Sad!!!
Prince Cornelius and Ogochukwu Onyekwuluje, parents of Chidalu Bright Onyekwuluje, who died of alleged negligence by the management of St Michael’s Boys Secondary School, Ozubulu, Anambra State, have withdrawn their daughters from boarding school.
Chidalu died on December 17, 2021, after he took ill in school and the management allegedly kept him to ensure he finished his exams thereby aggravating his health condition. The school has denied this.
He said: “Bright is my only son and having seen the fate that has befallen him in the hands of the school management as a boarder, I have therefore withdrawn my two daughters who are schooling in St John of God Secondary School, Awka.
“I have sat and thought about the things that are happening in boarding schools, including the one in Dowen College, the Deeper Life school in Uyo and now my son in St Michael’s Boys’ College, Ozubulu, and I have concluded that as far as I’m alive, none of my children will ever attend a boarding school in this country anymore.
“I did not go to school, so my wish is that all my children will go to good schools, to attain education, but you have seen the fate that befell my only son, Bright Chidalu, so I have made up my mind about boarding schools in Nigeria.”
The deceased was buried two weeks ago in his home town, Uzoakwa, Ihiala, Anambra State.
From Daily Post
Good decision! No kid of mine will attend a boarding school. The evil going on in some of these schools is something else.
ReplyDeleteGo to school from home, I’ll be seeing you every day. May his soul Rest In Peace.
My children are in boarding sch,and will remain there. Parents if you have the heart to send your kids to boarding sch,you need to have a proper talk with them. My children's sch,they do keep the kids oh if they are sick,they send them straight to the hospital and call you,cos you will be the one too pay the bills. Or if u use HMO so you can come around and fill the forms. You are always given an option once the case becomes severe.
DeleteAsides this lets also teach our kids to be vocal. I was quiet as a child but not timid. Any maltreatment from teachers,Principal etc i was fast to report it at home. I had a close rltshp with my parents.
DeleteI was a boarder but my mother was known as that no-nonsense parent..Teachers/principal all knew her. She has come to confront a teacher that slapped me and i got a nose bleed before.
If im ill im very fast to send someone to call home, even when they try and refuse my parents picking me that they are treating me, my parents wont agree. Me sef will wont keep quiet.
Even in my sons schools too they know me and my wahala. Still my son wont be going to boarding,too many things happening now abeg.
Exactly if you must go the boarding route, you must have a close relationship with ur kid. Encourage them yo speak out. My kids are boarders and the whole sch knows my husband. That one is a no nonsense guy. My kids confide in me,cos i do the weekly calls to them,and he takes any action that comes up. When my boy was sick,and we were called,we told them go take him straight to the hospital,while hubby drove from lag to akure to be with him same day.
DeleteLet's also remember that not all kids are the same and it also depends on the level of trauma.
DeleteThere's a level of trauma and fear that even a very talkative and courageous child will get broken, especially when they don't get to see their parents to encourage them everyday.
Also, the clique issue, your child will feel so isolated to the point that they bend to follow the wills of others.
The key is to know your child, a child who is easily swayed has no business in any boarding school.
U guys have said it all. I went to boarding house and I still like it but u have to befriend urchild
DeleteWhy wait with all happening in boarding schools.pls remove ur kids now dear parents.
ReplyDeleteMay the Lord console the family and rest the boy's soul 8m peace
ReplyDeleteAre the management staff of boarding schools agents of darkness or what? This is becoming 4-much o.
ReplyDeleteSo sad
God
ReplyDeletemay God console them. rest in peace Bright
DeleteNo child of mine is going to a boarding school.
This is sad 😥😥😥 I have made up my mind a long time ago that none of my children will attend boarding school after our family friend son was raped at age 11 in boarding school! Rest on Chidalu🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteYou mean he was raped???
DeleteThat's crazy 😧😧
11 year old boy raped? Jesus very disgusting, God ars u awars of this? This is evil kai
DeleteThe sodomy and lesbianism recruitment
DeleteStory for another day
Stella please do boarding house tales
So sad. Rip chimdalu, boarding school, Is a no go area for me.
ReplyDeleteSad,sad,sad, No child of mine,even if I have 20 kids will attend a boarding school,u go to school from home,come back home everyday let me be seeing you,let me train u by myself,let me take care of u by myself.Most of these useless schools are only after money,school fees just full their brain,the welfare of the child no concern them too much,all these deaths can be avoided if they call the attention of the parents immediately d child falls sick and he is in their sick bay bin taken care of,call the parents let them come and pick the child up for better medical care.thay just joke with the lives of the children left under their care.May God grant his soul rest!🥺
ReplyDeleteHonestly this is the best step to go .feel sorry for your loss. take heart and his soul rip Amen 🙏
ReplyDeleteSad,may his soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteMay his soul rest in peace! But please take this up legally, this is becoming one too many...Somebody should be punished for this...
ReplyDeleteI kinda think boarding schools are for lazy parents.
ReplyDeleteThey can't multitask work and training kids so they dump them or they wan to enjoy their lives devoid of kids wahala.
As a Nigerian man that you are, , I am not surprised at your vituperations.
DeleteHave you ever heard of working parents? Those that their work requires travelling? Single parents and widows/widowers ago have to work in order to take care of their kids? Would you prefer they leave the kids at the mercy of the house maid in their home or in a boarding school with other kids and teachers?
Laziness isnone word that has been so seriously abused by Nigerian men and women that I wonder if they think with their brains before using it.
Please that is not true...I went to boarding school does it mean my parents were lazy...We should push for the institutions and teachers to make sure the right things are done; students were put in your custody to cater for and you didn't do the right thing...Blaming the parents is totally unfair...
Deletethis is very judgemental thing to say ..do you know that some parents are transferred from place to place at their jobs or live abroad? ..I and my siblings are products of good boarding schools and I advocate this because there is a clear difference in our people management skills in life and our independence ...in as much as I don't bash anyone for their decision to keep kids at home also leave those who see the benefit and put their kids in good boarding schools to also do what they want ..what has happened is regrettable but a GOOD school is a good school wether boarding or not likewise a bad school ..pray for your kids and be close to them .God help us all
DeleteThank you for this comment except a parent is critically ill or dead boarding is a no. I told my daughter she won’t even stay in university hostel sef she’ll be going from home many local uni everywhere.
DeleteSee statement...GOSH. You ppl feel its everyone dat has good schools in their vicinity? What of parents working in remote areas with no good Secondary sch around and all good schools are in the next town or in d City. The child will have no choice but to be in boarding school. Many parets dont just have a choice cos of proximity issue.
DeleteAs a child thank God i was taught to be vocal. I have reported teachers and incidents to my parents who took it up. If im sick in school,i wont even agree myself, i must go home.
YOU ARE WRONG!!!
DeleteI won't call them lazy, but there is something wrong with them for dumping their children for others to train while they are hale and hearty. Makes no sense to me.
DeleteBoarding school is not for lazy parents. In my time Federal govt colleges were among the best schools...my parents wanted the best for me and I went there. Today, I am glad I did.
Delete@anon 10.45, so if your child gets a scholarship to attend university in a foreign country, you would instruct them not to go since they can't be taking flight to the university everyday,
Train your child in the way he or she should go and in old age they won't depart from it...many of these evil perpetuating kids in school have faulty upbringing too.
Abeg has the minister of education said anything or he doesn't speak on such issues just like aunty Dubai?
DeleteReally sad. May God comfort them.
ReplyDeleteReally sad. May God comfort them.
ReplyDeleteReally sad. May God comfort them.
ReplyDeleteChai! so sad,may his soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteReally sad. It still does not stop people from sending their wards to boarding schools.
ReplyDeleteThere should be a control put in place to check boarding schools
So sad.The relevant agencies are quiet,they need to do better.
ReplyDeleteOnes beaten twice shy
ReplyDeleteIt’s once ok?
DeleteMay God console the family
ReplyDeleteMay God console the family
ReplyDeleteSo sad. May his soul rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteThe right choice,so sorry you had to lose your only son to reach that.RIP to your boy and make sure you are taking this case up
ReplyDeleteGood decision. Let them go from home, it's not by boarding school
ReplyDeleteMay his soul rest in peace
May his soul a Rest In Peace and May God console the family
ReplyDeleteThis is so heartbreaking. So sorry ma'am. May his soul continue to rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteNigerian boarding school is a risk
ReplyDeleteThis death was avoidable..
ReplyDeleteGOD rest your soul Chidalu 🙏
I hate that word sef boarding school. I love my kids around me biko. Rest in peace to the boy.
ReplyDeleteReally sad, good decision
ReplyDeleteMay his soul rest in peace
The boarding school experience my kids would have gotten,I have suffered it for them already. From secondary to university,you are going from home. Thank you
ReplyDeleteLol, you just don't want any form of super story Darajah.
DeleteI share same sentiment as you.
It's really crazy out there.
May God continue to guide and guard our children from any form of untimely death.
I can't even imagine traumatized the parents are.
It is no longer what it use to be, the Nigerian factor has taken over so is better my child attend school from home even up to university level argue with your key pad I get y
ReplyDeleteI concur TOTALLY!
DeleteI went to boarding school. Non of my children will ever go6 there.
Deletethis is so sad
ReplyDeleteOh dear... This is really sad ☹️
ReplyDeleteThis's really sad & there should be a kind of control in both day & boarding school.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile I didn't go to boarding school but my children will go
Nigerians have kids as bragging rights of fertility. Most of those shipping their kids off to boarding schools are follow-follow or people who have no business having kids in the first place
ReplyDeleteAgreed!
DeleteMy parents had 4 kids, we all went to boarding schools, we all turned out well.
DeleteWe attended dsy schools up until jss3 and went to boarding from SS1...in out time Federal govt colleges were seemingly the best, our parents wanted the best for us, off we went. Are you saying most of us that attended FGCs when they were the best had parents who had no bussiness having kids?
You really need to know out to communicate..."most is wrongly used here and it's insulting to patents who are out there wanting the best for their kids.
Stella please write on those who went to nursery/primary school boarding house and hear another side
DeleteIn my time, boarding schools in the Federal Government Colleges was really good. I attended one and it helped me become very independent. This was in the early 70's. Times have changed and a lot of children are not well brought up. There are too many badly behaved children these days. None of my kids went to boarding School. I chose to train them myself at home and they went to Day School to avoid stories that touch. I am glad I took that decision.
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