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EMOTIONS FOR A MARRIED MAN
Please how can I disentangle myself from having emotions for a married man?.
Please how can I disentangle myself from having emotions for a married man?.
I stay in a very lonely place. His family lives few streets from mine. We work in the same place but not same company.
It started as hello acquaintance by dropping me off to work. His words and actions shows he has developed emotions for me. I don't want to lie to myself. l am reciprocating to his feelings. I think about him often and look forward to seeing him daily.
I stared avoiding him last month. He came to my house during the last holidays for the first time with the excuse to know if all is well because he noticed l have been avoiding him and brought a Christmas gift for me.
I allowed him into my house and explained my reasons. While we chat in my room, the emotions got deeper. We kissed deeply and l felt empty when he left. I don't want to proceed. What can l do?
*God bless you for having a conscience where the man does not...
First off, stop catching a ride with him..
If he comes visiting again, do not let him into your room and have a talk with him outside. TELL HIM THAT YOU DO NOT WANT TO GET ENTANGLED WITH A MARRIED MAN.
As he has succeeded in Kissing you in your room, the next time he comes he will try to sleep with you there. shine your eyes and be smart... the emotions are on your part alone, As soon as he sleeps with you, you will understand.
Cut all communications with him at once!
Kill that emotions please. Good afternoon
ReplyDeleteNa real wa o! No be small thang
DeleteDo not allow anyone waste your time, body and life
DeleteHe has absolutely nothing to offer you except lies and hide hide rubbish
Do allow him use you!
Cut him off!
Na destiny destroyer!
Why did you even let another woman's husband into your room? Abi you dey craze? Nonsense!🙄
DeleteThe emotions are in your part alone oo as Stella said.
ReplyDeleteCut communicationwith him. You are not the first
That emotion is non-sense walahi, kill it. Stop getting in his ride, stop talking to him. See, he is cheating u. Marriage is a beautiful thing and u deserve your own man. If he sees his wife coming the way he would ignore u en, do u deserve a man who hides you? is that your worth? You deserve your own husband, to him u are a plaything. The things he does for his family he can not do half for you, forget that cheap gift. If he needs affection, he should get it from the one he paid to do the job. He wants to use u as a side piece and win both ways, have his wife and you and imagine it will cost him less. You no want be wife ne? He is just lusting babe, it's not love. That's why you feel empty, cos it's like pouring ur love in a basket. Get your own man and your own home abeg, who no want be wife.
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DeleteBy the time you post this. She would have already slept with the guy,,,.Lol!!! I bet you
DeleteAll this una betting on someone you don't know.. God pass una.
DeleteThank you @Tiana. Noted.
Pls heed to Stella's red pen and stay away from him.cos once he gets wat he wants,u will be left alone.
ReplyDeleteYou admitted to your vulnerability?! You are done for. He has you exactly where he wants you.
ReplyDeleteThis guy will play you, use you and get away with it because he so knows what He is doing.
To get away, I am sorry to advice you that you NEED A REBOUND FAST. You need to start something with some one even if it's just for fun. It could also be with very lively girl friends that you will have reasons to dress up and go out. See ehn...loneliness is a terrible thing.
A rebound relationship is what you need. A relationship just for the fun of it. I am sure you have guys in your friend zone. Times like this is what they are kept for. Don't let that married man play you o. He probably will play you beyond just sex. Some of them they need you to fall in love with them (when a woman is in love, a new mumu is born),they need your body, your mind, your money and your sanity. Before you know it you are at war with his wife.
Save yourself. REBOUND FAST.
👍 👍 👍 👍, just take this advice
DeleteThank you Ms Sapp..
DeleteBabes take tthis advice, loneliness is not a good thing.please severe all ties with ASAP.Beacuae from what I just read, this man has exactly where he wants and I'm sorry to say this,he is just going to USE YOU..Japa
DeleteCatching feelings for a married man is not a sign of good things to come.
ReplyDeleteThat man is not responsible at all.
Abeg flee.
Stella has said it all. Follow her advice.
ReplyDeleteStay faraway Nne.
ReplyDeleteBabes you are funny o
ReplyDeleteGirls are dating married men because of money which on it's its own is not even good meanwhile your own the man is using you to catch cruise. He will even come and sleep in your house for free o
Block his number and and resist the urge to call him when he messages you
Stop hitching a ride with him. Awoof dey run belle
Start having a wild imagination of what will happen if people around should get to know about you both. Worse still his wife
When he comes to your house,don't let him in.
You both know he can never marry you. Don't let him block your mind from being receptive to single guys just cause you are enjoying the attention of an experienced married man
I know that you are enjoying the attention. Try to avoid this same street thing you want to start. It will end very badly
Lastly, assume you were the wife. Will you be happy?
Let's assume the man actually does like you overtime. Do you know that he will start finding fault in whatever the wife does,their sex life will reduce. Attention he gives his children will be divided because he has a new toy in you and has to concentrate till his mind comot from ya side.
If you have a little bit of conscience left,you will avoid him
Kpele
I know na loneliness dey do you
Aunty that man just want to sleep with you. Japaaa!
ReplyDeleteI am willing to bet, she wont rest until he has nacked her, then she will cry the usual "he used me."
ReplyDeleteGbam.
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DeleteYour bet will never work l swear. I am sorry. I am the poster.
DeleteUp you poster.. This response is quite rich😂😂😂
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What a strong response, poster. May God help you to do what is right.
DeletePoster no need to swear
DeleteGinger dey your response
CUT HIM OFF!
NA DESTINY DESTROYER & TIME WASTER!
Haahaahaahaa, I don't know why I laugh at most chronicles, maybe bcos I see it from another angle.
ReplyDeleteNne, listen very carefully, that man you are catching feelings for, I can swear that he's only out to fuck you, pls trust me on this. He just wants a neighborhood fuck, where he can be collecting sex, food and leisure. The day it will dawn on u, na frustration and bitterness go full yaa belle, shebi u dey observe some babes with unnecessary anger, na dat group u go soon join.
Boot him
Pl cut all ties with him. It might seem impossible as your emotions or so you think is getting the better of you. Once he is done sleeping with you or tired of sleeping with you he will be the one avoiding you and next thing you will see him toasting another girl living nearby. He has no respect for his wife and he definitely has none for you too.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't even have for himself
DeleteHe wont even have to waste money on hotel. Imagine you opening your house free for him lol.My dear loneliness is small compared to what this man wants yo do to u
ReplyDeleteI saw that part o
DeleteThe man will be forming love for her and in no time he will be sleeping with her in her house
Flee from every appearances of evil, that man is one evil should flee from. Block every avenue of contacting or seeing him.
ReplyDeleteDon't let him add you to one of his side chicks because believe me you're not the only one
Carrying disease, unnecessary drama and thrash about looking for vulnerable women to unload it into
DeleteLong hiss
Poster pick a hobby
Join full gospel, rotary club etc
Serve your local church as a worker ask GOD where you will be most effective
Bone the useless man
That married man is a criminal and should be arrested Asap!
ReplyDeleteBabe
ReplyDeleteYou wan make you and this man chop unaself abi? Na chop clean mouth things o.
If you no want heartache better avoid that man and face front.
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ReplyDeletetell him you're mind, to avoid had I know
Stella don finished work for you, if you like no hear, that one concern you.🤷🤷
ReplyDeleteLeave all that catching feelings,you are infatuated with him.He on the other hand is simply playing games with you.Please drop him like hot shi*t,and focus on yourself,go out more,meet people,and somebody's son(unencumbered)will find you soon,all the best.
ReplyDeleteUse ur self as an example if u were to be the wife? Her prayers alone can make u unproductive and u are single, please don't use ur hand and bring down curse on urself.this life is two way coin.
ReplyDeleteHe'll just sleep with you till he gets tired & go back to his family. Is that what you want for yourself? Do you even think you're the only lady he is doing this to or has deceived?. Kill all emotions for him, get out of your shell or betterstill, immerse yourself in church program to keep your heart & mind busy.
ReplyDeletePlease do away with him as fast as you can, he is only interested in sleeping with you that's all.
ReplyDeleteIf the wife of this man had written a chronicle about how her husband is giving lift to a single lady, and asks if she should be worried, most of them here, shouting cut ties with the married man would have told her that she has insecurities, she should get busy, bla bla…
ReplyDeleteMy advice: women be territorial, be intentional about these things. Guard what you have very well the same way guys guard their women. No man would let his wife get lift from a single co worker every single day, except he is a sissy.
Poster, choose what you want to do, and know that whatever choice you make has consequences. Lastly, you are working, and you are being paid, plan accordingly and stop looking for freebies and free rides. Don’t be part of the statistics.
Flee! Block him everywhere. When he comes searching for you, do not allow him in!
ReplyDeleteStay far away from the man once he gets what he's looking for the feeling won't be there again. In fact he will be the one to ghost you first so poster be the one to ghost this man and stay remain hi good morning evening and All. Use ur head not your heart or emotions
ReplyDeleteFast and pray
ReplyDeleteAnd call upon Jesus. Read the gospel
Helped me tremendously
Stella has said it all. Follow Stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteThe only way is to get a man of your own. Having your own man will put your attention elsewhere and he will most likely back off.
ReplyDeleteNow, you say you stay in a lonely place which is probably your way of saying that pickings are slim for dating options. If there are no viable single men to date then you have to fortify yourself with strength. Loneliness can never be an excuse to disrupt someone's union. You have to find healthy ways to address your loneliness. You can volunteer, take up a hobby, pursue some talent you have, take a course. Get busier so you don't have too much free time for the devil to use you to build up his kingdom. Perhaps in getting busier it will lead you to meeting the man of your dreams and you can enter your own marriage with clean hands.
Do not hate yourself for your moment of weakness. If we fall we get back up. Just get back on track with a stronger resolve to not fall again. Athletes train constantly to keep their bodies in tip top condition. We have to train constantly to keep our morals in tip top condition. Training never ends and tests will always present themselves. All the best to you
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DeletePrayer all the time is needed and physically cut him off
DeletePls cut it all off. My colleague in the bank started an affair with one of our married Ogas there. It’s been almost 15 years and he is still stringing her along. She now had a child for him and he has practically abandoned her. He sends money from time to time for the child but she is on her own. Once in a while he sleeps with her and she feels very happy. I look at her and wonder what her life would have been like if she had said no. She would probably have married a young guy and been in a better place. Now upon all the abuse he abused his wife he is still with her. All the promises of leaving her and marrying my friend have gone into thin air. Pls leave him. It never ends well.
ReplyDeleteI laugh when women think a man will leave their wife for them.
DeleteHope it's not my husband sha
ReplyDeleteNa only you get husband? You don't even know their location
DeleteThank you Stella. Thank you everyone. God bless you. Your advice is noted. I sincerely appreciate you all.
DeleteI don't even know how single ladies fallfor married men .
ReplyDeleteLoneliness
DeleteGreed
Insecurity
Fear of being alone
You know those white garment church that flog people as they pray for them, that is the kind of prayers you two deserve.They will be flogging you and the married man while they pray for you two .
ReplyDeleteGreat advice from Stella👍👍
ReplyDeleteEnd whatever you have with him. He will gain your trust,win your love , have sex with you to his satisfaction and then put your heart inside blender and push the button. Flee from every appearance of sin.
ReplyDeleteDevil don remember you I swear. You beta not allow him win that's all I have to say.
ReplyDeleteA word is enough for the wise,poster !!!
ReplyDeleteEmotions are like plants, the more you water them the more they grow. The reason the bible says if your right hand offends cut it off is to illustrate the pain we suffer when we deprive ourselves from indulging in a sin we want. It may seem easy to give in to these feelings now but the end is destruction. Remember that When David in the bible slept with Beersheba it was just supposed to be an enjoyable fling but see what it led to - murder of the innocent, his kids killing themselves and trying to kill him and a generational curse arising. If you love yourself FLEE from this man. Otherwise indulge now and regret later.
ReplyDeleteThis happened when I got a new job. In my case, he doesn't wear a ring. I made a cold blooded calculation. I do need a partner but his family comes first. If he can't provide company, can he give money? I wanted 1500 pounds/month. He can't afford that either so I curved him. No use to me thank you very much. Next!
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