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ReplyDeleteFollow you they think am oooo
DeleteNot easy for Present Naija Situations 😕 😑 😪
I can.
DeleteStella Maris , no reason am oooo.
DeleteNa suffer head be that, unless you are capable financially.
No be small thing Chike onye nna.
DeleteI can't manage him with even 300k salary. I am coming from a three bedroom apartment and it was all growth, from there to a room and parlour, to 2bex now three. Maybe when I was in a room way back I could have but not now.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmnn
DeleteIt is well
DeleteTHANKGOD for you
No !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteDate and marry your class.
DeleteA lady who earns 40k should not come here and type No. Guys who earn 40k shouldn't be looking at girls who's weekly nails maintenance cost 40k.
God bless you Ms Sapphire
DeleteNo !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNo ❤️
ReplyDeleteAdd a zero to the back of that figure and it’s still a “no” for me lol.
Babe!!😍
DeleteHope Mark Morgan looking for you can read 😅🤣🤣
DeleteOga mark respect yourself na. You have been steadily ignored and you won't still rest! Na wa o. Go and look for the girl in your "sawawu".
DeleteNo. He too should explain how he intends to take on family responsibilities with 40k a month, especially if he wants the full benefits of a ‘traditional husband’.
ReplyDeleteAnd even if he is less conservative, when the difference is too much, best to stay within a defined range, so no one will feel disrespected and none will feel used.
Lol...it's the explanation for me!! Gosh!!
Delete40k a month doesn't just cut it. What and how does he intend to make the arithmetic work? It's too Herculean a task. Kai. Shout out to all the men who strive and thrive on a daily mehn!! Shit ain't easy! Provision is a man's greatest armour. Not 40k a month as income with a wife and maybe a kid. Damn! How do you navigate this?
DeleteYes, I did.
ReplyDeleteHe had no house or job when we got married. My earnings (which became ours after marriage), took care of our daily needs and we looked up to Jesus, the great provider.
It's been a beautiful marriage for years.
One thing he has, above everything else is character.
Like you married a jobless man, causen9f character!!! We indulge this gender too much for the Mrs tag. Good for you ma. Tell your children to marry like that too
DeleteMaybe when I was younger but not now.
DeleteIf I have a good earning and he is a good character, I will too.
DeleteNot in this present economy.
DeleteMtchewwww
Delete🤗🤗😘😘😘😘 you are a strong woman
DeleteWow
DeleteThankGOD for you.
It's works for you may not work for others
@Shooter girl
DeleteWhat is your pain?
@Dimplez
What is strong about a woman choosing to get married to a man with a good character whom she loves?
But why is a man without a job getting married ???? It makes absolutely no sense. Why not wait till he secures a job; what was the rush for?
Delete@Beds
DeleteAnd why is a woman without a job or in school getting married, make absolutely no sense. Why doesn't she wait till she secures a job and get married. What the rush for?
Anon 22:55
DeleteThe same reason that housewife arrangement may work but house husband is abnormal
A man is a provider
Woman support
22:55 loll in your village are women heads of homes?
DeleteAre the women the providers while the men do 'tainkiu mormee??
Marrying a man with zero financial capacity, no job is arrant stupidity.
What makes a man, a man is his ability to lead and provide for his family.
Take that a way and he is just a human being with a piece of skin between his legs.
@16:31
DeleteAha, men have become "heads of homes" now; all because it has come to finance. Greedy
11:56
DeleteAre they not head of family normally?
Is it not abdication of duty by lazy men that will be running from responsibility?
No I cannot ,I'm very sorry i cannot even manage this for myself .
ReplyDeletePsst psssttt. Hey! Snarker is here.
DeleteHahaha Morgan I was going to comment under yours to say she's here but i got caught up .
DeleteI'm happy you're happy 😊 😃 😀
When a lady doesn't have choice, wetin she go do??
ReplyDeleteShe should work on herself and teach herself to not just accept anything. Only then will she understand who she is. One of the greatest things God gave us as humans is the power of CHOICE.
DeleteMarriage is in itself a choice.
DeleteWhich is 'a lady doesn't have a choice'?
DeleteDid they drag her head on the ground to go and marry?
And these are the shameless married people dying of hungry that will be mocking single people, borrowing every month from the single people they constantly mock.
Always begging and borrowing untop of your Mr&Mrs. Una no dey even shame?????
Smelling lots.
Over to the single ladies
ReplyDeleteNope I cannot oh.
ReplyDeleteCureently in 2022? Please I beg you with the name of God;Dont get married if all your income(both main and side) is 40k monthly..
ReplyDeleteDont listen;dont be deceived!!
40k CANT TAKE CARE OF A FAMILY OF THREE comfortably;life will be frustrating every single day..
Have a side hustle then you are good,but 40k only? NOOO!!
You can do this year's back;not now!!
Kisskids diaper maxi pack alone is #6300 today and it wont stay one month..
@MARTINS
Lol onye nna giving price of diaper 😅.
DeleteSomeone told my bro he would soon join the diaper buying gang and he said 'leave that thing' I'm sure he now knows what the odogwus were saying is true
Lols 🤣
DeleteI follow u scream
Lolz martins you no lie o
DeleteLolll you are very funny Martin's. You dey dey do family of 3?
DeleteCan 40k take care of one person alone?
One person will proudly come put to say she married a jobless man.
Buahahahahahahaha enter na.
Make hunger show you werepe.
Capital NO....
ReplyDeleteHi love!!!
DeleteHow are you doing, its so good to see your comment.
This question was asked in 1965
ReplyDeleteMy dear
Delete😆😆
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I won't even wish that to an enemy sef. Wetin 40k want buy or solve as Nigeria be so. It's too poor honestly. Though I've seen people in this category doing very fine.
ReplyDeleteThis present economy it's hard. Only feeding will take it all
ReplyDeleteHaaaaa...hmnnnn....ooohhh....eeehhhhh.....
ReplyDeleteNo!!!
ReplyDeleteMba
Hell NO!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNot realistic in today's economy.
ReplyDeleteExcept if the wife earns more than him..
Oko ashawo didn't post yesterday? 😒
He now post on Fridays
DeleteNope
ReplyDeleteNo I can't.
ReplyDeleteSuch men don't appreciate women who stayed with them after they get rich.
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DeleteNo ,No ,No things are too expensive,what can 40k possibly do,not to talk of when u have kids.Abeg I can’t manage,frustration over time will build up to resentment.
ReplyDeleteA top banker married to a jobless man foots the bill
ReplyDeleteAnd you think that is how it ought to be??
DeleteExcept he wants to be trekking to work to and fro and he won't be eating breakfast...no be only 40k
ReplyDeleteHahahahha
Delete40k won't be enough
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Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteLmao I nearly choked people earn less and have families lol.
DeleteGod forbid
ReplyDeleteLol, shooter darl, some things are not what they seem, remember he who finds a wife obtains God's favor 🤷, you never can tell.
DeleteNo o! Let those who think so play the lottery with their own life. What happens when this man joins the league of those who stay in the same financial bracket after marriage? It becomes a case of the wife who thinks herself a gambler having bad luck.
DeleteA man who earns 40k should look for a lady used to living on maybe 10k per month so no one has to send chronicles in. There are Nigerians doing menial jobs who earn less and have families but they date and marry their class so there are no issues. Everyone deserves happiness and honest work shouldn't be looked down upon but seeking to drag one's partner down into a life of strife and discomfort can't serve any marriage well. A man should go for a woman he can provide for.
Simply Devine, go ahead and do it na. Nobody is stopping you.
DeleteInfact both of you should not have jobs. Test the Lord very well abeg.
I did though it was not a one room, as at when we got married his salary was not coming because of screaning, 2 years down the line we were still on it ( we live in one of these bad governed states) finally it started coming but on a percentage not upto 40k ,And we are still on it
ReplyDeleteWe got used to it, thank God he has a business that we are using to compliment and also my Kunu business
God will see you all through. Working together is the main thing. He will bless your unity and obedience to Him and your hardwork.
DeleteGod ll reward your patience 🙏
DeleteYes, I married my husband with nothing, absolutely nothing 👌 7 years ago, then he was earning 30k, and immediately after marriage lost his teaching job, but today? 😁 Na God. There's nothing God cannot do. He's a successful business man today🤷😁
ReplyDeleteThank God
DeleteN30K then is about N120K today.
DeleteFact is there are still women who dont earn a kobo from paid employment or business/trade who will reject to marry a man only because he earns N120K.
On the other hand, there are women who are getting married to N40K earning men today
You want to compare 30k 7 years ago to 30k today.
DeleteHow much was a bag if rice 7 years ago?
How much was the dollar 7 years ago?
Make una dey try dey use una brains to reason.
6:44 You should have used your brain to reason that one can express opinions without insults.
DeleteLolll e pain you 12:50 eyaaaah use hanky blow ya na nose you hear? LMAO.
DeleteI did,though not one room but his salary was 20k when I married him in 2012,I was so in love and I had little change and i thought we could manage,he later lost the job and I exhausted all my savings.i am still regretting it till date.
ReplyDelete🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteCan't imagine
DeleteLMAOOOO I dont know why this made me laugh sorry. Your colleague up there said he who finds wife, yadi yadi yagu, favour from the Lord.(yimu) Why your own com different na? E kpele ma.
DeleteAnon 06.46 you're clearly a mean person. May God show you mercy.
Delete12:51 And may God give you common sense and the ability to face front.
DeleteYou need the common sense more, meanie.
DeleteLadies biko don't make that mistake unless you are financially stable.
ReplyDeleteFor this kind economy, if better hunger jam you eeh! That love and management go disappear.
Leave them, let them be chatting rubbish.
DeleteIf I was earning 40k, I won't talk to a lady about a relationship. I swear! Talkless of marriage,No! Financial stability is power. And yes! Money is everything.
ReplyDeleteEven love would not sort the bills. In our present Nigeria, guys!! A point will come when the marriage becomes toxic and volatile because of lack of funds.
ReplyDelete1000likes...I experienced this in my last relationship
DeleteSome years back,this may work if the wife has a business or is working,with the present situation in Nigeria,naa!
ReplyDeleteN40K in one room marriage for the type of women who visit here today? The answer is likely to be several resounding No.
ReplyDeleteBut there are women who are getting married on those terms daily.
I know the wife of a University lecturer who lived with her husband in one room then and raised her children using washable napkins even though disposable diapers were already in use and in vogue. Today, her husband is a Professor and they have been living in well portioned university quarters.
As an aside, men and women should accept that the concept of the husband as main provider is clearly outdated. Husbands and wives should be prepared to split bills (not the wife "supporting" or "assisting") as much as their respective earnings can carry. Nigerian couples, I am told, do this when resident in Asia, Europe and USA. Why are they still unwilling to do it in Nigeria?
So a woman earning N40K and a man earning N40K can combine to start a family as married couple. With time, blessed work, and careful planning they will surely make it. For starters, they do not need the very draining typical Nigerian royal triple deck marriage ceremonies.
But I know my last paragraph is not what most "awoke" Nigerian women like to hear. They want the traditional old school marriage without its baggage. Question is: how many are getting that?
This case is one in many..some women may stay to support such a man, but when he makes it, will treat her like trash. What about the men that will manipulate and bully her for being disrespectful even though she is the main bread winner? What works for one may not work for another, so the rule is, men and women should strive to be more financially independent before marriage...truly ain't no love without finance!
DeleteThe wife of a lecturer and her husband lived in a totally different time. How much was the rent then and how much is rent now? Besides, husband had a good job with good prospects after all he's now a professor. Can you rent a one room in Surulere with that amount without borrowing?
DeleteThe Nigerian couple who live abroad live in countries where a woman isn't thrown out and left destitute after working together with her husband unlike here where a woman can lose everything even when she contributed in building properties with her husband.
Las las, marry your class. There are ladies who grew up living with less than that amount, so they would be able to cope. If you know you honestly can't cope, then don't marry the man than go and be frustrating him.
There is nothing wrong in spilling bill between man and his wife in as much as you are both working
DeleteOf course
You both need to pull the resources together for the family usage
But then will the man help too in house chores as the woman is spilling bill with him
Or will they both go to work same time, come back same time for the man to go play or watch television while the woman starts the other work around 5 or 6 when she is back without any assistance just to sleep by 11 to wake up by 4, 4.30 to continue the house chores
Combine your resources together as couple and let the man also assist the woman in some of the work toooo
That is love
I quite agree with you on this...
DeleteFeel free to lay down 50-50 rules in your home with a woman who is of the same mindset. It is usually in the latter years that women who fsll for this trick realize the laws are different in Nigeria than in other countries.
DeleteSplitting bills is not about what countries you reside in or visit but about paying power. People abroad earning in the higher percentile don't split bills. I've lived with people earning big bucks in finance, IT and healthcare, business, etc where husbands are still men holding the family down both abroad and even in Nigeria. The same woke men who want to split bills don't necessarily want to split respect or loyalty and best believe they are not splitting disclosure to the families they present a more favorable front to.
Increase your earning power and give your wife and kids the financial security they deserve. Lead and the family will naturally follow.
It is not woke to expect a man to provide. One does not have to look far back into history to find Nigerian men who were financially buoyant, monogamous and responsible. The woke idea is actually sitting down to delegate your responsibilities to your wife.
Stella! you said, manage?? Okay! Ladies! over to you guys. This should be interesting.
Delete23:53 👏
Delete23:53 word! 👍🏽👏🏽
Delete23.53 so, would you expect this Nigerian man you have described who fully takes on the financial responsibilities to partake in house chores? Would be keen to hear your view about this.
DeleteAt my age, honestly no.
ReplyDeleteAnd before you shout that I'm being materialistic, please note that I have worked hard and honestly to get where I am today by the grace of God and have been carrying family responsibilities from a young age (paying school fees, rent, feeding, etc). I don't pray to get married and be carrying that kind of responsibilities when my husband is alive and healthy. My salary should be to assist, not to be the major or only source of income which would happen if I marry someone who earns 40k.
Also, the fact is most Nigerian men can't handle being with a woman who earns more. Every small thing would be seen as disrespect and I no fit for the kind of mental torture that goes with it.
Also, a man who earns that kind of income and is looking at me for marriage is most likely looking for someone who'll carry his load, not because he loves me. Chances are high that if he earned better, he would be looking at a younger woman.
When I was younger, I honestly didn't care about the salary because I believed in the you build together thing. But too many real life examples of how it blew on some women's face changed my mind.
Ladies in their early 20s can go for a guy about their age that earns that because they both has time and he is likely working hard to earn higher than that.
No need to abuse me and say that's why I'm still single. I'll rather remain single and have my peace of mind.
Enter your reply...21:44 Thank you! I be woman wey no get one naira for account. no job sef, to date someone sef is not part of what am thinking about.
DeleteA man who earns 40k shouldn't think of settling down and a woman who has no job shouldn't also think of settling
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm 40k
ReplyDeleteIf I'm earning better, I will and hope his gets better too
ReplyDeleteCHRONICLE
ReplyDeleteMy brother who is comfortable in his business was wiling to take me and my newly wedded husband in and we quickly got married. I thank him all my life for that. He did it for a sister. At least, with rent removed, we both (graduates teaching in private schools) could make do with our collective earnings of 50k per month. I am hitting 33 this year, graduated and looking for a befitting job as an Engineer for 7 years, have 2 kids already and not worried about any biological clock. My husband and I are ever grateful to my brother for helping us establish a home.
Ladies I don't get it. Your comments here (BEP) is quite appalling. So the man should get a plum job first before marriage, really -In this Nigeria??
How much do they pay a graduate in a private and government establishment?
Is there a different job market for men in Nigeria?
And how about your brothers -will you all advise their girlfriends to dump them because they do not have plum jobs.
We Africans are used to the extended family system of living. The way the Nigerian economy is presently, if your Comfortable siblings or friends love you, this is the help they can render to you. Get married and have your kids while you continue to look for better opportunities.
My Brother has given us a target in savings (since they support us in feeding -of his own volition), of which if we get to that, he will give us a certain amount for me to establish a business since I am good at trading, while my husband continue the job search. He read finance and has both national and international certifications. My two kids are healthy and whenever I look at them, I am filled with joy.
I put it to you thus; do you see why a lot of us ladies are not married and will stay long that way? In the end, many having missed marrying their friends, become desperate and chronicles of sorrows continue.
No disrespect ma. Please you need to remember that not everyone has a kind hearted brother like you. Imagine how hard life would have been for you and your family without your brothers support. This is the point of view most ladies are commenting from and most of them have already have difficult lives and hope for some respite. Even the man are not happy to be earning that low i am certain but it can be tough out there.
DeleteHow long will you wait on your brother to feed your grown asses? This is shameful to read
DeleteDon't drag other women who have standards and won't stoop low to marry a pauper. Not all of us are dependents like you abeg
00:59 let her be running her mouth na ontop combined earnings of 50k. If not for her brother she knows the condition she'll be in and now has the guts to run other females down
DeletePoster na wah. Why are we like this. You are married to a poor man. Living and feeding from your brother and you are joyfully talking down on unmarried ladies. Wow. Clap for yourself.
Delete23:22 So in other words, for the past 7 years you have been dependent on your brother for feeding and housing?
DeleteHow is that 'establishing' a home?
When it stands rock solid on somebody's largesse?
Or do you mean you now wear a ring and have children you are now established?
Respectfully, I do not understand.
Me I guess every body's definition of 'established' is different.
I struggled through the ranks to establish my self, I can eat what I what, travel to any country I want, shop without studying price tags with magnifying glass, nobody setting any target for me as I kuku don't have any one but God to rely on.
That is MY established.
I am not dependent on any soul on earth to feed or house me.
That is MY established.
Our standards and aspirations are different.
I will not, in an attempt to answer 'Mrs' start drinking garri when I'm used to drinking the finest wines or so that married women like you (who are being fed and housed by someone other than your husband) will not mock me and claim its 'because I've missed marrying my friend and will stay long that way etc etc.'
Try to resist defining other people's narratives based on your narrow, clouded, key hole view.
As a man, you either meet me on my level, or even better at a level that far surpasses me.
Let me be motivated by your own growth to also work smarter/harder.
I will not allow anyone drag me to a level I have long escaped from. Because love does not pay rent, school fees or put food on the table.
All those drinking garri from the same spoon and sharing groundnuts from mouth to mouth may fascinate you lot, but poverty chronicles has never ever been my thing.
If one gets to a stage, I will simply adopt. Lots of children looking for a mothers love.
Men are dispensable.
As far as I know there is no gift in heaven for married people or people who born children to merit the kind of suffering, dependency and redundancy that so many of you put on your selves and transfer to your children all in the name of I-must-marry with an income that can barely take care of your responsibilities much less your dependants.
****Lucky you to have a brother who can house you, feed you and offer you money for business for almost 10 years. Very bare breed. May God bless him abundantly.
Anon 07:34
DeleteLeave all these sama you dey sama. Na SM you dey dey sabo
Enter your reply...Anon 7:34, come take a hug
Delete@7:34
Delete"Men are dispensable," really? Well, almost every chronicle I've read on this blog for 5 years tells me otherwise, including the one I read yesterday. It is always a cry of "age is not on my side" and you know those crying it.
10:42 Nowhere in anything I wrote did I mention I was speaking on behalf of anybody on any platform you have read.
DeleteNowhere.
Comprehension is extremely critical.
@07:34, "men are dispensable"?
DeleteHope you no dey gbensh man or gbensh with men sha? Hope no man has ever gifted you 1 naira or contributed to your high life and financial independence.
Apart from these two question, you are very good on other points.
N40k per month salary plus room marriage is for some women. All fingers are equal, but not of the same length.
The real problem of life is that most women in that N40k class may not want to accept their status as their starting point. And they want to rise not by effort but by marriage. Meanwhile, they sneer at men in that same level they are. We have them here.
Enter your comment...NO!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYes, i can with prospectives.... No condition is permanent !!!
ReplyDeleteKeyword - prospective.
DeleteLovely
Those saying they did this years ago should remember that 40k now is different from 49k when the exchange rate was 150-175 to a dollar. Give your marriage a chance by marrying someone who is ready.
ReplyDeleteI know 40k a month is small but truth is most single ladies here are already dating guys who earn way less than 40k, especially their bf's that is without job whom they claim they pray for on a daily to propose and marry them.
ReplyDeleteMost, life decides for us all.
A man can earn 40k today but won't end up with 40k.
There are many married men who earn even almost 40k that are well respected and loved by their wife and are living happily.
It could be the wife that could help the man rise, her family, his family or even a complete stranger.
I've seen men go from 0-100 in a blink of an eye.
For the single ladies yelling NO NO NO, how come your alleged 1m a month bf is refusing to do the needful?
Life and prosperity is in God's hands not man.
Don't be in a haste to throw away the baby and the bath way. Be with a man with prospect, a trying, hustling and focused man with 40k is better than a damn lazy man with 1m.
If all beds were rosy, we wont be reading chronicles here on a daily.
Happy Sunday y'all. Blessings.
Complete bs!
DeleteThe age matters
Delete40k earned by a man of 42 yes is not an ideal situation in any planet in the galaxy
@ jet li, dats error 101... God forbid
Delete@8:48
DeleteThank you. May God bless you, the works of your hand, and your husband/wife.
Ignore the negative talks.
I know a man who looks back and sometimes wonder how it would have been now if he had married with a salary of what N40k was then. His mates who did have children in University and more.
Not bs at all. There is no definite manual for this life ooo. Let us just be guided by God and integrity and hardwork and smart work. No one knows tommorrow and anything can happen. I personally think it is wrong to write people off because of their circumstances. Where we can assist let us do so. Not just with money but things like encouragement, mentorship, training, prayers, opportunities, optimism etc. Eg the lady up there who has a kind brother. She is happy in her own way.
ReplyDeleteStella and beevees I enjoyed this thread.
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DeleteThank you
DeleteFor starting yes, we should always know that the end justifies the means. Anything can happen.
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