Hmmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THAT GUT FEELING..
Am i right in thinking there's something between my husband and his friend's wife?
Am i right in thinking there's something between my husband and his friend's wife?
Okay,my husband and this friend of his hang out quite often and this guy is almost a drunkard. Like he drinks to stupor ALL THE TIME. He can drink and fall asleep at the bar or anywhere he finds himself. He has once locked himself in his car out of drunkenness.
So now the relationship between my husband with his then girlfriend (they only got married last week), she calls my husband to check on her husband or to know if they are together and all of that. Now to what has raised a red flag for me is, i stumbled upon their WhatsApp chat(my husband and friend's wife) and saw that all messages between them had been deleted and only a line each from both of them left. I asked him why he deleted the rest of their chats and he actually told me that he didnt want me to see them because i would start thinking its something that it's not. And i'm like "really"??
I also notice that when he talks about her,he acts like he's shy making gestures like scratching his head or smiling. And she on the other hand acts like she's in competition with me.
Please am i being unnecessarily suspicious or there is more to it than meets the eye?
*That gut feeling is never wrong....Activate your 6th sense and make sure you are sure before you make any accusations against them cos you will spoil a lot if you do.
Just shine ya eyes. For him to delete chats, hmmm.
ReplyDeleteMadam you no do well oo. What answer were you expecting when you asked him about the chat???. You sef mumu. You should have behhaved like you didnt see anything na
DeleteAnyways, dont bring up her matter again if you're not double sure of your facts. Behave as if you have forgotten. With time, whatever it is will expose itself. And lest I forget, mark your territory with her oo. Mark it well well.
I totally agree with anonymous 15:50 set boundaries between you and the lady , be calm as things unfolds itself.
DeleteHmmmm. I no dey like all this kind familiarity
ReplyDeleteDid you just read that? This guy was a dangerous drunkard as a single guy. A human girl dated him and married him, LIKE THAT?!
DeleteI keep saying, there is a woman/man for every man/woman nomatter your vice.
Like she knew he was a danger to himself, that she is prone to widowhood at any time and it is ok by her to vow 'till death do us part with him.
No problem.
Poster, tell your husband you trust him o but if you ever find out there is remotely anything between them, they will be very sorry. Tell him she is already acting up and giving you that body language we women know and understand exclusively.
Poster, relax and act like it's all good, then the next time you and husby hang out with his friend and wife, casually ask her (to everyone's hearing), what she chats about with your hubby and why they delete their msgs afterwards.
DeleteThen watch how she and your husband will melt b4 his drunken master friend.
My only worry is that the said friend will drink some more to drown the pain of betrayal.
Don't take this advise, you would also look stupid. Plus, there is a tendency you are wrong. Get proof and strike.
DeleteMadam believe your instinct.
ReplyDeleteWatch carefully. U go catch them
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Try your very best to make your husband hate her while doing that , make sure you act as the victim
DeleteDon't take this advice, you trying to make your husband hate her sometimes might backfire. Just get your evidence then you can confront them.
DeleteYou are absolutely spot on with your kinda feeling and at this point,i think something needs to be done ASAP..Be 100% observant,snitch if you have to and be all time vigilant
ReplyDeleteSnoop** is the word...😆🤣
DeleteBest believe your guts, it is fucking spot on babe!
ReplyDeleteYou've taken a good step in asking him. Keep it at that and pray that God will reveal what's going on to you.
ReplyDeleteForemost, you have to make Jesus your Lord if you haven't. Then be at peace with him following his teachings from the Bible.
Just wait and watch, they will unravel.
A woman’s instinct is never wrong. Poster you shouldn’t have asked him any questions, calm down and keep snooping 🙄 you will find answers to your bugging questions
ReplyDeleteNigerian men will stain your white. If the reverse is the case,he won't allow you talk to another man talkless of blushing. Them dey gbensh jare but you can't do anything about it.
ReplyDeleteAnd Nigerian women dont do worse?
DeleteWho told you she can't do anything about it? Stop projecting your opinions on others.
DeleteOnce upon a time I used to think like you. Believing that all men are evil but now I know better. You see women,fear them
DeleteThat gut feeling is always right,she might be his ex or something is going o,try to do some background check,hopefully you will get your answers.
ReplyDeleteJust dey watch,Dem go soon expose themselves
ReplyDeleteHe deleted his chats...he is definitely having some kind of relationship with that lady no doubt. Unless you have a solid plan B, I would suggest you forget about it and concentrate more on your marriage because trust me...if you keep going down this rabbit hole...you may never come out the same. It's your choice.
ReplyDeleteStarting from his friend , who is a bad influence, to his wife whom you suspect with your husband should distance yourself from them before things get worse ,if his friend that is a drunk might get drunk and God forbid not wake up one day then all responsibility shall be on your husband to care for his friends family which is his wife and children .so if your husband can put a stop to all this friendship of a thing ,the better for you
ReplyDeleteI feel you should break that friendship oo. Do it with warri sense gently. Keep making side comments. Cook up stories about friends of drunks that had to be arrested or incurred gbese because they were friends with drunks. Etc etc as for that agbaya wife of a drunk. Dont expect class from her. She settled for a proper drunkard. That tells you everything about her
DeleteAnon 15:53, you are savage but Poster, listen to this, it time to start giving such people gap and if she is dating the lady, he will dump her and face his home before she and her husband will kobalize him.
DeleteFollow your instincts and pray fervently. All the best poster
ReplyDeleteyeah poster, you shouldn't have asked him any questions, just be vigilant
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ReplyDeleteWomen and gut feelings ... Hmmmmmm..... I dey fear una
DeleteObviously there's a green light...
ReplyDeleteIf your husband don accelerate gas pedal,that we can not answer.
Keep digging!!!
You go see that thing you dy find. Keep searching and following your guts you hear.
ReplyDeleteIs it not better she finds out the ish and deal with it than living in bliss until infection or drunken disgrace and drama will occur? Or you don't know the drunkard friend can set him up if he is doing his wife?
DeleteFamily problem yin niyen
ReplyDeletePretend as if you've forgotten but open your eyes.
ReplyDeletePoster please follow your instinct and be watchful
ReplyDeletethem go serve am for your hand
Break that silly friendship. Why is your husband friends with a drunkard? Someone who has no control of himself as an adult that he passes out in public. Are you joking?
ReplyDeleteCan you collaborate with the drinking husband? Tell him to be sober sometimes but pretend and act drunk, he should tell your husband to take him home. While acting drunk, he can now observe their manner of discussion and body language towards each other.
ReplyDeleteYou want the poster to destroy another marriage and a friendship because of her suspicion?
DeleteOnce she tells the drunkard what you suggested, that will be the end of the marriage.
I delete sms and Whatsapp messages. What should they be kept for.
Poster should focus on her marriage. And encourage her husband to part ways with the drunkard instead.
But real questions are was her husband friends with the drunkard before she married her husband and did she know of their drinking habits before marrying her husband?
Poster be wise, don't ask too many question about the lady, just keep it low and do your own investigation
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have asked him why he deleted. You should have gone on to make more quiet findings. You were too hasty. Now he's going to be more guarded.
ReplyDeleteThat guts feeling most time is always right,get your detective cap on ,be at alert and make sure you get enough evidence to back up your claim.
ReplyDeleteKeep a close eye on them
ReplyDeleteTrust your instinct,it never fails.
ReplyDeleteBug your husband's phone if you can or hire a private investigator.
ReplyDeleteMadam,if you find out they are sleeping with each other, what will you do? Leave the marriage? Fight your husband? Fight his friend's wife? Report to his friend?
ReplyDeleteI would advice you to take a day off work one day and hide near your husband's workplace and follow him secretly. you Will catch them. Then report her to her drunkard husband. She go see fire. As for your husband, do whatever you like with him but make sure you scatter that their friendship, evil friend.
Scatter it oo
DeletePoster, you shouldn't have talk. Go and learn how to snoop better
ReplyDeleteAlways trust your guts.
ReplyDeleteSmoke them out wisely.
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ReplyDeleteDeleted chats is the biggest red flag there coupled with the fact that she is his ex
ReplyDeleteUna sef! How do you know she's his ex?
DeleteAnon maybe you should read the Chronicle again.
DeleteExcept CHIAMAKA and I do not understand the Chronicle ourselves 🤷
She is not the husband's ex, the "his" refers to the husband's friend, thus the follow on comment that they got married last week.
Delete--> So now the relationship between my husband with his then girlfriend (they only got married last week),
Your hubby has got skeletons in his closet... be watchful
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis is serious..reasons why I disassociate myself with my friends wife..I am more closer to my friends than their wives...
Please trust ur instinct,,I have to be sincere with you, men can be so stupid at times
Follow your instinct.
ReplyDeletePeople that delete that wats app messages pissed me. While start the conversation you are not proud of. Pls madam be on alert and be wise. Good luck
ReplyDeleteHmm...poster the best thing for you is to pray...as God for mercy upon your marriage and ask the holy Spirit for His help. Because is you go about doing detective you might end up broken, so just focus on your marriage, keep loving your husband and PRAY. Whenever there's a woman to pray God answers and come back here to testify of His goodness.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm!
ReplyDeleteMadam, you have nothing to fear. Your husband is a good and caring friend.
ReplyDeleteYesterday, it was virtually decided here that there is nothing wrong for a married woman to have internet chats with a man unknown to her husband. (See comments in the post on Ned Nwoko/Laila). In your case, you even know the woman your husband is chatting with. Please rest your mind. Let your husband help his friend's wife look after him. After all, what are friends for?
Stella please post.
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DeleteWait did I follow the story well or or did I read amiss...
ReplyDeleteYour husband's ex girlfriend is married to his bosom friend?😳😳
What you are looking for you will see, how did it get to you suspecting your husband of having an affair with his friends wife?, newly wedded for that matter, what if they were discussing about your husbands girl friend?
ReplyDeleteThen the earlier she knows,the better for her.
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