Are you dating one? Oh wait, you Married this person already? Are all your dreams already dead or in the dying process....
When you come in contact with a dream killer, they will kill all your dreams to feeds theirs....
When you come in contact with a dream killer, they are against you doing anything that will make you stand financially nd would rather feed you crumbs..
A dream killer will kill your dream and make it look like they have done you a favour...
A dream killer cuts you off from anyone that will help you grow...
The actions of a dream killer can end a relationship or Marriage.
I am personally allergic to dream killers but then how do we spot them before we get married to them?
Can anyone detail their experience with a dream killer and tips on how to know them?
Please note that a dream killer can be male or female.
Lets gist!
Good topic.
ReplyDeleteLet's not also assume that everybody that comes here is a dream reviver.
You may also be the dream killer. Gist us how many people's dreams you have killed.
Choi!!! This one loud ooo
Delete@14:09, so true. Let's not assume that we all here have good intentions.
DeleteE be like ur BV's all there HORSEbands dey read And blog o. No body admin say e marry 1, even 1 I know very well here 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI can't relate. Me and mine's will always support each other's dreams even if they were taller than mount Everest 💙
ReplyDeleteGod gave Adam a helpmate to help him take care of the garden (the assignment he gave him). Gen. 2
ReplyDeleteWhen Joseph woke up from a dream about "fleeing to Egypt," and related same to Blessed Mary, she just joined Joseph to secure the child she bore.
There was no equivocation or argument.
If you are a lady married to a man, you are his helpmate in whatever assignment God has given him.
His vision becomes yours. In helping him fulfil his vision, yours are fulfilled. (That's the reason you shelve your father's name to take up his.)
If you do otherwise, you probably are the "vision killer" being discussed here.
Does it mean that a woman is not supposed to have a dream?
DeleteDoes it mean that a woman should give up a dream she has been chasing for years before she got married because she has to focus on helping her husband's dream?
Does it mean that the both of them can't assist each other in fulfilling their dreams?
Why must the woman be put down for the man to go up?
Please, explain to me in simple terms I can understand because I sincerely want to understand.
@16:45
DeleteThere are no two dreams. In marriage, the two becomes one and it has never been in doubt about who the head is with regard to
the tenets God set at creation. If as a woman, I have a dream and my husband does not like that, it goes or the marriage is forfeited!
If in courtship, the husband accepts what the woman has as "a dream," then it thrives along.
There is no reason to enter a marriage that will be fraught with squabbles from day one.
so, one can stay in her father's house, keep her father's name and pursue "her vision"
I think the Scriptures I made reference to above are quite lucid.
**** I hope u also fight wars like the Bible mentioned
Delete**** thank you for taking time to reply me. I may not totally agree with you but I respect your perspective and understanding of the scripture. I'm praying that the Holy Spirit enlighten the eye of my understanding and convict me in any way I'm doing it wrong. Thank you once again.
Delete@18:49
DeleteYou are welcome.
Study the Scriptures daily even as you pray to Jesus.
@18:49
DeleteYou are nilot doing anything wrong ooo. Dont let anyone kill your dreams especially religious fanatics...they are worse cos they will use the bible and your love and desire to obey God manipulate you. I repeat keep away from them. Before you marry anyone tell them your 5, 10, 15 and 20years goals if you have them and if he or she show signs and actions (not words please) that they do not align biko leave them. You are an individual with your own identity and expected to have a dream(s). Yes you can align it with that of your spouse, kids etc...but that is where it ends. Forget that you are now ONE story...you are one indeed. If your husband commit crime will they put both of you in jail? Aper you are one...if you are young please use your head. I speak to you from solid years of experience even as a Christian too.
I wish i was guided.
God bless you
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Delete@21:57
DeleteI understand your anger to be against God's Word that said that the husband and wife are one? This post isn't talking about "crime and jail," that is not the life of a Christian. We are discussing "dreams"/expectations of spouses in marriage. You will mount the altars and chant "for better for worse ...etc" and you will still denounce them in your actions like you just did here. Yes, I am a woman, married and I help my husband like God instructed and I am fulfilled. We are married for up to a decade and half and we have kids. His vision is well fulfilled and I am party to it. Neither your experience or mine is the rule, God's law is the rule.
Abeg leave them o, let them be one. When they disappoint una, you will wake up from your oneness 😁😁😁
Delete@Feminist
DeleteYour anger is against God's Word right? The New Age folks that taught you "feminism" have very thriving marriages.
The dreamer killer I had was my ex mum inlaw. The story too long abeg. Thank God for his mercies.
ReplyDeleteOne day, you too will become MIL, hope you won't kill your DIL's visions too?
Delete🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
I wish it back to you 100 folds. Amen!
DeleteAmen
Delete@makason
DeleteNobody wished you bad o, it was only a question.
@Makason, why are you tetchy? All the anonymous said was "hoy you won't kill your DIL's vision too". The anony. didn't say you will.
DeleteI join Mokason to say Amen.
Delete17.24 because we know the anon's usual comments and assumptions.
ANG, smh 😏
DeleteMarrying a dream killer is the worst thing that can happen to anyone.
ReplyDeleteI think one way to know a dream killer is when your man start telling you, babe once we're married you will ŕesign from your work or he is not pushing / encouraging you to advance in your career. He is always threaten by your success and achievements. Some will even make comments like, this one you done they see money pass me small time you no go respect me again. You need to resign or stop whatever you're doing to take care of the kids till they've grown. My sister run as fast as your legs can carry you,I call them HUNTERS.
I haven't dated a dream killer and I pray never to marry one by mistake.
KwinG👍
DeleteOn point 👌
DeleteSpot on
DeleteYou haven’t dated one but you de give scenario. Why not keep quiet so those who have, can talk. And we can learn something?
DeleteOn point kwinG
Delete17.06 how is it your problem?
DeleteAnon 17:06 come and shut my mouth for me now.... must I experience it before contributing to the topic?
DeleteKwinG, don't mind her. Rubbish.
DeleteAs an open minded babe, I married an open minded man who believes in the power of two. It's all about finding a partner who shares the same purpose with and lives through it.
DeleteAnd I agree, many partners are destiny killers. We have our in the back flat.
Don't want to write a long story but I am married to one and then over the years I come to realise that I will pray to God that this person I'm married to should continue to shoulder all responsibilities and more since this person does not want me to become who I want to be.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
DeleteWawu...
DeleteHuh
DeleteChai!!
DeleteAnon14;27 are you for real?
DeleteIs he doing it well? If yes, support him with positive prayers instead of the negative one
DeleteI’m married to one.
ReplyDeleteIt is well dear
DeleteHmmmmmm 🤭
DeleteMarried to a dream achiever.
ReplyDelete💋😍😍😍😍😍💋😍
I married a dream killer. He set my progress back by at least 15 years. But God is and will always be bigger than my ex and the devil. Once I picked myself up, I went back to school, got my MBA and landed an amazing job. Then I set up a business and to God be the glory I'm doing really well. There is nothing impossible for God if you are willing to truly forgive, let go of what you have lost and move on.
ReplyDeleteThank God for you
DeleteA partner that never encourages ur efforts in business or ur education,a partner that is never happy to see u making progress in whatever u chose to do.then he starts nagging,complaining about things that can be overlooked,doesn’t want to help you assist you when u have engagements with school, work,business or anything u are doing to develop urself,always threatening you,not interested in hearing things that will benefit u,not caring enough to remind u of ur classes,work.Doesnt see u as someone that can achieve anything,always discourages u anytime u share great work or business ideas with him,and laughs u to scorn telling u it will never work!!!! that man is a dream killer.
ReplyDeleteStill cannot get over the twitter thread where a guy said his father set fire to his mums shop because he was jealous of her and the progress the business was making.
ReplyDeleteUnbelievable!!! Wicked man.
DeleteVery wicked slutty
DeleteI'm not married to one..Mine is a dream builder
ReplyDeleteMy wife is a dream killer, always finding fault with every business move I make, sabotaging me, asking me to resign. I resigned n came back home cause d job made us live apart n d person she was to submit my CV to, didn't give me d job as he promised her. Every business move, she complains, n she is cool if I take up menial jobs that dont require me travelling. As an full stack coder, I applied and got a job in Edmonton all d way from Nigeria, normally any spouse would be happy, but dear wife developed a long face, I said you will come with me, she said she cannot start over n if I go I can kiss the marriage goodbye, I am in a fix, I don't wanna lose her n my baby girl, I have asked her brother to talk to her, he said I should go n not listen to her, I really dont want to forego this opportunity.
ReplyDeleteDO NOT forgo this opportunity. When you go, she'll reconsider and change her mind over time, then you can bring her over. Software development is a lucrative and high paying field with boundless opportunities especially in the America's and Europe. You will be in a better environment and your child will have good education. Your quality of life will improve.You know your wife's soft spot aka mumu button, encourage her, toast her, and win her over. Let her see things from a different perspective. Tell her to imagine not having to worry about power outage,school fees,fuel scarcity..... DO NOT forgo this opportunity.
DeleteWhat exactly does she want? maybe she just wants to be looking at your face that will definitely pay the bills. Uncle can't the both of you agree on something? wahala
DeleteJust know that she will still leave u or frustrate you if u can't provide
DeleteSir, please go. Your concern shouldn't even be about her cause obviously she's an enemy of progress. Your concern should be about your daughter and making life better for not just her but your generations unborn.
DeleteTake the job please. Start over if you must. When your daughter is of age, she'll appreciate you for this. Good thing your in-law is aware you're not the one neglecting the marriage. They will speak for you in future if your wife come up with lies.
Go fix your life, your daughter will always be yours. Provide for your daughter once you start earning. Please remember you need money for your daughter's well being and education. Ultimately you have to end that marriage, if you truly desire progress. Some people are contented with poverty, detest growth and she may eventually kill you. I have seen this happen twice, in one of cases the woman was just afraid the man would abandon her if he is successful and she did everything to frustrate the man. The man is still living in the house his father inherited from his grandfather with his wife in Benin city. I guess this how you are likely to end up , if you don't make that move. Soon she may add the spiritual dimensions to hold you down. Leave now please
DeleteAnon 15:14 pls follow your brother inlaw advice and go if she refuse to come with you. Your daughter will always be your daughter just make sure you provide for all her needs and keep in touch with her.
DeleteMy late eldest brother married one and she succeeded in killing him.
What a wife. You better go after your dreams Mr man, so called wife is sounding like an agent planted in your life to frustrate and make sure you don't succeed in life. She doesn't want you to go, neither does she want to go with you. She even has the nerve to threaten to leave your both marriage because you got a job that'd be beneficial to her and your both family? She doesn't even want to travel with you because according to her, she can't start all over again with her man? Sounds like an agent of destruction and distraction to me. It's obvious she's self centered and inconsiderate, she's only about herself, her wants, her needs and satisfactions, she doesn't sound like she gives a damn about your own happiness and needs as her hubby and 'supposed' lover so you might as well choose you and do you.
Deleteis that woman OK? Plz this is an opportunity that will assure you development. Think am well o. You can still co-parent.
DeletePlease go by all means and prove her wrong by bringing her over. She may have a cold feet due to how some spouse travel to abandon theirs later
DeleteGo,she'll come around
DeleteI have someone in Canada looking for a husband if you don’t mind. Since she no too send you like that. This one in Canada is beautiful and very supportive. Has her own career and no kids. You have just one. Holla Stella when you get to Canada and reference this post. I will send Stella her details.
DeleteBro, if wetin you write up dia na true, den your wife na winch!
Delete17:10, Zero time for rubbish o jareh my bro/sis. Mr man, choose you and your career/job over and over again please. What a wife!
DeleteBro this your wife na dream killer better pack your two slippers and🏃🏃🏃as for your daughter you continue your responsibility as a father you are to her
Delete17.10 you don't waste time at all!
DeleteSir please by all means take the job please
DeleteYou better grab this opportunity. A sensible woman and one that means well for you would encourage you to go for it.
DeleteIn the end, if you are not able to provide for the family, she’ll be the first to call you names and talk down on you. She’ll go on to tell whoever cares to listen how useless you are. If she wants to leave, by all means let her do so.
Oga pls go. When you start sending her good money, she will have a change of mind.
DeleteIf with all the advice and encouragement you've been given here,you still go ahead to let your village people use your wife to tie you down to retrogression and backwardness,they have succeeded in getting you.Please keep those emotions in the cooler and use your head,when you break through,you can go back and collect your emotions.
DeleteOga, I think your wife is afraid of something. Maybe of flight, of the weather, of starting over, that she can't fit in etc
DeleteI advice you find out what and reassure her. My 2 cents
Oga expect the worst, infact prepare to lose the marriage. That your wife is the devil in human form, stop listening to her.
DeleteYou are not a wise man. God forbid I have a brother like you. See as woman dey use you do nonsense. Where una dey see these Jezebel dey marry?
DeleteSee me wishing I'm the one whose spouse got job in Canada so that we relocate with it then I would not be here killing myself to learn French in thus my old age.
DeleteOga relocate and leave her.
Hmmmm. If you're in Nigeria, what if the real reason your wife doesn't want you to go is because you'll be required to take a DNA test when you're moving your family abroad?
DeleteAlright, so I would be blunt here.... As I got older,at some point I discovered I was quite selfish in my dealings with my ex's and close buddies...it's usually always about me, I don't care or support whatever they do, most times I don't remember their birthdays but you dare not forget mine! If I see you crying, and you are not ready to talk about it that moment, I may not remember asking you again!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you tell me about your business ideas, I wouldn't even contribute because I would be waiting for you to stop so I can tell you things concerning me.
I carried this mentality for a long time, because I didn't even know what I was doing was even wrong sef...everyone accepted me that way and my friends never counted it as anything
5years ago, I met my match(lol) a demonic older man who had been divorced twice.... This man showed me hell! His first plan was to cripple my dreams and then turn me into a baby making machine! Because he wanted kids Asap
He was always telling me how he loves women who carry their natural hair and bla bla bla...
He would never allow me talk, because it's always About him!!! And then later, he started telling me how he doesn't like most of my bestgirls (friendship of over 2decades).....I should cut ties with them etc
The luck I had was, I am very temperamental so I couldn't tolerate domestic violence at all and he wanted someone who was docile... We had to part ways amicably before we both commit murder, because when the problem starts my mouth no dey gree close!
Please, nobody should say you deserve it ohhhh cause I have worked on myself and in a better place.....
Just felt like sharing my story
Thank God you've worked on yourself because I don't understand how you can be temperamental and say it with such pride. I can never be in support of domestic violence or an enabler but please, try dey close your mouth too.
DeleteYour ex is a douchebag btw.
Good to know you are in a better place. Good afternoon
DeleteThank God you now know better, that's what counts.
DeleteE hugs
DeleteIt's a good thing, you got self aware and started working on your self rather than blaming others...Well done
DeleteHappy you've worked on yourself..e hugs
Deletewow at least u see head take come out.
DeleteGood to know you are in a better place
DeleteYou deserved it. It was life showing you what you dished out to people before you worked on yourself. I am glad you realized your behaviour from the past was awful, and it is good you were able to shot that abusive relationship down before it grew into a thing.
DeleteA taste of your own medicine was exactly what you needed for change to occur.
DeleteI actually think you deserved to see yourself in another human being. I was telling someone just this morning that evil people always meet their match. I used to have friends like you. But unlike your friends did you, I cut mine off and now they are all looking for me.
DeleteThey don't know that me too I've worked on myself and don't tolerate manipulation, selfishness or pettiness again. I don't keep my ears down for sob stories and I don't share mine- except with my therapist and/or my life coach.
You evil people think it's only you that can work on yourself to get better? Hahahaha. We good people too work on our weaknesses so we don't keep being prey to your selfishness.
You will remain a testimony for your fellow cohorts who thinks they are "smart" Agbada must hook one day. Na so life be. Oooiin
I am married to one. He doesn't want me to associate with anyone, he doesn't want me to do anything that will put money in my pocket.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't want me to further my education so that i can be promoted in my office. He leaves most of the bills for me, that way, I won't save any money to further my studies. I have savings that he doesn't know about. I'm also making plans to go back to school. Recently he said if I don't submit my bvn to him , he will raise fire and brimstone, wetin be my own, lovingly i submitted a wrong bvn for peace to reign. If I ask for money, it's a problem, if I don't ask, he'll start suspecting I have a new way of making money and he will travel down to my base to cut it off. I can go on and on. My only saviour is my job, I have refused to resign. He even took my matter to umunna. I told them that I rather leave the marriage than resign.
Na wah ooo
DeleteWicked man
This doesn't sound healthy. Maybe a temporary separation?
DeleteWhat's his problem..are you sure he loves you??
DeleteYou're on the right track Sis. Destiny destroyer pretending to be a husband
Delete🤗🤗
DeleteThis one na really destiny destroyer sis receive more sense to stay put in your marriage
DeleteHe is an evil man. For the life of me, I cannot understand what you are still doing in the marriage. His attitude isn't going to change, but get worse.
DeleteHow did you make the mistake of marrying someone like this?
DeleteMy darling how are you coping with him? Man seems to be on your neck and nostrils. Sorry for what he's making you go through, thank God you have savings he isn't aware of.🤗🤗
DeleteSo in other words, your dream is "making money" and you two live apart? That is the main strain in the marriage.
Delete20.28 no words for the husband shey? Just blame the woman dot com. Smh
Delete@00:51
DeleteThe husband did not come to us, the woman did.
Na demon you marry my dear. Nigerian men are generally selfish and shitty but this one na demon.
DeleteDemon.
God be with you.
02.19 ang, so? Do men not also read this blog? Anyway, we know your format by now.
DeleteI am happily and joyfully helping my husband to fulfil his visions of soul winning, for that is the reason that God created Marriage.😁😁😁😁
ReplyDeleteSee Gen. 2. I am so happy that he is getting on well in fulfilling his vision. My reward from God is in this role; helping my
dear husband fulfil his vision.
I met him preaching and I do not want to be judged by God to deprive people coming into his Kingdom. It pleases me that through our
investments, he is making that vision a thriving and lively one.😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
Nice one 👍👌
Delete😊best thing to do. Good evening
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DeleteKudos, that's the right spirit!
DeleteWell-done ma God bless you
DeleteThe problem with a lot of ladies is that in their desperation to get married, they accept him even when it is obvious to them that they aren't
ReplyDeletegoing to continue with their occupation. Then they turn around to cry blue murder!
It is not a gender thing. There dream killers from both sexes
Delete@Alexander
DeleteJust as both sexes can be desperate to be married but it is more with ladies for obvious reasons. Let's not forget.
@Alexander, you are right. We have dream killers in among both genders. @Anonymous 15:28, is also right. We see a lot of ladies accept men who they obviously aren't good for them out of desperation.
Delete15:28 you are very on point. Nigerian women easily dumb themselves down, lower their standards until they are under their foot and accept any trash that walks by.
DeleteLater they start complaining.
You lot are not serious.
All I will say is,if your vision doesn't align with his,stay clear,because na there the wahala dey start
ReplyDeleteSimple.
DeleteOr not so simple I guess......🤷🏽♀️
My father is a dream killer. While growing up. He never allowed my mum do any kind of Business. My beautiful mum sells garri in bags. I have watched him pour kerosene or water in my mum's goods. Stripes her naked in our presence. He refused her to do any kind of business and all pleads went to deaf ears. My late maternal uncle visitrd severally to beg him to allow my mum do business for our sake. But he refused. He hated her to a fault all because she had only girls. He did the opposite of all he did to my mum to his second wife who gave him two sons. Each time l remember what my mum went through. Tears flow. My mum and us did all form of menial jobs. Went to farm for people, carried block in new sites😥😥😥 Just to feed. Dad refused to train us with the excuse that training girls is waste of Money. Oh Lord. We suffered as a children. I gave up myself for my siblings. I hawked everything salable. He makes jest of us each time we come back from our menial job. He stopped my mum from excelling yet he compares her with his second wife whom he pampers like an egg. I wanted to change the narrative by being focused and helping my mum train my siblings but we can only try and allow God take the wheel. His second wife and her children are a torn in his flash now. Despite his efforts to make them great. l finally fall in love at 30. Children did not come on time and he turned me to his band. Disconnected me from my siblings and threatens to divorce me if l.did not stop my job. The job finally stopped and he left me for another woman and never looked back. This life no balance. In all God is faithful. He is my anchor. Shout out to every woman who is going through pains in marriage especially because of giving birth to only girls or Infertility. It will end in praise.
ReplyDeleteOh my God. So sorry for all you went through. God will perfect all that concerns you,keep trusting in him. Please
Delete🤗🤗🤗🤗 Good evening
So sorry for all u went through anon.
DeleteMay God perfect all that concerns you. E -hugs
Be strong 🤗🤗🤗🤗
Delete🤗🤗🤗🤗😘
DeleteThe lord is your strength 💪
DeleteGod is always on time. Hw will rewrite your story and give you a happy ending
Delete🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteI empathize with you concerning all you went through.You came out a winner,your best is yet to come,sending you love and light💖💖💖.
Deleteit's well with you, I always think my case was worst reading your comment gave me hope to be BETTER. Xoxo we shall make our family Proud
DeleteBe strong, it will end in praise.
Delete🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteKai! You were attracted to the same pain you grew up in. My sister, start praying against generational patterns in your life. You can change the narrative
DeleteGod will change your ending and give you something to laugh about.
DeleteHe lulled me into believing he was not a dream killer because we discussed a very bright future for ourselves and prospective children. Once married, oga started bringing zenith form asking me to be putting my salary there, took my ATM card and was using it, used to not contribute meaningfully to housework or upkeep. Barely 6 months I took in, just as I was dusting my slippers to run. He mocked me on how I will return to work after maternity leave as he forbade me getting a maid in HIS house; a place I paid for...
ReplyDeleteLong story short, I moved on with my child.
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Delete😂😂😂 Where una de see mad people them? Pheeew! Thank God you escaped the hell sister, so happy for you.
DeleteChai poster sorry for all you went through. I believe some Nigerian men have mental health issues
DeleteI thank God for your life,you are so brave to have moved on,wishing you all the best.
DeleteJeezz
DeleteHahaha chisom, they're really mad people
DeleteSo of all the tens of bitter and hate filled individuals on this blog in the last 10 years, no dream killers . This is extremely difficult to believe, what's going here . Oya you guys should go anonymous and start confessing , there is a price tag attached to your confessions. Please do it and stop the pretence
ReplyDeleteYou just described yourself.
Delete20:03 you know right!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHmmmmmm 🤭 dis life no balance at all
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder what people discuss while dating to end up marrying a dream killer.
ReplyDeleteI have seen people that the only thing they discuss is people, relationship and s*x. You hardly hear them talk about future or anything related to that . When you don't care about your own future how then can you be part of another person's future.
A worst person to be friend with is a mentally blind human.
I'm very observant and I choose friends wisely .
Anybody you see me going out with,know the person has a good head on his shoulder.
I totally agree.
DeleteE go shock you. You never see life and correct lunatic wey go deceive you!
Delete19.27 the anon is right. A sound marriage cannot be built on a faulty foundation.
DeleteLadies, don't let any man kill your dreams for any reason, I know of one man like that, he didn't allow his have any source of income, he died and left his wife and kids stranded, wise up people
ReplyDeleteOh no! Anon up there, the right word should have been me being difficult to bend..... Because, honestly that man would have damaged me!
ReplyDeleteImagine this man telling me to always send him a text to know if he can talk before calling him,(by 10pm ohhhh) and he must permit me before coming back home!!!( I stay in Canada)
We were married ohhhhh, it's not like we were dating .
While I was still in Naija he was asking for my salary to be submitted to him, as he knew I wasn't going to budge, he entered leave that job or else no peace because I am not seeing what you are using your money for.
He would always joke and say, the solution is for you to give birth to like 5kids so that your body would calm down...., After my first baby, I did family planning without his knowledge and all hell was let loose.
Every day, you have to use wisdom when dealing with a mature person (he was 15yrs older), he kept keeping late nights, and his excuse was hanging out with his political friends because he was eyeing one position.
Later, when he got it the story became Don't work, Stop talking with Certain friends, You are not allowed to this and that! I would destroy your certificates, that's how far I can go(jockingly), You can't keep talking with your siblings always, face me..don't apply makeup but he is busy chatting with hot babes, you dare not touch my phone, you are not allowed to go for any party but everyday he is going for various occasions ohhhhh etc I would just laugh over it and ignore him
Mehn, at some point it go to if it
was back then I would beat you to a pulp... Haaaa, that was it ohhhhh I sha told him, Oga the day you beat me just make sure I die because if I survive it, I would set you ablaze before your friends at the top would bail you out!
I got a scholarship to Canada and left for my PhD, he tried to stop me but I refused...Later he came around, we kept managing the relationship until the day I exploded (lol), he couldn't believe his eyes, that was when it dawned on him that he was messing with the wrong person and maybe it's possible for me to set him ablaze if I had my way.
This man woke me up by 2am and Said we should we should go our separate ways, which I quickly agreed to.
Now everyday, he is always calling and sending me money in order to lure me back to this lawless Nigeria claiming I have worked on myself!!!! When it is obvious he is still the same old crook well i just told him, even if you become president I am not Interested!! I have moved on, do same!
WHAT DID I JUST READ???? THAT MAN IS A DEVIL!!! MY SISTER THANK GOD YOU MOVED ON. GOD BLESS YOU 💋💕
DeleteWhat a life!
DeleteThis is just my story. My dream killer useless husband treated me like shit. He will stay out and not come back home till 2am in the morning. I dare not talk! Na slap go follow am. On our wedding night I chop correct slap. I didnt get pregnant for him sha, I travelled out, saw one loving oyinbo man that takes very good care of me. We have 2 kids now.I sent divorce letter to my husband in Naija, he refused to sign. He said I have to come back to Naija first. I just block him and his family everywhere. He is also 15 yrs older than me. He has no kids,no bearing till now. I have a good job and a lovely home now. His loss.
DeleteThose babes have showed him shege! Missing what he had now. No come back o
DeleteHmmmm.
DeleteAnon 19.05 sorry for your experience but you didn't tell us if you have children
DeleteWow!
DeleteYour story strengthens me.
I had two children and did family planning, and coincidentally my husband is also 16 years older than me.
I am planning my exit.
I intend relocating.
If he wants, he's free to join us, if not, ahead ahead dot com!
My dear, avoid these older men. Please.
DeleteAvoid them the way you avoid ment people on the road.
That's why the internationally pick very young ladies with significant age gap.
Let them find their age mates to wreck.
All these youngies that married ededes and using car and money to flex, LMAO that is ALL they have.
Their suffering inside that marriage pass squid games.
I met one like this.
DeleteHe used money to spoil me but I didn't let money blind me. I am talking pound sterling oh! Anyway, after a while, I saw his true colour and let him be. He is 19 years older than me. Lol. He knew he couldn't get me where he wants me, after sometime and he agreed for the relationship to end 😅 him self tire. I'm way younger, but very self aware and averse to manipulation- cos I had a very manipulative dad and I know what that cost me in life.
So nobody has agreed to have killed even one person's dream like the first commenter said?
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Jokers.
You can tell your own na. Abi?
Delete20:31 please go ahead and share.
DeleteShe works. She earns. All salary saved for herself. She does not bear any of the family bills (food, rent, school fees, healthcare for herself and child/children, etc. Even her personal care items, which are affordable by her salary, and her family real or token financial demands are on husband's pocket).
ReplyDeleteShe returns from work complaining of tiredness everyday. Husband fully partakes in all household chores, getting child/children ready for school, preparing meals.
When husband insist on her doing her wifely or motherhood or household duties after work, quarrels start.
Before she started the work, She complained of not being allowed to work (a.k.a dream killing), was verbally abusive and rude to husband, quarrelsome over the matter.
So what is the family's gain from the work.
If the husband is indifferent to her career/work advancement, does he also qualify as a dream killer?
Before we point fingers at "dream killers" especially in matrimonial settings. Let us pause and ask ourselves whether we are being selfish, or the pursuit of the dream is for the family (the dreamer, his/her spouse, and children).
Your last paragraph 👌
Delete@most complex, yes I have a daughter.. And if you are trying to ask if he tried taking her from me, well he did!
ReplyDeleteBut of course I beat him to his game. He tried stopping me from having my baby abroad so she wouldn't be a citizen but Lai lai I refused and went ahead to have my baby( my family is based there)
When he was forming I want my daughter, I sha told him to meet his ex wives and collect those ones from them. This is a man whose ex ran away while pregnant, and he still feels he is mentally okay.
Sadly, if you see this man you would never believe it!!!!! I got carried away, by his style and charisma..
He was my boss's friend who was always coming around. He got fond of me because of my tiny voice when I was working as an Asst to a top shot and I fell for him. The first thing he did was to trap me with a baby, and next started bringing out his colour thinking to me I believe marriage is all there is to life... Nobody warned me, because it's difficult to figure out the old crook. Next when he knew pple would figure out the demon he was, he started carrying propaganda that I thought he was Rich but ran away when I discovered he wasn't so buoyant.
Like that Anon said, youngies please avoid these old men who are looking for smallies to mould into what they want.
I got away, because my ex knows I am very unpredictable, for each threat he gives me... I give him double!!!
I have told him, the day my people look for me and I am not found, I have told some boys to get him and pour acid on him!( Lol) I know he cares so much about his appearance.
Now, he doesn't know if I am serious or not.... This man brought out the monster in me!
What suprises me, is why this Man keeps coming to me!!!!!!! He is now very rich and connected so settling down shouldn't be difficult because he has style. Imagine someone, who was struggling and still was a monster then you should know what he would be now that he has arrived
You were married to a narcicisst my dear. I'm sure you felt lucky when he chose you back then.
DeleteLastly, did I mention this my ex loves Femi Fani Kayode like mad!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you see him praising FFK, you go shock.... Then he was a PDP supporter, and me I liked Chibuike Amaechi because I was a beneficiary of River State government Scholarship to England , it was always bringing Issues because honestly I couldn't imagine why someone would despise Amaechi and love FFK (lol)
He just sent me a text now that he saw my comments on SDK blog and we need to talk!!! Because he never knew I carried this much bitterness in my heart...
Mr A, Byeeeeeeee
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DeleteDon't talk to him. He wants to get into your state of mind.
DeleteHahahahahahahahh Anon 11:01, I am not an Evil person ohhhhhh neither am I manipulative or a narcissist, it's just I am not wired to show emotions...
ReplyDeleteMajority of my friends, have been with me since my Jss1 (I am in my mid 30's) I have a lot of friends
To be honest, if I was that bad I am sure some would definitely have cut me off. I had no idea what I was doing was wrong because I felt I am just being myself love me the way I am! It was even my ex, who was always ringing it in my ears that I was selfish and that's when I asked my friends how much of a good friend I have been to them so as to seek help immediately!!!!!
Funny, it was then they started saying IB, maybe you are but it's okay Na your way Naa...
Abeg, don't compare me to the people that hurt you ohhhhhh......