Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

FRIENDZONED BY LOVE INTEREST

Good day Stella

Thanks for this great avenue



Dan(not real name) and I met through a mutual friend during undergraduate (final year) cos I needed someone to proof read my Project then. We became so close, gisted and talked about so many things. 

The Friendship made me drop my guard, we both discussed varieties of issues pertaining both parties and the flow seemed natural. On the long-run he proposed for a relationship and I accepted after due consideration and prayer.

Out of excitement, I informed our mutual friend ( cos we were both away from school then) and then she gave me the shock of my life that Dan proposed to her, that he's not who I think he is bla bla...

I confronted Dan but he gave a baseless argument and so I asked for time to think things through as we were to resume school for our final examination and needed to be in right shape of mind so I halted things between us (reason was that I needed to view things outside me or us, away from him and was still very much in love with him even at that)

During the halt, our friendship flowed and he kept soliciting for a comeback. This lasted for about a few months.


After digging for truth and prayer , igot to discover some element of ill morality from our mutual friend (info I got from outside source and she confirmed it unconsciously which broke my heart) then we were through with our final exam.

I accepted Dans proposal again and this time was when the on and off in the relationship started.

He may be sweet, nice , sweeping you off your feet this moment and the next he may be blank and not showing expression.

We went for our NYSC in various state, I was posted to the North and He to the South, we talked, chatted on phone, I had network issues where I was posted to so I may be be reachable or offline for days and things started drifting (all this while I thought we were still together)


After NYSC I came back to the South and moved few Km to him so as to enable us be closer(while I seek for Job opportunity but was opportuned to commence my MSc).


Our communication was back to top-notch, went to visit him, he was emotionally available but felt distant (there was make out). When I got back to my base, he then mentioned that we should go back to being friends which didn't sit well with me.


We discussed about everything, why come chasing, allow make out when he knows within that he was not up for it. He said he wanted to Love me but the Psychological connection was weak, he made reference to when our mutual friend saga started ( that me not trusting him enough tampered with him psychologically and he's finding it difficult to Love me like he use to) 

We even spent Christmas and New Year Eve together (He came visiting me and stayed for a week+, we went on outings, prayer and other activities )
N:B ( No s#x has been involved so far)


My present predicament is that I can't seem to go back being friends again (reason is that I'm so In love with him)

* He's presently helping out with my MSc Project (started that before making known his intent) so I'm stuck

* Got to find out he's been busy on calls chat with another lady (which I confronted him but came out with a negative answer)


I'm presently writing my MSc final exam and again I've created a Gap, stopped calls and chat with him. ( For my mental well-being)

The last time he texted (4 days ago) his complaint was about him enjoying our friendship before I came up with relationship assumptions.


Dear Stella and BVs I'm lost for what to do, truth is I still Love and miss him.
Should I continue with the no contact rule?

**Your friend warned you didn't she? Instead of you to take her serious, you went to dig up dirt on her to Justify your dating this guy...

HE IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU and has told you he wants to be friends after making out with you.... (Forget about s#x not being involved. he has seen enough and is no longer Interested)

Move on and face whatever project you are doing...Let him stop helping you cos he might end up eating the cookie and still will not date you.

Forget about this man and have a one on one talk with that your friend again and let her explain what she meant by saying he is not who you think he is.... Her revelations might open your eyes and make you fall out of love with him....

Shine your eyes!