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I dont have a long Chronicle to send in because I dont want to go into details of what i am about to share....My husband does not read blogs but i dont know if anyone else close to him does, I dont want him pinned to this until i can steady my emotions and decide on what to do...
I just found out that my husband of four years is bis#xual......
I am in shock.... How did i miss this very important info? what signs did i miss? I am shock and confused and not agreeing to have any intimacy with him at all...
How did i find out? I hacked his phone thinking he was cheating on me with a lady and ready to cause problems until i ran into information that shocked me to my roots.... His secret lover is a man and someone i know around him... Who would have thought?
We dont have kids but i have been trying to get pregnant for the past three years and saw in the chat that did something to make sure i dont get pregnant becos he is not ready for the stress of fatherhood and wants to enjoy his life for a few more years.
WHAT how dare you!!!!
How? Please i need advice on how to handle this!
You say wetin????????
Situations like this are always Messy, if you can, please just tell him you need a small vacation and travel far from him to clear your mind on what to do... i cant deal with a situation like this and would leave at once......Imagine from someone's behind to inside you....oh dear!
My oh my
ReplyDeleteWhy are some human being heartless like this.
Just stay far away from that environment to gather your mind on the next step to take.
This is wickedness
Nigerian men will what??? Shior kelebe...tueh tueh tueh
DeleteOur anti Nigerian men anon don arrive 😂😂
DeleteMen are recreating themselves to their desires. Watch out for season 3...Will their desires give them happiness and free visa to Heaven, stay young n be immortal?
DeleteTell your parents first. Poster you can pull this if you want to. Travel to your parents' base, they should call him and his people, if they come, return the bride price. Your parents should ask him to revert whatever he's done for you not to conceive...wicked man. This guy can even kill someone slowly. Even if you stay in the marriage, he won't stop. His parents should know who their son is
DeleteDivorce is inevitable in this case.
ReplyDeleteThose of us that are not checking our husbands phones, hope we're not missing something like this??? 🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
*Larry was here*
Please be careful ooo..I beg if you. Trust ur man and don't conclude on the above please.
DeleteBut you people say it's better you don't know. How will someone say he is my partner and I can't have full access to his phone and vice versa. Only God knows what he has done to her reproductive system.
DeleteHe probably got a reversible vasectomy. Poster please whatever you do, don't confront him in a private place, watched a show where an Indian man killed his wife because she confronted him on having a Male lover and threatened to expose him
DeleteThank God you dont have children with him yet. When you walk away, dont forget you DO NOT OWE HIM ANY FORM OF DISCRESSION. You dont have to keep your experience secret if you dont want to because you dont owe him any loyalty. People are going to divorce-shame you, tell them why!
ReplyDeleteBiko, what is DISCRESSION?
DeleteIt's a mistake na
DeleteDiscretion she meant.
Since he knowingly deceived you,if you are asked just tell them the reason so another lady will not fall victim
Sorry Poster.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you are safe and don't let this crush you.
Poster please put yourself first and be smart about it. Talk less and act more.
DeleteEvidence is your friend in this case. Stash money and fly away like a bird to freedom.
Now live your best life.
Avoid the emotional blackmail and brainwashing that is to come.
Go get your babies.
I really hope that you can stay safe. Medical checks from a different hospital...
That was a wicked thing to do to any partner.
Gather enough evidence and move out. Before moving, confront him.
ReplyDeleteMake sure you move when he is not around.
Do not mention to anyone what happened when you are asked, kindly tell them to ask your hubby.
I really do not have respect or compassion for selfish people.
You do not want to have kids yet and you don’t tell me about it as your partner.
Some women attain menopause earlier than others. Imagine this poster is one of such women and then cos of no fault of hers, she’s not able to get pregnant because menopause has set in and then before you know, they start calling her barren.....all because of one man’s foolishness.MOVE.
Poster Please follow this advice...Thank you Slutty
DeleteActually it's a very difficult situation, but if you have the mind just excuse your self and let him live the life he desires. He went as far as making sure you are not pregnant....Ahhhh! He is so wicked!!! and can kill. Nne run for your dear life if possible.
ReplyDeleteThis kind of situation is rampant in Nigerian homes but we are not ready for the convo yet.
ReplyDeleteConvo ko, convo ni.
DeleteRampant how?? In your own neighborhood?? Abegi
DeleteWow.Take a break and try to sink the whole issue in abeg
ReplyDelete🙄🥵😳
ReplyDeleteDecision is yours. If you're concerned or interested in what society will say about you, stay, suffer and get mental torture. But if you care less to be free, take a walk. If any one preaches other wise, ask them if they would stay if saddled with same situation you have. No matter how you cover this up, some people around him know he swings both ways, that is in the case you walk and don't give reasons for taking a walk. Decision is really yours.
ReplyDeleteGood luck.
Biko ladies before you people snoop, you guys should make sure you have plans of what to do when you see what you are looking for.
ReplyDeleteNa we send you snoop?
You know the only way out is to end the marriage and move on but the "Mrs" title won't let you do that.
So as an African woman, I will give you African advice, pray for him and fight for your marriage. Don't go anywhere ooo, because if you do, another African woman will take your "Mrs' title.
Would you say this if tables were turned? Wow!!!
DeleteSluttyChic,
DeleteI have always advise ladies here to treat their cheating partner the way men treat their cheating partner, but you and I know very well that 99.99999% of ladies won't leave their relationship/marriage because their partner is cheating.
So she needs to hear the old African advice she came here to seek, which is "to pray and fight for her marriage".
You see that your advice up there, the probability of her taking that advice is very very low.
Believe me, the probability of her taking that old African advice is very high.
This your sarcasm is funny.
DeleteWho is this Chike Teflon? It is well with you,
Delete3 years is not too long and you have no kids. This is the time to praise the lord. Don’t get hiv by accident because men don’t always have the control of women, they are happy to just sleep around, now put Two men together and you understand the high risk of stds. Gather evidence present it to your family and his parents so that they know you are not at fault. move out and ask for a divorce. You have been deceived in this marriage pls don’t go empty handed if Na land or car sha dwmand For something chai.. Just prepare your apartment and strategy secretly and pack out. I know someone in this situation who went back dont go back oh Na wa sha.
DeleteNa real wa oh and baba Godey go see you through o for the decision wey you go later take
ReplyDeleteJust calm down, let him know what you already found out about him. You must have decided that you want to continue or not, let him know what you want and move on.
ReplyDeleteTaking a walk if she has made up her mind is it than telling him before the walk or else, he will beg her to high heavens and she might stay and suffer to please his big ego.
DeleteThis is heart breaking... Oh the part of allowing and watching you struggle for three years trying to conceive. You need space Pls. Just travel and get yourself. You also need to talk with a VERY MATURED Pls. #sweet hug to you... You will be fine.
ReplyDeleteSpace for what exactly? Talk about exacky8.The man likes to fuck nyansh.
DeleteWhat exactly is there to talk about.
Do you know if he has been fucking nyash since high school and just married the lady as a beard?
What exactly is there to talk about?
Abi you think if you drink coconut oyel and shalamangalashokogbongoshe, he will immediately withdraw his prick from whoever's anus it us cutrenlt9plugged in, he will run back and prssent8it with sober repentance to gbe wife?
Loll, hoh lot should wake up and hopefully grow up while at it.
22:02 why the unnecessary aggression?! Someone shared her own view and here you are vibrating so hard.
DeleteMy sister abeg run for your life now......cos this shrud of a marriage is leading you nowhere
ReplyDeleteWhy are some men so wicked,bisexual and still went extra by not getting her pregnant because of his selfishness.i pray the Lord guide you on what to do.sorry sis!
ReplyDeleteHaa na wa oh...Crazy things are happening...Poster Please just leave that man but first confront him..That is a very selfish attitude...Are you sure he is bisexual or gay? Please just leave that environment and clear your head so you don't do something unbecoming...All the best and Ehugs darling...God got ya back
ReplyDeleteHe's bisexual since he sleeps with her also.
DeleteStella this mouth opening just make me laugh. Be like say dem dey get money by being gay or bisexual. It is just bad.
ReplyDeleteMy church member told me of his colleague disturbing him to be his lover. Funniest thing I know the guy but did not believe he can be gay.
I saw him yesterday at bode Thomas and I laughed. I said to myself make I call my member say I see his lover for bode Thomas ooo. Laugh self no let me call before my church member go abuse me tire.
It is just painful that our men loves knacking from ynash.
Madam confront him, don't keep quite or you do cid work to catch them in the act then take up your decisions
Which one is our men? Pls write some or u call ur own men in ur life nonsense
Delete16.13 don't mind her
DeleteYour husband is wicked. This is totally wrong for goodness sake. Please look for where to cool off your head, time will heal.
ReplyDeleteI swear it's total wickedness!
DeleteSnooping is really important. snooping till I die.
ReplyDeletesorry sister o. is well
E-hug dear 🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteI am speechless
Speechless
ReplyDeleteHmmm. This is heartbreaking. Why do people put others through this kind of emotional stress.
ReplyDeleteGo for hiv test first...I so much hate nonsense.
ReplyDeleteOh sweetie. Much hugs to you
ReplyDeleteI cant imagine what you are going through. Take a vacation then think of your exit, how do some persons enjoy gay sex sef? Two men with their strong muscular bodies having sex, like its soooooo absurd and disgusting
Absolutely disgusting, same with the females. What a perversion.
DeleteThe mans g spot is in his anus. Just like evil things in this world you can’t understand it. I heard if you cum from being stimulated there it’s stronger than all others. So if you try it you may just be hooked. I always wonder if God didn’t want men to find it why did he put it there???
DeleteLike saying why did God give us the ability to kill if he didn't want us to commit murder? Las las everything boils down to the choices we make, which have consequences.
DeleteDon't confront him without informing family, you don't know what wicked actions he might take.
ReplyDeleteEmerald
Thank You Emerald for this information. if the man has the mind to make her unable to conceive, he may go to lengths to stop her from exposing him, poster PLEASE tread carefully while planning your exit.
DeleteImagine from someone's behind to inside you, kai...this women.🤣🤣😂😂
ReplyDeleteimagine giving bj to a pr**k that has been inside someone's anus😭😭😭😭
DeleteThis is the most wicked act of deceit on Earth
Don't confront him alone. This man can kill you. Move out of the house when he is not around and if he asks for explanation invite your family members, elders, kinsmen etc and tell everything in front of them. Expose this wicked man..Imagine not only you are bisexual and kept it secret but you are also preventing the woman from getting pregnant. Some people have mind sha.
ReplyDeleteI support this, poster don't just divorce him, expose him as well so he won't be able to eliminate you to cover up his secrets.
DeleteMy worry is, is whatever he is doing to stop her from getting pregnant reversible?
DeleteGet plenty evidence then take a walk...he doesn't need any closure...don't let me fool you anymore...
ReplyDeleteDon't accept what you don't like.
ReplyDeleteMake sure he hasn't infected you.
Leave, run. And be free from this betrayal. If there's any way you can make him pay, do it.
Or better still let sleeping dogs be
I wonder what the "God Hates Divorce" squad will say about this one.
ReplyDeleteMadam, this is a great deception because he portrayed himself as a heterosexual man, but knew he was not. In effect, your marriage is null and void, you can get an annulment under this circumstance. Save the information your found so you can build your case and seek for an annulment. The pain of this deception will take time to heal but heal you shall. You shall rise from it.
See what team snoop uncover. Do not threaten to expose him, because you never know what is going on in ppl's minds and I don't trust liars, they will do anything to cover their lies. So, leave and move on with your life without any threats of exposure. Just get up out of Sodom and don't look back.
I don't know what God did to you people, haba. Rest it, give your own advice and move on instead of taking shots at those that may have a different viewpoint.
DeleteAnd here you are bent out of shape over one sentence. Things that make you go, hmmmmmm.
DeleteKeep wondering...
DeleteHmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI can't deal abeg,,,you need to go far away in order to relax ur brain and decide on what to do.
I have to be sincere with you, whatever advice given to you here can't change anything you have planned to do.but please be wise and smart
Gather ur evidence(u can send them to ur mailbox,screenshots of their convo and pictures )u will need them,go for medical tests,gather enough money from him,start packing ur things quietly,one day when he is away,take ur things and leave,do not leave in his presence he might want to harm u if he has an inkling u know about his dirty secret.move ur things out while he is away,go somewhere far away from him then when he sends u a message to ask why u moved out,or tries to call u to ask questions,send him all u have found out about him.Ur husband is a very wicked man,if he can stop u from getting pregnant all these years without ur consent then he can kill u.
ReplyDeletePlease take a long walk,and don’t look back,get a divorce and start ur life over,give urself time to heal,u will find love again and have kids,All the best ❤️
He can kill her if she as much as show it in her actions.
DeleteThis one that she has refused to have sex with him, I hope he won't suspect
This is heartbreaking!
ReplyDeleteHe is EVIL👹,he even went as far as making sure you don't get pregnant.Is this what you can live with?If your answer is NO,please leave him,non negotiable.
ReplyDeleteDisgusting 🤮.. very wicked somebody haaa
ReplyDeleteThank God you snooped, this is why I will always be team snoop. Please, take a break to gather yourself together and make the best decision for YOU, this is so heartbreaking and shocking. Chai!
ReplyDeleteYes o
DeleteTeam SNOOP!
Run for ur life poster
ReplyDeleteIf you don't or will not like the truth? Please don't go around looking for it.
ReplyDeleteOnly the truth can set you free.
DeleteIs it a matter of liking the truth?
DeleteHow truths about yourself that someone else told made you happy?
So ignorance is rather a wise choice for you. SMH
Poster you can't like this rubbish deceitful and evil truth just move on with your life.
I warned you about the subtle manipulation and blackmail that will follow.
Fear that man you are married to and go somewhere safe before letting him know that it is OVER and never look back!
Clearly what he wants is not what you want.
Im this case sir Adefila, it is a good thing she hacked his phone. Who knows what they would have done to her after a few more years?
DeleteThey may plan and kill her so they can enjoy themselves well. See how they rendered her childless, snooping is advised in marriage pls.
Married women and ladies in relationships, pls SNOOP!
This's evil
ReplyDeleteSorry about this, Poster. Please send all those conversation to yourself as evidence, to your email actually cos phone can get lost and all. If I were you, I will inform my parent to seek their advise. Then I will go for medical examination, this guy fit don give you one bad infection. Then I will start packing my stuff little by little. Once my parent are duly informed, na to zap I dey so.
ReplyDeletePlease poster don't ever confront him. He is extremely dangerous. Theead with caution
ReplyDeleteThank you! I have seen some comments saying confront him . This is not abroad. Our society still largely frowns about same sex relationships. This man knows This. He married her to keep his secret.What do you think he would do to keep that secret? How far will he go? 'Accidents happen everyday. This man is extremely dangerous!
DeletePoster do not confront him especially as you will be alone with him! Gather all the evidence. Screenshot every damn evidence!That is your only way out. When you get to a safe place you can tell him what you know. I repeat do not confront him alone in your house!!! Thread with caution and all the best.
Yes pls, don't confront him and don't even make him suspect that you know. Just divorce him using an excuse, you can use your ttc situation as leverage to divorce him. After you are far from him, you can show your mum or dad the evidence of why you left him.
DeleteOnce again, don't tell anyone about this thing you just found out and don't type or write it anywhere. He may kill you if he knows that you know his secret.
Someone that is capable of pausing your fertility, tell me what he can't do. He will just add poison to your food or drink, the type that will give you a heart attack and make it look like a natural death. God forbid!
Be careful pls.
Pls firstly, go for HIV test. Many of them have this virus. The earlier you know, the better. May God give you the wisdom to handle this.
ReplyDeleteIt reminds me of that chronicle, long distance courtship and the husband started refusing sex after a while... Things are happening.
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