my problem is how to let my guy know that I know.. won't it open old wounds and cause problems in our relationship. I love him very much.
Please what should I do?
I dont think your relationship will survive after you ask him!... I mean , look at the lies he told you and what you found out... He will so embarrassed that you went behind his back to investigate, the trust will gone totally. What you did is good because you need to know but to him it might be the end of the road.
Before you ask him, you need to find out why he was disowned and ostracized.
Please i encourage you to do the full investigation and then subtly ask him but not indoors, take him to dinner somewhere quiet and nice and ask him....If he gets angry he will walk away, if you do at home and he gets angry, it might not end well.
Good luck!
Mind ya business!
ReplyDeleteWhy should she mind her business ?
DeleteMind her business, naa. I don't think so. I think she should find out why he lied. I mean if he can lie about this, what else??
DeleteBut that's exactly what she's been doing.
DeletePoster please complete your findings and know the roots of the whole story.
Please follow Stella's advise.
Get ready for it too because it will likely shock you. Maybe he indulged in cultism...
Don't compromise your values.
But if the matter isn't serious then you may want to stick with him and work things out with his family.
This is her business, she was (or is) planning to get married to the guy!
DeleteHe will be the father of her children, what are you talking about?
Lol!! Wow.
DeleteMind her business today, blame her for not knowing tomorrow.
You say wetin? No o and she fire on
Deleteit is her business at this point. They are talking marriage and kids most likely.
DeleteYou need to conclude your investigations at least.
DeleteMind her business....so if they disowned him perhaps because he is Violent,into drugs or even killed someone; she shld not run for her life abi ?
DeleteThat's her business she's minding
DeleteThat's her business she's minding.
DeletePoster, get your full investigation and keep us updated
Dig well o and if what he did was bad as in bad oya o.
DeleteOK.... If he claimed to love you why didn't he open up to you? He's not an honest guy. Be careful
You still want to continue with him after that hefty lie?
ReplyDeleteSmh
The man is well established with houses everywhere, make una dey waste una energy typing.
Delete😁😄 anon why now?
DeleteNo be small hefty lie😂😂
DeleteMy dear, please ask him, anything that wants to happen should happen.
DeleteDon't attack him, just tell him you will like to know because you have come across some information, he should be honest with you after all he intends to spend the rest of his life with you.
It is vital you know, don't be scared to ask, it's your right.
Lack of openness or hiding things definitely kills relationships. He is supposed to be the one to tell you first. Seems like a huge red flag to me. Poster in this time of rituals and different orishirishi be careful. Not saying your man is bad but you need the FULL story before you can make any decision and become fully committed. If you turn a blind eye, that means you should be able to keep mum for the rest of ya'll lives. Well done on trying to find things out.
DeleteI do not think you should marry that man or at least till everything is cleared up. This kind of lie is not one to be swept under the rug. How long will he keep you in the dark? Is he waiting till you are married before telling you something so vital because at that time it will be harder for you to walk away?. Shine your eyes. This man is giving major read flags.
ReplyDeleteNot really Sha
DeleteSome fathers are so hot tempered and feel if u can't live by their rules then u can't live with them and out of anger the guy left for good and made it in life..or he did something very wrong..we all can be wrong too
No one is asking poster, How did his mother die?
DeletePoster, please follow Stella's advice 🙏, so on point...
ReplyDelete1000 likes @ Stella Jewelchi👌👌
Over on point dey worry her comment. Poster Sdk has given the best advice from my own perspective. Pls complete what you have started and you must let him know cos you can't marry him without him people being in attendance.
DeleteDon't waste that love. Keep dating him till you meet your husband.
ReplyDelete😳huh
DeleteI will advice you do your full investigation from outside why he was disowned by his dad?If it is something you can live with ,then push it aside and let him tell you at his own time . If you can't then find the best possible ways to bring up your findings, and a possible solution to ending the strife with his dad .
ReplyDeleteEkele, I love your advice but for the part, you said finding a possible solution to ending the strife. Some fights are deep-rooted and can consume even the person with the best intentions of reconciliation. She should find out what it is, if it's something she can live with, then go ahead and marry him, knowing that the situation might never change for the better, and if not, the poster keeps walking. Be warned too about poking your nose too much, if he does not want to make up with his family, you must learn to respect his wishes.
DeleteIt is not in her position to find solution to anything.
DeleteThis is how some of you women come into new families and your body will be doing gigirigi, wanting to chook your mouth and opinion into everything as asper incoming messiah.
I'm amazed that you are still blabbing on about relationship? What relationship?
One built on lies?
On withholding vital information?
So you are comfortable forging a relationship with a man who will deny even your children the knowledge of the existence of their grandparents, uncles and aunts?
And you are here chattering on about relationship?
When you should have immediately scheduled time to discuss this with your partner in the most humane way possible?
Do you know what your partner did? If it was incest, murder, stealing etc. Do you know what else he may be hiding.
It always amazes, people will be fucking themselves silly like rabbits, when it comes to addressing critical issues in their relationship: paralysis mode.
Some of you ehn, the bar that sets your standards is below your feet.
Ah poster, this lie carry weight o! So, when it's time for the traditional marriage is he the only one that will come and pay your bride price? Or is he that he doesn't truly intend to marry you?
ReplyDeleteThe foundation of this relationship is very faulty o. You either fix it now or let it break. In fact, you are not even in the position to fix it. Your boyfriend should fix it but if he refuses to do so, my dear, just let it go.
On point .Fix it now or let it break!
DeleteSo would you rather marry him blindly without even knowing why his father disowned him? And for him to so blatantly lie to you about his family, how many other lies has he been telling you.
ReplyDeleteThe foundation of your relationship is laid in lies. You both can still rectify it by coming clean so let him know what you have come to find out about him. Open old wounds, you say? Good, let him face his demons and be all the way straight with you if he truly loves you.
You are the one who is being lied to. He’s in no position to be annoyed or embarrassed. Family cutting him off is a huge deal, my dear..don’t take this casually.
Very huge deal @ your last line, poster I know it's his wealth that is trying to blind you from seeing that it is a deal for his family to cut him off.
Deletenothing casual at all!
DeleteLeave her, very irritating story. May The rush to answer MRS plus your very low emotional intelligence not be a problem for you.
DeleteAnon pls what's irritating in this story. Mtcheew,abeg carry your pepper body face front.When u see irritating one now you do dey salivate.
DeleteThe poster came for advice, your harshness is not helping anon 17:34.
DeleteFind out why he was disowned..
ReplyDeleteMaybe he committed an abomination
Be very careful
You still want to marry him?
ReplyDeleteWhy do people carry too many stinking secrets to their marital homes?
ReplyDeleteSo bad. Please be watchful and keep your life in Christ. This man may as well
be into fetishism. Be watchful before you become a sacrifice on an evil altar.
It's very simple my Dear. Do you have elder brothers? Tell him that your brothers did a full swing investigation on him as customs demands and this was their findings. Be really upset and cry about the way he has embarrassed you in front of your brothers, then demand the whole truth from him. Remember be very angry
ReplyDeleteI like this one.
DeleteThank you Spanishlantern,I will go with this. God bless you
DeleteSeconded
DeleteGbam @Spanis
DeleteDear poster, Before you follow this advice from Spanish. Please find out the reason for his being disowned first before you ask him. You need to weigh the whole truth with both sides of the story. If it's possible send someone to go to his village. It is very important, since you still have hope of continuing with him.
DeleteI don't know of you will see this.
Same thing happened to a friend. Guy said that his family all died in a fire accident whilst he was in boarding school. She later found out that he actually burnt down the house killing everyone cos his dad stopped his allowance cos he was caught smoking hemp
ReplyDeleteBut he didn't lie na. They got burnt, he just didn't tell her he was the culprit.
Delete😱
DeleteShuuu!
DeleteWhich kain anger be that one?
I was scared that the poster don dey relationship with a ghost but it's always wise to investigate.
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DeleteHmmmmmm, fear will not even allow me move one foot before I find out what that thing he was disowned for. If I can't cope, I don japa shaperly.
Deletehmmmm Stella couldn't have said it any better..dear poster handle this information carefully, you still have to ask him because this is a very serious issue ohh...but like Stella said invite him to dinner and gently raise up the issue.
ReplyDeletefor his father to disowned him, he must have done some terrible things, be careful
ReplyDeleteYou need to find out what happened. At this point, you need to zero your mind and be prepared for the worst, as it has already become dicey! Let him come clean, if it is something you can continue with him fine, but if otherwise, you move.
ReplyDeleteIf he can tell such lies,that means there's nothing this guy is incapable of doing to u.Who knows he myt want to codedly marry u,so it can be easy to get rid of u too,since u know nothing about him.Mind u,husbands now use wives for rituals oo,times are rough.
ReplyDeletePlease,like the ppl before me said,try to get the full info about y he was disowned,then in an open space,ask him quietly why he lied.Pls dont bring out all the info u hve at once,and watch if he is still willing to tell u the truth.How he responds will determine how u will proceed.
But prepare ur mind that it myt also lead to the end of the relationship, which to me,is better cos that lie carry weight and who knows ...
Whatever put come that comes out after you must have completed your findings and finding out why he should lie to you is something you should prepare your mind for
ReplyDeleteTake it in good faith and thank God you decided to investigated the matter.
Better ask him(in public, eye to eye).
ReplyDeleteYour future depends on what he tells u, 8nsist on meeting his people. Ordinarily, your parents will also want to know about him and his roots, are you intending to lie to them? Try and talk to him, u might be the person that will reconcile him to his family but don't use love to cover Ur eye...you go blind.
Lolzz 🤣🤣🤣🤣 you go blind
DeleteDear Poster, what other evidence do you need to know that this guy is not honest. And I am sure your mind is already telling you to quit the relationship but because (He's well established with houses and investment) according to you, you are loving him so much. Decide what you want kawai.
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her, I love him yen yen yen, what love bikonu?
DeleteGift what's wrong in loving abi you na hate you hate your own husband.
DeletePoster pls don't be blind folded by his wealth do your proper investigation on him very well before entering what you will regret in future marriage is not a child's play at all. Wish you the best.
ReplyDeleteUr partner kept a vital information about himself from u,for now u don’t even know what he did and the gravity,for a father to disown this child and even ask his siblings to cut off ties with him totally,I’ll suggest u take a walk from that relationship.But If confronting him will give u peace of mind please do,but be very very careful tho.goodluck👍
ReplyDeletePoster, don't ask him anything....
ReplyDeletePrepare your mind for anything and go to his place to meet his Dad and siblings!!!!
Introduce yourself to them and Fucking ask questions....
I married a highway robber/ assassin in those days without my knowledge!
I met him when I went to pray for prisoners, (story long sha) he lied to me what took him there and also told me he had nobody
Matter too long
So sorry for your experience.
DeleteOMG!!!😲
DeleteAnon 18.21 sorry about your experience but please can you share it so that we can learn
DeleteThe Most Complex, what do you want to learn? She has already told you what to do in the first 5 sentences and you say you want to learn.
DeleteWhat do you want to learn again?
Gboromidelerun.
Poster it's HUGE!!! for a man to lie about his entire family. Please find out why he did so also note that your relationship might be standing on a quater leg after all these findings. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster send your people to his village to make some inquiries about his family and why the father disowned him. Be wise .
ReplyDeleteMadam I gat no advice for you're already blinded by wealth and properties, even if he is a killer you will still marry him,cos you're onye akpiri ego
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